Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=snookypookums;51977448] Assume no feelings ([I]plus, she has a boyfriend, so don't even go there[/I]) and move on.[/QUOTE] Or invite her to a magic show

[QUOTE=HumbleTH;51978373]Or invite her to a magic show[/QUOTE] Still waiting on that report, [I]danny[/I].

[QUOTE=SgtTupelo;51978530]Still waiting on that report, [I]danny[/I].[/QUOTE] The magician caught a whiff of his plans and made him disappear as his final act.

I want to know how his magic show date went. Did he disappear?

That girl that my texts weren't delivering to just got a new phone so that's why they weren't delivering. We got in contact with eachother again. So we hung out last night for the first time and ordered in pizza at her house and just chilled and it was really fun. After we ate she kept on wanting me to ask her super personal questions. She was like "ask me anything you want. what secrets do you want to know about me?" and I was like "idk, why don't you ask me first?" and so she started asking me questions about other girls I've been with and we started talking about sex and our past relations w other people. The night was fun except there was one problem: I was pretty sick. Like coughing bad and everything. I get the feeling she likes me because she's been really eager to hang out with me and was asking me those personal questions so I think that if I wasn't sick we might have ended up hooking up or doing something maybe? and her saying things like "why are all the guys from <the city I live in> so hot". I got the vibe she's down to do shit with me but because I was sick we didn't end up doing anything. I'm home on spring break right now and I fly back to school tomorrow so I won't be able to see her again till early May but she said she wants to hang out again when I come back. Both our birthdays are in May and hers is the day right after mine so we're gonna plan to go out for our collective bdays. At least I have this to look forward to now!

dunno how it is in the US but over here if a chick invites you round its usually gonna end in a fuck so good luck holmes

Kinda mad cuz Plenty of Fish seems to have eaten the messages I got the other day from two girls. I got the notification on my phone that they messaged me (I had messaged them first) but when I went into PoF absolutely nothing. Oh well.

I got invited to join a tabletop rpg group that three people from swing dance are involved in. Two of them are girls. I gave up being negative for Lent, but that doesn't mean I can't still play a negative [i]character[/i] in a game. So, at least I have that going for me.

My ex just contacted me on Snapchat asking about what am gonna do tonight. Her: "Hey, whats happening tonight :)?" Me: "Not much, you?" Her: Drinking wine, we might go out tonight in your city" Me: Oh cool, sounds fun. What's on your mind? Her: "Are you going to drive tonight?" Me: No idea, why? Then she tells me if i could drive her and her friend to her friends house which is like 20 - 30 mins away from me at 2am, thats when the pubs here closes. I'm not really sure what to do, i though she wanted to ask me to go out with them to hang out and stuff but now it feels like she contacted me so she can arrange a way home?

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;51979751]My ex just contacted me on Snapchat asking about what am gonna do tonight. Her: "Hey, whats happening tonight :)?" Me: "Not much, you?" Her: Drinking wine, we might go out tonight in your city" Me: Oh cool, sounds fun. What's on your mind? Her: "Are you going to drive tonight?" Me: No idea, why? Then she tells me if i could drive her and her friend to her friends house which is like 20 - 30 mins away from me at 2am, thats when the pubs here closes. I'm not really sure what to do, i though she wanted to ask me to go out with them to hang out and stuff but now it feels like she contacted me so she can arrange a way home?[/QUOTE] I hope you told her it's 2am and you don't want to drive for an hour

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;51979751]My ex just contacted me on Snapchat asking about what am gonna do tonight. Her: "Hey, whats happening tonight :)?" Me: "Not much, you?" Her: Drinking wine, we might go out tonight in your city" Me: Oh cool, sounds fun. What's on your mind? Her: "Are you going to drive tonight?" Me: No idea, why? Then she tells me if i could drive her and her friend to her friends house which is like 20 - 30 mins away from me at 2am, thats when the pubs here closes. I'm not really sure what to do, i though she wanted to ask me to go out with them to hang out and stuff but now it feels like she contacted me so she can arrange a way home?[/QUOTE] You don't owe her anything lol especially a drive like that at 2am when she isn't even inviting you to hang out.

