Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=Rammaster;51995255]I feel like people's taste for looks are all over the place. Yeah, there's conventionally attractive people that are like "10/10" but then you see them with what some might consider "3/10." It's so subjective and people have "weird" preferences. There's a "10/10" out there that might consider you the right amount of weird. Or vice versa. Point is, there are no standards lol just go try and see if they're into you.[/QUOTE] Generally, everything from 1-9/10 is supposed to be objective for the most part. It varies from person to person, but there shouldn't be too much to disagree about. I doubt you're gonna run into someone who thinks tons of acne scarring and buck teeth are attractive, but that's when you get into the 10's. 10/10 is reserved for personal preference, there's no such thing as a universal 10.

Went for coffee with a girl I met on Tinder last night. We were able to get along pretty well, even though there were a few awkward pauses (two shy people trying to get to know each other) and we spontaneously went for sushi after the coffee as well. When I asked for her number, to set up for a few future date, she said she "doesn't really have a phone, but if you give me your number, that'd be easier to get a hold of you." So I messaged her my number on Tinder. At the end of the date, I dropped her off at her house, and gave her a hug, she kissed my cheek. Is that a good sign? I'm a bundle of emotions right now as to whether I should message her again to set up something or wait for her to get a hold of me with my number. Are there apps that let you message phone numbers when you don't have an actual number yourself?

[QUOTE=4yourmalice;51995943]she kissed my cheek. Is that a good sign?[/QUOTE] yes yes [QUOTE=4yourmalice;51995943]whether I should message her again to set up something or wait for her to get a hold of me with my number. Are there apps that let you message phone numbers when you don't have an actual number yourself?[/QUOTE] There are certainly apps that let you message without a "real" phone number, and I would wait for her to message you as you gave her your number first and she said she wanted to get a hold of you (but if she doesn't in 2 days, then hit her up)

Thanks for the input. In the back of my head I feel good about it all. Just nervously excited right now. I could barely eat my breakfast this morning.

[QUOTE=4yourmalice;51996692]Thanks for the input. In the back of my head I feel good about it all. Just nervously excited right now. I could barely eat my breakfast this morning.[/QUOTE] It sounds like a date gone well in my book. It'd just be patient.

I'm happy because she gave me her number and I gave her mine. I don't know if I should text her today though because she's going to enroll back to college and then she has therapy so she might be too busy

[QUOTE=Crpto2007;51996874]I'm happy because she gave me her number and I gave her mine. I don't know if I should text her today though because she's going to enroll back to college and then she has therapy so she might be too busy[/QUOTE] dont leave it too long!

Do you think I should text her? What if she's busy. I was thinking of texting her tomorrow because she has stuff to do today but I don't want her to think I don't want to talk to her by not texting

[QUOTE=Crpto2007;51996914]Do you think I should text her? What if she's busy. I was thinking of texting her tomorrow because she has stuff to do today but I don't want her to think I don't want to talk to her by not texting[/QUOTE] You're overthinking it. Send her a text whenever, if she's busy she'll reply afterwards.

Got a date tomorrow, got invited to her home for a second date. I'm so hyped right now, she's so cute ^___^

[QUOTE=4yourmalice;51995943]Went for coffee with a girl I met on Tinder last night. We were able to get along pretty well, even though there were a few awkward pauses (two shy people trying to get to know each other) and we spontaneously went for sushi after the coffee as well. When I asked for her number, to set up for a few future date, she said she "doesn't really have a phone, but if you give me your number, that'd be easier to get a hold of you." So I messaged her my number on Tinder. At the end of the date, I dropped her off at her house, and gave her a hug, she kissed my cheek. Is that a good sign? I'm a bundle of emotions right now as to whether I should message her again to set up something or wait for her to get a hold of me with my number. Are there apps that let you message phone numbers when you don't have an actual number yourself?[/QUOTE] How do you use Tinder if you don't have a phone? Last I checked it was strictly a phone app. Does she use somebody else's phone to message you?

