Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

well we never talked directly to each other, like our responses to each other were indirect like someone would ask me something, she would be listening to what i was saying and nod in agreement or something like that

[QUOTE=Blueridge;52049352]well we never talked directly to each other, like our responses to each other were indirect like someone would ask me something, she would be listening to what i was saying and nod in agreement or something like that[/QUOTE] You can always strike up a convo about what you're working or when you're hungry say "Im gonna get food, want some/wanna come with?"

In response to the gurren laganin shit is filling the void the proper thing to do? because I'm in a kind of similar thing and it feels like I'm supposed to get completely over it and live with that void and only then should I find another person to fill the gap in my heart

The girl I mentioned a week or two ago went from seeming very interested in me, to not at all over night it seems. We've been trying to set something up for a while, but life kept getting in the way. Things did look like Monday would work for us finally, she just had to double check her schedule at work, to make sure she was off. I get a text from her this morning saying she did end up getting scheduled for that day and that we would have to "take a rain check for the date" I told her that's unfortunate but understandable, and asked what the rest of her week's schedule looked like. Haven't heard anything from her since. It's just frustrating that she seemed actually interested in me, and got pretty excited when we had made the plans to get together. She struck up conversations over text with me every other day or so as well. Guess she had a change of heart or something...

[QUOTE=4yourmalice;52051452]The girl I mentioned a week or two ago went from seeming very interested in me, to not at all over night it seems. We've been trying to set something up for a while, but life kept getting in the way. Things did look like Monday would work for us finally, she just had to double check her schedule at work, to make sure she was off. I get a text from her this morning saying she did end up getting scheduled for that day and that we would have to "take a rain check for the date" I told her that's unfortunate but understandable, and asked what the rest of her week's schedule looked like. Haven't heard anything from her since. It's just frustrating that she seemed actually interested in me, and got pretty excited when we had made the plans to get together. She struck up conversations over text with me every other day or so as well. Guess she had a change of heart or something...[/QUOTE] Or she just got bored. Sometimes people do the whole flirting or whatever thing just because they want something to do. I know guys with girlfriends/wives who still have Tinder or whatever, swipe for matches, and chat up random girls. They talk about going on dates or whatever and all that jazz, but in reality, have zero intention of ever doing anything with it. It's just a game to play when they're bored. She might not have really ever wanted to go out with you, but you were someone who could hold a conversation so she kept you on the hook for a while just as a way to burn time when she's bored or whatever. I guess it's kinda fucked up, spinning someone up who may be genuinely interested, but that's life mang. Hence why you should never, ever emotionally invest yourself in someone until the date actually happens. But hell, sometimes that shit happens even after you've met, how far people are willing to go when they're just doing it to relive boredom varies from person to person. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;52051665]Or she just got bored. Sometimes people do the whole flirting or whatever thing just because they want something to do. I know guys with girlfriends/wives who still have Tinder or whatever, swipe for matches, and chat up random girls. They talk about going on dates or whatever and all that jazz, but in reality, have zero intention of ever doing anything with it. It's just a game to play when they're bored. She might not have really ever wanted to go out with you, but you were someone who could hold a conversation so she kept you on the hook for a while just as a way to burn time when she's bored or whatever. I guess it's kinda fucked up, spinning someone up who may be genuinely interested, but that's life mang. Hence why you should never, ever emotionally invest yourself in someone until the date actually happens. But hell, sometimes that shit happens even after you've met, how far people are willing to go when they're just doing it to relive boredom varies from person to person. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.[/QUOTE] I've had that happen to me, only for it to turn out that her "first choice" in dating material suddenly became available in the time that we were talking to each other, and she needed to make a decision. I think they're still dating, so I'm glad it worked out well for her, even if ever so slightly cheesed by the execution. It happens, it's a little depressing when you think of yourself as a placeholder for a hypothetical "snookypookums 2.0, with more vitamins" in some girls life, but c'est la vie.

