Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

guys, how the fuck do I get rid of acne? I've tried fucking everything but I still look like the fucking moon

[QUOTE=windows098;52030374]guys, how the fuck do I get rid of acne? I've tried fucking everything but I still look like the fucking moon[/QUOTE] If you drink soda, start with cutting that out. Hydrate a lot with water and a healthy diet goes a long way.

[QUOTE=windows098;52030374]guys, how the fuck do I get rid of acne? I've tried fucking everything but I still look like the fucking moon[/QUOTE] Like rifleman said, water and lots of it. Also, change out your pillowcases or lay a towel down on them and change that daily. Wash your face with water and facial cleanser that doesn't have something that will dry it out and you should be golden. Also, exercising surprisingly helps a lot with clearing up your complexion as well.

Use moisturizer! Experiment with face masks too. Those can do some good wonders for skin sometimes.

Also just get used to it - acne sucks but it's a thing and it doesnt ruin your qualities as a person.

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;52030800]Practice good hygiene, moisturize, avoid causing scars. [/QUOTE] Agreed...no poking! [QUOTE]Drink water, don't eat junk, workout.[/QUOTE] That makes sense - hydration is critical and excess oily foods can really fuck with your skin. [QUOTE]Rub semen on your face[/QUOTE] :wideeye:

if it's cystic acne none of the bullshit about "change your diet, change your sheets" works go to a doctor and get accutane i can confirm it's literally magic

Asked this girl I hardly know out to lunch at a new restaurant in town I was jonesing to try out anyways. I've got a pretty good feeling she'll dip on me (she did say yes when I asked) so cross your fingers for this lurker it goes well.

[QUOTE=KommradKommisar;52031023]Asked this girl I hardly know out to lunch at a new restaurant in town I was jonesing to try out anyways. I've got a pretty good feeling she'll dip on me (she did say yes when I asked) so cross your fingers for this lurker it goes well.[/QUOTE] Good luck, man! Could just be me, but if its a place I really look forward to going to for personal reasons, I prefer to do it with friends first and scoping it out before going in blind and planning a date. Experience comes from one time I had a date where we went to this really fancy new kebab place. Terrible idea, terrible restaurant and horrible service and, as a bonus round of "snookypookums vs. his love life" we both ended up getting a bad case of food poisoning after, which sorta...[I]tainted[/I] the relationship, somewhat. :v: Nothing says “I had a wonderful time and hope to see you again” quite like being curled up in a corner of the bathroom all night praying for sweet merciful death.

[QUOTE=LordCrypto;52030988]if it's cystic acne none of the bullshit about "change your diet, change your sheets" works go to a doctor and get accutane i can confirm it's literally magic[/QUOTE] might have worked fine for you but that stuff is really hit or miss and comes with a laundry list of potential side effects (lots of people report depression for example). no need to dismiss other methods so swiftly as there is chemistry to back some of them up. I've tried habit stuff for acne and I've also tried medicine—antibiotic pills plus a prescription cream. The pills actually worked fairly well but unfortunately only work as long as you take them (and you don't want to take antibiotics for too long). I've dealt with acne for the better part of a decade and continue to presently, although the overall trend has been towards less acne, especially in the last couple of years. I ultimately attribute that to hormonal changes (or whatever it is that causes one to naturally lose their acne).

There's a girl that I quite like, she's had similar experiences as me (Anxiety, Depression etc), similar sense of humour (Sarcasm is the best humour, ever) and just generally have a laugh, but I only see/speak to her once a week (for roughly 5-6 hours) and I'm finding I'm going back to conversation we had weeks ago and overanalysing them, I'm really worried about losing her as a friend, but I'm worried that if I ask her out she'll push me away, but if I wait too long she'll move on (If that makes sense). To make clear, I'm not just trying to be her friend just to go out with her, I genuinely enjoy spending time with her (As a friend), does that make me a bad person? I'm sort of stuck as to what to do. [editline]30th March 2017[/editline] I've seen her pretty much every Friday for 1/2-3/4 of a year, if that matters at all.

