Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=bdd458;51987130]ok so we decided to do something in the middle so im happy. [editline]20th March 2017[/editline] she was the one that offered to do something halfway as well, so I took her up on that lol[/QUOTE] Sounds like you've got this one in the bag. Just try to have fun man!

Well I am going home tomorrow after spending 3 weeks in hospital. Got final stitches removed from my head today by doctor who was first to respond after my jump and he said I landed from 2nd floor on top of my head and it was a mess. Can't wait to get home, gotta wear brace for few months but that's nothing.

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[QUOTE=Crooky14;51987220]How do I get over my fear of committing to a relationship. I haven't really been in a long lasting relationship yet, I am not really a socially anxious person but I am just scared that if I got into a relationship my worry of not being good enough would just cripple me[/QUOTE] I probably shouldn't be giving advice on this since I've never been in a relationship, but I would be open with her about it. Fear of commitment is paralyzing. A good friend of my dad who loved kids had such a terrible fear of commitment because his parents got divorced and he never saw a healthy relationship at home. Now, he's 40 something, unmarried, and working too much to be in a relationship. I guess what I'm saying is don't let an irrational fear prevent you from being happy. I should listen to my own advice though.

Hope everyones day is going better than mine.

[QUOTE=arleitiss;51988182]Well I am going home tomorrow after spending 3 weeks in hospital. Got final stitches removed from my head today by doctor who was first to respond after my jump and he said I landed from 2nd floor on top of my head and it was a mess. Can't wait to get home, gotta wear brace for few months but that's nothing.[/QUOTE] Can I ask what happened to you?

i went on a field trip with japanese club, the girl im interested in wants to go to the club but cant because of class schedule so i didnt think she would be going. she came however, we talked for a couple of seconds at the beginning but that was it for the rest of the trip because i was being nervous and wanted to stay close to a friend ive known since high school (who also came unexpectedly). after the trip there was a party that i didnt go to, i went home instead to start working on homework. i talked to some of my friends and they kept encouraging me to do something about this crush really soon, which i agree with. then i asked one of my friends that went to the party about it and he strongly advised me to figure out where i stand really, soon all of this is giving me some kind of adrenaline spike, or maybe this is some sort of confidence. in any case ive been trying to hang out with her this week. she couldnt meet today at the only time i could (she gave a legit reason for it), so im trying for wednesday

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;51989391]Can I ask what happened to you?[/QUOTE] Well on 24th of February I got ran over by a car so I got into hospital, then in hospital some medication had side effects on me so I sleep walked and jumped out of balcony on 1st (actually 2nd/3rd) floor and got fractured back and back of head fucked up.

Last night, I felt like my life has been falling down a dark pit. Every time I think I'm about to hit the bottom, I just keep falling further. I'm probably just being melodramatic. [QUOTE=HookerVomit;51988964]Hope everyones day is going better than mine.[/QUOTE] What happened?

My friend (which i'm interested) came to work yesterday on the verge of crying. She went through a rough breakup a couple of years ago with some dude she never tells me about (and I'm afraid to ask) and led to a divorce. Apparently they were arguing about alimony yesterday and that kind of stuff, all in front of his family. This is a woman with two kids and I can tell she loves them very much, but she suffers because she can barely make ends meet, and the kids' dad is an estranged man who doesn't care that much. By the sound of it, and from what i've gathered from her talking to her friends while on her phone next to me, she thought "he would change". I could tell she was really upset and sad but at the time I didn't know what to say. I wanted to make her feel better but I locked up in awkward silence and just nodded like an selfish idiot, but on the other hand i didn't wanted to give her the wrong advice. Did I do well on keeping my mouth shut? or should I've said something about it, even if it were something stupid.

Always better to just be a supportive friend in presence and not words if you're not sure what sort of advice to give. The fact that you're there to listen is good enough most of the time. Better to give no advice at all than to give bad advice and potentially lead them to a harmful decision.

Sitting with a friend at lunch. The girl I have a crush on, a friend and her bf have been sitting down at the table next to mine. I heard someone wish her happy birthday and am contemplating saying hello or just minding my own business.

Asked a girl out, nervously waiting for a reply.

[QUOTE=Mr. Sarcastic;51991902]Sitting with a friend at lunch. The girl I have a crush on, a friend and her bf have been sitting down at the table next to mine. I heard someone wish her happy birthday and am contemplating saying hello or just minding my own business.[/QUOTE] This very much depends on who you're asking. Personally I wouldn't contact her unless you want to be her friend since she has a boyfriend.

So I guess she agreed to it

[QUOTE=MrJazzy;51993356]So I guess she agreed to it[/QUOTE] What does that mean?

[QUOTE=farmatyr;51993511]What does that mean?[/QUOTE] It just means we're having coffee on thursday and I'm a nervous person.

[QUOTE=MrJazzy;51993638]It just means we're having coffee on thursday and I'm a nervous person.[/QUOTE] Good luck man :)

[QUOTE=MrJazzy;51993638]It just means we're having coffee on thursday and I'm a nervous person.[/QUOTE] A pint can break the tip of nervousberg.

