Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=blacksam;52753294]The one thing I love though is a close hot shave. Shit feels so good during/after.[/QUOTE] a close hot shave has such a strange psychological effect. if i feel really shit, or am having a rough day, there's something really therapeutic about going into the bathroom and just completely clean shaving my face. afterwards, i almost always feel better. [editline]6th October 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=arleitiss;52753401]TIL who my friends are :v: messaged 4 cunts saying skype?, they said no.[/QUOTE] if a mate of mine messaged me out of the blue asking to skype, i'd probs say no if i was busy or not in the mood. that doesn't mean they aren't your mates. just means the fifth guy is either spontaneous, or was also bored and free and figured "why not"

i wish i was better at sticking to planned hangouts, but the truth is, it's entirely dependant on how i feel that day. it makes planning things with friends a chore, cause i might feel 100% on the day i'm planning it, just real hype and happy, but then 4 days later, we're all meeting up and i might be at 40% and not really wanna be there. i'm a much more spontaneous person, on the days i feel hella good, i'll be hitting up all my friends asking if anyone wants to chill.

To keep a long story short. This girl I've been dating for two months told me that she's not sure of my role in her life. I popped the relationship discussion question (I personally don't like wasting time and I'd rather know where we stand seeing as it would end up being long distance if we would move forward) and that was the answer I got alongside the usual "I'm not ready for a relationship". There's another girl I can get to know, and after the discussion with the previous girl, I think I do want to go and date her. We're going to meet up on Saturday night before a local concert. Haven't heard from the first girl today. What I'm getting at here is this. Should I just act like whatever me and the first girl had is over with and just go out with no remorse? As is I've lost all interest in the first girl, but I don't want to do something hurtful towards her. I know for a fact she wants space so me reaching out will do less good then bad. I would love to have her as a friend and that's the conclusion I'm hoping she's honestly going to come to. I'm just confused as hell right now, but atleast I've got a date on saturday!

[QUOTE=Nonikai;52754302]To keep a long story short. This girl I've been dating for two months told me that she's not sure of my role in her life. I popped the relationship discussion question (I personally don't like wasting time and I'd rather know where we stand seeing as it would end up being long distance if we would move forward) and that was the answer I got alongside the usual "I'm not ready for a relationship". There's another girl I can get to know, and after the discussion with the previous girl, I think I do want to go and date her. We're going to meet up on Saturday night before a local concert. Haven't heard from the first girl today. What I'm getting at here is this. Should I just act like whatever me and the first girl had is over with and just go out with no remorse? As is I've lost all interest in the first girl, but I don't want to do something hurtful towards her. I know for a fact she wants space so me reaching out will do less good then bad. I would love to have her as a friend and that's the conclusion I'm hoping she's honestly going to come to. I'm just confused as hell right now, but atleast I've got a date on saturday![/QUOTE] Well, I'd be polite and be clear that what she said means you'll simply move on - I'm not sure hoe established you are, but I guess I myself would feel bad going on a date, if my status with with someone else wasn't clear. Your new date might judge you based on it as well, I don't know. If she said you're not in a relationship, I don't think you're really doing anything wrong - I just like being super clear about stuff, so you don't end up with a bunch of misunderstandings and bullshit.

[QUOTE=_Maverick_;52753261]I suffer from horrific levels of baby face if I shave, it just looks so wrong It was so bad that one time my nan walked round a corner, saw me and screamed because she didn't recognise me :v: I have been instructed to only trim my beard from then on[/QUOTE] I like to think I look best around 2 days after shaving. There's a small stubble visible and I look like a grown man, and after that 2 day prime I look like a hobo again and have to shave and get asked for ID when buying energy drinks. :v: And I have to shave my entire head, because the top of my head is bald and the sides grow this pathetic patchy remnants of hair.

[QUOTE=SgtTupelo;52754937]I like to think I look best around 2 days after shaving. There's a small stubble visible and I look like a grown man, and after that 2 day prime I look like a hobo again and have to shave and get asked for ID when buying energy drinks. :v: And I have to shave my entire head, because the top of my head is bald and the sides grow this pathetic patchy remnants of hair.[/QUOTE] If that's true. Use an electric razor and trim instead of doing a clean shave each time. That's what I do.

[QUOTE=plunger435;52755045]If that's true. Use an electric razor and trim instead of doing a clean shave each time. That's what I do.[/QUOTE] My wife likes me when my head is all clean-shaven and baby-smooth, so I do that. Also, just shaved my head, got a trillion small cuts in my chin (bumpy chin for some reason, usually it's not) and put on some eau de toilette and oh BOY now that's what I call pain!

