Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

Um, BDA, you're internet famous now (or at least half of your face is): [IMG]https://i.gyazo.com/594e4851d942c8a10c72f43a949e2fd2.png[/IMG]

Congrats BDA

There's this girl in one of my classes I want to talk to but I'm not quite sure how to do it. Like I get the mechanics of actually starting a conversation with a girl you think is attractive, I feel like I'm finally getting comfortable doing that. The problem is she has a group of like 3 or 4 other friends in the class and she's always taking to them before the class starts and after the class ends. So I don't really know how I'm supposed to start a conversation with her if she's talking to her friends.

omfg congrats BDA weddings are awesome and jesus even though you're a giant, you're also proportional making your wife look even tinier haha [editline]15th October 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Taepodong-2;52781994]There's this girl in one of my classes I want to talk to but I'm not quite sure how to do it. Like I get the mechanics of actually starting a conversation with a girl you think is attractive, I feel like I'm finally getting comfortable doing that. The problem is she has a group of like 3 or 4 other friends in the class and she's always taking to them before the class starts and after the class ends. So I don't really know how I'm supposed to start a conversation with her if she's talking to her friends.[/QUOTE] if you listen in on their convo, sometimes you can just inject yourself if it's something you're also versed in, though i mean you still gotta be a little subtle, and keep the opinion initially on the DL like they could be talking about a show or something and then just jump in and be like "oh man etc..."

[QUOTE=Agameofscones;52780974]What justifies her actions? I'd just like a reason to pin this annoyance to so I can deal with it and not explode like a total cunt. It feels like dealing with a passive aggressive co-worker.[/QUOTE] Honestly what she's doing is probably for the best. The person who actually does the breaking up will usually have a much easier time being "just friends" with their ex, while the other person usually holds out hope of winning them back or at least getting some kind of satisfying definitive closure. Her idea of "remaining friends" was probably more along the lines of "not becoming enemies" and I don't think you stand to gain much of anything by confronting her about this since it's all over.

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;52781702]That's her![/QUOTE] Many congratulations <3

how do i stop being jealous of my best friend talking to my recent ex (broke up on good terms)? they just snapchat a lot and its basically casual, typical friendship stuff. theres no reason for me to feel jealous but i do. i guess im jealous that he can talk to her and potentially grow close but i cant do either of those. it also feels like a slight betrayal even tho he doesn't hang out with her and hes been with me ever since me and her broke up. the feelings are pretty dumb, but another friend of mine said she understood why i was feeling them. the question is, how do I stop? i can't ask them to like talk less or anything

When your baby teeth fall off, it still hurts, and it is still uncomfortable, even if it isn't a traumatic experience per se. But with time it ends up being okay. This is pretty much the same thing

[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;52782042]omfg congrats BDA [editline]15th October 2017[/editline] if you listen in on their convo, sometimes you can just inject yourself if it's something you're also versed in, though i mean you still gotta be a little subtle, and keep the opinion initially on the DL like they could be talking about a show or something and then just jump in and be like "oh man etc..."[/QUOTE] I'm in a similar situation to Taepodong, and I've gotten this step down, but I'm not really sure how to spend time with just the girl, in question. I feel like a jerk if I just ask her to hang out and not her friends. I don't know why

[QUOTE=loopoo;52781961]Um, BDA, you're internet famous now (or at least half of your face is): [IMG]https://i.gyazo.com/594e4851d942c8a10c72f43a949e2fd2.png[/IMG][/QUOTE] Yeah, that was unexpected. I didn't even realize that the public at large could see it. I woke up to 190,000 views on the front page of imgur lol

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;52781110]Nearly four years on, and I've finally made Tiny Girlfriend my Tiny Wife. She was so beautiful today. I struggled not to cry, and failed several times. I've never been happier. [t]https://i.imgur.com/qtn29eM.jpg[/t][/QUOTE] holy shit man I remember reading your posts about when you'd only just met her, thats fuckin amazing congrats!

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;52782509]Yeah, that was unexpected. I didn't even realize that the public at large could see it. I woke up to 190,000 views on the front page of imgur lol[/QUOTE] Come on, you're the next big (and small) thing. The Shaquille O'Neal and his wife of our generation.

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;52782509]Yeah, that was unexpected. I didn't even realize that the public at large could see it. I woke up to 190,000 views on the front page of imgur lol[/QUOTE] This is also the most upvoted comment on that picture: [T]https://i.imgur.com/Gv7zPOB.jpg[/T]

Realized a earlier this month that I've become very fond of a very close friend of mine but I feel like she might not have the same feelings. I wanted to hold off and maybe process more but I don't feel it's healthy to sit on this for too long. Gonna talk to her this week when our schedules align and figure our where to go from there. Wish me luck.

