Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

Doubt it's because of interracial marriage. :v: From what you said, it seems like you're just plain unlucky. That could be the case.

Yeah my "beard" is just thin mustache, chin hair and sideburns. Nothing at all on the cheeks where it really matters. It's fucking horrible and it doesn't look good at all I want a real beard goddammit

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;52822452]Yeah my "beard" is just thin mustache, chin hair and sideburns. Nothing at all on the cheeks where it really matters. It's fucking horrible and it doesn't look good at all I want a real beard goddammit[/QUOTE] get in fuckin line, mate don't be stealing any potential beard joojoo in the air, if anyone deserves a beard, it's me

I thought facial hair genes run through the mom. can the men on your mom's side have beards? iCould be absolutely wrong too [editline]26th October 2017[/editline] after some reading, it, like all phenotype stuff, is just a tossup between your mom and your dad

I can grow like a half-beard, the hair grows in all the rights places for a beard and when it gets to the stage of "If this hair was twice as long it would be a nice beard." it just stops growing all together and it makes me look like shaggy from Scooby-Doo, it's either that or it grows at a slower rate or some shit.

Simple, if you're chinese like me and can only grow a pedostache, shave it. Bottom line if your facial hair looks like shit or patchy get rid of it

My facial hair grows in three stages: 1. Clean-shaving: I look like a cute toddler 2. 1st week scruff: Coarse but it puts me closer to my age. Noticeable, but not overbearing 3. 2nd week, or, "The Wire": wiry, pointy, and minimal coverage. The redneck facial hair where nothing grows between side burns and stache. Desperately wanting itself to be put out of its misery. I just stick to the idea that as I grow older my facial hair will increase in surface area.

So, Im in my 5th month of being vegan and have been doing workouts every other day to regain all the weight I lost by accident (no thanks to hurricane Irma as well / not being able to eat for 2 weeks since there was no produce) Mainly in the lower body area. Are there any other Vegans here that have advice for eating while gaining? [sp]no i did not decide to go vegan because of the animals, but why would that be a problem? No I am not trying to convert everyone I come in contact with, no I am not trying to be pretentious I just need some personal advice from someone thank.[/sp]

[QUOTE=loopoo;52822418]my father, and his father, and his father's father, they all have generic middle eastern beards. ie, bushy as fuck. has my bloodline been weakened by the interracial marriage between him and my european mum? my mum jokes and says it's not her genetics, cause she can grow a beard, but I need something to pin this on, and she's the easiest target. visiting the middle east is an ordeal, all my extended family tsk and ask why I shave, and I haven't got the guts to tell them I'm an impure infidel that brings dishonor to the family due to the fact I can't grow facial hair.[/QUOTE] I’ll trade you any day for my stupid bushy high speed beard that I hate

[QUOTE=Pascall;52820016]Yeah as much as I’d like to adopt a kid eventually, boy the monetary burden almost makes it seem not worth it. Why have a kid or take one on when you’re just gonna stress about money all the time? It’s honestly just not a good time in the world to try to have kids imo. Kudos to the people who manage it without wanting to just give up. I have a hard enough time devoting energy to my niece.[/QUOTE] Hmm, personally I don't really care about the world I'm bringing a kid into - I want my own child regardless. I'd be okay with adoption and raising the child of somebody else, but I also want my own biological child at some point. I think.

[QUOTE=Trekintosh;52823147]I’ll trade you any day for my stupid bushy high speed beard that I hate[/QUOTE] meet me at the operating theatre in 10 mins, we'll swap the bottom halves of our faces.

This fucking sucks, my dad got retrenched, and I'm gonna have to be the bread winner for some time, to pay off utilies and mortgage and my bro's uni fees. How the fuck am I gonna make enough for the family

That sucks man, sorry to hear that. Family always finds a way to make things work though. I hope you got yourself sorted soon.

I just wish my beard grew up my cheeks a little. My chin, lip, and jawline all grow in pretty thick, but it doesn't creep up my cheeks at all. I keep it maintained so it doesn't get neckbeardy, but my naked cheeks mock me. [editline]26th October 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Pascall;52820016]Yeah as much as I’d like to adopt a kid eventually, boy the monetary burden almost makes it seem not worth it. Why have a kid or take one on when you’re just gonna stress about money all the time? It’s honestly just not a good time in the world to try to have kids imo. Kudos to the people who manage it without wanting to just give up. I have a hard enough time devoting energy to my niece.[/QUOTE] The monetary burden is the big thing for me, too. We're struggling a bit financially at the moment, and the thought of having a child is a bit of a scary one in a financial sense. I'm hoping that in a year, maybe two, our situation will have improved enough to shoulder the extra expenses, even if my wife is unable to go back to work. I am also totally on board with adoption. Having my "own" child would be lovely, but if I were unable to for any reason, I think that adoption would be just as fulfilling.