Just had flashbacks from the moment when I had memory loss in hospital :v: Note: My reality, dreams, hallucinations were all mixed into reality. 1) Nurse came to change bed sheets, I needed to turn a bit for him to change them, I told him: "Wait, I can teleport, see if I can teleport myself onto another bed" he said: "give it a try". 2) I was king and it was medieval times, the hospital room where I was had other people in it, and to me it looked like medieval times castle, at one moment somebody from other patients said they are bored to somebody and I told nurse who was beside me that we need to find joker/jester because it's boring in here and I asked nurse if he would like to be kings assistant to which he said sure. (The nurse dude who was monitoring me 24/7 had good sense of humor). People must have thought I am a fucking idiot :v: it's kind of hilarious to remember and imagine what I was like from other peoples perspective, definetely a story to remember

So a while ago I mentioned on here that I was having a tough time moving on from a relationship. A friend of both my ex and myself recently broke up with her long time boyfriend, and this friend is basically like a close co-worker to me. We were doing together at my place, and we spent a lot of time talking personal things and in the moment of it got pretty flirty. The issue was that my ex told this friend of mine not to have sex with me because of some personal reason (despite my ex being the one to end the relationship). We didn't have sex, but we made out and agreed that we'd respect my ex's wishes until a time where my ex is ok with it or this girl and I don't care anymore. The problem is that this girl inquired my ex about the possibility of having sex with me in the near future, and this drove my ex to get upset, go down to my room (we're in the same dorm building), ask me what happened, and when I tell her the truth she leaves saying that she's upset due to this friend of ours for even asking permission. Am I missing something here? I'm really lost, and all I wanted was a one-night stand with a girl I thought was attractive

[QUOTE=huntingrifle;52052344]So a while ago I mentioned on here that I was having a tough time moving on from a relationship. A friend of both my ex and myself recently broke up with her long time boyfriend, and this friend is basically like a close co-worker to me. We were doing together at my place, and we spent a lot of time talking personal things and in the moment of it got pretty flirty. The issue was that my ex told this friend of mine not to have sex with me because of some personal reason (despite my ex being the one to end the relationship). We didn't have sex, but we made out and agreed that we'd respect my ex's wishes until a time where my ex is ok with it or this girl and I don't care anymore. The problem is that this girl inquired my ex about the possibility of having sex with me in the near future, and this drove my ex to get upset, go down to my room (we're in the same dorm building), ask me what happened, and when I tell her the truth she leaves saying that she's upset due to this friend of ours for even asking permission. Am I missing something here? I'm really lost, and all I wanted was a one-night stand with a girl I thought was attractive[/QUOTE] Who you fuck or see is not your ex's problem anymore. Do not let your ex control your life.

[QUOTE=huntingrifle;52052344]So a while ago I mentioned on here that I was having a tough time moving on from a relationship. A friend of both my ex and myself recently broke up with her long time boyfriend, and this friend is basically like a close co-worker to me. We were doing together at my place, and we spent a lot of time talking personal things and in the moment of it got pretty flirty. The issue was that my ex told this friend of mine not to have sex with me because of some personal reason (despite my ex being the one to end the relationship). We didn't have sex, but we made out and agreed that we'd respect my ex's wishes until a time where my ex is ok with it or this girl and I don't care anymore. The problem is that this girl inquired my ex about the possibility of having sex with me in the near future, and this drove my ex to get upset, go down to my room (we're in the same dorm building), ask me what happened, and when I tell her the truth she leaves saying that she's upset due to this friend of ours for even asking permission. Am I missing something here? I'm really lost, and all I wanted was a one-night stand with a girl I thought was attractive[/QUOTE] No wonder it's hard to move on for you, she's still shoved in your life. You don't have to ask her permission for nothing.

