Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=Ardosos;51701816]There must be some list of common reasons people get rejected though, surely? I want to know if I'm even eligible, and if not what I can do to fix that.[/QUOTE] Here are some common reasons for someone to turn you down: - Assuming you're entitled to literally anything physically or emotionally just because you were "nice" - Being too overbearing/too many texts without a response - Talking only about yourself and not asking about them - Having poor personal hygiene - Getting way too personal on a first date Those are all very basic things that everyone should know I'd think.

[QUOTE=Ardosos;51701816]There must be some list of common reasons people get rejected though, surely? I want to know if I'm even eligible, and if not what I can do to fix that.[/QUOTE] I'd probably start by asking why you feel it necessary to go over some list to determine your eligibility man. Why do you feel you need to prep like this? Are you just hoping to avoid rejection via advance preparation/training or something like that?

[QUOTE=srobins;51701847]I'd probably start by asking why you feel it necessary to go over some list to determine your eligibility man. Why do you feel you need to prep like this? Are you just hoping to avoid rejection via advance preparation/training or something like that?[/QUOTE] It's really hard for me to put in to words, but yes, I would like to prepare in advance. I want to feel like I'm doing [I]something[/I] to prepare. I'm doing a lot to get my life on track and it's a lot of work, I feel it would be easier if I had something to live for, you know? Like a goal. Basically if I'm undateable I want to find out about it now as opposed to after years of trying to improve myself. I don't know, I don't really know what I want, I guess.

No matter what I read or see I can't help but feel like relationships are beyond me somehow.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51701939]Self-defeating prophecy, man. You have friends, don't you? Because best friends are essentially relationships without a sexual connection.[/QUOTE] All my friends have been dudes, I've never really been friends with a girl before. I just sort of assumed it wouldn't be too much different. Maybe you're right, I get along with my friends okay, I've gotten along with female coworkers fine. I'm just overthinking this.