I hate dates cause they feel like job interviews and I hate job interviews cause they feel like dates.

This has nothing to do with relationships, but a former friend reached out to me for the first time in over a decade and we've been talking again. He's a very unique guy, one of those guys you probably think is gay when you first meet them but they aren't. He loves Disney, I Love Lucy, The Sound of Music, Wizard of Oz, that type of stuff. He's a talented piano player and composer, even starting up a Christian choir against the wishes of his high school. He's the most charismatic guy I know, always smiling and making others smile too. He's also a very sentimental guy. He'd often make arts and crafts for me and send me letters. I remember after me and my parents took him to a drive-in theater when I was 12, he sent a heartfelt letter to us, thanking us for the experience. We eventually drifted off because I became withdrawn during my teenage years, when I was homeschooled, but I'm glad I got him back as a friend again. We're arranging to meet each other after he comes home from college during the summer, and I look very forward to that.

i just called my aunt to talk about my current situation with this girl, and after we talked about it she just decided now would be a good time to explain the story behind my birth while i wanted to know i kinda wouldve preferred it to be at a better time also in a somewhat cruel fashion, as soon as i got off the phone i get a message from the very person i was talking about saying that she cant meet on wednesday due to having to study for a test this day took an unexpected turn to say the least

I really wish this other girl was straight with me already. She completely vanished from what's app leaving no trace if I was blocked or she had her phone stolen. It's been almost a week like this. The weirdest fucking part is that I checked my Facebook some time after she disappeared from what's and I find out she accepted my friend request. So I'm honestly confused. It wouldn't make sense for her to block me then accept me on another social media. Not really thinking all that hard about this to be honest but it baffles me. Still haven't tried messaging her but I do it by the end of the week since I've been busy with a lot of stuff from College.

I just recently got into a relationship with someone I work with (I know that a lot of people say that's a bad idea) and so far it's going pretty well. We're learning about each other and she seems to be really into me, which is nice for the confidence. I never thought that with how I am now that someone would end up liking me but it's really nice to have that. We have similar kinds of humour and get along well. Although I'm away for surgery for a couple weeks, I'm thinking of taking her for dinner somewhere when I get back. She's really nice, and cute, and I'm hoping this goes somewhere. It's all a bit surreal to me though, I've never really gotten so far on my own. I applied to this job myself, paying my bills and groceries on my own with occasional support from parents, and now I've met someone who's really cool. Soon I'll start to be able to change my health in a way I want to see myself become. I never had it bad before but I like where things are going right now, feel better about myself and realize just how far I've come.

[QUOTE=IQ-Guldfisk;51993025]This very much depends on who you're asking. Personally I wouldn't contact her unless you want to be her friend since she has a boyfriend.[/QUOTE] I'm already her friend. Anyway, I said hello and wished her a happy birthday before I left, albeit after her boyfriend went to class.

[QUOTE=SoftHearted;51994699]I really wish this other girl was straight with me already. She completely vanished from what's app leaving no trace if I was blocked or she had her phone stolen. It's been almost a week like this. The weirdest fucking part is that I checked my Facebook some time after she disappeared from what's and I find out she accepted my friend request. So I'm honestly confused. It wouldn't make sense for her to block me then accept me on another social media. Not really thinking all that hard about this to be honest but it baffles me. Still haven't tried messaging her but I do it by the end of the week since I've been busy with a lot of stuff from College.[/QUOTE] probably different situation but i had some old pals over at my apartment and between the two of them (guy and girl) they made fake profiles to lure in guys looking to hook up and found it incredulous that there are people out there who are like that. it left me super confused because i thought that would be expected in college and they should know that. long story short people aren't entirely honest about who they are on whatsapp. also my friend who's usually super honest with me told me she considers me a 3/10 in terms of looks and it's been weighing on me for the entire day. i don't have any romantic interests in her, it just feels bad in general. it wasn't brought up to hurt me, it was just how the conversation went and i asked.

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51994940]Well looks are totally subjective. Did she say why she considers you a 3/10? Did you ask what in her opinion you could improve on?[/QUOTE] I'm sure it's not going to bother me too long in the long run. She suggested I should smile more and be more genuine when I do, both of which are doable.

I feel like people's taste for looks are all over the place. Yeah, there's conventionally attractive people that are like "10/10" but then you see them with what some might consider "3/10." It's so subjective and people have "weird" preferences. There's a "10/10" out there that might consider you the right amount of weird. Or vice versa. Point is, there are no standards lol just go try and see if they're into you.

Feeling confident about asking for her number today. I'm not nervous about it anymore

[QUOTE=LaughingStock;51994864]probably different situation but i had some old pals over at my apartment and between the two of them (guy and girl) they made fake profiles to lure in guys looking to hook up and found it incredulous that there are people out there who are like that. it left me super confused because i thought that would be expected in college and they should know that. long story short people aren't entirely honest about who they are on what'sapp.[/QUOTE] I think that's hardly the case. I stay away from dating sites and she's someone I know personally from college. Not only that but she actually called me to hang out A LOT. One time she messaged telling me she saw me pass by and told me to come drink with her.