Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=Crpto2007;52012860]I really have no idea how to ask her if she wants to hang out. I mean I'm sure she would because we have been talking a lot. It just gives me anxiety thinking about asking if she wants to hang out[/QUOTE] "Hey, what are you doing *this day*, wanna hang out?" if yes just suggest activities. Movies, bowling, sports, fairs, parks, food, etc.

[QUOTE=keda009;52012020]How come I can never figure out what to talk about. Then again I guess it's because I feel like it's one sided interest. Probably is.[/QUOTE] I have this same issue in just about every social situation where I'm not talking to a good friend. Never know what the fuck to about or how to keep a conversation going.

I have trouble talking to people I don't know also. I feel like I ask to many questions to get a conversation going

[QUOTE=Crpto2007;52014688]I have trouble talking to people I don't know also. I feel like I ask to many questions to get a conversation going[/QUOTE] Find common interests or the things she likes to talk about. Open ended questions are good too.

I'm getting better at talking to her. It was difficult for the both of us at first though because we're both really shy. I can talk to her for hours now no problem

Meh, got bored of just messing around and asked if she is even interested in talking with me and knowing each other better, basically not reading messages anymore. I get the hit, I am not dense.

Texted her today and didn't get a reply back for 2 hours. I kept thinking I did or said something wrong but it turns out she was just busy. I overthink too much

m8 the girl I've been on a date with and have planned another barely messages me, I don't think we've spoken since we rescheduled our date from last week to this coming week. I'd love to chat to her more, we barely stopped talking before the film started on our first date, and afterwards when I drove her home. I don't want to pester her with loads of messages, so I just leave it. she just doesn't message much as far as I know.

[QUOTE=Crpto2007;52015679]Texted her today and didn't get a reply back for 2 hours. I kept thinking I did or said something wrong but it turns out she was just busy. I overthink too much[/QUOTE] Look man I don't want to sound like a dick but you're overthinking this texting thing way too much. Send her a text, and just go do your thing. Right now it sounds like you've got nothing better to do all day than sit around waiting for her to reply to you. I'm sure you've got soemthing to keep you busy. Maybe videogames or another hobby you have? Me and my girl sometimes won't text for 8 hours, but that doesn't mean we don't love or care about eachother. It means we're both busy with work and school. Those things happen.

So basically I got told that I dont even ask any questions, it's true, though I wont say its absolutely true, I don't know where to draw the line and it feels like a chore, always being on the asking/thinking end

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52015716]Look man I don't want to sound like a dick but you're overthinking this texting thing way too much. Send her a text, and just go do your thing. Right now it sounds like you've got nothing better to do all day than sit around waiting for her to reply to you. I'm sure you've got soemthing to keep you busy. Maybe videogames or another hobby you have? Me and my girl sometimes won't text for 8 hours, but that doesn't mean we don't love or care about eachother. It means we're both busy with work and school. Those things happen.[/QUOTE] I know I can't help it I just have really bad anxiety

[QUOTE=Crpto2007;52015859]I know I can't help it I just have really bad anxiety[/QUOTE] posting about it nonstop doesn't help i mean that in the nicest way possible

You [I]should[/I] honestly stop posting so much here about it, thinking about the smallest stuff leads to overthinking. You sound like you live your life in a state of constant worry maybe get a diary or something if you feel like you need to express your thoughts every day cause tbh nobody here is responding to everything you post

[QUOTE=austin0331;52016201]You [I]should[/I] honestly stop posting so much here about it, thinking about the smallest stuff leads to overthinking. You sound like you live your life in a state of constant worry maybe get a diary or something if you feel like you need to express your thoughts every day cause tbh nobody here is responding to everything you post[/QUOTE] It's okay to post here. That's what this thread is for. Writing down a diary is fine too but whatever feels convenient, just do that. I do think that @Crpto2007 is overthinking too much. Seems like you have too much free time at your hand. And you are handing over the reins of your happiness to someone else. Not a good thing to do. People can change anytime, remember that. And there is nothing that you can do about it.

[QUOTE=Blazyd;51979154]That girl that my texts weren't delivering to just got a new phone so that's why they weren't delivering. We got in contact with eachother again. So we hung out last night for the first time and ordered in pizza at her house and just chilled and it was really fun. After we ate she kept on wanting me to ask her super personal questions. She was like "ask me anything you want. what secrets do you want to know about me?" and I was like "idk, why don't you ask me first?" and so she started asking me questions about other girls I've been with and we started talking about sex and our past relations w other people. The night was fun except there was one problem: I was pretty sick. Like coughing bad and everything. I get the feeling she likes me because she's been really eager to hang out with me and was asking me those personal questions so I think that if I wasn't sick we might have ended up hooking up or doing something maybe? and her saying things like "why are all the guys from <the city I live in> so hot". I got the vibe she's down to do shit with me but because I was sick we didn't end up doing anything. I'm home on spring break right now and I fly back to school tomorrow so I won't be able to see her again till early May but she said she wants to hang out again when I come back. Both our birthdays are in May and hers is the day right after mine so we're gonna plan to go out for our collective bdays. At least I have this to look forward to now![/QUOTE] For some reason I'm having second thoughts about this girl. Like I find her attractive and everything, and I'm pretty sure she likes me, but I'm suddenly getting bad thoughts about her now. She's had sex with a bunch of my friends and I think she wants me next but honestly I'm not sure I want her. I'm just suddenly getting a bad vide from her. She's been texting me a lot and we're still supposed to hang out when I come home for the summer. What do I do if we hang out and she wants to do something and I don't? I know it's not often a guy doesn't want to bang a hot girl, but I'm just not really feeling it anymore.

