Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=Blazyd;52038623]So I just got a notification that some random girl added me back on snapchat and I don't remember adding her. If I had to guess I think I saw her on tinder and she had her snap name so I added her a few days ago and she just added me back. We started talking and I was basically just like "before I go home for the summer we should go out and get ice cream or something bc I hate everyone else here" and she agreed to hang out!! The only problem is I totally forgot what she looks like. But I mean if I was interested enough to add her then I guess she cant be that bad?[/QUOTE] If you got a name you can find a facebook.

[QUOTE=Blazyd;52038623]So I just got a notification that some random girl added me back on snapchat and I don't remember adding her. If I had to guess I think I saw her on tinder and she had her snap name so I added her a few days ago and she just added me back. We started talking and I was basically just like "before I go home for the summer we should go out and get ice cream or something bc I hate everyone else here" and she agreed to hang out!! The only problem is I totally forgot what she looks like. But I mean if I was interested enough to add her then I guess she cant be that bad?[/QUOTE] Snapchatting someone and you don't know what they look like? That's....weird?

[QUOTE=SataniX;52038797]Snapchatting someone and you don't know what they look like? That's....weird?[/QUOTE] Text messages on snapchat. and I don't have her full name so I can just ask for insta or something and find out what she looks like that way

So my gf of 2-3 years broke up with me 2 nights ago. Haven't slept or eaten since. Is it normal to be this suicidal, or should I get help? I know its suppose to feel bad, but it feels so bad I want it to end. I can't stop thinking of her and all the things we did...whenever I think of it I just wanna kill myself.

[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;52038906]So my gf of 2-3 years broke up with me 2 nights ago. Haven't slept or eaten since. Is it normal to be this suicidal, or should I get help? I know its suppose to feel bad, but it feels so bad I want it to end. I can't stop thinking of her and all the things we did...whenever I think of it I just wanna kill myself.[/QUOTE] It's normal and I've been there man but it gets better. You gotta try to fill that void.

[QUOTE=The Rifleman;52038911]It's normal and I've been there man but it gets better. You gotta try to fill that void.[/QUOTE] I'm trying. It feels like it's getting worse and worse ever since that night (since I was numb and partially optimistic). The pain is so bad. I've never felt anything like this before and I just want out of the pain. I know I'm just going to have memories of her for the rest of my life. I had so much fun and first time experiences in everything with her. Everything reminds me of her.

[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;52038957]I'm trying. It feels like it's getting worse and worse ever since that night (since I was numb and partially optimistic). The pain is so bad. I've never felt anything like this before and I just want out of the pain. I know I'm just going to have memories of her for the rest of my life. I had so much fun and first time experiences in everything with her. Everything reminds me of her.[/QUOTE] I'm really really sorry. Try to stay away from things that trigger it. Music and alcohol helped me move on. Do what you can, try to hang with people and friends and not be alone during this time. It helps a lot to have company.

[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;52038957]I'm trying. It feels like it's getting worse and worse ever since that night (since I was numb and partially optimistic). The pain is so bad. I've never felt anything like this before and I just want out of the pain. I know I'm just going to have memories of her for the rest of my life. I had so much fun and first time experiences in everything with her. Everything reminds me of her.[/QUOTE] man, I'll tell you I was the exact same for a fair chunk of time, it's not fun in the slightest. I ended up in a pretty bad way but trust me my man, that final solution isn't the answer. lean on your friends, they'll understand and help you. dive into music, video games, anything to occupy the time and your mind. take it a day at a time man. it gets better.

It feels like it is. It scares me that i've been looking up methods for 2 days, straight every hour, I'm not sure if this is the normal reaction or if I should get help. Only thing that seems to be stopping me is that I'm balls scared of killing myself to pain or something.

[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;52038906]So my gf of 2-3 years broke up with me 2 nights ago. Haven't slept or eaten since. Is it normal to be this suicidal, or should I get help? I know its suppose to feel bad, but it feels so bad I want it to end. I can't stop thinking of her and all the things we did...whenever I think of it I just wanna kill myself.[/QUOTE] Call it Deja Vu but you posted same stuff some years ago, right? Broke up with gf of years and then the trailing stuff. Is it the second gf this time or the you patched up with that gf and now broke up again?

[QUOTE=fritzel;52039132]Call it Deja Vu but you posted same stuff some years ago, right? Broke up with gf of years and then the trailing stuff. Is it the second gf this time or the you patched up with that gf and now broke up again?[/QUOTE] Yeah, I did. That was another one. I sorta tried to get into a rebound r/s after that one and found this one in the process. Thing is, this one was so quirky in the perfect ways that made me fall in love with her, and I don't think I can do the same thing/find anyone else actually like her. Also that first one was a long distance one, this was my first close distance.

[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;52039155]Yeah, I did. That was another one. I sorta tried to get into a rebound r/s after that one and found this one in the process. Thing is, this one was so quirky in the perfect ways that made me fall in love with her, and I don't think I can do the same thing/find anyone else actually like her. Also that first one was a long distance one, this was my first close distance.[/QUOTE] There is always someone out there that will fill that void, and will make you love again and be happy and all that shit. It's normal, it's going to be ok. Suicide is not the answer man.

