Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

Diet and exercise would be a good place to start. Read up on both of em (even here on FP in the weightlifting thread would work) and slowly integrate them both into your life. Baby steps, as immediately eating nothing but 2000 calories of chicken, brown rice and broccoli every day alongside a strict strength program is a tough immediate adjustment. Still, after a while of doing it, you'll notice quite a difference. There's a fair few benefits aside from just looking good too, and I'm sure you don't need a list but I'll list a few anyway because fuck it: improved mood, tighter focus/concentration, high energy levels, improved overall health, and more. The carry-over to other areas of your life is phenomenal.

[QUOTE=blerb;51635493]Baby steps, as immediately eating nothing but 2000 calories of chicken, brown rice and broccoli every day alongside a strict strength program is a tough immediate adjustment. Still, after a while of doing it, you'll notice quite a difference.[/QUOTE] I seriously hope you weren't suggesting that sort of diet is healthy, even after a long period of "adjustment". You are depriving yourself of a shit ton of micronutrients. If anyone ever gives you the "if it fits your macros" line, please, for the love of Christ, stop taking advice from that person. Macronutrients aren't everything. Eat a balanced diet. Stop relying on multivitamins with ridiculously low bioavailability for everything you're deliberately cutting out of your daily intake.

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51639519]Yeah, I second this. I agree with Blerb in general though, but yeah the diet suggestion is not exactly one id recommend.[/QUOTE] Absolutely, diet/exercise are the #1 place to start in dealing with any sort of mental or physical issue. In countries like the US our medical system focuses so much on treatment that we completely neglect prevention strategies like nutritional therapy. That said, with a diet like the one that was mentioned, you are going to get precisely 0 of the positive effects you listed just because of the calcium and vitamin D deficiencies that come with that meal plan. Among many other things. [editline]8th January 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51639514]I never could do the diet thing. I just eat what I want while avoiding the obvious bads. I don't eat [I]good[/I], I just don't eat [I]bad[/I]. Like soda, I don't drink it except at a party not to be rude or if I eat pizza because man soda and pizza is like wine and cheese. I have a friend who I have only seen drink mountain dew. I don't know how he is still functioning honestly, it has to be destroying his insides, sleep schedule, and whatever sugar does to you.[/QUOTE] Part of diet is honestly just convenience. For most of us, when life gets hectic, diet is the first thing we neglect. I don't think my own diet is particularly healthy, either, and it definitely suffers during the semester when I don't have time to cook as often (also I drink fairly often). I just try to optimize the products I usually buy. I go out of my way to figure out the healthier options for whatever processed foods or snacks I get. Dark chocolate coated almonds are my recent go-to snack because of the high magnesium/biotin/vit E since all of those are things I tend to be deficient in (side note, dark chocolate is fucking awesome for you in terms of nutrients). Just getting whole grain+enriched wheat products makes a big difference, too. You can also get products like pasta that are made with vegetables instead of wheat. It is also super easy to get fresh foods like vegetables into your diet because of how inexpensive they are and how easy they are to prepare. Frozen vegetables largely have the same nutritional content as fresh ones (minus things like vit C and microorganisms which are important but people tend to ignore). With most vegetables you can either just throw them in the oven with almost 0 preparation or steam them and it takes 0 effort and is good for you.

Nope, it was a joke based around the ingredients I listed commonly being used as an example of a clean, optimal meal. Not exactly a hilarious joke but it was meant to exaggerate the extremes that some people [i]immediately[/i] try to adapt to when modifying their nutritional habits. As you guys said, a good variety of healthy foods is ideal.

Oh, thank god. I've known a few too many gym rats who were completely ignorant about nutrition to tell the difference anymore. I had an ex whose diet was almost exclusively dead animals and told me my nutrition professor who had a PhD and was a dietician for several decades was full of shit because I informed him of the risk for kidney stones with high protein diets (eventually he came around).

