Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

Got an interview with Orbital ATK on work on their Antares rocket this summer in Wallops! Damn this is huge news and a big pick up. Things are looking really good this week haha. I needed that. Just gotta find me a woman now.

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;52023791]Good photos are more important than the description. I wrote stuff like "I'm an up and coming cult leader" in mine and 1/100 girls said anything about it. For a while I had nothing in there and still had tons of matches cause I had high quality photos that clearly showed what I look like, and several of me doing interesting activities[/QUOTE] Second this. For reference, a good set of standard photos is: a) Face pic b) Picture showing your full body c) Picture of you hanging with friends d) Picture of you doing something fun or interesting to create a talking point e) (Optional, but recommended) If you have a pet, picture of you with pet. I personally do not like doing this, but when your cat has this: [t]http://i.imgur.com/Pz7Vq4V.jpg[/t] You take it for all the mileage its worth. Avoid shirtless pictures unless they are in context (pool party, beach, etc.) That is about it, really. Also, make use of the text description to really sell yourself and, if you know all the Tinder cliche shit, avoid them and write something nice.

Whoever made that app that allows you to add animal parts to your pictures needs to be crucified.

[QUOTE=elevate;52026711]Whoever made that app that allows you to add animal parts to your pictures needs to be crucified.[/QUOTE] snapchat is great

I started tindering a few days ago and got a few matches. One of them barely spoke english so nothing happened, another one unmatched me before I could even message her. Another one I super-liked and she liked me back, so I messaged her yesterday and haven't gotten a response back yet :(

Here to share a story. Funny how for 2 years I visited this thread sometimes and thought "oh thank god I am okay with my girlfriend". My first university relationship. Oh the shit and the good times I went through. I learned cooking beside her, I learned how to play the guitar better with her around, I finished almost all exams, I got selected in a cast as a passerby (not bad for a translation student) because she told me 1000 times to go and we went together. So many things we did together and shared in 1 house. But as time passed by a yacht captain told me to go with him with good salary to join his crew. She suffered every day when she learned about it. Even though she didn't show it at all! The shit she and I went through for each is immense and intense just to hold on tight. After I stopped having hope that it would last after a 1 year contract on a boat she did too , even though she was the one holding tight and going through shit while I was chill and happy about the job. we broke up after she kissed another man one day drunk. I told to gtfo of my house. Funny how the relationships mostly never end well. I always thought of a romantic ending to it. I called her trash , a whore and oh shit did I mean it. I was selfish because I didn't end it sooner, now there is a lot of pain. Damn 2 years is a lot. After 2 damn years it just ended in an afternoon. I understand what she did and why , Hell I might even had done the same. Guys lets try to see our mistakes too and improve as much as we can. Thats the god damn reason we go through a shit ton of pain, this whole suffering on the inside shouldn't be for nothing.

Is it wrong of me to find motivation from someone I am starting to like to get fit? I met her while she was working, went for coffee (which went really well) and have been crushing on her hard. Recently, shes been posting on her Facebook about her progress about getting fit, and I don't want to be left behind as that fat guy. I got depressed from my last relationships and gained about 80 pounds, i'm about 280 right now. Just restarting Keto, and I'm probably gonna grab a rec center pass. Fuck, even if I don't ever get a chance to be with her, i'll be Day[9] POWERHOT.

[QUOTE=Blazyd;52027939]I started tindering a few days ago and got a few matches. One of them barely spoke english so nothing happened, another one unmatched me before I could even message her. Another one I super-liked and she liked me back, so I messaged her yesterday and haven't gotten a response back yet :([/QUOTE] Last night I got a match that was trying to scam 5 bucks out of me. Profile said "Venmo me $5 and see what happens". Knowing it was a scam I asked for hints as to what I was going to get in return that sorta thing. She basically kept saying "you'll have to see" or "yes, you will get something for that 5 dollars". Some people have fallen for it too which is scary.