I hate having the obligation to say that you love someone, or religiously saying "I love you" when you necessarily don't know if you truly mean it. The same goes with kissing. I mean kissing is great, but I feel like I actually want to mean it when I love them. I guess that's what true love is, saying that and kissing them and meaning it 100%. I hate the expectations of romance, holding hands and shit. I love romance though, but the things that aren't genuine, the rituals that come with it, don't come from a genuine place. I want the "I love you"s and the kisses to come from a place where i'm sure is genuine, which is why some times it's hard for me to say that I love them. I want to do these things when it feels right, not on a fucking schedule. I also hate when someone gets with you just because they like the idea of having a relationship, not really caring that you're the one you're in a relationship with. I could be anyone. One time I dated this girl, but then I realized that I didn't love her, broke it off, and less than a week later she was with some nasty looking fat dude. That just makes you feel like trash man.

I haven't stumbled upon the thread in a while but I have managed to secure a coffee date for tomorrow luckily. It's quite a while away but still I'm quite nervous about the date, kinda worried I'm gonna mess up somehow as I haven't really been on a date before and I haven't really hung out with a girl like that since last summer but it was a completely different scenario. Any like tips to help a lad out?

just be yourself, she likes YOU enough that she agreed to it

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;52823499]Idk if you posted in the right thread, but all you can do is track caloric intake. If you're burning more than you're eating, then you're gonna keep losing weight. If you were losing weight before you started working out, you're gonna need to eat a fuckton more than you were before, especially with being vegan. Vegan and weightlifting is extremely hard for one to get the proper quantities of nutrition.[/QUOTE] Can you point me in the right thread? I dont really come on FP much. Thank you for the response/advice.

[QUOTE=HookerVomit;52825420]Can you point me in the right thread? I dont really come on FP much. Thank you for the response/advice.[/QUOTE] [url=https://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1519403]Here[/url] Going vegan just for the sake of going vegan seems weird to me, especially if you're trying to gain weight? Like if you want the health benefits of being vegan, why not just eat normally but focus more on the vegan side of things whilst still having your meat / dairy / etc? If you're hitting the gym but not getting the right macros and caloric intake, you're wasting your time. You'll barely build any muscle, and most of the effort you put in will be for nowt since your body will cannibalize any muscle you've built to sustain itself (if you have a caloric deficit) or you just won't be getting enough protein to enable muscle growth and repair.

[QUOTE=loopoo;52825449][url=https://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1519403]Here[/url] Going vegan just for the sake of going vegan seems weird to me, especially if you're trying to gain weight? Like if you want the health benefits of being vegan, why not just eat normally but focus more on the vegan side of things whilst still having your meat / dairy / etc? If you're hitting the gym but not getting the right macros and caloric intake, you're wasting your time. You'll barely build any muscle, and most of the effort you put in will be for nowt since your body will cannibalize any muscle you've built to sustain itself (if you have a caloric deficit) or you just won't be getting enough protein to enable muscle growth and repair.[/QUOTE] Well, I went vegan because i was already vegetarian and I kept getting weird subliminal messages from people/universe to just go vegan. I also started looking at chicken and thinking it looked disgusting. Not because people told me it was, just that it looked visually gross to me. I lost 15 lbs after going vegan and I want to gain my weight in a certain area back. I never wanted to lose weight, it just happened. I stopped drinking milk or having dairy of any kind 7 years ago by choice. I eat a carb based meal an hour before I workout and I have about 30/40g of protein within 15 minutes after a workout .

if your total daily intake is 30-40g of protein a day, you need about 1g protein per lb of body weight.

