Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

So living with my ex-gf post break up has not been great; I don't know how I'm gonna get over her/deal with the next month and a half. She's basically over me and already in a strange "not" relationship with her friend who's in a strict Sub/Dom relationship and the only way the guy will let my ex-gf be friends with her friend is by being involved in their sex life, I'm not even lying. My ex-gf is okay with this and actually is pretty attracted to the Dom guy so she sexts him and probably is gonna be involved with a threesome with them at some point. She didn't want to have sex with the guy but now she thinks she might just let him to preserve her relationship with her friend that she likes. Feelings suck, this sucks

[QUOTE=Laserbeams;51407551]I managed beat my anxiety to message my crush and we had a nice chat. Then I messaged her again today, and she just ended up reading my message, going offline and then never replying back. Sort of seemed like she was in a bad mood, though it feels like she isn't really interested in talking with me anyway. I guess it's time to never talk to her ever again. Man I'm so shit at this[/QUOTE] I certainly wouldn't send another message, but from my experience, different people have different texting strategies. I know people who read messages and don't reply back to them until later, perhaps because they're busy.

[QUOTE=elevate;51407722]I certainly wouldn't send another message, but from my experience, different people have different texting strategies. I know people who read messages and don't reply back to them until later, perhaps because they're busy.[/QUOTE] I wasn't planning to send another message anyway, the last thing I want is to come off as pathetic and desperate, I've been there, and not speaking to her ever again is much more preferable. [QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51407739]Its entirely possible people dont feel like responding until later, whether they read the message or not[/QUOTE] Would be great if I overreacted and she replied to me, but that's not something I'd hold my breath for.

In other news; I got myself to tell this girl at a supermarket that I always thought was pretty that she was beautiful. That always helps my self-confidence. Couldn't get myself to ask if she was single though.

Girl who works at a cold stone I frequent after school is a little chatty with me. Few of the employees definitely recognize me but she's one of the few that initiate a brief conversation and ask me about my self. I've been considering asking her out, usually too tried from school though, plus I don't even know her name. I think it would be a bit, poor form? To ask her name then ask her out. Not to mention she has mentioned having finals to do as well as me. Should I wait? Or just ask her out?

[QUOTE=mooman1080;51407864]Girl who works at a cold stone I frequent after school is a little chatty with me. Few of the employees definitely recognize me but she's one of the few that initiate a brief conversation and ask me about my self. I've been considering asking her out, usually too tried from school though, plus I don't even know her name. I think it would be a bit, poor form? To ask her name then ask her out. Not to mention she has mentioned having finals to do as well as me. Should I wait? Or just ask her out?[/QUOTE] Don't ask out people who work at restaurants you go to. They are paid to be nice and ask questions and it puts them in an extremely uncomfortable position.

[QUOTE=Kite_shugo;51407782]In other news; I got myself to tell this girl at a supermarket that I always thought was pretty that she was beautiful. That always helps my self-confidence. Couldn't get myself to ask if she was single though.[/QUOTE] Still got to work on this bit I've managed to become more active and actually ask people out, but when it comes to telling someone I find them nice/beautiful I don't want to risk looking like a creep perhaps they'll appreciate it but it just feels so odd that someone you are just getting to know calls you beautiful. [I]I[/I] wouldnt find it cool if it happened to me, but that's cynicism for me

I used to have a hard time talking and asking people out. Alcohol helped a bit, but also just kinda recognizing that you won't know until you do it. Actually helps better with strangers IMO because chances are, if you fuck up, you won't ever see them again. Takes time and work, but it gets easier the more you do it and you get more comfortable. That's what helped me anyway. Currently trying to work on my anxiety brought on by the thought of losing people that are close to me when I think they might leave. [editline]21st November 2016[/editline] Also I dont normally go hang out with friends at school, but did for the first time last week. Met up at a hookah bar. Never really smoked hookah but it was actually pretty fun.

i like this girl i have been talking to everyday. i just wish we lived closer to each other. it takes awhile to get to her

[QUOTE=Crpto2007;51411963]i like this girl i have been talking to everyday. i just wish we lived closer to each other. it takes awhile to get to her[/QUOTE] That's the same with this new girl I'm seeing. She lives an hour away, works an hour and fifteen away. So we don't get to see each other as much as we'd like.