So uh, i dont really know the best way to explain things but here it goes So it all begins when i began 4th grade at a new school, it was a very small group ( 6 people in the whole class ). As a kid i was pretty darn shy so it took me a while to get settled in and even begin talking to the other kids in the class, Eventually i started to open up and began to talk about what i liked and so on. at no point being aggresive or disrespectful. One day (they) as a whole got pissed of at me and literally yelled in my face that i was annoying becouse i kept talking about the same shit all the time ( for the record at the time i was interesed in technology,gaming, computers, etc ) That took a pretty huge hit on my self-steem so i stopped talking all together and barely commented on things that happened becouse of the fear of getting judged or how they would react. swallowing all of that deep inside me ended up in a rage outburst (becouse i was god damm pissed i couldnt be myself becouse they rejected everything i liked or tried to bring into a conversation ) . So post-that rage burst ( i basically just screamed really hard at them , again at no point punched , threw things or whatever) They came up and told me right in the face that they wont be my friends anymore. now THAT took a major deep in my self-steem. they would absolutely ignore me and when we had to do work in pairs again no one would pick me (or the "special " kid in the class ) and since the teacher dident gave a single fuck i was always alone at group work , presentations, etc I fell into a HUGE depression most of my 4th-5th and 6th grade, Being ignored by basically the only persons im supposed to be was hard, i had to do everything by myself, had no one to talk to or basically anything One day i was forced to work with someone else that wasnt the special guy in the class i was always paired with. since i dont really wanna call public names here ill just call him "J" "J" Was a huge asshole and ends up he was the one telling everyone else to not be arround me ( he was basically the " leader " of the class ) So eventually i got really mad at him, Since he was the teacher favorite kid she screamed (very hard at me ) practically insulting me to stop messing with him ( when he was the one annoying me ) so again i got incredibly mad and threw a pencil case at her. Got sent to detention where my parents came, i explained why i did what i did and they "finally" understood that "J" was coaxing everyone against me. They promised me things would get better but in reality they dident Now every single time i spoke, made a comment or anything the teacher ( we had a single teacher for most of our assignments ) would either ignore me, tell me i was wrong . you get the idea she was pissed at me So overall this was my whole situation for most of my school & high school. Things got a bit better since J stopped being an asshole my parents talked with his parents, they were starting to talk to me again, and so on so i had some of my self-steem back. my depresson wasnt that bad anymore But there was this thing. that pissed me a TON. Every single time we had to work in pairs no one would pick me unless they were forced. hell there was this time where the teacher had made the pairs herself and the person that ended up with me asked her to put him with someone else and she did! I was getting good notes. i wasnt being aggresive nor really talking to anyone after that shit show so i still dont get why no one wanted to be with me. they always had their " buddy " they wanted to be all the fucking time. yet i was being left out So anyway. a few years on. i certainly consider all of them my friends. we hanged out a few times, had fun and so on so things were looking bright. But at school they always talked about the things they did and what not ( most of them were things i wasnt invited to, even though i had been invited by them for earlier activities ) so i was confused as to why i was still being left out I also had a rough time in school health-wise. i had to go trough a spine surgery (60 degree scholiosis ) so when i was back at school they were there for me they helped me a ton (carrying my bag, books, etc ) so that was really nice of them Finally graduation came ( fucking finally ) and honestly i was relieved i wouldnt be forced to be with them every single day anymore. dont get me wrong they are my friends and i had really great times with them ( after the shit show that was my earlier years ) . we have some great and fond memories . We have gone to parties together and had again. a fun and great time But every single time im with them, i feel [B]very [/B]anxious. about what i should say, what should do, what would they think , i felt [B]fear[/B] i dident wanted to say anything becouse of the massive fear of how they would react For the record i really only feel bad with only them Right now im 19 years old, i graduated from college / high school 2 years ago, im working as a freelance programmer and i really love my job, i have two loving parents, a great sister. I make a huge income so i can sustain my family, buy whatever i want. have vacations and what not. Heck the last year i stood in ecuador for 2 weeks at one of my best friends from school house and had an excellent time, This year i went to a course of personal growing & fullfilment which was extraordinary. i learned a ton and felt great. so im REALLY happy with my life i know and i consider myself a cheerfull. happy, very spiritual and kind person. I really love the world arround me and the persons that i care about. I have gone trough a shitton of personal, physical and health problems yet here i still am standing strong. so yeah im really happy with how things are going and the person that i am. but the only thing that keeps holding me back is my [B]"friends"[/B] Today i went to a friend house so we could have a meeting of our small group and i was expecting to have fun but as soon i got there i dont know why but i felt anxious, i felt bad, they kept talking about things that i dont really care nor like ( i.e gym, whoever had a girlfriend or not, hot girls, the latest X thing movie, etc ) I felt in a mood / ambientance where i was just filled with anxiety of what i should say, i felt opressed. i felt that i couldnt really be me. As an example they called a game i had on my ps4 ( hohokum ) gay as fuck, and while in all of their intent it was really just a joke i couldnt help but feel angry, i wanted to scream at him, punch him in the face and tell him what the fuck do he wants from me. Trough the whole day they were speaking of general themes i dident liked, knew or cared about. Plus speaking about the things they had done as a group ( to which i wasnt invited )and after all of this time we were together and everything we experienced i cant help but feel they are still letting me out. and im sick of that shit On one hand i wish they could see me for what i truly am ( becouse i feel they see me and treat me as a weak, dumb, pathetic ,nerd person ) and again that PISSES me off On the other hand i was honestly feeling much better before going to the meeting . I just cant understand why they keep treatening me like im not worthy of them, why they invite me to some things and to others they absolutely ignore me. I kinda think that if they could see me for who i truly am that would change, again we were together for so many years and they never treated me like one of them so i doubt that would happen I wish i could really say i have true friends, people i can talk to, people that invite me over, people that just talk with me to see how things are, to exchange ideas, thoughs but nope. i just cant say that Im sorry for the massive wall of text and for any spelling mistakes, english is not my native language.. and at this point im just feeling a mix of anger, guilt and wanting to flip them all off and move on with my life. even if it means being alone

Those people don't seem to be your friends at all. Remove them from your life, they are not worth your time and it's clear that they can't relate to you. Their only effect on your life seems to be negative so I don't really understand why you're still seeing them.

