Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

Friend comes to my house, I play a tf2 mge match with online opponents. I say we go after that one match. I lose so I decide to play 3 more so I'm satisfied, and he gets salty about it and calls me a snake. Whenever I bring up the fact that he does shit like this to me all the time and I don't get upset, he gets salty and doesn't wanna argue. So we go and arrive at his place and the plan was to play melee, watch some shows then play call of duty. Well what really happened was we play melee, he ridicules me the whole time, doesn't actually teach me moves or how to play and just combos me the whole time. I bring up the show, he looks at it for a second and livestreams shitty super smash bros melee while I watch it alone. After that's done, I play call of duty alone while he is still livestreaming and he says he'll get off in """3""" minutes, so after 15 minutes of me playing alone he walks over to watch me play for a game and says he wants me to go cuz he's tired And I'm the snake. yeah imma just cut this nigga off

How old is he? Sounds like something a middle schooler would do.

[QUOTE=Maksie99;51567102]Absolutely do not go on what you will think is a date, she will think is a hang out with her. Boyfriend will be pissed. I wouldn't even keep the number, if you text her for a shift change it might get weird.[/QUOTE] Okay wait, what is a shift change? You guys lost me there. Would it be terrible to just ask her why she gave me her number up front?

don't ask her why she gave you her number, that's kind of a strange thing to ask if i were you i'd either just forget about the whole thing or text her only if you need to for some reason related to work or i guess if you really want to become friends. shift change meaning switching shifts or something with her for different times if your job works like that though chances are it seems like she was just unsure what to do in the moment and didn't want to be rude and straight up say no, really would say your best bet is ignore your other coworkers and leave her alone about it.

It's really really easy to get numbers, just toss it if she has a boyfriend. It would be wise to focus on getting someone else's number who is single. However it's good practice to ask so congrats

[QUOTE=VIOLATION_SNG;51568566]don't ask her why she gave you her number, that's kind of a strange thing to ask if i were you i'd either just forget about the whole thing or text her only if you need to for some reason related to work or i guess if you really want to become friends. shift change meaning switching shifts or something with her for different times if your job works like that though chances are it seems like she was just unsure what to do in the moment and didn't want to be rude and straight up say no, really would say your best bet is ignore your other coworkers and leave her alone about it.[/QUOTE] Ohhhhhhh OK, I was really confused because I don't work with her - we just went there late.im used to saying 'closing' because I used to work fast food. I guess I should just drop it, but part of me feels like she might have just been saying she had a boyfriend for some reason or another or maybe she just isn't that into the relationship. Again she worked there for 3 years and it's across the street from a bar, so I feel like she's definitely dealt with guys asking for her number before and she'd know how to blow them off. Ech. Conflicted. Focusing on someone who is single is my best bet though. I'll probably just drop it. I'm way over thinking it.

Facing some weird shit. Back story: I am 23, shes 21. (2 years difference). 3 years ago met a girl at party, really really liked her, she was one of a type to me. Hanged out few times, went to nice places and had great moments with her, never got to anything serious. We stopped talking at one point (she lost interest) and later after few months - she got into relationship). I was genuinely happy for her and just moved on (I had worse rejects/break ups so this is nothing for me). Anyway, we spoke just as friends for a bit. (Her new bf was 17), he added me on fb and started questioning me: "Why you talking to her?" "Go away", "I am watching you" and stuff like that but I didn't say anything bad for him as I didn't care. Anyway, she blocked me (At his request) and we didn't talk for 3 years now. Recently - our mutual friend (girl) told me that two of them had a drink and she told her that shes been thinking of messaging me and talking to me for past year but was hestitant. I pretty much ignored that information, and few weeks later she added on fb and after few days when I accepted it -she instantly messaged me. We started talking etc... Now shes really bulldozing her way into my life. It started with her inviting me to spend new years with her, then today she literally wrote: "why you won't invite me for a few drinks?" (direct quote), I said sure, sometime. Then I hinted: "I wouldnt be able to drink as I would have to get you back home" to which she replied: "I could stay over?" Few hours later - she wrote to me at 10 PM asking if I want to collect her and go to my place and just chill and have few drinks to which I said another time (I told her I have work tomorrow [I really do]) I find it extremely odd that somebody who didnt talk to me for 3 years out of sudden took 180 degree turn and went opposite. I keep looking for a catch and I dont know what to do with this. Any thoughts/ideas/tips?

