Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=BlindSniper17;51866426]Just lead in with small talk, but avoid starting off with "looking forward to studying" as that's kinda awkward to start a first time text conversation with.[/QUOTE] I wouldn't start with small talk through text if you don't know her that well. She did specify that she was giving you her number so you could study together, not so you could talk more through text. Just stick to making plans unless she texts you about unrelated stuff. Probably varies from person to person, but I personally hate it when people message me continuously when they have nothing to say.

I think I'm hanging out with her tomorrow at her place. I love that feeling I get when talking to her I haven't felt that in a long time

I gotta be honest, I usually try pretending I have better things to do when texting a girl when I actually don't. Just so I don't come off as desperate. It's kinda sad for me not going to lie. There's a holiday coming up and everybody else is just gonna be on and off as I'm gonna probably be standing in my room doing fuck all.

What do you know, I actually got myself a girlfriend from tinder. She lives 7 hours away by train but still, feels nice :dance: [editline]24th February 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=SoftHearted;51867009]I gotta be honest, I usually try pretending I have better things to do when texting a girl when I actually don't. Just so I don't come off as desperate. It's kinda sad for me not going to lie. There's a holiday coming up and everybody else is just gonna be on and off as I'm gonna probably be standing in my room doing fuck all.[/QUOTE] I do that too sometimes and I always follow what I call "the rule of two", never send more than two texts without an answer from the woman.

This week finally looks positive for me. Got myself my own snowboard boots finally (no more rentals) [T]http://i.imgur.com/Ff3dBFF.jpg[/T] Today I am attending party with only close friends invited, then I am working next week from home most of the week and on Saturday I am off to Austria for Snowboarding (last year went twice to France, this year decided to try Austria) Currently I am literally just happy, not thinking about relationships or anything else, everything is just good.

I'm feeling better now. I'm seeing her tonight I'm looking forward to it

[QUOTE=SoftHearted;51859154]Man, If there's something I hate more than being flat out rejected is being ghosted by the girl that seemed to be into you. Is pretty much the same feeling you get when you study a entire month for a test just to get a 0 on your report card. I'm seriously thinking of just focusing on my professional carrer. I already wasted too much time with stupid shit like this.[/QUOTE] Had a similar issue. Had a small chat with a girl in class. She had a sweet voice, and by that tone I thought that she might have had an interest in me. Turns out its not the case and I felt like an idiot afterward. Boy if I'm this swayed by a pretty voice then I'm begging to be taken advantage of. It was weird too because I had zero interest before and liked another woman.

There's a 1950s dance tonight on campus, but I probably won't go because my crush and her boyfriend will be there dressed in what they've called a couples costume. It doesn't help that the two of them only ever refer to each other as "honey" or some other pet name. Fuck that. "I'm going to Lava World" (and by "Lava World" I mean probably taking a walk to a thrift store, and coming back empty handed.) [video=youtube;r_0sL_SQYvw]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_0sL_SQYvw&ap[/video]

Had a night out yesterday with some new friends at the bar. God damn i had so much fun, too bad i wasted too much money but who gives a fuck tbh, now i can finally forget about old friends giving me excuses on not wanting to hang out. feels good mane

it's not a waste of money if you enjoyed yourself I was in Glasgow seeing one of my favourite bands last week, the flights to Glasgow and the hotel cost me £180, ticket was £30, and I spent somewhere over £300 on booze, food, merch and various other bits and pieces in the 3 days I was there. worth every goddamn penny. can't take the money with you when you die so why not spend it having fun? I'd rather earn my money and spend what spare I have enjoying myself than build up a huge amount of savings and do nothing with it.

Saving money. The Arrogance!

oh don't get me wrong, there's absolutely nothing wrong with saving for something if you have a genuine reason and goal at the end of it. one of my friends has saved over £15,000 so that he can buy an Audi S5/RS5, because he "won't be able to afford it later in life". he plans to sell said car after a year or 2. he's basically having a mid life crisis at age 23, and no amount of reason will get through to him. saving a deposit on a home, or something like that, fucken go right for it, that's perfectly reasonable. but don't leave yourself so short or be so against spending your money, that you miss out on good times and great experiences.