[QUOTE=BackSapper;52027985]Is it wrong of me to find motivation from someone I am starting to like to get fit? I met her while she was working, went for coffee (which went really well) and have been crushing on her hard. Recently, shes been posting on her Facebook about her progress about getting fit, and I don't want to be left behind as that fat guy. I got depressed from my last relationships and gained about 80 pounds, i'm about 280 right now. Just restarting Keto, and I'm probably gonna grab a rec center pass. Fuck, even if I don't ever get a chance to be with her, i'll be Day[9] POWERHOT.[/QUOTE] Not at all man. Girls are the best motivators to lift and improve yourself, works for me.

[QUOTE=Blazyd;52027939]I started tindering a few days ago and got a few matches. One of them barely spoke english so nothing happened, another one unmatched me before I could even message her. Another one I super-liked and she liked me back, so I messaged her yesterday and haven't gotten a response back yet :([/QUOTE] Numbers game. It gets better. [editline]29th March 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=The Rifleman;52028067]Not at all man. Girls are the best motivators to lift and improve yourself, works for me.[/QUOTE] That can only take you so far. Talent fails, motivations come and go. Discipline should be there if you want to achieve something and not wish to have a long grueling setback.

[QUOTE=bdd458;52027992]Last night I got a match that was trying to scam 5 bucks out of me. Profile said "Venmo me $5 and see what happens". Knowing it was a scam I asked for hints as to what I was going to get in return that sorta thing. She basically kept saying "you'll have to see" or "yes, you will get something for that 5 dollars". Some people have fallen for it too which is scary.[/QUOTE] I heard about that scam so now I always swipe left on everyone who says that in their bio regardless of whether I find them attractive or not what are people even expecting to get in return? nudes? from a girl you've never met? Why spend $5 on that when you can just get that for free on google lol

[QUOTE=Blazyd;52027939]I started tindering a few days ago and got a few matches. One of them barely spoke english so nothing happened, another one unmatched me before I could even message her. Another one I super-liked and she liked me back, so I messaged her yesterday and haven't gotten a response back yet :([/QUOTE] It's kinda fun if you don't allow yourself to get to attached to the game. For some, they just like collecting "mutual" likes for bragging rights. I've seen a few people who do this, only to never talk to most of them. Don't worry about the no response - that happens a lot,too. As long as you said something engaging and interesting, you're golden - some of my lady colleagues at work have shown me what tinder is like for them and I gotta say, it's like a glut of choice for them. Like, every second right swipe for them would be a successful match. So yeah, don't let your entire dating plan to find someone new hinge (speaking of, Hinge is a great dating app too) on Tinder; it's very fickle.

[QUOTE=Blazyd;52028382]I heard about that scam so now I always swipe left on everyone who says that in their bio regardless of whether I find them attractive or not what are people even expecting to get in return? nudes? from a girl you've never met? Why spend $5 on that when you can just get that for free on google lol[/QUOTE] I have no clue tbh, my best guess would be the thrill of getting nudes from someone else and not just googling. As the old adage goes "Think with your brain not your dick". but tbh I probably swiped right on her myself a while back without thinking, since it was her that liked me last night lmao.

[QUOTE=BackSapper;52027985]Is it wrong of me to find motivation from someone I am starting to like to get fit? I met her while she was working, went for coffee (which went really well) and have been crushing on her hard. Recently, shes been posting on her Facebook about her progress about getting fit, and I don't want to be left behind as that fat guy. I got depressed from my last relationships and gained about 80 pounds, i'm about 280 right now. Just restarting Keto, and I'm probably gonna grab a rec center pass. Fuck, even if I don't ever get a chance to be with her, i'll be Day[9] POWERHOT.[/QUOTE] I wouldn't recommend getting into gym just to impress that one girl. If she ends up not being into you or she ends up having the hots for another guy all motivation goes down the drain, And without that motivation you can't possibly have a good workout routine. Exercise for your body and healths sake. Don't do it for the sake of others.

