Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=Marzipas;51836565]if you mean like, delete your fb account but still have a messenger account, dont think so. if fb is bothering you or distracting you or something just delete it from your web history or w/e so you can't get into it as easily/habitually and just use [url]www.messenger.com[/url] instead for messaging[/QUOTE] I deleted my account, it will be permanently deleted after 14 days, I might just create bogus account with fake name and surname and details and use that for communicating with family (my family knows how to use facebook but not sms/calls)

[QUOTE=arleitiss;51836610]I deleted my account, it will be permanently deleted after 14 days, I might just create bogus account with fake name and surname and details and use that for communicating with family (my family knows how to use facebook but not sms/calls)[/QUOTE] So did you just want to cut all contact with your friends anyways cause you don't like your friends and don't want to associate with them anymore? It's seeming like it

[QUOTE=Zen'Tao;51836432]Because I'm emotionally insane.[/QUOTE] I just want to add that the buddhist forum I registered at, attempted an exorcism on me. That seems very strange to me.

[QUOTE=Kite_shugo;51836660]So did you just want to cut all contact with your friends anyways cause you don't like your friends and don't want to associate with them anymore? It's seeming like it[/QUOTE] Well, I've been considering deleting social networks and going off grid for past 2 months, I guess recent events with friends have given me even more reason to do so. The friends that are close to me - They have my number and I have theirs, who needs to talk to me - can contact me via phone.

Well fuck. I don't really know how I should feel right now. I just got done talking with her again and she was telling me how she doesn't want a relationship for a while. This is after last week when we were hanging out and talking all the time. I think what happened was she was very out of sorts after breaking up with her previous boyfriend and just needed someone to talk to and be close to, and I was that person. However, she also told me that she's still interested in dating me and that she's not going to be looking for anybody else while she's single. So I guess this is a win-some, lose-some situation. It sucks because I was taking all the cuddling and talking we were doing as genuine interest when I'm not really sure that it was any more. I was under the impression that we were just going to "wait a while" before we started dating but now it sounds like she might not even be that interested in me at all. I got a taste of it and now I want more but can't have it. This sucks. I know I just need to be patient and see how things go but that's so damn hard, especially after we were practically "dating" a week ago.

[QUOTE=arleitiss;51836811]Well, I've been considering deleting social networks and going off grid for past 2 months, I guess recent events with friends have given me even more reason to do so. The friends that are close to me - They have my number and I have theirs, who needs to talk to me - can contact me via phone.[/QUOTE] Modern society releases us into an environment, where causes and conditioning of the mind haven't even reached the classroom. Therefore, we aren't equipped to make healthy lifestyle choices, as a lifetime of accumulated ideas, opinions, desires, possessiveness, prejudice, anger, hate, greed, jealousy and envy put barriers in our mental capacity to evolve. That's why a socially active lifestyle is so important. Don't take the step that leads to isolation and depression. [editline]18th February 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51836354]so am I talking to your demon right now on facepunch too? or is this how you are irl?[/QUOTE] Smart move. Being condescending towards someone that study and practice the nature of mind on a daily basis. You just tried putting yourself in an authoritative standpoint by assigning a malicious infantile reference point, with the belief that the word "demon" would make you look bigger by making me smaller. Though it would probably have worked better had I not pointed out that your entire personality is based on trying to be a person of "higher value" than others, because you are terrified in being wrong about something, as you attach your social status on displaying a sense of value when you present yourself among others. Don't inflict suffering on other people, it's stupid, cosmic law dictates only love can conquer hate.

[QUOTE=Zen'Tao;51837673]Smart move. Being condescending towards someone that study and practice the nature of mind on a daily basis.[/QUOTE] jesus christ dude can i please have some of whatever research chemicals you're smoking?