[QUOTE=The Rifleman;51980082]You don't owe her anything lol especially a drive like that at 2am when she isn't even inviting you to hang out.[/QUOTE] I don't owe her anything, we broke up 2 years ago. Well, i'm not doing anything special and some extra money wouldn't hurt but yeah, just contacting me out of a sudden just to ask me for a ride home without inviting me to go out with them is not "Hey, it's been a while lets hang out" i guess. But i just have trouble saying no to people when it comes to this kind of stuff.

[QUOTE=SataniX;51973964]Where's the bad reading rating when you need it?[/QUOTE] Someone crushed it to oblivion.

As per usual, the advice in this thread is pretty accurate, and if you have to babysit someone to prevent them cheating on their boyfriend they probably shouldn't be with them in the first place.

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;51980208]I don't owe her anything, we broke up 2 years ago. Well, i'm not doing anything special and some extra money wouldn't hurt but yeah, just contacting me out of a sudden just to ask me for a ride home without inviting me to go out with them is not "Hey, it's been a while lets hang out" i guess. But i just have trouble saying no to people when it comes to this kind of stuff.[/QUOTE] Honestly it sounds JUST like she's using you to get a ride, and nothing else

[QUOTE=snookypookums;51978027]"Hey, how have you been doing? I was just thinking about <common event the both of you were a part of> and just wondered if you were on Facebook." You sent her a request (I'm assuming) because you share common interests and want to reconnect, so do that. Don't try to assume what other people feel when they're talking to you, man, that shit gets in the way of an honest conversation. Just chit-chat, make no assumptions and that's it.[/QUOTE] Yeah, you're right. I just worry because she actually means a lot to me. She was one of the few people that genuinely cared for me back in highschool and even thought back in the day she never felt the same way I did about her I still want her to be happy. She's the one that actually helped me have more self-cofidence and she was the one I would think about it every time I felt lost. I'm just afraid of messing things up. It's been 4 years and a lot has changed.

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;51979751]My ex just contacted me on Snapchat asking about what am gonna do tonight. Her: "Hey, whats happening tonight :)?" Me: "Not much, you?" Her: Drinking wine, we might go out tonight in your city" Me: Oh cool, sounds fun. What's on your mind? Her: "Are you going to drive tonight?" Me: No idea, why? Then she tells me if i could drive her and her friend to her friends house which is like 20 - 30 mins away from me at 2am, thats when the pubs here closes. I'm not really sure what to do, i though she wanted to ask me to go out with them to hang out and stuff but now it feels like she contacted me so she can arrange a way home?[/QUOTE] abort

[QUOTE=LaughingStock;51977651]hmmmmmmmmmmmmm Beginning of last semester there was a girl I was interested in, so maybe 5 weeks in I worked up the courage to move over next to her in one of these giant lecture auditoriums(i had other smaller classes w/ her too) and tried to start a conversation with her. She mentioned earlier that she was into web design and app design so I thought 'wow perfect I can start a conversation based on that' and the conversation went like this: "Hey you're into web design right?" "Yeah" "Have you made any websites yet?" "No I'm still learning" and that was followed by ten seconds of silence until I broke it by saying "I'm going to sit over there now" and then I got up and moved 5 seats over and stared ahead for the next few minutes. It's mostly repressed now but the cool thing is I'm working w/ her and some others in a design competition, and her and I are supposed to be doing the branding portion together. The conversations haven't been that terrible either so I guess that earlier approach didn't matter all that much.[/QUOTE] all's good. our team of three designers teamed up with 2 engineers that we met there and we came out 2nd place and won some other awards. usually we don't present these types of projects to everyone but i guess the competition was pretty small so we presented to everyone who attended + judges and i did my part without stuttering or forgetting my words or having a heartrate of 200bpm. i'm not going to ask the girl out or anything cause it'd be way out of left field but i ended up talking to her a lot as well as everyone else.