That's a problem in and of itself, but in this case I can only tolerate it because this girl I find attractive is a really close friend of my ex. I couldn't care less what my ex thinks she can allow me to do, but this girl is really close to her and doesn't want to hurt my ex. I can understand how it'd feel to be on the opposite end of this: if I dated a girl and we broke up, I'd still feel a bit hurt if a friend of mine wanted to have sex with her. The issue here is I don't want my ex and this girl to lose their friendship (they were best friends before I met either of them). I feel so stuck between impossible situations: I don't think I did anything wrong, but suddenly shit hits the fan.

I see. Yes, you didn't do anything wrong at all and, in that case, it seems that it's your ex's friend problem and you can't really do anything about that, it sucks, but you shouldn't fret about it.

I've pondered writing about this for a few months now, and I didn't plan on doing it on mobile, but I really feel I need to get it off my chest. Basically, I've been in a relationship for the last 3.5 years, and overall I've been pretty happy with it. My girlfriend also seems pretty happy when we're together, and she says that she is herself, but when we're not together she's been having doubts and been unhappy. We're pretty open with each other, and while I don't really talk much about my feelings, she does. Basically, I'd say she has "fear of missing out" - she really likes me, but after starting university and such, she has met all these great people, she wants to party which honestly seems fairly natural in my opinion - she wants try new things with new people. I don't have too dissimilar feelings, but to a much lesser degree. Meanwhile, it has just gotten worse with her - and my main issue is that I can't really do shit about it, as far as I'm concerned. I think I'm gonna tell her that we should take some time off, basically "you do you", because I don't think I can stay in a relationship where she has doubts like that - I don't want to go around worrying all the time. If we give it some time off maybe she'll find that the grass isn't necessarily greener on the other side, or maybe she'll find that it is, and then I guess that's where our relationship was headed anyway. Can't say I'm happy about it, but I think I'll feel like shit either way. Any advice is appreciated, left quite a few thoughts out because mobile, but yeah, think I might cry a bit the first time in maybe 5-6 years.

Maybe you should try to meet people that are far, far away from your ex. (This is for 2 posts up, got ninja'd)

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;52051665] Hence why you should never, ever emotionally invest yourself in someone until the date actually happens. But hell, sometimes that shit happens even after you've met, how far people are willing to go when they're just doing it to relive boredom varies from person to person. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.[/QUOTE] This was going to be our second date. First time was a blind date for coffee and ended up going for sushi after as well. But I see what you mean, some people just do it for fun, or like the attention for a bit and then need their next "new" fix. I never really saw my self marrying this girl or anything, so it's not hard to move on from this.

Welp, so I'll be bunking over at a female friend's room for a weekend. In Paris. While her boyfriend is literally the farthest away he can be without going into goddamn space. Good thing that circle of people is not very rumor-prone. (And no, I won't be trying anything funny, come on).

[QUOTE=Eriorguez;52055008]Welp, so I'll be bunking over at a female friend's room for a weekend. In Paris. While her boyfriend is literally the farthest away he can be without going into goddamn space. Good thing that circle of people is not very rumor-prone. (And no, I won't be trying anything funny, come on).[/QUOTE] Don't get any ideas man. Temptation can be the worst thing ever. I know that feel.

Well, I'm her friend, not a rapist nor a homewrecker, and I have no intention whatsoever of turning into that shit.

Ok so : The girl I said who didn't text me back and I assumed had lost interest in me, did in fact text me back. She told she was sorry for not responding and it was shitty of her to do that (her words not mine) and she asked me what I was doing Thursday and if I'd still like to go out. We're going for dinner Thursday now.

Girl i went out with almost a yea and half ago reconnected and we've been talking all day and things got spicy. What a good turn out of events for recent shitfest of a love life.