A friend and I got to know each other better recently. I was introduced to her through a jazz dance club on campus the fall before last. She and her boyfriend were both in my group of friends and we usually would talk at meals. Her boyfriend was studying abroad in Britain this past semester and we talked more often. I talked with her for over an hour once sharing our stories of going through school with ADHD. Later in the semester, we briefly danced at a formal dance. She took a group photo at the dance and wanted me to squeeze in, but I declined. Since there wasn't enough room for me to get into the photo she took a photo of us and later posted it to Facebook. The next morning my grandmother sees it and asks who's the girl and I embarrassingly had to explain to her that we were just friends. As finals week arrived, we helped each other study for about an hour one night. Over Christmas break, I started to realize how much I missed talking to her and I realized I might be in love with her now, despite my earlier belief of our relationship being completely platonic. With her boyfriend back on campus, we don't talk as much. Now every song I hear, and every thing I do, reminds me of her. I find myself wrestling with my self loathing and am wallowing in pity too often. Although I feel miserable, they're happy together and I don't want to do anything to make her unhappy. I think I need to move on now, so I need some advice for getting this girl off my mind. I should mention that I've never been in a relationship or on a date, partially due to my struggles with Asperger's. I'm sorry about how long this is, but I feel absolutely dreadful and need some help moving on.

[QUOTE=Ardosos;51701912]No matter what I read or see I can't help but feel like relationships are beyond me somehow.[/QUOTE] If you aren't happy being single you're not going to be happy in a relationship. If you can learn to enjoy being single and not be focused on pursuing a relationship, you are going to be a happier person, and it's probably more likely you'll end up falling into one. No one wants to be dating someone who can't be happy on their own. And don't feel that relationships are beyond you, they're not beyond anybody.

Just wanted to say, long time lurker here, lots of good advice in this thread for me. Thanks guys.

So, long story, bit of a vent out: Best friend since 2006 and our last 2 high school years, mate who I was able to talk about pretty much anything and viceversa. Real swell guy, always caring for others, but sometimes prone to not being a good observer, and with a tendency to cut contact if felt betrayed, with a quite unforgiving attitude. He started his degree in 2010 in a different city from the one I was taking mine, and had as a class and flatmate our mutual "second best friend". Uni happened with its usual ups and lows, they made their group of friends, life went on as expected... Until June 2014. By then, the first friend I'm talking about realiced he wouldn't be graduating that year, as it'd take him an extra year to pass his remaining subjects and project, while his flatmate and the rest of his friend group would be finishing up and starting a master's in that same Campus. He also had a crush in one of the female friends he had made those last few months, confessed and ended up as friends, while his flatmate got a tinder match and started a relationship. Anyway, the summer went by, he was a bit more distant than average, and took any chance he had to spend time with those 2 new friends, but still, things seemed quite okay. By October, however, he was convinced his friends at the master's were talking behind his back. The way he put it, it seemed like typical gossip or macho bravado ("those two are probably sleeping with each other", or "I almost had the chance to bang one of those"), and, while not of good taste, the way he approached the situation ("I will never trust any of those again") didn't really seem healthy. As that course went by, he showed quite depressive signs in his worldview, feeling better or worse depending on how much he interacted with the friend he had a crush on, but apparently they drifted apart several times for reasons I don't know, and lost contact by spring 2015. He also showed an utter disapproval for the relationship his flatmate had, due to "too many fights" and "he always ends up doing whatever she wants" (and, to his credit, said flatmate, maybe due to an overtly controlling mother, always had issues balancing relationships and friendships, or taking care of friendships instead of taking them for granted). By June 2015, he found a girlfriend. He was 25, she turned 18 a few weeks afterwards. He suddenly became what a teenager girl expects in a boyfriend, rather than acting somewhat close to his age. And then, he systematically has been cutting contact with his friends despite living in the same city, finished his degree but dropped out of his master's, and went on an scramble to find a stable job, without any kind of future in sight. He has been ill more often than not since 2015, he has lost his fair share of hair... I'm not blaming his girlfriend, she is a marvelous person, but she is still a 19 year old, second year uni student, and my friend is pretty much acting as if she is the only thing worth it in the planet: His Facebook feed is just stuff he does with her (hers, however, include actual content), he cannot carry a conversation, if not with her he will be WhatsApping her (making having a beer quite uncomfortable); if with her, he will pretty much act as if the rest of the world isn't around (no, if you are 26 and there are 6 people eating at a table, it is not okay to make out in the middle of the meal); he lacks any hobbies or academical endeavours despite having a 7-to-15 job schedule... And it pains me, to see my best friend turned into a husk of his former self, devoted to a single person and without anything else being significant. Well, at least, his girlfriend is a great person, and he got damn lucky in that regard, but, the way he seems to be handling stuff... Not very balanced I'm afraid. I'm not sure if this is too judgmental, he is my friend and I will be there to support him no matter what, I just wanted to vent out, but I'm quite a bit worried...