[QUOTE=Blazyd;52016330]For some reason I'm having second thoughts about this girl. Like I find her attractive and everything, and I'm pretty sure she likes me, but I'm suddenly getting bad thoughts about her now. She's had sex with a bunch of my friends and I think she wants me next but honestly I'm not sure I want her. I'm just suddenly getting a bad vide from her. She's been texting me a lot and we're still supposed to hang out when I come home for the summer. What do I do if we hang out and she wants to do something and I don't? I know it's not often a guy doesn't want to bang a hot girl, but I'm just not really feeling it anymore.[/QUOTE] If you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it. It's ok man.

Ok well she just texted me and just straight up asked me "can we fuck" I replied basically saying that we'll keep our plans to hang out when I come home and we'll just see what happens. I didn't really know what else to say.

[QUOTE=Blazyd;52016881]Ok well she just texted me and just straight up asked me "can we fuck" I replied basically saying that we'll keep our plans to hang out when I come home and we'll just see what happens. I didn't really know what else to say.[/QUOTE] "I'm sorry I just don't see you that way, and it's not something I want. Nothing personal against you". But yea that's also good.

I haven't posted in this thread in quite some time. Since I'm going to be expending more than a couple of years in a country which language I don't speak, I have no idea where to go to meet people to date, not that I even knew where to go back in my country. I have tried Tinder and Okcupid to no avail, and I don't know what to do to meet someone. I know you guys always say that you have to wait and eventually someone will come around,but in most cases like mine that doesn't end up happening. So yeah, where can I go? Even if I wen't to clubs or bars, I have no idea if I will meet someone who speaks english, and it's not like I even enjoy those places.

[QUOTE=Ctrl;52016932]I haven't posted in this thread in quite some time. Since I'm going to be expending more than a couple of years in a country which language I don't speak, I have no idea where to go to meet people to date, not that I even knew where to go back in my country. I have tried Tinder and Okcupid to no avail, and I don't know what to do to meet someone. I know you guys always say that you have to wait and eventually someone will come around,but in most cases like mine that doesn't end up happening. So yeah, where can I go? Even if I wen't to clubs or bars, I have no idea if I will meet someone who speaks english, and it's not like I even enjoy those places.[/QUOTE] Unfortunately bars/clubs are your best bet. Or take up a community type activity. Take up a team sport, or martial art, or idk painting or some studio stuff or art? Anything that involves people and groups and through mingling you'll make some friends and meet new people.

[QUOTE=The Rifleman;52017032]Unfortunately bars/clubs are your best bet. Or take up a community type activity. Take up a team sport, or martial art, or idk painting or some studio stuff or art? Anything that involves people and groups and through mingling you'll make some friends and meet new people.[/QUOTE] I don't have the cash for it and I have no idea where to find those activities.

[QUOTE=Ctrl;52017041]I don't have the cash for it and I have no idea where to find those activities.[/QUOTE] Google, local websites, flyers, ask people in your building where you live? Ask around at work? The internet is a mighty big place there's gotta be something you can find to do in your city.

[QUOTE=Ctrl;52016932] I have tried Tinder and Okcupid to no avail, and I don't know what to do to meet someone. I know you guys always say that you have to wait and eventually someone will come around,but in most cases like mine that doesn't end up happening.[/QUOTE] Someone recommended I try this dating app called "Coffee and Bagel" to find dates, though I haven't done anything with it yet. I find it helpful to remind myself that there's nothing wrong with living alone and unwanted for the rest of my life because that's how most people end up in the end anyway. I'm just skipping the middleman. (I'm being sarcastic)...partially.

[QUOTE=Mr. Sarcastic;52017735]Someone recommended I try this dating app called "Coffee and Bagel" to find dates, though I haven't done anything with it yet. I find it helpful to remind myself that there's nothing wrong with living alone and unwanted for the rest of my life because that's how most people end up in the end anyway. I'm just skipping the middleman. (I'm being sarcastic)...partially.[/QUOTE] No harm in trying - personally Ive seen a lot more success with an app called Hinge, which, it seems, uses your facebook connections who are friends of friends of friends who could be a good match. Im pretty much on all of them and it keeps me having something to do on the weekends with fun and interesting people. Other days Im just a wage slave, doing what I do.

Have to go to police station tonight to give statement of accident when I got ran over by a car. The problem is - I don't remember shit from that evening, literally blank and I am afraid if I say I don't remember anything - they will put blame on me and make me pay for damages to drivers car. Trying to have flashbacks but there are none.

[QUOTE=arleitiss;52018203]Have to go to police station tonight to give statement of accident when I got ran over by a car. The problem is - I don't remember shit from that evening, literally blank and I am afraid if I say I don't remember anything - they will put blame on me and make me pay for damages to drivers car. Trying to have flashbacks but there are none.[/QUOTE] As long as you have medical documentation confirming your doctors assertion that you have no memory of the event as a result of injuries sustained from the accident, I dont think anyone would actually try to make you pay for damages, as long as you had legal right of way when it occurred. Be honest, dont make shit up or try to force it. It will only harm you and someone else (the driver in this case) if you try to do something.

Damn, six dates this month. Went on a date yesterday and one today, nailed down my game now.

[QUOTE=farmatyr;52018655]Damn, six dates this month. Went on a date yesterday and one today, nailed down my game now.[/QUOTE] Dont jinx it, you twit. :v: I've had famine or flood situations in my dating life recently. Its either back to back dates for weeks on end or no action for months at a time. Shit is weird but I couldn't care less because I have other things to do, money to save. :v:

[QUOTE=farmatyr;52018655]Damn, six dates this month. Went on a date yesterday and one today, nailed down my game now.[/QUOTE] What do you do to get dates?

You have nothing to lose by asking people out