[QUOTE=Redcoat893;52031846]There's a girl that I quite like, she's had similar experiences as me (Anxiety, Depression etc), similar sense of humour (Sarcasm is the best humour, ever) and just generally have a laugh, but I only see/speak to her once a week (for roughly 5-6 hours) and I'm finding I'm going back to conversation we had weeks ago and overanalysing them, I'm really worried about losing her as a friend, but I'm worried that if I ask her out she'll push me away, but if I wait too long she'll move on (If that makes sense). To make clear, I'm not just trying to be her friend just to go out with her, I genuinely enjoy spending time with her (As a friend), does that make me a bad person? I'm sort of stuck as to what to do. [editline]30th March 2017[/editline] I've seen her pretty much every Friday for 1/2-3/4 of a year, if that matters at all.[/QUOTE] If your social schedule allows for it, ask if you could see her on a day not Friday and see how she reacts. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take and there are the things the two of you can do that can still be all friend-like, if that's your worry.

[QUOTE=snookypookums;52031108]Good luck, man! Could just be me, but if its a place I really look forward to going to for personal reasons, I prefer to do it with friends first and scoping it out before going in blind and planning a date. Experience comes from one time I had a date where we went to this really fancy new kebab place. Terrible idea, terrible restaurant and horrible service and, as a bonus round of "snookypookums vs. his love life" we both ended up getting a bad case of food poisoning after, which sorta...[I]tainted[/I] the relationship, somewhat. :v: Nothing says “I had a wonderful time and hope to see you again” quite like being curled up in a corner of the bathroom all night praying for sweet merciful death.[/QUOTE] I've had an experience like that once before! I was the only one with it coming out both ends though. I've got some experience with this restaurant and their food previously though. This could be a kebab sort of place, I believe the official schtick is its Mediterranean and Middle Eastern cuisine. They used to operate out of a food truck but got popular enough for a casual sit down place.

[QUOTE=danjee;52031131]might have worked fine for you but that stuff is really hit or miss and comes with a laundry list of potential side effects (lots of people report depression for example). no need to dismiss other methods so swiftly as there is chemistry to back some of them up. I've tried habit stuff for acne and I've also tried medicine—antibiotic pills plus a prescription cream. The pills actually worked fairly well but unfortunately only work as long as you take them (and you don't want to take antibiotics for too long). I've dealt with acne for the better part of a decade and continue to presently, although the overall trend has been towards less acne, especially in the last couple of years. I ultimately attribute that to hormonal changes (or whatever it is that causes one to naturally lose their acne).[/QUOTE] you know that there's a difference between regular acne and cystic acne, right? i wouldn't wish cystic acne on anyone

[QUOTE=LordCrypto;52032318]you know that there's a difference between regular acne and cystic acne, right? i wouldn't wish cystic acne on anyone[/QUOTE] I don't and appear to have overlooked that detail sorry

once it gets to the point of there being cystic acne, dermatologists basically say "either you deal with it or you go on accutane" i'll never break out again which is nice, the downside is my back looks like a burn victim's

New date this weekend that I'm really excited about. We share alot of interests, she's really direct, honest and full of energy. Can't wait!

well the girl I saw a few weeks ago and planned a second date with has cancelled on me twice now, I'm not planning to reschedule again.