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51639514]I never could do the diet thing. I just eat what I want while avoiding the obvious bads. I don't eat [I]good[/I], I just don't eat [I]bad[/I]. Like soda, I don't drink it except at a party not to be rude or if I eat pizza because man soda and pizza is like wine and cheese. I have a friend who I have only seen drink mountain dew. I don't know how he is still functioning honestly, it has to be destroying his insides, sleep schedule, and whatever sugar does to you.[/QUOTE] All this talk about diet scares me. I agree with my man RenegadeCop here, I'd like to keep it simple if I ever get around to dieting someday.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51640784]Apples have been my go-to snack lately. Portable, easy to eat, not too messy, and a variety of flavors[/QUOTE] Be careful, you might summon Reagy here with your talk of apples. Now [I]that[/I] is a love that we don't want to talk about...

[QUOTE=BlackMageMari;51641102]Be careful, you might summon Reagy here with your talk of apples. Now [I]that[/I] is a love that we don't want to talk about...[/QUOTE] ugh

So I managed to work up the courage to ask one of my coworkers to dinner on Saturday night. Surprisingly, she said yes since everyone in my workplace usually knows me as that one really weird guy from that one group of weird people that everyone likes to ask for help at work. However, my past interactions with girls were pretty shitty and depressing so I don't have much confidence in my ability to be sociable. I could use some advice on what to do. I'm excited yet anxious about the thing and I'm worried that I might make myself appear more weirder than I already am.

[QUOTE=elevate;51640778]All this talk about diet scares me. I agree with my man RenegadeCop here, I'd like to keep it simple if I ever get around to dieting someday.[/QUOTE] You don't need to take nutrition classes to have a good diet. Eat a variety of natural foods and minimize processed stuff. It's that simple.

Not super into body building or anything, but I lost weight and felt better just using MyFitnessPal and loosely following along with Weight Watchers when a relative was doing it. It's really all about watching what you eat and eating less trash.

Yes, both of those are great options. Programs like MFP and WW work well just because they force you to actually think about what you eat. When I was using MFP I would avoid processed foods just because I didn't want to have to go to the trouble of logging all of the shitty ingredients in them. The best program by far, if you actually want to go all out, is the USDA Super Tracker. It is the only program I have found that completely tracks micronutrients as well as macros. For anyone who is planning to seriously focus on their diet, I strongly recommend making an account there and tracking your diet for at least 3 normal days. It will allow you to see what micronutrients you tend to be deficient in (and which ones you're getting too much of). Even if you discontinue use with the tracker, it will give you an idea of some adjustments you need to make and serve as a good starting point for fixing imbalances. Only issue for me was that I got discouraged by all of the deficiencies that were showing up in my diet. It is incredibly difficult to balance your diet and actually get all of those essential micronutrients on a day-to-day basis. Once I actually started recognizing trends, I stopped tracking my diet and just started paying special attention to the nutrients I tended to be off balance with.

Have bit of problem here. I have a good friend, lets call him Bob. I have friend, lets call him Bill. Bob and Bill are life-long friends and trust each other completely. Today I heard from multiple sources that Bill shagged Bob's mom in nightclub. It's unconfirmed but multiple people mentioned it. Should I tell Bob, or should I take this rumor with me to the grave and never bring it up?

[QUOTE=arleitiss;51646556]Have bit of problem here. I have a good friend, lets call him Bob. I have friend, lets call him Bill. Bob and Bill are life-long friends and trust each other completely. Today I heard from multiple sources that Bill shagged Bob's mom in nightclub. It's unconfirmed but multiple people mentioned it. Should I tell Bob, or should I take this rumor with me to the grave and never bring it up?[/QUOTE] you said it yourself: [U]rumor[/U] dont even bother

So I met this girl online about a week ago, we both really liked each other, everything was cool, but then something happened. The same day we talked, I sort of lost contact with her. She didn't ditch me or anything, it's different. It feels as if she has "gone missing". She lives somewhere nearby in about a 1 mile radius. I even went asking around town if anyone knew her. I just want to find her so I can talk to her and lay this case to rest. Can anyone recommend me a good service to find a person?