[QUOTE=Rozelsky;51950259]Hey guys, I need help. And desperately. I have a girlfriend (Going 6 months now) and it's been going.. alright, I guess. When we got together she immediately told me she is a difficult girlfriend, I was like "that's what all girls say, so whatever", but it's true. Let me start with the beginning. After we got together she told me she was into DDLG, not knowing what it was I kinda just rolled with it and now I'm stuck as a "Daddy" in this relationship, which is alright by me, because I get to be the boss, which I prefer anyway, except for the super clingy stuff. She also told me straight away she was diagnosed with borderline, a mental illness which is really, really difficult to describe. Now you know these 2 things, let's get to the story. So we started dating 6 months ago, things were going great. She told me she was into DDLG and I just rolled with it, until she came up with a lot of stuffies, basically robbing me from all my money (50 bucks+ each month) that I have left after paying everything I have to pay. (insurances etc.) I, of course, don't like it, but it makes her happy. After I realized this , it kinda made me sad. Every morning I woke up with the feeling "I don't have any money..". I also realized that after a month, she gets kinda grumpy again, and when I give her a new gift, she's all happy again, for a month. So that's that. 2nd thing: She takes up a lot of my time. Like, a lot. I am in class with her, so basically I see her at school, and I spend every moment with her. I can't spend any time with friends because I normally sit next to her. It's alright, but right now, I'd like to spend more time with my friends. So fast forward to about a week ago. I tell her I wanna be less clingy in class, and sit separate a little bit more often, so we can both work on friendships with other people. She freaks out, saying "am I not good enough?" and that kinda stuff. I kinda predicted this already, because she's very clingy and needy. But she also threatened to kill herself because of that. That is what freaked me out. Since then I've woken up and immediately thought "Well, the day really starts when I text my girlfriend. Then things will get tough". I don't like the fact that I have to text her. I like the quietness. But I love it when she's around me, we have fun. I talked to an online buddy of mine, which I play Rust with, and he said "I'm telling you this because you're a good kid, get out of that relationship, as quick as possible, it'll affect your mental health, it's not good." This is what confused me about my relationship. I love my girlfriend, but I also don't want to fuck up my mental health because of this. I just want to know you guys your opinion on this. What should I do? I feel like i'm stuck in this relationship and I don't want this anymore, but I also love her a lot, don't want to hurt her, and when she's around me, it's all fun. TL:DR: I think my girlfriend is mentally abusing me and I don't know what to do.[/QUOTE] Hey guys. Good news I decided to part ways with my (now) ex-girlfriend. We're still in the same class but we'll see how that goes. I decided earlier to try to break up (2 weeks ago) and she ended up calling my mom to say what I did. We ended up getting together again but I kept being unhappy. Finally decided to break up. I explained to my mom what happened and she understood. She thought it sucked about how she won't see her anymore, because my mom thought she was nice, but she was sure someone else would be nice as well. I feel a bit weird. I mean, I'm happy I broke up with her, and I feel free, but I feel like I should feel something else because she is crying as hell right now at home, and I'm just here, playing games and not feeling anything sad. I feel like I should be feeling sad as well. Is this normal? TL:DR: broke up with my mentally abusive girlfriend. yay for me. Edit: thank you guys for being there for me by the way. Your advice helped me see clearly that this kind of relationship was not normal. Thank you face punch! Mass amount of love to all you guys.

[QUOTE=Blazyd;52027939]I started tindering a few days ago and got a few matches. One of them barely spoke english so nothing happened, another one unmatched me before I could even message her. Another one I super-liked and she liked me back, so I messaged her yesterday and haven't gotten a response back yet :([/QUOTE] I'd say a good deal is just doing it for the affirmation, don't worry about it dude.