Try to see what she wants. (Notice: You didn't make it clear that she broke up before texting you). If I were you, I would see how emotionally unstable she is or if she has become clingy/needy. Her Boyfriend seems to be that kind of person judging from his comments on facebook. No, really. I had to break up my first relationship because I was jealous AF of anything that talked to my GF. I was jealous of my GF's mother. Nah, just kidding. But it's horrible if you get into that kind of relationship because you will be wasting time, effort and it may fuck you up. It's not that weird either. For example, I had a classmate who I hadn't seen for 2 years message me out of the blue on facebook asking to see me.

sounds like she wants the d

i met an awesome girl and she's super flirty with me askdfhasdklfhasdkfjhasdfkljahdfkjh. Is he gonna score, is he gonna score. Yes he is. :smug:

How do you guys normally approach strangers? For example I want to talk to people I don't know at a pub or something?

[QUOTE=Cutthecrap;51571353]Try to see what she wants. (Notice: You didn't make it clear that she broke up before texting you). If I were you, I would see how emotionally unstable she is or if she has become clingy/needy. Her Boyfriend seems to be that kind of person judging from his comments on facebook. No, really. I had to break up my first relationship because I was jealous AF of anything that talked to my GF. I was jealous of my GF's mother. Nah, just kidding. But it's horrible if you get into that kind of relationship because you will be wasting time, effort and it may fuck you up. It's not that weird either. For example, I had a classmate who I hadn't seen for 2 years message me out of the blue on facebook asking to see me.[/QUOTE] Right after I posted this last night - she called me (Lets refer to her as "The One") She was out with a friend and her friend got her drink spiked and she was basically completely out of her mind not knowing where she is but "The One" didn't drink so she was fine but lost of what to do, it was 3 AM. So I went to collect them, basically loaded her friend into a car and we dropped her home, she was sleeping all the time and couldn't stay awake for long so it took us few hours to find her house. After that I was driving "The One" home and we were talking about what's been happening over past few years in our lives. I was gonna tell her (prepared speech): "If you added me just to ask for lifts - you can remove me right now, I am not a taxi" but when I saw her and when she spoke - I forgot all about it and couldn't say it to her. She remembers every single moment we had 3 years ago, she still sleeps with 1.3 metre teddy bear I gifted her back then so after all that talk - I couldnt say anything bad to her and I fell for her. I decided to just shoot out question - "Any plans for Monday/Tuesday?" she said no not really, so I asked: "Wanna come over?" to which she pretty much said almost instantly yes. We were passing airport on the way back and we both got random thought at same time - We should just fuck everything and just get on a flight to Paris (I would totally do it but I am banned from France currently and joked about it). I fucked up at one moment where we pulled over to have a smoke, when she was standing smoking she hid behind me to avoid strong winds and I turned around, she was standing shaking and I had totally 10/10 moment to embrace/hug her and stand enjoy few moments (it was on coast) but I went brain dead and stood there like derp. Anyway, all that cost me work today, I only slept 3 hours and I am completely fucked in head currently and I just cant be arsed to think about next steps. The shit part is - I used to live in 1 bedroom apartment and any female that came over ended up sleeping together but now I moved into 4 bedroom house so there is plenty of space to choose from :< Location history: [IMG]http://i.imgur.com/Fyxo2YZ.png[/IMG]

Yer banned from France? Did they confuse ya with the English? ... to be serious, it sounds like you two have gotten really close really fast. Congrats, look after her. And try not to derp on the hugging thing next time!