so my girlfriend of a year broke up with me a few days ago i never saw it coming, we had plans to hang out that night and we were talking about what we wanted to eat and then when she got off work she said we should have a serious talk and that was it. i've never been broken up with before like this and i just shut down, i couldn't even cry about it until a few hours later i feel like i've fucked it all up, there were no warning signs but the main reasoning is because she feels like we've lost the spark between us. we've been seeing each other basically every single night for the past two months, i can understand where she's coming from but i would have been a-okay with lessening that. she never made it seemed like she had a problem. and also she says i'm not very good at being in control of the relationship (i'm a passive person but it's not like i wouldn't have done my best to be as assertive as possible if i had known it was this serious) it makes it even harder because of the fact that the only times we ever really talked about the issues that she felt was when we had arguments, and the only times we ever had arguments were when we were drunk in the middle of the night. we never sat down and actually talked about it and talked it out with ways to fix it that both sides would be happy with. and i've racked my brain as much as possible in these few days to try and remember those drunken conversations and unless i have worse memory than i think we've only talked about the issue of her wanting me to be less passive once like a month and a half ago. i want to make things better, i want to be able to show her that i'm willing to actually change and fix this. she says she's scared, she thinks that i won't change and that i'll end up hurting her. she wouldn't even talk to me about her emotions when she was breaking up with me, and i desperately tried to get her to. i'm not surprised though, because she's almost as bad as talking about her emotions as i am, she shuts down when she's in a tough spot and i'm almost 100% sure that's what happened. i've been giving her space, i haven't talked to her past the initial aftermath where i told her i don't hate her, i'll be here for her etc. but i don't know what to do. i don't want to just let this go so easily. i legitimately thought our relationship had been getting better and she seemed like she was getting happier these past few months and i had no idea she had been at this point this whole time. i feel like a big idiot who didn't know as much about his own relationship as he thought he did from a lot of what she says, she makes it seem like she still has feelings and doesn't want it to end but doesn't think there's an alternative. i want to talk to her in a few days and not argue and just try to get her to talk about it and show that i'm willing to change and that i want to do this, not just for her but for myself (because trust me it sucks for me too). but i have awful anxiety and i can't shake the feeling (not fact oops) that it's just 100% over and she's already moved on even though i know that's not true. i'm worried that if i talk to her i'll just get the same response and look like a desperate idiot. i've never been good at expressing my emotions especially in intimate situations and i feel like that's just another reason why i'm even in this situation to begin with. what do fp what do

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;52033094]I wouldn't either, man. No sense putting up with flaky people.[/QUOTE] it's a shame, she was pretty cool and we hit it off on the first date, I was excited to see her again. but its okay, beer and pizza never cancel on me. and I can get regular sex with a friend with benefits anyway lel

The girl I like asked if I wanted to go to a concert that we have been talking about. I was thinking of asking her if she wanted to go but she asked first. It's coming up on may 23rd I'm looking forward to it

[QUOTE=Dysentery;52033446] what do fp what do[/QUOTE] I'm really sorry man, shit must really suck! My 2 cents are however these: You shouldn't change because of another person. You should really only change yourself for your own sake. They might seem synonymous at the moment but really there's a big difference changing beacuse you think a person would want you more like that than to change because you want to be more open and that's generally what people like. You have to do it for yourself first. So it's better it happened now than later because she was obviously not on the same wavelength as you are and it was bound to hit you sooner or later. Some things you can obviously work on but you can't really "work" on entire personality traits. Obv it's not fair of her not wanting to talk to you about it, you have to meet halfway in a relationship. But that might be her personality, as you say, and she might not feel comfortable that you're the only one changing to make the relationship work because she either feel that it won't work or that she just isn't willing to go through this much work. I don't know any of you, but just from reading what you've written it seems that you are not seeing the relationship in the same way. You seem to value it a lot more than she did to be frank, because of the way you seemed to talk to her and that might have discouraged her. Again, don't know anyone of you, just guessing. My advice for you is this: Ask if she wants to see you again. Meet her and talk to her without the intention of getting her back. Talk about your time together and what it meant to you. Be sad but don't say you will never move on. Just get one last good bye before moving on with your life. It's not really until long afterwards you can look at this somewhat objectively and learn from it. If you meet her with this mindset however I think you can help with the moving on process with getting it clear that it's over.