[QUOTE=Rozelsky;52028454]Hey guys. Good news I decided to part ways with my (now) ex-girlfriend. We're still in the same class but we'll see how that goes. I decided earlier to try to break up (2 weeks ago) and she ended up calling my mom to say what I did. We ended up getting together again but I kept being unhappy. Finally decided to break up. I explained to my mom what happened and she understood. She thought it sucked about how she won't see her anymore, because my mom thought she was nice, but she was sure someone else would be nice as well. I feel a bit weird. I mean, I'm happy I broke up with her, and I feel free, but I feel like I should feel something else because she is crying as hell right now at home, and I'm just here, playing games and not feeling anything sad. I feel like I should be feeling sad as well. Is this normal? TL:DR: broke up with my mentally abusive girlfriend. yay for me. Edit: thank you guys for being there for me by the way. Your advice helped me see clearly that this kind of relationship was not normal. Thank you face punch! Mass amount of love to all you guys.[/QUOTE] You did the right thing man. Don't worry or think about her or how she's feeling right now it'll pass. Focus on you and your newfound freedom!

well this is what my tinder looks like all the time now, just the usual for where I live [t]http://i68.tinypic.com/30kpqc8.jpg[/t]

[QUOTE=bdd458;52027992]Last night I got a match that was trying to scam 5 bucks out of me. Profile said "Venmo me $5 and see what happens". Knowing it was a scam I asked for hints as to what I was going to get in return that sorta thing. She basically kept saying "you'll have to see" or "yes, you will get something for that 5 dollars". Some people have fallen for it too which is scary.[/QUOTE] the original $5 [media]https://twitter.com/maggiearch3r/status/844654772011589633[/media]

So, about two weeks ago now I found myself talking to some girl from Texas. That Sunday, she said she will be living where I live for the summer, with her grandmother that lives there at the moment. She really wants to see me, and we both promised to go on a date to my favourite Italian restaurant which is not too far from where I live. That night she asked me out and I said yes (I was like really happy but I couldn't say much). It was going really well until Thursday when she told me she didn't know what to do, she told me her dad was annoyed that her grades were bad in school and she couldn't have a relationship because of it so she had to dump me. Then the next day, she had her phone taken from her for about 6 hours before she came back messaging me. She told me she got cancer but didn't say anything that brief about it, which brings me onto the next part. This weekend was very quiet for both of us and she didn't talk much on Sunday (leaving me on seen, which isn't like her as she usually responds whenever she can). I've began to feel really sceptical and I asked my sister about it all and she said this girl doesn't sound very truthful, then I asked some of my other family members and I feel like they're on the same line. This girl has always seemed to be interested in me, she treats me like gold and she's always really bright most of the time. She hasn't been on for over two days as it turned out her phone got confiscated from her again but I feel like she's hiding something from me. Tldr; Met a girl in Texas, she's moving to Bristol for the summer with her grandmother, planned a date at Italian restaurant, the she asked me out on call. She broke up 4 days as her dad won't let her be in a relationship due to bad school grades, her phone gets confiscated next day, she returns and tells she has cancer (nothing brief), quiet weekend. Weekend passes, ask my family about situation, sister doesn't think she's completely truthful and now I feel like she may be hiding something from me. I'm sorry that this is long but I've barely brought anything up about this in the past, I'm not entirely sure what to do.

[QUOTE=TheCrazyGoD;52029148]So, about two weeks ago now I found myself talking to some girl from Texas. That Sunday, she said she will be living where I live for the summer, with her grandmother that lives there at the moment. She really wants to see me, and we both promised to go on a date to my favourite Italian restaurant which is not too far from where I live. That night she asked me out and I said yes (I was like really happy but I couldn't say much). It was going really well until Thursday when she told me she didn't know what to do, she told me her dad was annoyed that her grades were bad in school and she couldn't have a relationship because of it so she had to dump me. Then the next day, she had her phone taken from her for about 6 hours before she came back messaging me. She told me she got cancer but didn't say anything that brief about it, which brings me onto the next part. This weekend was very quiet for both of us and she didn't talk much on Sunday (leaving me on seen, which isn't like her as she usually responds whenever she can). I've began to feel really sceptical and I asked my sister about it all and she said this girl doesn't sound very truthful, then I asked some of my other family members and I feel like they're on the same line. This girl has always seemed to be interested in me, she treats me like gold and she's always really bright most of the time. She hasn't been on for over two days as it turned out her phone got confiscated from her again but I feel like she's hiding something from me. Tldr; Met a girl in Texas, she's moving to Bristol for the summer with her grandmother, planned a date at Italian restaurant, the she asked me out on call. She broke up 4 days as her dad won't let her be in a relationship due to bad school grades, her phone gets confiscated next day, she returns and tells she has cancer (nothing brief), quiet weekend. Weekend passes, ask my family about situation, sister doesn't think she's completely truthful and now I feel like she may be hiding something from me. I'm sorry that this is long but I've barely brought anything up about this in the past, I'm not entirely sure what to do.[/QUOTE] Extremely shady people from overseas are a no go man. You don't know who you are dealing with, what her issues are, or what's going on cause she's clearly hiding it. I think you already know that much from what you wrote out. I wouldn't pursue it any further and just tell her you're done and goodluck.