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;51997335]How do you use Tinder if you don't have a phone? Last I checked it was strictly a phone app. Does she use somebody else's phone to message you?[/QUOTE] She had a physical phone on her, but I think she meant she's not on an active plan right now.

It's gonna be a romantic cake baking date! *swoons*

[QUOTE=farmatyr;51997709]It's gonna be a romantic cake baking date! *swoons*[/QUOTE] So this: [video=youtube;CXfxUVjHFl0]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CXfxUVjHFl0[/video] Except with cake.

That's exactly how I first imagined it.

[QUOTE=Mr. Sarcastic;51991097]Last night, I felt like my life has been falling down a dark pit. Every time I think I'm about to hit the bottom, I just keep falling further. I'm probably just being melodramatic. What happened?[/QUOTE] Sorry for the late reply. Long story short, The delivery company that sends us our checks.. well, the store ~mysteriously~ caught on fire in multiple trash bins in the place. I havent gotten paid (as well as my co-workers) and no one knows where are checks are. It's been a week now and we get paid bi-weekly. So I have been without cash for basically 3 weeks? Still no word. I called HR and they've got their thumbs up their asses as well.

[QUOTE=farmatyr;51998193]That's exactly how I first imagined it.[/QUOTE] Share the pics of [sp]cake[/sp]

So basically I have always been against marriage, my grandparents have been together since their teens and managed to have kids and an entire life together despite not being married. I think they're married via common law or whatever, but I don't quite consider that the same thing. I thought it was a pretty set in stone ideology since I've watched a lot of marriage outright fucking collapse, including the marriage of my parents, but apparently not. Around a year ago, right when I showed up in WA, I went on a few dates with different girls I met on tinder. Just a week or two after being here, I matched with a woman who was 11 years older than me and across the water in Seattle, I said "fuck it," and decided to ask her out anyways. Took a ferry, met up with her at a Chinese restaurant, aaaaaaand... Now I'm head over heels crazy about this woman. And strangely enough, she feels the same way about me. I guess our jobs and personalities line up perfectly, we both enjoy our alone time and have no problem with engulfing ourselves in work. I went out to sea for a while at one point and she had zero issues with it, if anything I had a harder time dealing with it emotionally. She's a lot more mature than any girl I've ever dealt with before, has no interest in workplace drama, doesn't get spun up over stupid shit, is understanding when I have to tell her work got in the way of our plans again. I keep waiting for the big reveal of the critical flaw, like she's suddenly gonna have a psychotic meltdown or something, but I dunno, it just doesn't seem like it's coming. She's definitely way better a person than someone like myself should ever deserve, so I think I'm entertaining marriage as way of trying to lock it down before she realizes she could do better, haha. I dunno man. It's definitely interesting looking back at who I used to be throughout my years here on FP and in these threads. When people mention shit I used to say, it feels like they're talking about a different person, because in a sense, they actually are. I'm definitely a better person than I used to be, and continuing to get better. I'm not very knowledgeable about picking up girls and shit anymore these days since I'm old and out of practice. All I can say is, just keep trying. You're gonna get shut down again and again and again and again, but never let that voice in the back of your head that says, "just give up, you'll never find it," win. I can't say if I've struck gold yet, for all I know I could fuck it up tomorrow, but I think I'm at least getting close to figuring this whole love thing out forreal, and the only reason why that's the case is because I've taken a stab at it more times than I can count. Just keep moving forward.

Still feeling down about this girl. Had a dream about her last night where I ran into her and her bf at a party. I channeled that emotion into a vocal competition on campus singing "I Can't Begin to Tell You" and I made it onto a team. So hopefully women will notice me now. (Sarcasm) [video=youtube;2Bfh0_Qa1Jo]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Bfh0_Qa1Jo[/video]

dont know if i was being overly pushy with trying to meet up with her, she was busy with something else on both days i asked her and then after that i asked if she wanted to get ice cream friday night it felt a bit aggressive to me but i feel like if i dont make a move ill stay in the same situation i am now if she still cant make it ill probably hold off and decide if its worth trying again