[QUOTE=Ardosos;51701901]It's really hard for me to put in to words, but yes, I would like to prepare in advance. I want to feel like I'm doing [I]something[/I] to prepare. I'm doing a lot to get my life on track and it's a lot of work, I feel it would be easier if I had something to live for, you know? Like a goal. Basically if I'm undateable I want to find out about it now as opposed to after years of trying to improve myself. I don't know, I don't really know what I want, I guess.[/QUOTE] I think you're just overthinking it in general man. It's good to want to get your life together and all that jazz, but I don't think you need to really "prepare" for dating. It's more like Pascall said, avoid certain shitty characteristics, be mindful of your weaknesses/flaws and try to work on yourself as a person overall. Other than that, dating is just finding somebody you like who likes you back and spending a bunch of time with them. I don't think it's the type of thing you really need to prep for, just do your best to be a positive and friendly person and things will work themselves out.

[QUOTE=Inkfoot;51702578]If you aren't happy being single you're not going to be happy in a relationship. If you can learn to enjoy being single and not be focused on pursuing a relationship, you are going to be a happier person, and it's probably more likely you'll end up falling into one. No one wants to be dating someone who can't be happy on their own. And don't feel that relationships are beyond you, they're not beyond anybody.[/QUOTE] Didn't you just say that relationships are beyond someone, who can't be happy on their own, though?

[QUOTE=Kindlinho;51706024]Didn't you just say that relationships are beyond someone, who can't be happy on their own, though?[/QUOTE] They're not beyond anyone simply as a result of their existence. They are beyond people for any reason because of specific circumstances surrounding a person.

[QUOTE=ZombieWaffle;51707734]They're not beyond anyone simply as a result of their existence. They are beyond people for any reason because of specific circumstances surrounding a person.[/QUOTE] I disagree. Being human means being a work in progress. You can have emotions and act despite them. If you recognize that you are unhappy in a relationship, you can take steps to deal with the underlying issues - being in a relationship doesn't shut off your ability to grow and improve. Relationships are not "beyond" anybody and being depressed or lonely does not negate that. A relationship revolves around the connection between two people. There are no objective rules on what will or won't attract people. And guess what - loneliness can cause depression. We are social animals. For us, not having our own close network or "tribe" can be incredibly distressing and make us question our worth in society. Relationships, romantic or not, are [i]necessary[/i] to us. If you have no close and secure relationships with friends/family, then being depressed and feeling lonely is a completely reasonable and natural reaction to stem from that. [editline]22nd January 2017[/editline] So in short, yes, being in a relationship can help with those feelings of loneliness and depression. It just doesn't need to be a romantic relationship (and I would say that it is much, much easier to establish a secure platonic relationship than a romantic one).

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;51708709]I disagree. Being human means being a work in progress. You can have emotions and act despite them. If you recognize that you are unhappy in a relationship, you can take steps to deal with the underlying issues - being in a relationship doesn't shut off your ability to grow and improve. Relationships are not "beyond" anybody and being depressed or lonely does not negate that. A relationship revolves around the connection between two people. There are no objective rules on what will or won't attract people. And guess what - loneliness can cause depression. We are social animals. For us, not having our own close network or "tribe" can be incredibly distressing and make us question our worth in society. Relationships, romantic or not, are [i]necessary[/i] to us. If you have no close and secure relationships with friends/family, then being depressed and feeling lonely is a completely reasonable and natural reaction to stem from that. [editline]22nd January 2017[/editline] So in short, yes, being in a relationship can help with those feelings of loneliness and depression. It just doesn't need to be a romantic relationship (and I would say that it is much, much easier to establish a secure platonic relationship than a romantic one).[/QUOTE] Well, what I meant by what I said is that a relationship can be beyond person due to temporary circumstances that can be fixed. A relationship is never permanently beyond someone because that person can change their circumstances.

