Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

What the heck is a CD player ! ! ! ! Just kidding. I gotcha though.

Audible is absolutely amazing if you're looking to go the audiobook route. It's $15 a month but you get 1 credit each month to spend on an audiobook, and there are a lot of books worth more than $15 as audiobooks that you can get with that 1 credit. It also gives members 30% off on any books they purchase. They have a lot of sales and occasionally have free books available as well. You can also find plenty of audiobooks on youtube. I use youtube a lot for finding older texts for my philosophy classes. There are a lot of public domain audiobooks. The quality of them can vary, though. I've also found full youtube versions of some more recent audiobooks.

How do you help someone with an abusive caretaker? My girlfriend lives with her grandparents most of the time, because her mom is always busy and the house is a mess. Her grandfather is ok, but her grandmother is manipulative and mentally/verbally abusive to her. She has enough self-esteem issues as it is and her g-ma is constantly insulting her, controlling her life and racist. It hurts me so much that someone would say that kind of shit to such a wonderful girl and I can't do anything about it.

I really enjoy talking to her about anything. I'm able to tell her stuff that's bothering me. I look forward to what out friendship brings and I think it's going to last long. I am happy she's in my life and even though I'm going through stuff she said she will always be here for me.

Okay I am stressed, my anxiety has hits its lifetime max, my nerves are just exploding and I am nervous, I cant eat or drink or anything. I liked one girl 3 months ago, and I told one friend about it as a secret. Forward time to today: The girl I used to like and me are good friends, I dont like her anymore, just good friends and we talk about life stuff a lot. And she tells me that she knows the secret, in fact all my friends know my secret for past 3 months. Past 3 months were a lie for me, I cant talk to her or anyone know, I feel awkward, I already deleted all my social networks and will get new number next week, I am basically going offline indefinetely for everybody I know and my rent agreement ends in few months so I might not extend it and move place too so nobody can find me. How do you deal with this shit?

hold up though. basically they knew the entire time that you liked the girl, you didn't act on it and it passed but nothing changed between any of you until you found out they knew? it doesn't sound like it was too big of an issue with them, and they don't seem to have acted any differently towards you once they did know. your friend is a dick for telling them something you told him in confidence, but I don't think you need to do anything of what you've done.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51835819]That is a bit of an overreaction[/QUOTE] I am extremely bad with handling awkwardness and anxiety. I have no problem offering sex to some girl I barely know and then continuing talking to her after but if it's related to someone I know well - then it becomes a problem.

I dont understand what the issue is. She knows you like/liked her? She doesn't seem to be fussed and no one else is. You're overreacting like crazy dude, no one cares to put it bluntly. Carry on with your life as there's nothing to worry about

She always knows how to make me feel better. I really need to tell her how much she means to me

[QUOTE=Zen'Tao;51832849] . [/QUOTE] If we're going to get scientific, how about you back some of your claims and statements up with some thorough information and citation. There's no need to get into quasi-scientific and philosophical territories when talking about human behaviour and / or psychology. I personally call that fucking bullshit. There's a reason rigorous analysis regarding mathematical, or any other type of statements exists. edit: not mathematics or science thread, but fuck it.

[QUOTE=ljh;51835980]If we're going to get scientific, how about you back some of your claims and statements up with some thorough information and citation. There's no need to get into quasi-scientific and philosophical territories when talking about human behaviour and / or psychology. I personally call that fucking bullshit. There's a reason rigorous analysis regarding mathematical, or any other type of statements exists. edit: not mathematics or science thread, but fuck it.[/QUOTE] Only a soul heavily conditioned by the suffering of the form world speaks in such anger and hate. Forgive me, I don't have the time to teach these subjects custom-made to your particular personality language.

Oh man I am out of here.

So... you're leaving all of your friends, getting a new number and moving house because... a girl you liked found out you liked her? I'm usually one to overreact but what the fuck man

[QUOTE=austin0331;51836127]So... you're leaving all of your friends, getting a new number and moving house because... a girl you liked found out you liked her? I'm usually one to overreact but what the fuck man[/QUOTE] I am anxious about it. I mean any possible signs I showed that I liked her few months ago - and kept doing it because I didnt want to draw much attention, but turns out - all this time she knew why I am acting up and now i feel like complete idiot.

You are an idiot for thinking like that, just move on and laugh about it dude

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51836140]There isn't much you can do unless you can offer her a new place to stay. You can always support her when they've got her down, though.[/QUOTE] Sadly I'm a 20 year old in a college dorm, so I can't do much on that front. I'm doing that second thing for sure of course.