Question for you guys So I'm at a tipping point with this girl: We both want FwB We've seen eachother a few times just for drinks, but each time I've been really shy Trouble is, I'm shy around people the first few times. However, now I feel nearly 100% comfortable around her, [B][I]but [/I][/B]her interest has already started to wane (she explained she wanted someone confident/dominant, which I totally get) I feel I've one last shot at this. I'm in a position where I've nothing to lose, plus I'm familiar around her, so I'm as confident as I'll ever be at this stage. I asked if she wanted to go for a drink, which she agreed to but due to unfortunate timing of messages I'd just about left the area by the time she'd responded and agreed and it would have taken too long to go and meet her (she would have been standing around for 30 minutes or so). Here's the problem: I asked if she wanted to do something next week instead, she said she's "quite busy" next week. I'm getting mixed signals here and I have no idea how to handle it. Does this mean I've missed my shot? Or is she still interested? I don't want to sound desperate because it's a massive turnoff. But I also somehow want to communicate that I'm feeling more confident around her. The plan was to just meet her for a drink and show her I'm feeling more confident, but looks like that ship has sailed? Also the more I do this dating stuff the more I realise it's all a massive mind game. She told me last time we met that maybe we shouldn't see each other again. I was really upset for a second, but [I]rather than try and convince her otherwise[/I], I just rolled with it and said "yeah I'd been thinking the same, because X reason". Suddenly her attitude totally switched up and she was all "but I'm still curious about you" and we ended up "sex talking" (which I wasn't as confident with before) and nearly going home with each other, but I didn't push for it because I wasn't confident enough to pretend I'm like that. Which was where we left it. So I'm still confused. Maybe I blew it and I should have been more "yeah come back to mine" rather than "yeah come back to mine [B][I]if you want, I understand it's late and you have work early[/I][/B]". Agh, if I could roll back time! All this nonsense is such a mindfuck, especially since it's my first rodeo Help :(

Had a good few hours with her. I think i should of slept over her house though so I could of spent the weekend with her. I don't want to bother her by trying to hang out with her everyday though. Is hanging out everyday too much?

So I have my first date with another woman next weekend.

now just remember pics or it didn't happen

So I will not be going out with the lady who gave me her number, to be honest I am just not attracted to her but I was so overcome by joy and was so flattered that I almost would have gone on a date. We are going to study and I will be professional about it and if she pushes the subject I will just say something like "I am flattered, and you are very nice and funny but knowing myself and my personality, we as a couple would not work out, and I don't want to lead you on if it would never work, however we can still totally study" that works, right? I just don't want to hurt her feelings by shutting her down, and I also don't want to lead her on if I am not interested. I was so overcome by the chance to have my first date/relationship that I ignored the fact that I don't want those firsts to be with her.

Gonna see her again tonight. We had a really good time last night so I'm happy about seeing her again