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51407294]Meanwhile I'll try asking this one girl out. maybe two, gotta work up to it with the other one first I guess probably nothing's gonna happen as it seems only one girl was ever into me :suicide:[/QUOTE] You just have to put yourself out there. What you're saying is what I used to think. Granted, all of those girls I met on OKCupid, but that doesn't change the fact that they're in general interesting people who seem to enjoy talking to me. You just have to put the legwork in to find them.

[QUOTE=bdd458;51412486]You just have to put yourself out there. What you're saying is what I used to think. Granted, all of those girls I met on OKCupid, but that doesn't change the fact that they're in general interesting people who seem to enjoy talking to me. You just have to put the legwork in to find them.[/QUOTE] I just expected people to form opinions on me after at least talking to me a bit, but I guess I take real life too seriously [editline]22nd November 2016[/editline] like I've sent one of the two girls a message about 8 hours ago, she read it real soon but does not reply, and it's the third time she does this you could be good mannered and reply something and let the conversation die if you really arent interested, you end up looking like a bitch this way meanwhile the other girl's been asking questions about me, so I guess it's something. wouldn't bet on it at this time though [editline]22nd November 2016[/editline] I would love to confront people about this shit, but then [I]I[/I] end up looking like the asshole, fml

Things ended up not turning out with that girl who asked me out a while ago, I asked her about it today because she hasn't said anything or shown any interest in class and she just said it wasn't really working. Thankfully she was nice about it and said I'm a great guy (which is probably just standard to say but it felt good) and that she didn't want things to be awkward. But I'm okay with it. I'm glad my first real rejection isn't a messy, crying one. She's really pretty and nice but if she wasn't comfortable then I'm glad I didn't leave it going on too long or hanging. I'm only mentioning it so maybe someone here could hear it from someone else possibly in their position.

Ugh, it turns out the last girl I liked is nothing but a self-centered bitch with a ego of the size of Jupiter. I know I wasn't supposed to already know her personality beforehand but I just hate doing anything that ends up just boosting even further a arrogant person's already hyper-inflated ego. Yesterday she had the gall to ask me a question and cut me out before I could even respond to it properly. Is like the third or fourth time she does stuff like this just to annoy me and make me feel inferior. I swear some people deserve no respect. If she does ever even TRY to talk to me again I be sure to be as fucking rude as possible. I didn't think it was on purpose the first two times but now I'm 100% certain of it. I was trying to be nice about it but now I reached my patience limit.

First girl out of the equation, and for one more reason than I thought was necessary last chance with the second one then I'll be out of girls to chat up till university :smile:

anyone have an experience with a girl who is very shy? I really like her a lot but sometimes i worry i might be bothering her

We have event at work tomorrow across multiple teams, I signed up for it but now I don't wanna go and I don't know how to back out. I am getting sick too (probably because of some sort of self-placebo effect where I think I feel sick to take a sick day off so I get sick for real)

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51416246]First girl out of the equation, and for one more reason than I thought was necessary last chance with the second one then I'll be out of girls to chat up till university :smile:[/QUOTE] Well, things moved quickly Officially lonely :suicide:

[QUOTE=Crpto2007;51416385]anyone have an experience with a girl who is very shy? I really like her a lot but sometimes i worry i might be bothering her[/QUOTE] Maybe you could try to find a shared interest?

Need some birthday gift advice! So this girl and I are currently together as of a few days ago (we had been talking for a few weeks before that and had already gone on one date. but a few days ago she drove 3 hours and 30 minutes just to see a concert I was playing at and we stayed up until 6am to show her around town, where we ended her trip with our first kiss (and then some)). Her 21st birthday is next week. Things I know: She likes exploring and just going out places Her favorite band She loves cats and animals in general So my plan was to take her to this tunnel she's always wanted to see in my city, where it glows lots of different colors at night. I know I'm going to do this + write her a card. But before that I would take her to a bar and pay for drinks (?) or something. I'm not really sure. I want to make it special but not too extravagant. [editline]23rd November 2016[/editline] I just feel like the light tunnel + a card might be too simple on its own, but it also might just be the thing for our situation. What do you guys think?

I'm still talking to this girl who canceled on me several times and last night she texted me something kind of adorable. We were trying to set up a time to meet up today, and she seemed kind of shifty about all the details, like not sure where she wanted to go or what she wanted to do, so I pretty much came up with it all on my own. I asked what time she wants to meet and she sends back "oh geez. crap" "Can I be honest? Lol" And I'm thinking it sounds like she is warming up to cancel on me [i]yet again[/i], so I reply "... is tomorrow also no good?" But then, [i]enormous surprise[/i], she actually says "No. I'm just super anxious to hang out with you hahaha" But. Today she texted me about half an hour before we were supposed to meet up. And canceled again. Rescheduling for Friday :|

Idk man if someone cancelled on me that many times I probably would've been like "alright nvm" by now lol.