So weird shit is happening again in my life (as per usual now, once a week - something new) Another girl that I haven't spoken to in a while wrote to me and we talked on skype again. tl;dr of our chat: *She lives in Belarus I live in Ireland, she wants to come over. *When I said I live in big 4 bedroom house alone and said one of the rooms is kids room she said "oh, that might be hint for us" *She asked: "Do you love me?", I diverted question. **Later she wrote same question: "Do you love me?", to which I replied - yes as a friend. **She got upset about it and said: "So you consider me only as a friend? not a potential girlfriend at all?" to which I said: "For now" **Then I told her: "I don't really understand how such big distance relationships would ever work" **She said: We just need to meet one on one properly once.. *She asked if I would have a room for her, but before I got to answer: She said: "nevermind, we would be in same bed anyway". *She kept saying she didn't date anyone since our last talk - 6 months ago and questioned me if I did to which I said "there were few pass-byes..." to which she said: "Oh I am okay with that for now" *I told her - even if you came over - you couldn't stay due to Visa restrictions, to which she said: "Trust me, I would" (probably wants to get pregnant and stay but bad news for her - Kid would be considered Irish and she would not so in the end I would end up being single parent with kid while shes in Belarus, no ty, P.S - I am 23) *She has been collecting documents and finding out about Visa already and is planning to come over in August. [B]She was sober and in her full awareness[/B] Weird shit, my theories: 1) She wants to get EU citizenship. 2) I get better looking with time as I age :v: 3) I am her last resort for upping her standard of life. 4) It's genuine (to which I think I will brush her off because I am not ready for such weird shit) 5) ??? Other I think if it escalates any further - I will leg it and cut the contact.

I don't know what happened but I was on fire with tinder last night. Got several matches and a date with what seems like a lovely woman. I also managed to get another woman to want to meet me after she thought I was a creep because I wanted her to come over, all in a days work :v: [editline]23rd January 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=arleitiss;51711877]Post[/QUOTE] That's very weird, even if she isn't after EU citizenship she doesn't seem very emotionally stable. I certainly wouldn't bring her home if I had a kid.

[QUOTE=ZombieWaffle;51710824]Well, what I meant by what I said is that a relationship can be beyond person due to temporary circumstances that can be fixed. A relationship is never permanently beyond someone because that person can change their circumstances.[/QUOTE] Yeah, that's the part I was arguing with. It is possible to manage your negative emotions/difficult life circumstances while being in a relationship. It's a bit presumptuous to tell another person that they are not ready to be in a relationship. Whether someone can balance the usual stressors of life with a romantic relationship is their call and theirs alone. [editline]23rd January 2017[/editline] Also, I think that saying things like "you aren't ready for a relationship" is exacerbating the problem of people who have never been in a relationship idolizing the idea of one. Romantic relationships are not some elite club that only people with their shit together get to take part in, and no matter what your life is like, there is someone out there struggling with the same things as you.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;51713166]Also, I think that saying things like "you aren't ready for a relationship" is exacerbating the problem of people who have never been in a relationship idolizing the idea of one. Romantic relationships are not some elite club that only people with their shit together get to take part in, and no matter what your life is like, there is someone out there struggling with the same things as you.[/QUOTE] I'll go even further and say that it sometimes helps you get your shit together. Being in a relationship gives you a new perspective on things - before I got with my girlfriend, I was the typical niceguy, and now, if I were to start dating again, I think I would be much better.

[QUOTE=Pascall;51701832]Here are some common reasons for someone to turn you down: - Assuming you're entitled to literally anything physically or emotionally just because you were "nice" - Being too overbearing/too many texts without a response - Talking only about yourself and not asking about them - Having poor personal hygiene [B]- Getting way too personal on a first date[/B] Those are all very basic things that everyone should know I'd think.[/QUOTE] Had the bolded happen to me like 2months ago. Feel so stupid; I couldn't help how much I was gushing over the girl (had never dated a short haired girl before, and she was really attractive to me and shared a bunch of similar interests) the first time that me and her went on a date that I'm pretty certain it pushed her away since we've never seen eachother again after and don't talk anymore. Learned my lesson :v:

[QUOTE=maeZtro;51713137]I don't know what happened but I was on fire with tinder last night. Got several matches and a date with what seems like a lovely woman. I also managed to get another woman to want to meet me after she thought I was a creep because I wanted her to come over, all in a days work :v: [editline]23rd January 2017[/editline] That's very weird, even if she isn't after EU citizenship she doesn't seem very emotionally stable. I certainly wouldn't bring her home if I had a kid.[/QUOTE] After updating my pics I'm getting a ton of matches but I still find Tinder to be kind of a drag. I don't know if I'm just shit at it but I get really bored trying to talk to people, it just feels super weird.