[QUOTE=BlackMageMari;51573215]Yer banned from France? Did they confuse ya with the English? ... to be serious, it sounds like you two have gotten really close really fast. Congrats, look after her. And try not to derp on the hugging thing next time![/QUOTE] I rented car in France, was driving from Paris to Alps across whole France (I wanted aventure) On the way back - I had 400 km left to airport and flight was in 3 hours and I had to wash, refuel and park car and get through security, so I started speeding 180 for about 350 km in 100 km/h zone. What I didnt know is that they clock speeds between tolls. So there is some shit brewing/pending, rental company suggested I dont come back until I am contacted or if no contact is made after 1 year - assume free to enter.

I was in a little relationship with a girl a couple of years ago. It was my first one. We didn't stay together very long, mostly because I had no experience and I'm very boring. We haven't talked since we broke up, neither one of us have tried taking contact again. My reasons being that I've had nothing to talk to her about. Don't know her reasons. I've become pretty lonely this last year. Isolated myself. I'm in need some good friends, because I'm lacking those. So I though I'd send her a message, ask her how she's doing. I contemplated what to say for about a week before being ready to send her a message, only to find out that she had deleted her facebook. She had deleted it just around the time I thought I'd take contact again. I don't have her phone number, or know any other way of contacting her. She's disappeared completely from the internet. I guess she doesn't think much of me anymore. That's reasonable though, considering the length of time since we last spoke. A bit bummed out about this though. Hope she's alright. [editline]23rd December 2016[/editline] What would you do in this situation? Let it go, or try to find a way to contact her? Thought maybe I could ask one of her friends about it, but maybe that would be pretty weird

If you circle a girl who has a boyfriend, then you're a piece of shit. Just think about how you'd feel if a guy did it to you if you loved and cared for your girlfriend.

I read it as: "chase".

I read it as: Being a shark that circles its prey waiting for perfect moment to strike. In this context: Be passive towards a girl you like and wait until she has fight with her boyfriend or something and then strike hoping to score.

Eh, I just think it's a dick move if you chase/be a shark/pursue a girl who's taken. I had a girl make moves on me about 2 years ago. I ended up discovering she had a boyfriend after I slept with her. I was a dumb horny 18 year old, and probably should've known better, but it's too easy to beat myself up, so I won't do that. Long story short, check if the girl you're interested in is in a relationship, even if she's into you. It's not worth hurting yourself or her bf for!

I feel so bored, sad and tired. Also been thinking how it's been almost 4 years since I genuinely had feelings for someone. I mean sure I still feel sexually attracted time to time when it comes to some people but actual love it's something that I haven't felt in a long time. For some people might not seem like a big deal but to me it's almost depressing.

[QUOTE=SoftHearted;51578544]I feel so bored, sad and tired. Also been thinking how it's been almost 4 years since I genuinely had feelings for someone. I mean sure I still feel sexually attracted time to time when it comes to some people but actual love it's something that I haven't felt in a long time. For some people might not seem like a big deal but to me it's almost depressing.[/QUOTE] Pick up some weights or start exercising. You'll feel better.

[QUOTE=Lucasz;51578594]Pick up some weights or start exercising. You'll feel better.[/QUOTE] Christmas break is killing me. Won't be able to get back to the gym until it's over.

Working out isn't something that will work for eveyone, speaking from personal experience. This whole semester I've been on swimming class on my uni (I needed to since I have back problems), and I've actulally felt more depressed, stressed and tired than past springs. BUT, I think that the more general advice of "Dedicate to your own personal develpment and hobbies" is better advice for you, be it working out, drawing, painting, and a big etc. Join clubs and forums and shit, I think that's the key to get out of monotony.