That's how I was after the last cancellation, but she's really insistent on rescheduling. She keeps asking me when I have free time again, so I let her know because why not. I don't really have anything to lose, since this was time I had free in the first place. I'm not cancelling any plans with other friends or otherwise rearranging my schedule around her, just letting her know when I'm free.

tried out Tinder, ran out of people in 1 day. oops does it refill eventually? and will I see the same people again or have I basically cornered myself

[QUOTE=austin0331;51419649]tried out Tinder, ran out of people in 1 day. oops does it refill eventually? and will I see the same people again or have I basically cornered myself[/QUOTE] If your areas population is even remotely significant, it'll refresh.

I'd like some advice, yesterday was a bad day and it hit me pretty hard that I felt the way I used to feel a few years ago when I was suicidal as fuck to the point of attempting it. I also feel the need to vent I've improved a fuckton on a lot of aspects, but I guess that's not enough to make me into a guy someone would hang around with, much less date. Nobody makes an effort to stay in contact with me. I think despite my efforts and my improvements, and my attempts at hiding what I truly am, I come off as the needy and insecure and desperate, or creepy, person I think I am (at least today, which is the disheartening day, tomorrow I'll feel better), which turns people off. Or my being intelligent, snarky and sarcastic, with no hint of vulnerability, makes me intimidating. I feel like I need a psychologist :rollout:

Made the 5 hour drive back home today. Dad almost broke down yesterday. I walked in on him and he was really upset and quiet, and when I asked him what was wrong, he said he was just clearing out his mother's stuff and came across a note she'd written where she was praying for all of our good health, and he choked up because he said it made him realise she knew she didn't have long left and had written that for us to read. I'm sure there was more to the note than he mentioned, but it killed me. Especially since in my entire life, I've never seen my dad crumble like that. I started crying about 2 hours into my drive back to my apartment because I was just hit with a sledgehammer blow of emotions when I realised I wouldn't see her again, or laugh with her, or joke with her, or have her stick up for me when I say something incorrectly in Arabic and the rest of the family teases me for it. Almost had to pull over and wait for it to pass, it was awful. Thanks for the kind words guys, I really appreciated you all mentioning your own experiences. It made me feel much better knowing I wasn't alone in how I was handling things.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;51417856]Need some birthday gift advice! So this girl and I are currently together as of a few days ago (we had been talking for a few weeks before that and had already gone on one date. but a few days ago she drove 3 hours and 30 minutes just to see a concert I was playing at and we stayed up until 6am to show her around town, where we ended her trip with our first kiss (and then some)). Her 21st birthday is next week. Things I know: She likes exploring and just going out places Her favorite band She loves cats and animals in general So my plan was to take her to this tunnel she's always wanted to see in my city, where it glows lots of different colors at night. I know I'm going to do this + write her a card. But before that I would take her to a bar and pay for drinks (?) or something. I'm not really sure. I want to make it special but not too extravagant. [editline]23rd November 2016[/editline] I just feel like the light tunnel + a card might be too simple on its own, but it also might just be the thing for our situation. What do you guys think?[/QUOTE] Anyone? It's approaching fast and I don't know what to dooo

so, I am from Italy and currently moving to Ukraine. back in italy, I met this girl who went out with me because she was friend of a girl I was going around with. She instantly started showing some interest into me, we got at home and she was nearly jerking me off if it wasnt for my other friend sitting next to us. Met her again after a week at a small halloween party, she started cuddling with me while everyone else was partying, then we got drunk and high and we made out for hours. We slept together and the day later the italian military police came at my house because apparently a young girl was marked as missing or some shit and they traced her back to me. Since then I have never seen her again. She asked a friend of mine for my number and we started texting a lot, she sent me nudes of her and we were really emotional and shit until a week ago she just completely stopped texting me. I texted her once asking what's up and she was just giving dull answers, like she didnt want to talk. By saturday I should be back in Italy, shall I ask her to go out one of the next days, out of nowhere? I'm really confused and don't want to screw up. Seems the easiest thing because texting doesn't really make you understand the person you're talking with.

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51423972]I think what you have planned sounds great, including the quick bar trip[/QUOTE] Alright, thanks. She's made it clear she doesn't like it when other people pay for her, so how should I approach that?