I had a concert 2 days ago, met a girl there. We made out a bit and later exchanged numbers, and to be honest she seems interested in seeing me again. Although, here's the kicker. I jokingly made fun of her, her reaction was to laugh because she knew it was a joke, but then out of nowhere slap me in the face. Pretty hard too. For me this is a dealbreaker already, pretty big red flag, would you guys say I'm wrong for thinking that?

No, she barely knew ya and slapped you No stranger gets to slap me. Actually, nobody gets to slap me, idgaf who they are

On Monday I'm having dinner at a friend's house and meeting her parents. This isn't "meeting the parents" in a way that you do with someone you're dating, this is just me having been invited, but still, I'm nervous. Do I bring wine yes or no?

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52755385]I had a concert 2 days ago, met a girl there. We made out a bit and later exchanged numbers, and to be honest she seems interested in seeing me again. Although, here's the kicker. I jokingly made fun of her, her reaction was to laugh because she knew it was a joke, but then out of nowhere slap me in the face. Pretty hard too. For me this is a dealbreaker already, pretty big red flag, would you guys say I'm wrong for thinking that?[/QUOTE] I mean that entirely depends on what you said and how you said it. For all I know you could have said something that deserves worse than a slap in the face.

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52755385]I had a concert 2 days ago, met a girl there. We made out a bit and later exchanged numbers, and to be honest she seems interested in seeing me again. Although, here's the kicker. I jokingly made fun of her, her reaction was to laugh because she knew it was a joke, but then out of nowhere slap me in the face. Pretty hard too. For me this is a dealbreaker already, pretty big red flag, would you guys say I'm wrong for thinking that?[/QUOTE] What did you say

I got hammered last night and texted a girl I like saying I love her. I've never fucked up on such a big scale :v: Its fine tho, she read it but didnt reply, it wouldnt work out anyway so its fine that she knows it now, literally doesnt change a thing.

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52755385]I had a concert 2 days ago, met a girl there. We made out a bit and later exchanged numbers, and to be honest she seems interested in seeing me again. Although, here's the kicker. I jokingly made fun of her, her reaction was to laugh because she knew it was a joke, but then out of nowhere slap me in the face. Pretty hard too. For me this is a dealbreaker already, pretty big red flag, would you guys say I'm wrong for thinking that?[/QUOTE] Def depends on what you said. I've honestly gotten sick and tired of guys poking fun at me, even if it's not meant in a mean way. The past few people I've been interested in always start with teasing and then turn it into a staple of our relationship and I'm at a point where I don't really tolerate it anymore. It gets really, really exhausting.

To be fair I don't even remember what I said, although I'm pretty sure it was harmless, I might've come off as really mean seeing as how I only knew her a few hours

[QUOTE=Pascall;52755789]Def depends on what you said. I've honestly gotten sick and tired of guys poking fun at me, even if it's not meant in a mean way. The past few people I've been interested in always start with teasing and then turn it into a staple of our relationship and I'm at a point where I don't really tolerate it anymore. It gets really, really exhausting.[/QUOTE] Ya know people say men tend to bottle up emotions but I find that women do the same thing. I admit that I tend to be the guy poking fun at people. I'm also somewhat a bit clueless but my intention is never to hurt. So when I poke fun at someone and they bantz back I usually assume they're okay with it (until they eventually blow up on me). I've come to realize I should really just bantz with people that I'm 100% sure can handle it but at the same time people shouldn't be afraid to say they don't like it right away (I'm aware it's not always socially possible as to not come off as rude).

[QUOTE=StrawberryClock;52756052]Ya know people say men tend to bottle up emotions but I find that women do the same thing. I admit that I tend to be the guy poking fun at people. I'm also somewhat a bit clueless but my intention is never to hurt. So when I poke fun at someone and they bantz back I usually assume they're okay with it (until they eventually blow up on me). I've come to realize I should really just bantz with people that I'm 100% sure can handle it but at the same time people shouldn't be afraid to say they don't like it right away (I'm aware it's not always socially possible as to not come off as rude).[/QUOTE] Same, I have a really dry sense of humor, most of the time when I'm making jokes I'm pretty good about keeping a serious tone of voice and a straight face. Some of my old friends literally couldn't stand my sense of humor because they were never sure if I was joking or not.