[QUOTE=Bathtub;52782236]how do i stop being jealous of my best friend talking to my recent ex (broke up on good terms)? they just snapchat a lot and its basically casual, typical friendship stuff. theres no reason for me to feel jealous but i do. i guess im jealous that he can talk to her and potentially grow close but i cant do either of those. it also feels like a slight betrayal even tho he doesn't hang out with her and hes been with me ever since me and her broke up. the feelings are pretty dumb, but another friend of mine said she understood why i was feeling them. the question is, how do I stop? i can't ask them to like talk less or anything[/QUOTE] i really don't know what to do. it's gotten to the point where im kind of on edge around my friend because i keep waiting for her name to pop up on his phone

[QUOTE=Bathtub;52782999]i really don't know what to do. it's gotten to the point where im kind of on edge around my friend because i keep waiting for her name to pop up on his phone[/QUOTE] I've been in the same situation. As harsh as this sounds, you really just have to learn to live with it. I'm not gonna sugarcoat it and say it'll get easier, because it probably won't be. At least not in the traditional sense. Basically what I did was just repeatedly telling myself that they've a right to talk together, and that I shouldn't let my own feelings get in the way. It might also be a sound idea to distance yourself a bit. Just a bit.

[QUOTE=Spetsnaz95;52783031]I've been in the same situation. As harsh as this sounds, you really just have to learn to live with it. I'm not gonna sugarcoat it and say it'll get easier, because it probably won't be. At least not in the traditional sense. Basically what I did was just repeatedly telling myself that they've a right to talk together, and that I shouldn't let my own feelings get in the way. It might also be a sound idea to distance yourself a bit. Just a bit.[/QUOTE] it's just hard because we're roommates and she also lives like 300 feet away from us. theres nothing i can do about it. i'm being insecure and they have every right to talk to whoever they wanna talk to, it just makes me so uncomfortable and bothered and then i feel guilty for feeling that way

[QUOTE=Bathtub;52783063]it's just hard because we're roommates and she also lives like 300 feet away from us. theres nothing i can do about it. i'm being insecure and they have every right to talk to whoever they wanna talk to, it just makes me so uncomfortable and bothered and then i feel guilty for feeling that way[/QUOTE] It's alright to feel the way you do. You're only human, after all. No need to feel guilty though. She is your ex, so I'd say it'd natural you'd feel the way you do. I'd love to say something inspiring, but it's pretty hard to do with text, so instead I'll use myself as an example: I had a girl I got the feelings for. I knew, and never expected, for anything to ever actually develop, but as we began to talk less together and she got closer to someone else, it bothered me a ton regardless. In a way, it still does. Just hearing her name can sometimes knock the air out of me. But then I remind myself that, frankly speaking, that's in the past, and I can't keep lingering there. And that's the thing. You just have to keep reminding yourself to move forward and not dwell in the past. But even with that said, there's nothing wrong in looking back every now and then, as long as you don't start walking backwards.

[QUOTE=Spetsnaz95;52783102]It's alright to feel the way you do. You're only human, after all. No need to feel guilty though. She is your ex, so I'd say it'd natural you'd feel the way you do. I'd love to say something inspiring, but it's pretty hard to do with text, so instead I'll use myself as an example: I had a girl I got the feelings for. I knew, and never expected, for anything to ever actually develop, but as we began to talk less together and she got closer to someone else, it bothered me a ton regardless. In a way, it still does. Just hearing her name can sometimes knock the air out of me. But then I remind myself that, frankly speaking, that's in the past, and I can't keep lingering there. And that's the thing. You just have to keep reminding yourself to move forward and not dwell in the past. But even with that said, there's nothing wrong in looking back every now and then, as long as you don't start walking backwards.[/QUOTE] thank you for your words. i think maybe at the root of it i'm just devastated that, even though we ended well and it was the right thing to do to break up, I don't think i'll ever be close with her again

Wondering if anyone can just offer some advice here, my gf's flatmate matched with some guy on tinder about over a month ago now, and he was a bit weird, she didn't respond to any of his messages quick and he then wrote some passive aggressive message, then immediately apologized. He then proceeded to add her on almost every form of social media she had and began apologizing, begging for a second chance, admitting he's got some mental issues but he's not taking medication, she told him in the most polite way possible to just stop basically, then she began blocking him on everything he was trying to contact her on (he was even using fucking instagram direct messages to get around the blocks). anyway, today I've been told he's now been making new snapchat and facebook accounts and has started messaging her again, saying he's "improved" or w/e. She's genuinely quite scared, and I can see why really, it was pretty weird when it all happened the first time but now a month on he's suddenly doing it all again. I've told my gf to tell her to just fix up her snapchat privacy settings which should at least stop him from that, but I just feel bad for her cuz thats been well over a month now and he's still specifically remembered her and is now still trying to contact her. Like, if he's dead set on it he can probs just make different accounts on any other social media and just start messaging her, and it's not fair for her to have to completely go overboard on other privacy settings just to stop this one guy from his relentless crusade of awkward stalking. Is there anything else you think I can just advise her to do to just put her a bit at ease or even just get the guy away?