[QUOTE=arleitiss;51836184]I am anxious about it. I mean any possible signs I showed that I liked her few months ago - and kept doing it because I didnt want to draw much attention, but turns out - all this time she knew why I am acting up and now i feel like complete idiot.[/QUOTE] Yeah man she seems like she was pretty cool about it from how you brought it up - the only way it will make you look like an idiot is if you freak out now and break up friendships over something that doesn't need to be taken to that extreme. Hell, you never know if you'll develop feelings for her again either. I understand where the anxiety comes from, but you would think she or any of your friends that knew would have said something about it sooner if she really saw it as a bad thing.

I have anxiety issues about the fact that I have the tendency to dive into intellectual obsessions that takes over my body, say and post things that probably makes me look like a lunatic from the works of Tim Burton. Or should I just play the "high self-confidence" card and not care about these behaviors. My Facebook friends stopped responding to my gibberish.

[QUOTE=Zen'Tao;51836018]Only a soul heavily conditioned by the suffering of the form world speaks in such anger and hate. Forgive me, I don't have the time to teach these subjects custom-made to your particular personality language.[/QUOTE] No need to be passive aggressive. He has a point. You claimed that clingy women with unorthodox clothing styles are a "mark of evil". Then when he calls you out, you say his "soul is heavily conditioned by suffering of the form". What are you evening talking about?

[QUOTE=Zen'Tao;51836332]I have anxiety issues about the fact that I have the tendency to dive into intellectual obsessions that takes over my body, say and post things that probably makes me look like a lunatic from the works of Tim Burton. Or should I just play the "high self-confidence" card and not care about these behaviors. My Facebook friends stopped responding to my gibberish.[/QUOTE] so am I talking to your demon right now on facepunch too? or is this how you are irl?

Please forgive my unexplainable behavior. They are from what is called a meditation field, that I have constructed as a practicing yogi. Smoking research chemicals while having a bipolar disorder makes your behavior erratic, and switching between sitting in front of the computer and posting after inhaling, the racing thoughts of bipolar mania makes my mood switch almost at random without me noticing. Then when I start to come down, I regain some connection to reality. This is concerning guys, I can't stop smoking the stimulants, and the rush from inhaling is worth more to me than my life.

Maybe stop posting when you smoke.

[QUOTE=Darth Ninja;51836343]No need to be passive aggressive. He has a point. You claimed that clingy women with unorthodox clothing styles are a "mark of evil". Then when he calls you out, you say his "soul is heavily conditioned by suffering of the form". What are you evening talking about?[/QUOTE] I forgot what thread and forum I was posting in, so the personalities of the different behaviors I use to study human behavior got mixed up.

[QUOTE=Zen'Tao;51836402]Please forgive my unexplainable behavior. They are from what is called a meditation field, that I have constructed as a practicing yogi. Smoking research chemicals while having a bipolar disorder makes your behavior erratic, and switching between sitting in front of the computer and posting after inhaling, the racing thoughts of bipolar mania makes my mood switch almost at random without me noticing. Then when I start to come down, I regain some connection to reality. This is concerning guys, I can't stop smoking the stimulants, and the rush from inhaling is worth more to me than my life.[/QUOTE] Why do you need to smoke "research chemicals" to practice meditation and yoga?

[QUOTE=Pascall;51836413]Maybe stop posting when you smoke.[/QUOTE] Yes sir. I'll try to keep my mind occupied on gaming instead.

[QUOTE=Pascall;51836413]Maybe stop posting when you smoke.[/QUOTE] Or maybe just stop smoking altogether?

[QUOTE=Darth Ninja;51836425]Why do you need to smoke "research chemicals" to practice meditation and yoga?[/QUOTE] Because I'm emotionally insane.

Is there a way to keep messenger but not fb account?

[QUOTE=arleitiss;51836550]Is there a way to keep messenger but not fb account?[/QUOTE] if you mean like, delete your fb account but still have a messenger account, dont think so. if fb is bothering you or distracting you or something just delete it from your web history or w/e so you can't get into it as easily/habitually and just use [url]www.messenger.com[/url] instead for messaging

[QUOTE=arleitiss;51836184]I am anxious about it. I mean any possible signs I showed that I liked her few months ago - and kept doing it because I didnt want to draw much attention, but turns out - all this time she knew why I am acting up and now i feel like complete idiot.[/QUOTE] Dude it's fine. Seriously. I had some feelings for my best friend and ended up telling her. Want to know what happened? We're still best friends. It changed nothing and I was able to move on from them when she said she doesn't feel the same way. It's really not that big of a deal, and the girl you liked seemed to be cool with it. You're going to be fine, you didn't look like an idiot to her (do you think she'd associate with you if she thought you were acting like an idiot?)