[QUOTE=ZombineTheSplatter;51650952]So I met this girl online about a week ago, we both really liked each other, everything was cool, but then something happened. The same day we talked, I sort of lost contact with her. She didn't ditch me or anything, it's different. It feels as if she has "gone missing". She lives somewhere nearby in about a 1 mile radius. I even went asking around town if anyone knew her. I just want to find her so I can talk to her and lay this case to rest. Can anyone recommend me a good service to find a person?[/QUOTE] That sounds creepy. I mean seriously, she may've just found somebody or decided that online dating sites arent for her so she just cut contact. I dont think its a wise idea to hire a "service" to find somebody that isn't your girlfriend or wife or relative.

[QUOTE=arleitiss;51651038]That sounds creepy. I mean seriously, she may've just found somebody or decided that online dating sites arent for her so she just cut contact. I dont think its a wise idea to hire a "service" to find somebody that isn't your girlfriend or wife or relative.[/QUOTE] I feared I would get this answer. No man, that's not how things are. I still have her on tinder and on facebook. It's just that she suddenly went offline and never came back online on either of these. That's why I said "missing". Something really wrong happened there.

[QUOTE=ZombineTheSplatter;51651234]I feared I would get this answer. No man, that's not how things are. I still have her on tinder and on facebook. It's just that she suddenly went offline and never came back online on either of these. That's why I said "missing". Something really wrong happened there.[/QUOTE] people lose internet, people dont check facebook every day, people take holidays, the list goes on, i guarantee nothing "wrong" has happened

Unless she's been missing for more than 3-4 months, she's probably fine.

Alright, I will wait some more then.

[QUOTE=ZombineTheSplatter;51651234]I feared I would get this answer. No man, that's not how things are. I still have her on tinder and on facebook. It's just that she suddenly went offline and never came back online on either of these. That's why I said "missing". Something really wrong happened there.[/QUOTE] How old are you guys? Your reaction to someone going offline for a day is like.. Really off.

[QUOTE=ZombineTheSplatter;51651409]Alright, I will wait some more then.[/QUOTE] Move on dude

just an update: I feel a lot better now. I think I needed a bit of time to get to grips with the idea that it's dead & buried, but it was ultimately the right thing to do. I have started to cut out the shit food out of my diet anyway, it's something I needed to do for a while. But now I have a new, less serious predicament. One of my work colleagues is a pretty swell lass. We don't get much time to talk, but we always have fun. Usually chatting shit about which pot noodle flavour is best, or how cool skeletons are. So I think, y'know what, I'll add her on facebook, no harm in that. As it turns out, she is or was a lingerie model. And she apparently has two facebook accounts. So i'm at a bit of a loss as what to do, I don't wanna look weird :frown:

[QUOTE=EXPLOOOSIONS!;51655970]just an update: I feel a lot better now. I think I needed a bit of time to get to grips with the idea that it's dead & buried, but it was ultimately the right thing to do. I have started to cut out the shit food out of my diet anyway, it's something I needed to do for a while. But now I have a new, less serious predicament. One of my work colleagues is a pretty swell lass. We don't get much time to talk, but we always have fun. Usually chatting shit about which pot noodle flavour is best, or how cool skeletons are. So I think, y'know what, I'll add her on facebook, no harm in that. As it turns out, she is or was a lingerie model. And she apparently has two facebook accounts. So i'm at a bit of a loss as what to do, I don't wanna look weird :frown:[/QUOTE] I don't see where the predicament is? You were going to add her, you know her so why wouldn't you?

sounds like someone I know. she does a lot of modelling, alternative styled stuff, mainly lingerie focused. it's fucking awesome, and I know her outside of that. so I'm friends with her on facebook, and I like her modelling page. another one of my friends has recently started doing stand up comedy, she started a facebook page for that so I like that, as well as being friends with her. point is, they have professional pages for that stuff to keep it seperate from their personal one, so add her as a friend.