[QUOTE=Marzipas;52784684]Wondering if anyone can just offer some advice here, my gf's flatmate matched with some guy on tinder about over a month ago now, and he was a bit weird, she didn't respond to any of his messages quick and he then wrote some passive aggressive message, then immediately apologized. He then proceeded to add her on almost every form of social media she had and began apologizing, begging for a second chance, admitting he's got some mental issues but he's not taking medication, she told him in the most polite way possible to just stop basically, then she began blocking him on everything he was trying to contact her on (he was even using fucking instagram direct messages to get around the blocks). anyway, today I've been told he's now been making new snapchat and facebook accounts and has started messaging her again, saying he's "improved" or w/e. She's genuinely quite scared, and I can see why really, it was pretty weird when it all happened the first time but now a month on he's suddenly doing it all again. I've told my gf to tell her to just fix up her snapchat privacy settings which should at least stop him from that, but I just feel bad for her cuz thats been well over a month now and he's still specifically remembered her and is now still trying to contact her. Like, if he's dead set on it he can probs just make different accounts on any other social media and just start messaging her, and it's not fair for her to have to completely go overboard on other privacy settings just to stop this one guy from his relentless crusade of awkward stalking. Is there anything else you think I can just advise her to do to just put her a bit at ease or even just get the guy away?[/QUOTE] Threaten to get the police involved if he continues maybe?

[QUOTE=Marzipas;52784684]Wondering if anyone can just offer some advice here, my gf's flatmate matched with some guy on tinder about over a month ago now, and he was a bit weird, she didn't respond to any of his messages quick and he then wrote some passive aggressive message, then immediately apologized. He then proceeded to add her on almost every form of social media she had and began apologizing, begging for a second chance, admitting he's got some mental issues but he's not taking medication, she told him in the most polite way possible to just stop basically, then she began blocking him on everything he was trying to contact her on (he was even using fucking instagram direct messages to get around the blocks). anyway, today I've been told he's now been making new snapchat and facebook accounts and has started messaging her again, saying he's "improved" or w/e. She's genuinely quite scared, and I can see why really, it was pretty weird when it all happened the first time but now a month on he's suddenly doing it all again. I've told my gf to tell her to just fix up her snapchat privacy settings which should at least stop him from that, but I just feel bad for her cuz thats been well over a month now and he's still specifically remembered her and is now still trying to contact her. Like, if he's dead set on it he can probs just make different accounts on any other social media and just start messaging her, and it's not fair for her to have to completely go overboard on other privacy settings just to stop this one guy from his relentless crusade of awkward stalking. Is there anything else you think I can just advise her to do to just put her a bit at ease or even just get the guy away?[/QUOTE] I'm not very into social media stuff like this but surely there is a way to disable ALL incoming friend requests / messages?

I have no girlfriend

Bigdumbamwrican that is the dopest thing I've seen this month. Congrats

So I finished uni a year ago which also coincided with my parents (and therefore me too since I couldn't afford to not) moving to the other end of the country (it's about a three hour drive back home). Most of my friends at home also moved out for uni and such so I didn't think it would matter so much. Hoo boy, I didn't realise how blooming hard it is to make new friends once you're not in education anymore! I've been sort of down recently because I've not seen any of my old friends in months and basically aside from conversation with colleagues at the office have had no social interaction with anyone my age in months, either. I've downloaded tinder to try and meet a nice girl around here to try and help with this, but I'm really wondering if there's any other ways to get to know people. I can feel myself starting to get really sad about this, and so I'm trying really hard to find some sort of social life before it's too late and I end up a miserable recluse. Any ideas?

[QUOTE=Archimedes;52782979]Realized a earlier this month that I've become very fond of a very close friend of mine but I feel like she might not have the same feelings. I wanted to hold off and maybe process more but I don't feel it's healthy to sit on this for too long. Gonna talk to her this week when our schedules align and figure our where to go from there. Wish me luck.[/QUOTE] Talk didn't happen because she was feeling sick so I ended up just talking to her over text and finding out shes still very broken up about her previous relationship. Honestly think I should just wait. Doesn't feel fair to drop this sort of thing on her while she's processing everything.

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;52781130]I'm 6'6", she's 4'9". Very few of the pictures we got today caught us both in frame lol. Hoping the photographer got some good shots for us. Should get them in a couple weeks. [t]https://i.imgur.com/tfxHmIh.jpg[/t] I can't get over how beautiful she looked. I keep tearing up. Such an amazing day.[/QUOTE] Congrats man, she looks gorgeous

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;52781130]I'm 6'6", she's 4'9". Very few of the pictures we got today caught us both in frame lol. Hoping the photographer got some good shots for us. Should get them in a couple weeks. [t]https://i.imgur.com/tfxHmIh.jpg[/t] I can't get over how beautiful she looked. I keep tearing up. Such an amazing day.[/QUOTE] This should be your official wedding photo. Congrats dude!

[QUOTE=OvB;52787218]This should be your official wedding photo. Congrats dude![/QUOTE] I can imagine this picture hanging on the wall in his house 30 years from now :v:

I wish more people were conscious of their smell. I've always been really anal and uptight about body odour / smell, and it really sucks when you get into a morning lecture and your mates or people around you smell like grease / morning smell / unbrushed teeth. or even worse is when they smell like buckets of axe / lynx. like it's proper disgusting and you gotta be polite and are forced to sit next to them for two hours. then by lunch time, i've either adjusted to their smell or it gets blown away by fresh air. unbrushed teeth is inexcusable, that's rotten. is anyone else like this or am i just weird about smells?