I just wanted to come by here and thank you guys for the millions of good advices in here. For the past days I've spent several hours reading this very thread from page one and I gotta say there's alooot of things one can learn from just reading what has been said here. Despite the weird shit Zen'Tao brought here, the drunk shitpost, HakimHakim talking about women as trophies and that one guy taking another dude's chick to some magic show (how did that go even?) I feel like I've actually learned a thing or two to help me. Now, I'm not really anti-social sadly I often just prefer my comfort zone (home + chatting through Teamspeak) which in turn doesn't help when I work most hours of the week (I'm a security guard) or when I suddenly leave civilization for a week (SAF Homeguard), because of this I rarely actually go out to meet folks in a casual manner however that is of course something I hope to improve. As for women, well, I've tried Tinder and came to the conclusion that it's a shitty app and that my odds would probably be vastly better face-to-face rather than through text messages. For the past years I've been "practicing" talking with women in a casual manner because sadly as a kid I didn't have alot of friends of the opposite sex which gave me this dumb fear of spekaing to girls and thinking that I was beneath any girl I had a crush on. Now the positive thing is that those thoughts are gone and today I feel legitimately proud of myself and I am ready to tackle all new challenges, including actually starting to date someone if all goes well. So yeah, thanks guys for the literal years worth of tips and advices.

I ended up meeting a new girl recently. She seemed nice enough and it turns out we have more in common than I would have ever expected. She says she's not a very social person and has been having trouble meeting people since starting university. There is a much bigger age gap than I've ever experienced though, she's 18 and I'm 23. I know five years isn't a big deal when you're over 18, it's just not something I'm used to. Now while I do find her attractive, I kind of want to prevent myself from developing feelings. Like I wouldn't mind asking if she wanted to go for coffee or something to that effect, get to know her a little better and see how things develop, but I don't want my lack of experience with women barging in and make me fuck everything up because I ended up developing feelings too fast. Any advice there?

I got trouble with making connections to people, i cannot talk to strangers and i do not know how to talk to people i know. At work i cannot even fathom how i could actually make a friend out of anyone. I can cooperate in work environment just fine. It's hard to explain, i just feel like work life is somehow completely separate of personal life. I probably should go to a bar or a club, but is that how you are suppose to do it? Feels weird that the only way to meet people is only by drinking?

There are plenty of other ways to meet people, finding like minded facebook groups or communities. Hell, pick up some hobby/lesson/classes at your community club, or use meeting apps (not tinder)

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;52752555]But I also think 9 out of 10 will prefer shaved.[/QUOTE] In all honesty, I found women to prefer guys who looked taken care of. It stuns me how poorly most men grow and trim their beards. Growing a beard is either done good or not at all. You shouldn't grow a beard if you miss patches, and you can't just trim it to a certain length and be done with it. Knowing how to shave a beard properly helps tons. If you don't know what I mean with the last part, talk to your barber about it next time you visit. He/she will explain you what to look for with your particular face. Also, I highly suggest people who wanna grow a beard to shave with a straight razor or shavette. It's dirt cheap in the long run: I pay 8 cent per blade, which I use 6 times (compared to 2,50 for like 8 uses for those expensive Gillette's with a trimming blade). And it makes for a sharply maintained look. It might be quite hard to adjust to, but it's worth it. Be a man and do it properly, or don't even try at all.

I am fucking tired of my mother being the double standard queen, expecting everybody to change their ways and to apologice to her for stuff she felt hurt by (and assuming malice or idiocy for those), yet she will never try to change or apologice. She is right, no matter what, and if contested, she will try to prove her being right, or shut up and keep her opinion, rather than even pondering she may have to think things twice. But she cannot understand why other people don't like her yelling at them why they are wrong and how they should do things. And then, she is depressive, and at the drop of the hat she switches into "I am only worth as a working machine, don't care about me, I only have to pay my debts and then I can die", but she won't allow anybody to reach her, because she decided that is the absolute truth. She is insolating herself and seeing enemies everywhere, she has no illusion for anything and belittles anybody in her age range who has any kind of illusion, and deems anything about her condition as inevitable due to age (and she is just 56, FFS). She won't admit she needs help, because "I just can move aside", but at the same time will smother us with constant complaints about not meeting standards. And I'm aware she smothers herself with that same shit, but it isn't healthy for anybody.