[QUOTE=Blazyd;52038824]Text messages on snapchat. and I don't have her full name so I can just ask for insta or something and find out what she looks like that way[/QUOTE] google her snap username girls are anything if not consistent with their social media usernames

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;52040419]I remember when I first met my girlfriend 6 years ago, in Spanish class. "Text me!!" she said as she scurried away after the last bell rang. I eagerly went to my bus and sat down, and only then did I realize "She didn't give me her number."[/QUOTE] And then you never saw eachother again and that was it? Come on man, don't leave us hanging!

Reviewed my facepunch posts over past month. It's crazy to imagine how quick things can go from being good to absolute shit and how fragile humans are. Literally first post from month ago: [url]https://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1537757&p=51868617&viewfull=1#post51868617[/url] Everything looked positive and good and then one week later: [url]https://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1537757&p=51917871&viewfull=1#post51917871[/url] everything starts going down hill unpredictably. and to top off everything, few days later things turned to even worse: [url]https://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1537757&p=51941081&viewfull=1#post51941081[/url] After this I am definetely looking at things from different perspective, it's just bizzare how quick things can happen and change.

[QUOTE=KommradKommisar;52031023]Asked this girl I hardly know out to lunch at a new restaurant in town I was jonesing to try out anyways. I've got a pretty good feeling she'll dip on me (she did say yes when I asked) so cross your fingers for this lurker it goes well.[/QUOTE] Must have been an April fools joke. [sp] :( [/sp]

Uh, feels really tiring being the one to (90% of time) start the conversation and be the initiator. I've been told I don't ask any questions even though I intend to know the person better but it's the first fact and that it's always me, just me and to be honest, it's really discouraging. It's not that I want to make a person like like me, I just don't want to only be friendly, but like real friends with the other person. I feel that everytime I talk about "knowing you better" she immediately thinks about me forming relationship with her so she avoids it or something, even though I've more or less made my intentions clear before.

There's this girl I used to have a crush on briefly last semester. I asked her friend if she was dating someone. It turned out that she has been dating this guy off campus so I dropped the idea of asking her out. We talked at dinner yesterday about the situation I'm in with the girl I have a crush on now, whose boyfriend is a friend of mine. We live in the same dorm and she asked if I wanted to talk in the lobby after she gets something from her room. So we went to her room she grabbed whatever it was and we went down to the lobby. We wound up talking for close to an hour. She suggested telling my friend about it one on one if we're good friends, but I told her that everyone else I've talked to said NOT to do that. She offered to help me set up a tinder profile but I told her that I wasn't really happy with it and she suggested something called "Bumble" which sounded pretty similar. After we were done talking, she said if I needed to talk to someone, that I knew where her room was. I think that helped.[sp]Although when I got back to my room, I noticed there was a small stain on the crotch of my jeans.[/sp] So I guess I'm still attracted to her. It probably doesn't help that she's super Italian and has very dark brown, wavy hair, which is definitely my type if I had one. So I'm afraid that I'm starting to get over the other girl only to get hung up on another girl who already has a boyfriend. Just fuck my life.

I think I might just end up giving up on girls for a while to focus on my studies. Honestly, I wasted way too much time with this. I know the whole thing about " Enjoy the heartbreak while it lasts" and "Misery is wasted on the miserable" but is really not paying off for me. Besides I have a job now and it doesn't really help that I bombed in one of my tests this week. I can't afford to put energy into something that's always uncertain for me and out of my control. I just worry about myself for a while and see what life has in store for me.

I honestly can't wait to go home from college. I seriously miss all my friends...like a lot. A full year of school not really having any friends can really get to you.

[QUOTE=keda009;52042569]Uh, feels really tiring being the one to (90% of time) start the conversation and be the initiator. I've been told I don't ask any questions even though I intend to know the person better but it's the first fact and that it's always me, just me and to be honest, it's really discouraging. It's not that I want to make a person like like me, I just don't want to only be friendly, but like real friends with the other person. I feel that everytime I talk about "knowing you better" she immediately thinks about me forming relationship with her so she avoids it or something, even though I've more or less made my intentions clear before.[/QUOTE] This is all I feel when I'm talking to girls on Okc, it's started to feel like a job giving so much in and never getting anything out of it, ugh fucking hate it.

[QUOTE=Zeb Brown;52046166]This is all I feel when I'm talking to girls on Okc, it's started to feel like a job giving so much in and never getting anything out of it, ugh fucking hate it.[/QUOTE] I don't even bother, to be honest. Attraction is a two way street as far as I'm concerned. Unless you are so hyper-shy that you're just going to be mute most of the time (in which case it's not going to work anyway), it's absolutely unacceptable that for someone who claims to "enjoy long conversations" that you could barely hold one, with replies that are monosyllabic at best. Fuck that shit, man - you deserve better than that and if she's looking for "entertainment", send her a link to Netflix or YouTube or something. Getting to know someone is mutual; it should never feel like a job interview. Some of the most interesting people I've been in relationships with have been ones where they've initiated a conversation as much as I have and genuinely put effort into wanting to talk to me than just leave some open-ended "hey" or "you there?".