I've not made a post here ever, since I made an account just to brows this forum for Gmod things a few years ago, but now I just want to vent. It seems like I'm never going to meet anyone. There's no way I'm going to just meet someone in my day-to-day life, because I work in an area where the majority of the people around are either over 35 or under 20. There's also no way I'm going to be able to strike up a conversation and hit it off with someone. I've been trying online dating to meet people, but in a month, it hasn't worked at all. I've tried Match and Okcupid, but neither have brought any results. I've messaged a good 30 people between the two sites and never gotten a response. I've tried sending a variety of messages, and ones off what to message them about, and I know they're getting read, but I get no response. It doesn't seem to matter how I format a message or what's in it, no one responds. The only people that message or like me are women in their 30s or are otherwise older then me, and it's just fucking creepy. It seems like I have zero chance anywhere. I don't know what other site I could try, because the ones I've looked at either seem shady, or are for a specific demographic. I can't use Tinder or the like because it requires a Facebook account, and I am not going to make a facebook account due to them needing a real name, and the app using the name tied to it. I don't want to use my real name for this sort of thing online, because it just violates my privacy. I'm basically shit out of luck. I can't get any replies, my site results have basically run out (even with relaxed filters), and it just doesn't seem like there's a way to meet anyone that isn't either 5+ years older then me, or just fat and unattractive. My results have just ened up to three things. Ultrafit women who want someone for an ultra active lifestyle, older women who I want nothing to do with, or the really unattractive women who I want nothing to do with. Are there any other sites I can try that aren't OKcupid, match or Tinder? Preferably ones where it's easier to get a response from people?

So I'm currently having Christmas with about 11 people in the house, but I feel more isolated than ever. Driven by the fact my friend group is completely fractured for the most part and I'm really struggling to make myself feel better. I'm going to be applying for uni (After trying for 18 months to find a job) but that will be at least eight months before I can start (If I even get in). I really could do with a way to not make myself go completely insane.

[QUOTE=Genericenemy;51581683]So I'm currently having Christmas with about 11 people in the house, but I feel more isolated than ever. Driven by the fact my friend group is completely fractured for the most part and I'm really struggling to make myself feel better. I'm going to be applying for uni (After trying for 18 months to find a job) but that will be at least eight months before I can start (If I even get in). I really could do with a way to not make myself go completely insane.[/QUOTE] I don't know what the issues are or what's causing the fracturing, but it's pretty likely that how close you are to everything that's going on is making it far worse than it otherwise would be. It's hard to do without leaving, but looking back I realised a lot of the problems in my friendship groups before I left for uni were probably solvable if people were able to take a step back and put things in perspective. Also, don't focus on the fact you're leaving, it only ruins the time you have left. Either way, I hope you have a nice christmas :smile:

Just want to wish you guys a happy christmas. There's still alot of time to make things right, I'm sure of it. :smile:

Merry Christmas guys, much love and good relationships to all of you here. Or good whatever you're looking for.

Okay so that girl that contacted me after 3 years came over. We had a nice evening and we drove to small party of our friends. What we didn't know - her ex bf will be there. Here is a problem: I am 23, hes 19, hes a scumbagy lowlife who doesn't do shit in life but he refuses to let her go so he punched me twice and burst my lip. I walked off (because I cant punch him back, I usually resolve my conflicts with words and peaceful solutions and because if my workplace finds out I am involved in fights (visible by my burst lip) - I will be fired for bad publicity probably). Anyway, later on I picked her up and drove her home, she wanted to go to my place but I said lets call it a day and brought her home. Now its 3 AM, I am at home drinking alone. What the fuck do you do when you cant hit back without possibly serious consequences? Also some of my friends who were at party are saying that the girl said: "My lift got beaten up" I feel like just telling everybody to go fuck themselves straight forward but yeah, I don't know how to meet somebody new.

I still kinda miss my ex but I don't want to get back with her [editline]26th December 2016[/editline] What do