Meh, finally got out of the loop of me being dump-ass and got bored of it. Now I just have to keep it that way, focus on myself again, because hey, why should I keep letting myself down for no chance of gains.

So I'm meeting up with this girl this week, but I'm not sure what's going on. I think we're just gonna go spend money and grab a bite and that's it, but I think she might have other ideas. Its not like I haven't hung out with her before, but it was with other people, and its just us. And I think I'm going nuts and probably making a mountain out of a molehill.

I saw this girl when I was doing a research survey for extra credit. Tall, dark wavy hair, cute glasses. Similar to the friend I've been crushing on. I never saw her before and I thought about talking with her about the survey before transitioning into a real conversation and then asking her to get coffee/whatever. But it felt super awkward since I don't know her, plus she left quickly while I was trying to grab my book bag and laptop. I saw her texting someone and I figured she was probably texting a boyfriend and we went our separate ways. Did I make the right call?

[QUOTE=Mr. Sarcastic;52029956] Did I make the right call?[/QUOTE] Don't overthink or over-analyze stuff.

I have a question... Say you were hanging out with some friends and there was one girl you didn't know that you got interested in. You asked her over facebook to have a coffee, you guys had a coffee and it was great. Would it be weird or wrong to have sex with someone during this time between you guys having coffee and you guys meeting again for cofee or whatever? I've been curious about this today. My personal experience only reaches as far as "you guys had a coffee and it was great", so I'm just wondering?

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;52030102]No, it isn't Facebook official.[/QUOTE] I'm sorry, what?

[QUOTE=MrJazzy;52030096]I have a question... Say you were hanging out with some friends and there was one girl you didn't know that you got interested in. You asked her over facebook to have a coffee, you guys had a coffee and it was great. Would it be weird or wrong to have sex with someone during this time between you guys having coffee and you guys meeting again for cofee or whatever? I've been curious about this today. My personal experience only reaches as far as "you guys had a coffee and it was great", so I'm just wondering?[/QUOTE] It completely depends on how you feel about it. Some people are ok with it others arent. For me personally it isn't my thing to double dip. Just ask yourself if you'll feel guilty after sex or if you see the girl again it'll bother you that you had someone in between, or if she's the type of person to possibly be bothered by it. [editline]30th March 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=MrJazzy;52030120]I'm sorry, what?[/QUOTE] Facebook official is like a joke term for "It isn't real(relationship/commitment) till you two are public on facebook about it"

[QUOTE=The Rifleman;52030152]It completely depends on how you feel about it. Some people are ok with it others arent. For me personally it isn't my thing to double dip. Just ask yourself if you'll feel guilty after sex or if you see the girl again it'll bother you that you had someone in between, or if she's the type of person to possibly be bothered by it. [editline]30th March 2017[/editline] Facebook official is like a joke term for "It isn't real(relationship/commitment) till you two are public on facebook about it"[/QUOTE] Thank you, you both put it in a way that I can relate to aswell as helped explained the joke to me. I think being who I am and all, I just wouldn't feel right about having sex with someone when I'm into someone else, even if it's all "in my mind" or whatever as in there's no relationship or anything. She's cool and all and for the moment that's what I'm looking for!

I don't know if it's this way everywhere, but out of all the people I know, making their relationship "Facebook official" is about as big a step as getting engaged. Nobody does it unless they've been dating for YEARS, and then the comments on the status are full of people going "bout time"