[QUOTE=Blueridge;52000041]dont know if i was being overly pushy with trying to meet up with her, she was busy with something else on both days i asked her and then after that i asked if she wanted to get ice cream friday night it felt a bit aggressive to me but i feel like if i dont make a move ill stay in the same situation i am now if she still cant make it ill probably hold off and decide if its worth trying again[/QUOTE] In my experience, if you ask someone out on a date or whatever and they give an excuse without offering an alternative day, they probably aren't interested. People are busy and can't always be available, but there's a big difference between, "Sorry, I'm busy that day," and, "Sorry, I'm busy that day, but I should be free Friday." If she keeps coming up with reasons not to go, however legitimate, and doesn't seem to offer alternative times, you probably shouldn't keep pushing it.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;52000178]In my experience, if you ask someone out on a date or whatever and they give an excuse without offering an alternative day, they probably aren't interested. People are busy and can't always be available, but there's a big difference between, "Sorry, I'm busy that day," and, "Sorry, I'm busy that day, but I should be free Friday." If she keeps coming up with reasons not to go, however legitimate, and doesn't seem to offer alternative times, you probably shouldn't keep pushing it.[/QUOTE] yeah, i figured as much honestly, the main reason why i want to meet her is to get a definite response to if she interested in me in a romantic sense, or if shed be interested in trying we've met up three times beforehand so at the very least id say we're friends, but i dont know if she wanted to go further than that

[QUOTE=BlackMageMari;51997823]So this: [video=youtube;CXfxUVjHFl0]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CXfxUVjHFl0[/video] Except with cake.[/QUOTE] I'm back, pretty much went down like this. The cake looked awful, tasted great, ended up in bed. I also figured out I'm no longer allergic to cats after rubbing my face in her pussy.

If you only talk to someone once every few weeks, and hang out with them even less, are they your friend?

[QUOTE=NixNax123;52000595]If you only talk to someone once every few weeks, and hang out with them even less, are they your friend?[/QUOTE] I'd consider them acquantances / people I enjoy being around. Friends are people who I see often, exception can be those ive known for years. So yeah, kinda depends on your relationship with em.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;52000599]I have friends who I don't see for months. But when we do finally meet, it is as if we haven't missed a day.[/QUOTE] I don't feel like that for the people I see. They never hit me up and also don't respond to any communication. It's usually only when I see them on the street and say hi, that's when I see them.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;52000595]If you only talk to someone once every few weeks, and hang out with them even less, are they your friend?[/QUOTE] i get what you mean but in my case i think its a bit different considering 1. we've been messaging using a service she doesnt really check often, so its hard to meet up without at least a days notice 2. i commute to school and have a packed schedule that makes it hard to meet up with people 3. her classes are all on the other side of campus while 1. is easily fixable(or not if she doesnt want to message me more than we do now) the rest aren't which plays a big part in why we don't hang out often

[QUOTE=Blueridge;52000683]i get what you mean but in my case i think its a bit different considering 1. we've been messaging using a service she doesnt really check often, so its hard to meet up without at least a days notice 2. i commute to school and have a packed schedule that makes it hard to meet up with people 3. her classes are all on the other side of campus while 1. is easily fixable(or not if she doesnt want to message me more than we do now) the rest aren't which plays a big part in why we don't hang out often[/QUOTE] my post wasn't meant to relate to your situation :v: it was just a weird coincidence i guess. i just felt lonely and wanted to post here

I feel like a crazy person, and probably need to just occupy my mind with something else and chill about it all. It's been not even 48 hours since our date, and I haven't heard from that girl. I feel like I should message her, but should I still hold off for a bit?

[QUOTE=4yourmalice;52000794]I feel like a crazy person, and probably need to just occupy my mind with something else and chill about it all. It's been not even 48 hours since our date, and I haven't heard from that girl. I feel like I should message her, but should I still hold off for a bit?[/QUOTE] was it a good date? set up another. 2 days is fine. was it meh? chill