[QUOTE=GoDong-DK;52052670]I've pondered writing about this for a few months now, and I didn't plan on doing it on mobile, but I really feel I need to get it off my chest. Basically, I've been in a relationship for the last 3.5 years, and overall I've been pretty happy with it. My girlfriend also seems pretty happy when we're together, and she says that she is herself, but when we're not together she's been having doubts and been unhappy. We're pretty open with each other, and while I don't really talk much about my feelings, she does. Basically, I'd say she has "fear of missing out" - she really likes me, but after starting university and such, she has met all these great people, she wants to party which honestly seems fairly natural in my opinion - she wants try new things with new people. I don't have too dissimilar feelings, but to a much lesser degree. Meanwhile, it has just gotten worse with her - and my main issue is that I can't really do shit about it, as far as I'm concerned. I think I'm gonna tell her that we should take some time off, basically "you do you", because I don't think I can stay in a relationship where she has doubts like that - I don't want to go around worrying all the time. If we give it some time off maybe she'll find that the grass isn't necessarily greener on the other side, or maybe she'll find that it is, and then I guess that's where our relationship was headed anyway. Can't say I'm happy about it, but I think I'll feel like shit either way. Any advice is appreciated, left quite a few thoughts out because mobile, but yeah, think I might cry a bit the first time in maybe 5-6 years.[/QUOTE] This is going to sting, so I apologize in advance. I've known many, many people in my friends circle who have done exactly what you're thinking of doing. They never wound up back together again because the girl/guy did find out that there were people out there who were better/different than from their newly ex-partner that scratched an itch they couldn't vocalize for many years because they were quite comfy in a familiar relationship. The choice is up to you, but if your girlfriend's happiness with this relationship revolves around being with you, that's not entirely healthy and something is deeply wrong there. A relationship with you should be just one facet of her personality and if it's keeping her happy, that sort of thing translates to other facets as well. FOMO is a valid excuse, but doesn't hold up against maintaining a relationship that's 3.5 years old. I think you need to have a talk with her about why she feels unhappy when you're not around and then decide what you want to do, because realistically, you can't be around all the time as you grow older for someone to be fulfilled by a relationship. Ignoring that is just setting yourself for either one of you to have a lapse in judgement and cheat - whether emotionally or physically - and that's a helluva lot more devastating than having a difficult conversation now to nip this in the bud.

-whom'st've-

So I reached out to my ex and simply asked if we can talk. She read the message but never replied. I

[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;52056887]So I reached out to my ex and simply asked if we can talk. She read the message but never replied. I[/QUOTE] Time to leave her alone and move on man. It's gonna suck, it's gonna be hard. But in the end it'll be better for you.

I am a wizard, I just set up a date in 5 minutes with my new opener. From match on Tinder to date in 5 minutes. Opener goes like this (works 50% of the time): Me: [I]"Do you like coffee?" [/I] Her: [I]"Yes." [/I] Me: [I]"Awesome, perfect match."[/I] Me: [I]"When can I move in?"[/I]

[QUOTE=farmatyr;52057943]I am a wizard, I just set up a date in 5 minutes with my new opener. From match on Tinder to date in 5 minutes.[/QUOTE] ummm gonna share your secret?

[QUOTE=Zombinie;52057959]ummm gonna share your secret?[/QUOTE] "I would destroy every chair in the world just so you would have to sit on my face" I've been sitting on that for awhile waiting to use it.

I just tried it on 4 women I haven't talked to yet, one has replied and we have set a date on Sunday.

Well that was interesting interview. 10 minutes long didn't ask me any questions other than "What do you do?" and then said he'll forward my resume to the head manager and I'll hear back in a couple days. Didn't even get to touch on my internship. I don't know what to think...

[QUOTE=farmatyr;52057943]I am a wizard, I just set up a date in 5 minutes with my new opener. From match on Tinder to date in 5 minutes. Opener goes like this (works 50% of the time): Me: [I]"Do you like coffee?" [/I] Her: [I]"Yes." [/I] Me: [I]"Awesome, perfect match."[/I] Me: [I]"When can I move in?"[/I][/QUOTE] How long before I see youtube ad's of Farmatyr's quick tip to get laid in one easy step?