Man, I saw some shit last night that kind of messed me up. At one of my jobs, I go out drinking semi-regularly with a big group of co-workers, including 3 of the 5 managers. Just because we're all good friends. Last night there were about 15 of us there. One of the managers is a guy, about 40 years old, that I always had a lot of respect for. He's got a wife and two little daughters, and he talks about them all the time, sounds like a model husband and dad. But last night, I left the place just a minute or two after him, and I head out to the parking lot, and he's there with a 20-something girl who used to work with us, and they're just all over each other. She spotted me walking through the parking lot and he just immediately turned away from her and walked back to his own car like nothing was going on. That just really fucked with me. Like I lost some little shred of innocence that I didn't know I had left. I don't plan to say anything to either of them, but I don't think I'm ever going to be able to look at him the same way again. Can't really tell any friends either because most of my friends know him or her.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;51873918]Man, I saw some shit last night that kind of messed me up. At one of my jobs, I go out drinking semi-regularly with a big group of co-workers, including 3 of the 5 managers. Just because we're all good friends. Last night there were about 15 of us there. One of the managers is a guy, about 40 years old, that I always had a lot of respect for. He's got a wife and two little daughters, and he talks about them all the time, sounds like a model husband and dad. But last night, I left the place just a minute or two after him, and I head out to the parking lot, and he's there with a 20-something girl who used to work with us, and they're just all over each other. She spotted me walking through the parking lot and he just immediately turned away from her and walked back to his own car like nothing was going on. That just really fucked with me. Like I lost some little shred of innocence that I didn't know I had left. I don't plan to say anything to either of them, but I don't think I'm ever going to be able to look at him the same way again. Can't really tell any friends either because most of my friends know him or her.[/QUOTE] It's rough when that happens man, someone I worked under I thought was a great boss, had our backs, kept higher ups off our backs, trusted and let us do our thing in engineering. They abruptly left for another project in a department and after doing so totally trash talked our project and various members of the team both inside and outside of work, now I have nothing but contempt for them, but its kind of awkward because the two projects collaborate a lot. The realisation that someone you held in high regard isnt as good as you thought is always tough to take, just use it as an example of how not to be I guess.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;51873918]Man, I saw some shit last night that kind of messed me up. At one of my jobs, I go out drinking semi-regularly with a big group of co-workers, including 3 of the 5 managers. Just because we're all good friends. Last night there were about 15 of us there. One of the managers is a guy, about 40 years old, that I always had a lot of respect for. He's got a wife and two little daughters, and he talks about them all the time, sounds like a model husband and dad. But last night, I left the place just a minute or two after him, and I head out to the parking lot, and he's there with a 20-something girl who used to work with us, and they're just all over each other. She spotted me walking through the parking lot and he just immediately turned away from her and walked back to his own car like nothing was going on. That just really fucked with me. Like I lost some little shred of innocence that I didn't know I had left. I don't plan to say anything to either of them, but I don't think I'm ever going to be able to look at him the same way again. Can't really tell any friends either because most of my friends know him or her.[/QUOTE] Happens quite often, we just rip into them when out on the drink.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51873603]Did you meet via dating app?[/QUOTE] Yup, found her on OKC. She had all these cool date ideas listed on her profile like rollerblading, paintball, room escape games, etc and said she's an adrenaline junkie, so I'm taking her rock climbing.

I need help for a friend hurting herself. Its a friend i had for about a year now, and things were good. Nothing romantic, but we met in college and we became good friends. We watch TV and talk occasionally, though we dont have a lot of common interests. One of our differences is that im doing relatively well in class while she is failing out. I always try to pester her to study, and actually do spend quite a bit of time helping with homework, particularly math. She had her difficulties but with her immense knowledge of biology and ecology, and an internship in something about fish, i thought that things would end well. Lately, however, she has been getting worse. She feels tired all the time and cant sleep, doesn't want to do work or study, isnt in an internship or anything anymore, and frankly her attitude to me has been horrible. Ive been frustrated with her sometimes. In the last few days, she started playing Pokémon on my 3ds, saying that it made her destress and that she would be hooked till she beat the game. I let her because I figured whats the harm, ill just make sure she doesn't use for too long (i don't want to indirectly cause her academic harm). A few days ago, i hid the 3ds because she was using it too much. I told her its not here, and she was annoyed but seemed fine. She watched some tv with me instead, and also did her homework and stuff. Today she wanted to on a walk because it was warm and to waste time. I agreed and we walked outside as we talked about completely random things and jokes. She mentioned that she still felt stressed, and I decided to tell her that i had the 3ds and that she could play pokemon when we get back. We got back to my room, and she just dives onto the 3ds.i play a bit on the computer myself with my roommate. As i joke around with my roommate, I realize that my friend is completely glued to the screen and not responding to us at all. I try to get her attention (i call out to her despite being next to me, poke her a single time on her toe, and wave my hand). Then she suddenly flips out, yelling, insulting me and then storms out of the room. I thought I may have did something wrong but my roommate assured me that I didn't. Anyways, half an hour later she messages me saying that she is sorry for the outburst, i tell her that its fine. And then, tonight (so a few hours later), she comes into my room asking for some food. She reeked of cigarettes and said she bought a pack to start smoking. She said that without a stress reliever that she had to turn to something else. She knows its wrong, shes a damn biologist. Im not sure if she is trying to manipulate me or if it really is the stress or what exactly that stress is (she was always bad at school, but with this sudden deterioration, i suspect something else happened which made things worse. Now that I think about it, her parents divorced last summer, which was about when she started going downhill). My roommate texted my friend's roommate to take away that cigarette pack from her as a start. I have to admit, im completely lost. Im not sure if i even can help her since she seems pretty negative with my particularly and seems to only use me for my stuff (like my 3ds). But either way, she is part of our bigger group of friends and we are all worried about her. What do we do?