[QUOTE=Zen'Tao;51837673]Modern society releases us into an environment, where causes and conditioning of the mind haven't even reached the classroom. Therefore, we aren't equipped to make healthy lifestyle choices, as a lifetime of accumulated ideas, opinions, desires, possessiveness, prejudice, anger, hate, greed, jealousy and envy put barriers in our mental capacity to evolve. That's why a socially active lifestyle is so important. Don't take the step that leads to isolation and depression. [editline]18th February 2017[/editline] Smart move. Being condescending towards someone that study and practice the nature of mind on a daily basis. You just tried putting yourself in an authoritative standpoint by assigning a malicious infantile reference point, with the belief that the word "demon" would make you look bigger by making me smaller. Though it would probably have worked better had I not pointed out that your entire personality is based on trying to be a person of "higher value" than others, because you are terrified in being wrong about something, as you attach your social status on displaying a sense of value when you present yourself among others. Don't inflict suffering on other people, it's stupid, cosmic law dictates only love can conquer hate.[/QUOTE] I would've said δαίμον but I couldn't be bothered to explain the whole Socrates thing to you since it was a throwaway joke post

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51838313]I would've said δαίμον but I couldn't be bothered to explain the whole Socrates thing to you since it was a throwaway joke post[/QUOTE] Of course it was. Now I suggest the clown lower the tone of narcissism. [editline]18th February 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Loofiloo;51838237]jesus christ dude can i please have some of whatever research chemicals you're smoking?[/QUOTE] Only beings from the Brahma realm attain divine power from celestial nectar.

I was on the phone with her for awhile since we couldn't see each other today. Now we're texting each other. I want to do something nice for her tomorrow since I got some money to spend. Any ideas?

[QUOTE=Crpto2007;51838543]I was on the phone with her for awhile since we couldn't see each other today. Now we're texting each other. I want to do something nice for her tomorrow since I got some money to spend. Any ideas?[/QUOTE] Yes. Take 3 day's and label them "My Personal Life", where you do anything else, than contacting her. If she contacts you, you act busy. "I'm really happy that you called me, it's just I'm a bit busy right now. But I'll call you as soon as I have some free time on my hands." Three days later, you call her and suddenly she's more attracted to you.

just spent an hour shooting ideas on ways to start a conversation over fb with this girl, every time i came up with an idea he'd shoot it down eventually just settled with "hey hows it going??" because its simple and i have plans to avoid small talk if it gets to that point

[QUOTE=arleitiss;51836184]I am anxious about it. I mean any possible signs I showed that I liked her few months ago - and kept doing it because I didnt want to draw much attention, but turns out - all this time she knew why I am acting up and now i feel like complete idiot.[/QUOTE] you'd be a complete idiot... if liking people but not always being completely straight about it was in any way abnormal. it's not. it's probably the most normal thing in the world. what happened here, i imagine, is that your friends just have a more casual outlook on relationships than you do. they might not see the things you perceive mocking in the same way. even if this has to do with a lack of tact on their part, i still think you're overreacting, and i hope you reconsider [editline]18th February 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Blueridge;51838750]just spent an hour shooting ideas on ways to start a conversation over fb with this girl, every time i came up with an idea he'd shoot it down eventually just settled with "hey hows it going??" because its simple and i have plans to avoid small talk if it gets to that point[/QUOTE] hmm that's pretty good but there's a distinct lack of stool pictures. add a stool picture

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51838427]This is getting way off topic, let's draw the focus back to this guy that is deconstructing his social life over literally nothing. Dude, you said you're getting a new number so no, your friends won't be able to contact you. There's nothing wrong with going off grid and i think about doing it a lot, but you could just, idk, stop going on it? Surely you have the willpower to do that. You're making a mistake and perhaps it's better you learn on your own, but I think this situation is being handled totally wrong[/QUOTE] Okay I have been thinking that I may have overreacted. I decided to keep my number and Snapchat for messaging with others. Before i deletes my fb - I went through my 400 friends list and I realised that there is only 20 people who I talk to, the rest are just... Acquaintances Then I realised today how addicted to fb I was or am. Every time I open chrome the first think I press is: f down enter , literally visited homepage of fb today out of habit about 25 times. I've spent about 5 hours on fb daily so i think this event pushed the decision to delete myself. [editline]18th February 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Zukriuchen;51838795]you'd be a complete idiot... if liking people but not always being completely straight about it was in any way abnormal. it's not. it's probably the most normal thing in the world. what happened here, i imagine, is that your friends just have a more casual outlook on relationships than you do. they might not see the things you perceive mocking in the same way. even if this has to do with a lack of tact on their part, i still think you're overreacting, and i hope you reconsider [editline]18th February 2017[/editline] hmm that's pretty good but there's a distinct lack of stool pictures. add a stool picture[/QUOTE] Well idk, it's just unusual for me, I am used to: be interested in someone, hang out with them, spot if they show any signs towards me, if not - move on without showing there was anything. The fact that this time someone found out that I liked them after I decided to move on kind of threw me off balance. Can't really explain how it feels, maybe I am just crazy.