[QUOTE=HookerVomit;52822933] [sp]no i did not decide to go vegan because of the animals, but why would that be a problem? No I am not trying to convert everyone I come in contact with, no I am not trying to be pretentious I just need some personal advice from someone thank.[/sp][/QUOTE] Nobody cares and nobody mentions this, so why are you feeling insecure about it? If you are vegetarian/vegan I couldn't care less. But I get annoyed if someone who eat meat constantly post steak photos or vegan people calling people who eat meat murderers. Don't be a cunt to people and people won't be cunts to you, simple rule.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;52825659]As long as we are asking workout questions, I want to lose belly fat but gain chest mass at the same time. Is that possible or am I going to lose muscle in the process of fat loss? I want to impress my girlfriend with my body fitness.[/QUOTE] I would say do a lot of cardio and ab workouts as well as maybe chest workouts. But I would ask a guy :x [editline]26th October 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Ignhelper;52825695]Nobody cares and nobody mentions this, so why are you feeling insecure about it? If you are vegetarian/vegan I couldn't care less. But I get annoyed if someone who eat meat constantly post steak photos or vegan people calling people who eat meat murderers. Don't be a cunt to people and people won't be cunts to you, simple rule.[/QUOTE] Because Ive had people bring it up and be violent about it. Like now.. I feel like youre angry. Its not that serious.. I dont know why youre being so hostile

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;52825659]As long as we are asking workout questions, I want to lose belly fat but gain chest mass at the same time. Is that possible or am I going to lose muscle in the process of fat loss? I want to impress my girlfriend with my body fitness.[/QUOTE] Sadly there's no such thing as targeted fat loss, so all these photos you see of "Follow these exercises to lose your belly!" are bogus. If you decide to do lots of cardio and eat at a caloric deficit, you'll lose muscle as well as fat, unfortunately. Your best bet would be to eat at 250-500 calories above your TDEE and just hit the gym. As you build muscle mass, your fat will be more evenly distributed. There are people who complain about being skinny fat, but literally all it is is they don't have much muscle mass, but have a highish bodyfat, so their chest / stomachs are flabby because there's nothing underneath. If they had more muscle on their bellies and chests, the fat would be spread out more and not look as bad. Basically, [url=https://youtu.be/dwgpxNiSO_Y]Scott Herman Fitness[/url] nails the description and makes it super easy to understand. I used to always be scared of bulking or eating at a caloric surplus since I've always been skinnyfat. But this vid basically told me there's literally no reason to worry. [editline]27th October 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=HookerVomit;52825702]I would say do a lot of cardio and ab workouts as well as maybe chest workouts. But I would ask a guy :x[/QUOTE] This is great advice because Halloween is just around the corner, so if RenegadeCop follows this, he'll be spoopy skeleton just in time to scare all the kids.

[QUOTE=TheCrazyGoD;52823613]I haven't stumbled upon the thread in a while but I have managed to secure a coffee date for tomorrow luckily. It's quite a while away but still I'm quite nervous about the date, kinda worried I'm gonna mess up somehow as I haven't really been on a date before and I haven't really hung out with a girl like that since last summer but it was a completely different scenario. Any like tips to help a lad out?[/QUOTE] Stop viewing it as luck. You made an effort in some shape or form and it paid off. Take responsibility for that. Questions are a great conversational tool [editline]27th October 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Samson0722;52823575]I hate having the obligation to say that you love someone, or religiously saying "I love you" when you necessarily don't know if you truly mean it. The same goes with kissing. I mean kissing is great, but I feel like I actually want to mean it when I love them. [/quote] Then don't. You're not obligated at all, you've just been made to think you are. [quote]I also hate when someone gets with you just because they like the idea of having a relationship, not really caring that you're the one you're in a relationship with. I could be anyone. One time I dated this girl, but then I realized that I didn't love her, broke it off, and less than a week later she was with some nasty looking fat dude. That just makes you feel like trash man.[/QUOTE] The sad truth is there are a lot of people like that. Don't feel bad, you already have the presence of mind to know when to cut your losses. What they decide to do after you sniff out their bullshit is their problem.

[QUOTE=ilikecorn;52825839]Once you find the "one", those things become non issues. Been there, done that, I only dated a single woman who said "I love you" and made my heart flutter. Been married to her for close to 8 years now, no signs of that changing. Don't get suckered into the rituals of romance, if its not real then don't do it. If you date a person for a bit and just dont feel it then break it off, because the odds of you suddenly realizing that you care for that person are pretty slim.[/QUOTE] There's no such thing as "the one", this aint the matrix. Convincing yourself otherwise is self-limitation, unless you're talking about, of the people you're compatible with (And that's a fuckload more people than you'll ever meet), "the one" you actually made the effort with. [editline]27th October 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=SevenBillion;52826141]As a sociallly inept person, I find very hard to make any new friends or connections at all. And even if I talk to my friends. The relationship between them is either just awkward silence at best or me being that guy that no one likes. I just don't know how to be more social if most of my relationships are almost non-existant and the fact that I have very narrow interests to begin with.[/QUOTE] The best thing you can do is [I]try[/I]. If you fail to make a connection with someone you meet, then you can only ever be back where you started, so you've got nothing to lose. Rinse and repeat til you do. Make a list of all your hobbies and interests, then do some research into events and social opportunities around them.