[QUOTE=srobins;51716010]After updating my pics I'm getting a ton of matches but I still find Tinder to be kind of a drag. I don't know if I'm just shit at it but I get really bored trying to talk to people, it just feels super weird.[/QUOTE] I felt the same way after trying it. It was fun for a little while but then swiping becomes a chore and trying to have an interesting conversation on tinder is difficult and usually ends up with "what's up?"

I need someone to talk me out of being dumb. Ive been on 2 dates with a girl. First time, we had a blast. Spent all night out on the town, went back to her place and made out for a bit. Second time, it was today and it was a little slower paced but she said she had fun and we kissed. I texted her saying that I had a good time even though it was a little less exciting because it's Monday. She responded it's fine and she had a great night. I texted her after saying something I regret, "is it weird im sort of into you after 2 dates?" She said "nah I had a great time tonight" she repeated. I feel a little dumb because I like her and have no idea is she feels the same way. However, after the first date she told me she "really likes" me. I just am paranoid this second date fucked it up. I'm also bad reading into texts. [editline]24th January 2017[/editline] Update: I decided to attempt to ask her if I could make her dinner and we could watch a movie. She said "yeah that sounds nice"

Anyone else here have struggled with mentally and emotionally abusive partners in the past? I've been gas lighted to hell and back for almost two years now, and I'd just like to find some other people who have struggled with this as well.

[QUOTE=Sinbues;51717316]Anyone else here have struggled with mentally and emotionally abusive partners in the past? I've been gas lighted to hell and back for almost two years now, and I'd just like to find some other people who have struggled with this as well.[/QUOTE] Yes. Feel free to pm me

[QUOTE=Sinbues;51717316]Anyone else here have struggled with mentally and emotionally abusive partners in the past? I've been gas lighted to hell and back for almost two years now, and I'd just like to find some other people who have struggled with this as well.[/QUOTE] ive been through this issue hell and back. i dont know if what you are experiencing is what i am exactly saying, but i will try to be as general as possible and still try to help people with my views too. not only is this affected by the person's behavior, but it is also affected by your perception of them as well. think about all the times they've walked all over you, persuaded you to do something that only benefited them, made you feel bad for making your decisions, not respecting your decisions, and their overall behavior to you. it is not normal. realize that it aint normal and know that you arent the one with the problem, they are. they know just the right thing to say in order to get a negative reaction out of you because they know you. do not let their shit get to you personally and realize their intentions are something that isn't normal and doesn't fly to you. Be independent too. you have got to remember that you are in control of what you want to do, and that you have the power to call out their bullshit. I realized that it is super easy to grow an attachment to a person that treats you badly. You may not even tell until things get worse and worse to the point where you know something is wrong. coming to terms that you were with a horrible person can be hard, but remember that you are betttteeer offff with out them. in the past, this is how my insecurities led me to grow attached just to have that sliver of affection from them just to realize in the end it is fake and just to get something out of you. you may not want to disagree or be in a bad way with them because you want them to like you just as much as you like them. stop seeking for other's approval and validation and stop using it as a way to define the person you are. you are defined by your intentions and many other aspects that make you you. stand up for your own rights and dont let them make you feel bad cause of it and stand your ground let them be mad at you, call out their hypocrisy, their nonsense, and have your own opinion and dont agree with them just to have their approval too. set boundaries. if they have bad intentions and they get even more toxic, then you should leave them. if they adapt and end up being significantly more tolerable, then they probably have an attachment to you as well and dont want to end things, but be weary and dont be afraid to drop them if they are still shitty in the end it takes a lot of experience to realize this too and in the end it will make you much more wiser when it comes to choosing friends and partners.

Apologies if this is an issue that has been covered before, I do not frequent this thread. What are some tinder photo ideas that FP recommends? What can I fake that looks natural? I am one of those weirdo's who does not have an instagram, dislikes taking pictures, and rarely uses facebook so I have like 2 acceptable (yet boring) photographs of myself.

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51717892]if you're faking anything then you ain't gonna get anywhere dude[/QUOTE] I guess "fake" was bad terminology, I don't want to be deceitful its just that I never take pictures in the first place, so me taking any photo would be abnormal - and therefore faked in a sense, its just not something I do, but now I kind of need to it's not like I skydive or anything, I like listening to music and taking walks, which you cant really make a good photograph of, many of my hobbies are not really good photography subjects

I sent a girl a message in 2015. Is it time I give up on her writing me back? I mean, it says delivered. Maybe she just never read it?