[QUOTE=IQ-Guldfisk;52033649]I'm really sorry man, shit must really suck! My 2 cents are however these: You shouldn't change because of another person. You should really only change yourself for your own sake. They might seem synonymous at the moment but really there's a big difference changing beacuse you think a person would want you more like that than to change because you want to be more open and that's generally what people like. You have to do it for yourself first.[/QUOTE] it's okay, i've told myself plenty before to never change for someone, only myself. the things i'm trying to change are things that are very beneficial for me and have always been an issue that i've struggled with here and there. things like mindfulness, living in the moment, being more in-tune with my own and other people's emotions. those kinds of things are beneficial for myself even if i never get a second chance with her

So I went to Poland with some classmates and ended up getting so shitfaced I don't remember half the night but when I woke up I had gotten tinder plus. I noticed that you can change the country you swipe in so it's now my goal to match with a woman from each country in the world before my month runs out :v: So far I have Sweden, Denmark, Poland, Spain, Brazil, Germany, England and Japan. I'm doing this just for fun but I have gotten somewhere with some of my matches and who knows, I might end up meeting some of them.

[QUOTE=maddogsamurai;52029535]So I'm meeting up with this girl this week, but I'm not sure what's going on. I think we're just gonna go spend money and grab a bite and that's it, but I think she might have other ideas. Its not like I haven't hung out with her before, but it was with other people, and its just us. And I think I'm going nuts and probably making a mountain out of a molehill.[/QUOTE] Update: Hang out was canceled. Something came up and she had to cancel. She also doesn't want to speak to anyone. I don't like what's going on with my friend. I hope everything's fine. ...I hope.

[QUOTE=maeZtro;52033941]So I went to Poland with some classmates and ended up getting so shitfaced I don't remember half the night but when I woke up I had gotten tinder plus. I noticed that you can change the country you swipe in so it's now my goal to match with a woman from each country in the world before my month runs out :v: So far I have Sweden, Denmark, Poland, Spain, Brazil, Germany, England and Japan. I'm doing this just for fun but I have gotten somewhere with some of my matches and who knows, I might end up meeting some of them.[/QUOTE] Hey, I bought 6 months of tinder plus when I got shitfaced in Sweden! I have no clue why I would have bought it, I didn't even use tinder much at that time

I had to train myself to not use the computer when I'm really drunk. I even try not to look at my phone. It's WAY too easy to contact ANYBODY, and the idea of being able to buy things with a few mouse clicks is also really scary. This is not the kind of challenge drunk people had to contend with in any previous generation. Thankfully the only thing I've bought while drunk (except food (and one box of condoms)) was like $10 worth of TF2 crate keys, back when I still played that.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;52035160]I had to train myself to not use the computer when I'm really drunk. I even try not to look at my phone. It's WAY too easy to contact ANYBODY, and the idea of being able to buy things with a few mouse clicks is also really scary. This is not the kind of challenge drunk people had to contend with in any previous generation. Thankfully the only thing I've bought while drunk (except food (and one box of condoms)) was like $10 worth of TF2 crate keys, back when I still played that.[/QUOTE] Not previous generation, but back in the day before internet and when I was in college, drunken 2 AM calls/booty calls were hilarious and something of a norm. :v: "Hey....man, it's...dsafkdsakcm.....3 ......and .....you know bananas and peanut butter is....the fucking best shit ever........love ya man.....adskmsaldmksd.....this fucking dog is AWESOME<call ends>" I actually saved some of my recordings from that time but then lost them :frown: over the years when my computer died (pre-cloud storage sadness)

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;52035160]I had to train myself to not use the computer when I'm really drunk. I even try not to look at my phone. It's WAY too easy to contact ANYBODY, and the idea of being able to buy things with a few mouse clicks is also really scary. This is not the kind of challenge drunk people had to contend with in any previous generation. Thankfully the only thing I've bought while drunk (except food (and one box of condoms)) was like $10 worth of TF2 crate keys, back when I still played that.[/QUOTE] hey you did well in that case, my bandmate once bought a 1970s Marshall JMP 100 from ebay when he was smashed, cost him £700.

So I just got a notification that some random girl added me back on snapchat and I don't remember adding her. If I had to guess I think I saw her on tinder and she had her snap name so I added her a few days ago and she just added me back. We started talking and I was basically just like "before I go home for the summer we should go out and get ice cream or something bc I hate everyone else here" and she agreed to hang out!! The only problem is I totally forgot what she looks like. But I mean if I was interested enough to add her then I guess she cant be that bad?