I feel like my brain doesn't store many informations anymore All of my December tests resulted in a bad mark because I either forgot, or didn't understand what I had studied This evening I studied physics, Gauss, Faraday and shit, like 30 minutes ago, and I can't recall a thing I read. The fun stuff is, I understand how it all works, I just forget it immediately Everyday that goes by I feel more like I won't make it in university

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51660791]I feel like my brain doesn't store many informations anymore All of my December tests resulted in a bad mark because I either forgot, or didn't understand what I had studied This evening I studied physics, Gauss, Faraday and shit, like 30 minutes ago, and I can't recall a thing I read. The fun stuff is, I understand how it all works, I just forget it immediately Everyday that goes by I feel more like I won't make it in university[/QUOTE] Do you make take notes while reading? Writing something with your own words or making a drawing can really help you remembering things in my experience - with that said, I do a lot of repetition, taking tests, reading whole chapters again etc. When did you start at university? It takes a while to get into a rhythm (and I'm not entirely sure I'm there yet).

[QUOTE=GoDong-DK;51661396]Do you make take notes while reading? Writing something with your own words or making a drawing can really help you remembering things in my experience - with that said, I do a lot of repetition, taking tests, reading whole chapters again etc. When did you start at university? It takes a while to get into a rhythm (and I'm not entirely sure I'm there yet).[/QUOTE] I'm not in uni yet, that's worries me because if I can't keep up with the school rhythm I won't make it Truth is I don't focus enough on what happens and instead gauge the generics: I could tell you all about the fascist-nazist economical strategy I studied yesterday, but I can't tell you what institutions they created in order to fulfill that plan I used to write things down but after noticing that it barely made a difference I stopped, now I'm not so sure anymore [editline]13th January 2017[/editline] I also feel like I should add something I'm ashamed of: I always have the entire afternoon free, but I always waste 2-3 hours away doing literally nothing instead of studying I just can't find the motivation to care about my future, it's like I don't care if I make it through anything in life

Guys, a friend of mine is in a relationship and she feels stuck, she doesn't like him anymore and she's not happy, at the same time she's worried about breaking up with this person because of his insecurities and depression, as well as recently there being drama with friends, who now all hate him apparently. He wont be completely alone but she's probably the bridge between him and a few friends right now. I don't think it's right for her to stay in that relationship, even if her heart is in the right place about not wanting to hurt him. What kind of advice can I give her? Honestly as much as I'd love to tell her "just get it over with and move on", she's not going to listen

2 and a half something years ago I met the love of my life. She's my first ever girlfriend and we damn love each other. In about eight months, I'm going to be transferring to school. At this point, we're both in community college still. In short, we're going to be long distance. Depending on which school I end up going, somewhere between 6-8 hours drive across California long distance. It's not just this, all my friends, and all my family are going to be staying here obviously so I will be long distance from them too. This is all happening in eight months. I'm a huge family and friends guy. I love being around people I love and this is the farthest I will be from people I love. I'm scared and I don't know what to do. I've done good in life. I've done excellent in school, I saved up money for school, etc. There's nothing for me to worry about. I feel like I've been working nonstop for the past 2.5 years and now all of a sudden, when I had a bit of a break from work, all these thoughts came flooding in. I've always been an over-thinker. I always over-think the tiniest things. I think about shit that happens days, weeks, months, even years from now. I wouldn't doubt I have some sort of mental problem. I've been severely depressed. I've been sad and on the verge of a breakdown everyday for the past 2 weeks. I cried all day yesterday. I'm just sad. I'm scared of moving away. I love my family, I love my friends, I love my girlfriend. I know people go through this everyday and come out okay, but I just can't help but feel so alone and lost without them. Can someone just tell me things will be okay? I have a huge fear of abandonment and being alone. Can someone who's been through this please help me out?