400 friends on Facebook? And you talk to 20? I have 20 friends, and I don't talk to any of them.

[QUOTE=Zen'Tao;51838855]400 friends on Facebook? And you talk to 20? I have 20 friends, and I don't talk to any of them.[/QUOTE] I have moved 3 countries,each had its part of my life and different friend circles.

I guess I don't talk to them anymore as my relationship to substance abuse is the equivalent of giving up on life. The few latest times I've connected with three of my friends, it was during a drug induced mania and I basically harassed them with nonsens gibberish that seemed to make them give up on me.

[QUOTE=Zen'Tao;51839664]I guess I don't talk to them anymore as my relationship to substance abuse is the equivalent of giving up on life. The few latest times I've connected with three of my friends, it was during a drug induced mania and I basically harassed them with nonsens gibberish that seemed to make them give up on me.[/QUOTE] You have some serious issues that you need to work through.

I just checked my chrome history stats... According to it, in February [B]alone[/B] I've visited facebook 2169 times. That's ~120 times per day (not including opening it on mobile app) Then there is russian social network: vkontakte: 1241 Times in February, average 40 times per day. Then there is facepunch, 485 times, average 30 times per day.

[QUOTE=Darth Ninja;51839896]You have some serious issues that you need to work through.[/QUOTE] Some beings disguise themselves among what they represent to cure. As I'm not allowed to say that, you now have to accept that I am genuinely insane!

failed the test for some bs not related to driving the car oh well, better luck next time I did score a phone number though :toot:

[QUOTE=arleitiss;51838823]Okay I have been thinking that I may have overreacted. I decided to keep my number and Snapchat for messaging with others. Before i deletes my fb - I went through my 400 friends list and I realised that there is only 20 people who I talk to, the rest are just... Acquaintances Then I realised today how addicted to fb I was or am. Every time I open chrome the first think I press is: f down enter , literally visited homepage of fb today out of habit about 25 times. I've spent about 5 hours on fb daily so i think this event pushed the decision to delete myself. [editline]18th February 2017[/editline] Well idk, it's just unusual for me, I am used to: be interested in someone, hang out with them, spot if they show any signs towards me, if not - move on without showing there was anything. The fact that this time someone found out that I liked them after I decided to move on kind of threw me off balance. Can't really explain how it feels, maybe I am just crazy.[/QUOTE] I dunno, I'd be hesitant to lose contact with that many people as acquaintances can still be quite valuable especially in the professional world

[QUOTE=Zen'Tao;51840115]Some beings disguise themselves among what they represent to cure. As I'm not allowed to say that, you now have to accept that I am genuinely insane![/QUOTE] What'chu smokin on bruh

[QUOTE=HumbleTH;51833697]Semi relevant story/question of my own. I've been in an LDR with my gf since last July, barring a month for Christmas, and since I'm in a pretty secluded area, I've basically had nobody to talk to but her and a guy I met online ages ago. That resulted in me spending pretty much all of my time in my house, leaving only to go shopping with family or for work (part time). Recently I moved to a different (same management, but different place) area to work. It's a bit more challenging, but less boring than the previous place, and we still get a lot of downtime. Cue Monday, I worked a shift with this girl, who's currently a senior in hs (I graduated last year). We hung out and talked most of our downtime and honestly, it was the most fun I've had talking to someone since my gf left, it was just really easy to talk to her. It made me realise what I've been missing by staying secluded and made me miss that contact. Problem is, I've got a small crush on that girl and I'm a bit afraid of doing something stupid. Is it a bad idea to try to hang out more with her while I'm still here (another month right now, then probably a month or two after I visit my gf in the US)? I have no intention of cheating on my gf and think I can control myself enough not to let anything happen.[/QUOTE] Hey guys, this got buried under a bunch of drama, so I figured I'd repost. To add in a few more details, I've been working since August in a similar area and haven't been able to talk as well to anyone else. I'm staying here for another 3-4 months with the month trip inbetween, so I figured I could do something else instead of just staying home. I've been clear with my gf about this and she's fine too, but I wanted a third opinion, I really don't want to fuck anything up. She's shown signs of liking me too, which is another reason I'm hesitant with it. How can I avoid throwing out any mixed signals? And to reiterate, would it be a bad idea to try to hang out with her more?