Never going on dates two days in a row ever again, woman from the day before showed up when I was meeting the second woman. I fucking panicked and hid in the bathroom, had to tell my date I was running a bit late and met her somewhere else. It's a crazy coincidence, met them in two different cities. (second date was a success, gonna meet again)

I talked to my grandmother on the phone today and told her about this girl I have a crush on and how it seems like I'm putting someone else's happiness ahead of my own. She said what I'm doing reminds her of this character from [i]A Tale of Two Cities[/i] who [sp]loved this woman so much that he switched places with her husband and was taken to the guillotine in his place.[/sp] I'm starting to think that I should care more for myself, nobody else is worth the effort. All I need to do is get used to being alone.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51985754]Sure, until you find someone worth the effort. Or maybe you're just putting in too much effort?[/QUOTE] This is how I feel right now :disgust:

[QUOTE=Mr. Sarcastic;51985392]I talked to my grandmother on the phone today and told her about this girl I have a crush on and how it seems like I'm putting someone else's happiness ahead of my own. She said what I'm doing reminds her of this character from [i]A Tale of Two Cities[/i] who [sp]loved this woman so much that he switched places with her husband and was taken to the guillotine in his place.[/sp] I'm starting to think that I should care more for myself, nobody else is worth the effort. All I need to do is get used to being alone.[/QUOTE] It's one of the hardest things to learn when you're used to company. I was in a relationship not too long ago myselft but we called it quits because we were hurting each other and everything around us. We're still kinda friends. I wanted to change for her sake, but it wasn't an effort from us both. I still love her even though we went through all that and I'd do anything just so me and her could have a normal life together. But if you've not had the experience with another person, why not go for it? If you do care for yourself and for this other person, then at least give it a chance. Just don't let it go to your head man.

[QUOTE=Gogi;51985934]. But if you've not had the experience with another person, why not go for it? If you do care for yourself and for this other person, then at least give it a chance. Just don't let it go to your head man.[/QUOTE] Because one of my friends is her boyfriend. It's my own damn fault for opening myself up and bonding with a young woman who has a sarcastic personality like mine, is nerdy, intelligent and struggles with ADHD at college like myself.

Well, you have 2 friends there. That's a good thing to have, and that won't be lost just by moving on from a romantical standpoint.

[QUOTE=Mr. Sarcastic;51985392]I talked to my grandmother on the phone today and told her about this girl I have a crush on and how it seems like I'm putting someone else's happiness ahead of my own. She said what I'm doing reminds her of this character from [i]A Tale of Two Cities[/i] who [sp]loved this woman so much that he switched places with her husband and was taken to the guillotine in his place.[/sp] I'm starting to think that I should care more for myself, nobody else is worth the effort. All I need to do is get used to being alone.[/QUOTE] The Great Gatsby or Gone With the Wind. [editline]20th March 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Mr. Sarcastic;51986391]Because one of my friends is her boyfriend. It's my own damn fault for opening myself up and bonding with a young woman who has a sarcastic personality like mine, is nerdy, intelligent and struggles with ADHD at college like myself.[/QUOTE] For a start, you do have lot more points in common.

Swing, and a swerve.

I've got a date on Friday and I'm nervous. IDK what we're doing, she just wants to hang out after work. I had originally messaged her on OKCupid back in like November, ended up getting her number, and we talked on and off until January when it picked up and she's told me she really likes me and just like oh god this is a new situation for me. she also lives an hour away and that feels like so far away.

[QUOTE=bdd458;51987008]I've got a date on Friday and I'm nervous. IDK what we're doing, she just wants to hang out after work. I had originally messaged her on OKCupid back in like November, ended up getting her number, and we talked on and off until January when it picked up and she's told me she really likes me and just like oh god this is a new situation for me. she also lives an hour away and that feels like so far away.[/QUOTE] Be yourself, own it, and relax. It's gotten you this far hasn't it? You'll do great don't sweat it.

[QUOTE=Zombinie;51987084]Be yourself, own it, and relax. It's gotten you this far hasn't it? You'll do great don't sweat it.[/QUOTE] ok so we decided to do something in the middle so im happy. [editline]20th March 2017[/editline] she was the one that offered to do something halfway as well, so I took her up on that lol

How do I get over my fear of committing to a relationship. I haven't really been in a long lasting relationship yet, I am not really a socially anxious person but I am just scared that if I got into a relationship my worry of not being good enough would just cripple me