[QUOTE=SevenBillion;52826141]As a sociallly inept person, I find very hard to make any new friends or connections at all. And even if I talk to my friends. The relationship between them is either just awkward silence at best or me being that guy that no one likes. I just don't know how to be more social if most of my relationships are almost non-existant and the fact that I have very narrow interests to begin with.[/QUOTE] I mean, it sounds like you're probably making friends with the wrong type of people if there's lots of awkward silences or they don't like you. It also depends if you are a bit bland in how you portray yourself, as well. Nothing's a bigger turnoff than someone who is dull and clearly lacks confidence. If you have very narrow interests, chances are, not many other people share those interests. So conversations can be slow and choking, since there's nothing to really talk about and for both of you to get really into and excited about. Are there any aspects of your personality / how you act in public that you can sit back and think about how it comes across to other people? Some people can be too annoyingly loud, or too excitable which can be draining for people to deal with (guilty as charged), or too monotonous. Others can be really rude without realising, or too sappy and complimentative (which gets old and just makes it seem like you're being a suck up). The generalized advice you're gonna get from this thread is: try and meet likeminded people. So whatever interests or passions you have, try and find groups near where you live to join and fit in.

[QUOTE=loopoo;52822369]i've come to a horrible realisation. most guys have penis envy, right? yea, well i don't (i'm not saying i have a big dick or anything, i'm just saying dick size hasn't ever [I]really[/I] bothered me, but my dick is pretty ok, i'm glad you asked). i get mad beard envy though. like incredibly bad envy. from 15 years old onwards, i sorta fantasized about the day i'd have my very own™ lumberjack beard. then i turned 18, still no beard, but no sweat, i'm a late bloomer or some shit, right? then 20, still no beard, starting to think my testicles are borked, panicking over the thought of me having low test or something, but this train of thought doesn't hold any water cause if jackrabbits could jerk it, i'd be a jackrabbit, and afaik having low test means you have next to no libido. now i'm 25, and the most i can grow is some lame goatee and moustache, and even that isn't thick and voluminous. it's just kinda wiry. and i feel like i went through the 7 stages of grief and have finally accepted the fact i'll never be the type of guy that can grow a thick beard. feels bad, real bad. so now i just rock a buzzed moustache / goatee look, cause i don't wanna pain people by making them put up with my attempts at growing a faux beard that just looks scraggly and awful, but i can't go clean shaven cause this is like my last little fuck you to genetics and my poor attempt at trying to sooth my ego. i can sorta live with that, but damn does the fact still not tear me up. i get about 6 lil whiskeys on each cheek, and the rest is baby ass smooth. doesn't help my ego when my sisters and parents constantly tell me i can grow a beard, but i just don't leave it long enough. finally settled that score by not shaving for a couple months and showing them how awful it looked - it wasn't terrible but it wasn't a good look. doesn't make sense, cause my sack, crack and back are pretty hairy. any other guys here get these dumb thoughts or am i just on a weird caffeine rant right now. i'm posting this here cause i need people to validate me and this is the super friendly thread so, please, brush away at my ego.[/QUOTE] have u tried out minoxidil (rogaine) on your beard? I've been on it for 3 months and I got some good growth and I'm Filipino. My dad can't grow a beard but somehow this helped. Maybe it can help you, bro, its only $15 on Amazon. You should research into it. here's my own progress, hope it helps. [thumb]https://scontent-dft4-2.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/22788645_10207667463003141_6129225481265765477_n.jpg?oh=d9bca80ad40ce03c95837e95d2b37dba&oe=5A771AF7[/thumb] [thumb]https://scontent-dft4-2.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/22788908_10207667463923164_5024756054408615071_n.jpg?oh=7cfb451970acb5e6fe14e6311f89d2a5&oe=5A6DF019[/thumb]

Isn't that supposed to be used on hair?

[QUOTE=_Axel;52828056]Isn't that supposed to be used on hair?[/QUOTE] beard hairs are still hairs lol. But yeah if u mean hair on ur head, it says not to put it on any other part but that hasn't stopped people from putting it on on their face to see if it helps them grow their beard. I did it more of an experiment, bought 3 months from Amazon for $15. No real side effects other than dryness on the first few weeks. I was just lurking the thread lol and I read loopoo's post and thought this could help out.