I had sex for the first time today If you can call it that - it wouldn't stay up it was so embarrassing :(

So I talked with my crush's boyfriend and my close friend when we were eating the other day. We just talked about hilariously bad movies like Plan 9, the Room, and Troll 2. It was almost like old times. I also talked to the friend I'm closest to on campus. (NOT the same friend she's dating) I already told him I had a crush on this girl so I told him who it was. I mentioned how this is the first time I've had a crush on someone at an intellectual level and not in some way based on appearance. He nodded and said "Yeah. [name]'s got a sexy brain on her." Then not long after, she saw us and sat down to talk for a while. As if liking swing music and knowing a lot about politics wasn't enough in common between her and I, we all started talking about traditional role playing games we've played and sure enough, she liked that too. I think avoiding her when I can was a mistake, I'll just limit myself to a certain amount of time spent talking with her (and her boyfriend) per week or per day. Also, I just deleted my tinder profile because I accidentally "super liked" about 5 people and I'd have to pay money to undo it. The lack of information on people was also frustrating.

I have seen so many profiles that say things like "if I super like you it was probably an accident". You're probably never gonna see these people IRL, if you accidentally do it it doesn't matter.

i had a class last semester and i was a nervous wreck who didn't put in 100% of my best effort in that class so idk what people thought of me. just to set the scene up, i had to speak a handful of times and since it was a new semester in a new environment i had zero confidence in a small class of around 20. i'm at a point now where i don't care what people in my classes think and i speak pretty openly and try to approach new people. it's still a challenge in a lot of cases but i'm making it work. anyway there's a bus that connects our city to detroit and being an art student i took it to go to the museum and my friend went w/ me. idk how he manages to do this but he's super good at meeting new people and we ended up striking a conversation with a girl from that class last semester who was headed there for the same purpose. after that we went through the museum together with her friend who we met up w/ at the museum and after all that we spent the night exploring the city. i have so much to learn from him, it still amazes me that he's able to just start a conversation with a complete stranger and make it all work. i know it's just a bit of confidence and knowing how to hold a conversation, but even if i manage to get past that first step i'm spending the rest of the time trying to figure out what to say and it's usually awkwardly drawn out.

Don't know if this is the correct place to ask for a "problem" I have, but I will give it a shot: To be as simple as possible, my Brother's Daughter is afraid of me.... She is nearly 2 years old and anytime I am trying to talk to her or just even get close to her, she is not smiling and she is trying to hide from me by stay behind to my Brother's back or His Wife's back.... When she was even younger, when I tried to hug her, she started crying... This without saying make me really sad.... So I would like to ask if this is normal to afraid just in general specific people and then realised she shouldn't had afraid of me when she get older. Thank you for your time.

waiting for a reply keeps killing me inside the lack of instant feedback hurts but i gotta stick through with it i guess, hopefully she replies before tommorow so i can see if shes still free in the morning and set something up with her [QUOTE=SweetShark;51844522]Don't know if this is the correct place to ask for a "problem" I have, but I will give it a shot: To be as simple as possible, my Brother's Daughter is afraid of me.... She is nearly 2 years old and anytime I am trying to talk to her or just even get close to her, she is not smiling and she is trying to hide from me by stay behind to my Brother's back or His Wife's back.... When she was even younger, when I tried to hug her, she started crying... This without saying make me really sad.... So I would like to ask if this is normal to afraid just in general specific people and then realised she shouldn't had afraid of me when she get older. Thank you for your time.[/QUOTE] when my cousin's children were first born they were afraid of me, now as they're older (~4-7 years old) the first thing they do is come into my room to see what i'm doing at my computer i wouldn't worry about it tbh, some kids are just scared of certain people but as they get used to you they'll warm up