[QUOTE=snookypookums;52046342]I don't even bother, to be honest. Attraction is a two way street as far as I'm concerned. Unless you are so hyper-shy that you're just going to be mute most of the time (in which case it's not going to work anyway), it's absolutely unacceptable that for someone who claims to "enjoy long conversations" that you could barely hold one, with replies that are monosyllabic at best. Fuck that shit, man - you deserve better than that and if she's looking for "entertainment", send her a link to Netflix or YouTube or something. Getting to know someone is mutual; it should never feel like a job interview. Some of the most interesting people I've been in relationships with have been ones where they've initiated a conversation as much as I have and genuinely put effort into wanting to talk to me than just leave some open-ended "hey" or "you there?".[/QUOTE] Well I just moved to Melbourne where I have no connections to anyone else, so I thought it was a good idea but it's just making me depressed, im just frustrated at how little I've interacted with the opposite sex in the recent year.

[QUOTE=Zeb Brown;52046540]Well I just moved to Melbourne where I have no connections to anyone else, so I thought it was a good idea but it's just making me depressed, im just frustrated at how little I've interacted with the opposite sex in the recent year.[/QUOTE] In your case it might be beneficial for you to go to meetups and be social with folks on a more face-to-face level than start with OKC, especially if you feel that you make a much better impression in person. I generally tend to do that before I go the online route and it works a lot better because even if they're not your type for a relationship, it builds up your confidence to talk to more people and it snowballs from there.

So it's now Saturday (about 3 nights since the breakup) and I feel like absolute garbage still. What should I do if I absolutely [B][I][U]MUST[/U][/I][/B] have to get back with her? Shes wasn't just a partner, she was my best friend, and I loved talking to her. I been trying to No-Contact thing and it's been a day since I sent a text. I asked for closure the morning after the breakup and she said, quote on quote "I feel like I didn't love you as much as a girlfriend should, and you relied on me too much for happiness. You don't have a chance in the foreseeable future (i asked if i had a chance back)." Which I'm hoping is a spur of the moment thing she said. This kind of breakup is actually completely new to me, because she still has a line of contact to me, which in my very first relationship, that breakup was my ex completely blocking me from everything. I'm not sure how to deal with this, what should I do?

[QUOTE=snookypookums;52046342]Unless you are so hyper-shy that you're just going to be mute most of the time (in which case it's not going to work anyway), it's absolutely unacceptable that for someone who claims to "enjoy long conversations" that you could barely hold one, with replies that are monosyllabic at best. [/QUOTE] I'm one of these types of people and it fucking sucks. I like talking to people but I'm terrible at it. It really isn't that easy sometimes to just message someone out of nowhere with even something simple like 'hey hows it going?'

[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;52046935]So it's now Saturday (about 3 nights since the breakup) and I feel like absolute garbage still. What should I do if I absolutely [B][I][U]MUST[/U][/I][/B] have to get back with her? Shes wasn't just a partner, she was my best friend, and I loved talking to her. I been trying to No-Contact thing and it's been a day since I sent a text. I asked for closure the morning after the breakup and she said, quote on quote "I feel like I didn't love you as much as a girlfriend should, and you relied on me too much for happiness. You don't have a chance in the foreseeable future (i asked if i had a chance back)." Which I'm hoping is a spur of the moment thing she said. This kind of breakup is actually completely new to me, because she still has a line of contact to me, which in my very first relationship, that breakup was my ex completely blocking me from everything. I'm not sure how to deal with this, what should I do?[/QUOTE] It gets better with time. Whatever you do just don't say anything bad to her. If she is not much willing to to get back together then there is not much you can do. Think about it, she is still keeping a line of contact, because she somewhat cares for you. More you insist, she might end up blocking you. Let her do what she wishes.

Sat with the girl from my previous post at dinner last night after my friends all left at once. She was talking about how cute this one football player is. Sarcastically feigning disgust, I teased her saying, "Sarah! You already have a boyfriend!" Then she said "I don't have a boyfriend." That caught me off-guard, to say the least. It turns out that guy her friend had mentioned is just someone she talks to on the phone once in a while. I have been known to make mistakes.

i basically spent all day yesterday with the girl ive been posting about in close proximity to me, but i couldn't gather any nerve to talk to her :s: from the way everything went im extremely confused on whether or not i should bother trying again not through text but like, try something the next time we meet in person

[QUOTE=Blueridge;52048158]i basically spent all day yesterday with the girl ive been posting about in close proximity to me, but i couldn't gather any nerve to talk to her :s: from the way everything went im extremely confused on whether or not i should bother trying again not through text but like, try something the next time we meet in person[/QUOTE] How do you spend a day with someone and not talk to her?