Been in a funk most of today. I told a friend I trust yesterday that I've been more sarcastic than usual because of this girl (I didn't tell him who since she's a mutual friend). He invited me to a guy's night, but my alarm to remind me to stop playing video games and head over was set for 7:50 am instead of 7:50 pm. By the time I noticed, it was half past 9 and I was still playing. On the bright side, while recording the game audio in Battlefront 2, I heard a clone trooper say a funny line when I was playing as boba fett. [quote]"Boba Fett? Cripe, that kid grew up faster than we did!"[/quote]

I had another great time with her. I'm so happy right now. I've really fallen for her. She just means a lot to me.

[QUOTE=usaokay;51875744]I'm currently chatting up this girl and we tend to play off of each others' jokes. We also have some parts in common. Mainly we love video games, have some self-confidence issues, penguins, talking to people, and Zelda. Not sure if she sees me as a funny friend, but I want to actually go on a date with her. One of the things I'm generally scared of is going on a date with [I]her and her friends[/I] rather than just the two of us. Any ideas?[/QUOTE] ask her out and specify 'us two'

I need to vent some This last school year is proving impossible in regards to girls I broke up with my ex Some chick who I thought liked me didn't want to meet me even at recess, so fuck that I sent a single message to some girl in the same class as the previous girl after she posted something about Videogames and made me curious, but she didn't even receive the message, so I take it she blocked me in an act of friendship to her Another one canceled our "dates" twice at the last second, without asking to reschedule or apologizing. And now she demands to greet me when we see each other. Fuck off This other one who had turned me down early and ended up being my friend, turned out she gives out very private information about anyone to anybody with no regard for your privacy. Fuck off for good A classmate whom I don't talk to much visualized my message about a story she posted on instagram without replying. No need to be that much of an asshole. And last but not least this younger girl whom I speak every once in a while and I am really interested in doesn't receive my messages on social media, and doesn't ever look for me. Shw just says Hi when we bump into each other I wanna become gay at this point I need some time to calm down, this time of year is killing my nerves

[QUOTE=da space core;51875482]...group of friends and we are all worried about her. What do we do?[/QUOTE] There comes a point when friends supporting one no longer works but instead they need professional help. I dunno for how long you've tried to help her, but if it's really severe or if it doesn't even seem to get slightly better after 2 weeks I'd say you've done what you can do. I'd try to convince her that she isn't working properly and offer myself to walk with her to the schools student care (if you have such a thing) so that she at least can meet a professional and hopefully realise herself that she isn't doing ok. Of course her getting better is all dependent on her accepting that she has a problem, so maybe you could talk with her about that and see if she realises that. Trying to convince her about it might not work but simply asking questions about about how she is feeling etc is probably more effective. [editline]26th February 2017[/editline] There comes a point when you can no longer deal with it where you just have to move on and let her solve it on her own, so when you feel you no longer can or want to take care of her say that to her and take distance from her.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;51875006]Yup, found her on OKC. She had all these cool date ideas listed on her profile like rollerblading, paintball, room escape games, etc and said she's an adrenaline junkie, so I'm taking her rock climbing.[/QUOTE] shit paintballing sounds rad, I've wanted to do it for years but there's nowhere that does it where I live. go karting is also a great fun thing and you could make that into a challenge, whoever loses pays for dinner or something, or the next date. I went go karting for my brothers stag party and came 3rd and I got a sweet glass trophy

this is gonna seem pretty stupid probably, but here i go anyway. so i'm studying or whatever you wanna call it to become a mechanic, which works so that i spend a decent bit of time working out in the field as an apprentice, and then 5 weeks of school every once in a while. the classes and the people you're with at school change alot, which means some you might see for a couple of days and then never again. so a cute girl recently started in my class, which is obviously a sausage fest too, and she was put in my group. i probably wont see her again after tuesday, so i'm considering asking her for her number or something so i had a chance to get to know her a bit better. I don't really know what i'm asking for advice about, i guess i just need somebody to tell me it's not an awful idea or something.