[QUOTE=thermobaric;52756556]In all honesty, I found women to prefer guys who looked taken care of. It stuns me how poorly most men grow and trim their beards. Growing a beard is either done good or not at all. You shouldn't grow a beard if you miss patches, and you can't just trim it to a certain length and be done with it. Knowing how to shave a beard properly helps tons. If you don't know what I mean with the last part, talk to your barber about it next time you visit. He/she will explain you what to look for with your particular face. Also, I highly suggest people who wanna grow a beard to shave with a straight razor or shavette. It's dirt cheap in the long run: I pay 8 cent per blade, which I use 6 times (compared to 2,50 for like 8 uses for those expensive Gillette's with a trimming blade). And it makes for a sharply maintained look. It might be quite hard to adjust to, but it's worth it. Be a man and do it properly, or don't even try at all.[/QUOTE] I was saying 9 out of 10 men probably prefer shaved legs on women

[QUOTE=Eriorguez;52757364]I am fucking tired of my mother being the double standard queen, expecting everybody to change their ways and to apologice to her for stuff she felt hurt by (and assuming malice or idiocy for those), yet she will never try to change or apologice. She is right, no matter what, and if contested, she will try to prove her being right, or shut up and keep her opinion, rather than even pondering she may have to think things twice. But she cannot understand why other people don't like her yelling at them why they are wrong and how they should do things. And then, she is depressive, and at the drop of the hat she switches into "I am only worth as a working machine, don't care about me, I only have to pay my debts and then I can die", but she won't allow anybody to reach her, because she decided that is the absolute truth. She is insolating herself and seeing enemies everywhere, she has no illusion for anything and belittles anybody in her age range who has any kind of illusion, and deems anything about her condition as inevitable due to age (and she is just 56, FFS). She won't admit she needs help, because "I just can move aside", but at the same time will smother us with constant complaints about not meeting standards. And I'm aware she smothers herself with that same shit, but it isn't healthy for anybody.[/QUOTE] This probably sounds terrible, but my mum is exactly like this. I just stopped giving her any form of response until she realised acting like that gets her nowhere. You can't change her, so maybe she just needs some tough love.

I'm 26 (but Mediterranean country; we are quite fond of coming back visit the folks several times a month). And I don't think it works. She has this whole ordeal of forcing herself to endure things she hates because "that's the way things are" or something like that. She "deserves it" and so has to endure it, but won't give anybody "the pleasure" of changing her. Yet she always expects people to change to see things her way.

Reason why I asked earlier about hair on women, was this in particular. [url]http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/article/41522160/model-arvida-bystrm-gets-rape-threats-after-an-advert-featured-her-hairy-legs[/url]

Ive been feeling pretty down lately. I've got two really deep crushes now, but I feel like both are completely untouchable. Crush no. 1 is a friend of mine, but in terms of social contact she's more of a friend of a freind, in the way that I only meet and talk to her whenever me and her are with our common friends. I asked her out on a date two years ago, but she thought it would be awkward, since she isn't really the type of girl to have someone that close. She's asexual, and doesn't really care too much about relationships, so I just feel that any move I'd make would be futile. I should have been over her a long time ago, and I was for a year or so, but it lately sparked up again. Crush no. 2 is a coworker I almost haven't even talked to, but this girl was a love on first sight, and she at least seems like my type. I'm just so destroyed by the fact that she works a completely different shift than me, and since we're about 1K at this workplace, the chances of being at the same place and same time is miniscule. I just see her from time to time around the coordinator and in other checkpoints, sometimes in the breakroom, but never in a situation where I can actually talk to her. The only way I can get closer to her is to change shift, and that would be a pretty long shot. I thought I had moved on away from things like this and stopped caring. It worked out for two months, but now I feel even worse.

[QUOTE=kazookie;52758595] Crush no. 2 is a coworker[B] I almost haven't even talked to, but this girl was a love on first sight, and she at least seems like my type. I'm just so destroyed by the fact that she works a completely different shift than me[/B], and since we're about 1K at this workplace, the chances of being at the same place and same time is miniscule. I just see her from time to time around the coordinator and in other checkpoints, sometimes in the breakroom, but never in a situation where I can actually talk to her. The only way I can get closer to her is to change shift, and that would be a pretty long shot. [/QUOTE] I don't understand how anyone can develop a crush on someone they've never even spoken to. It sounds to me like you've created an idea in your head of how she is and then went and chucked that image up on a pedestal, and now you're beating yourself up because you'll never be able to get anywhere with this fictional being? A five minute conversation with her might make you hate her (she could have a really annoying laugh).

You crush on ideas, but love people, right? And you always have to remember than the idea doesn't exist, and let it fade, no matter the direction you end up going with that person.