Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

Well then my friends. That American girl I mentioned some time ago. She was talking to this dude who she only put herself in a relationship with because of some girl but turned out she actually cheated on him for me and now they're back together. I always knew there was something weird happening but fuck it, I'm done and I'll probably end up trying to get myself blocked because I'm a dick like that, and hit up the college crush I put on hold for this mistake. Shame because I was expecting a vape as a gift but I doubt that will happen and I'll have to buy one myself. EDIT: Nothing bad has happened, I talked with the dude and the conversation went on. It's definitely time to move on though - I don't want to sound like I act immature because of what I said above but that was how it went with my ex in the past. I will still be trying to get on this other girl, note that I haven't started anything with her yet and I didn't before I got with this American girl. I know that I'm an idiot for staying with this girl when I was previously told here that I should just go away from her but there was a lot of things said that didn't make sense and that was what I thought about all of last week when she wasn't on at all.

[QUOTE=jammy job;52079726]i want to just, idk. her friend group is the group my best friends girlfriend is in basically, hence how I got told at one stage that she liked me, cuz I was at a thing with them once. And tbh, one of the things that really weirds me out in a way is that I feel more people potentially know why all this happened than I do, cuz I'm sure they'd have asked her at some point if she was still seeing me and I just wonder what she'd have said. I've had a couple people ask me recently about it and I've just said its over cuz I have nothing else to go on. I'm just like, im not good at serious chats, I just feel like if I try to ask if she wants to speak after she's chosen not to speak to me for so long that I'm just going to come across as, idk, creepy? desperate? I understand maybe I'm overthinking here, its just a strange position to be in. This was my first experience ever going on a date etc. with someone, its just fuckin weird, literally the last time I saw her she said we were 'official' and then this. I'll think about messaging her I just, dk if I can bring myself to. Not out of being afraid of what she says, just what other people might think if it gets to them.[/QUOTE] Don't worry about other people's opinions, the only opinion that should interest you is that girl's. Like i said, if you really want to keep the relationship or at least find out why she's ghosting you, send her only ONE text inviting her to talk. Something like "Can we talk? Its important" or "You busy? Because i really need to talk to you". Make it sound important so she'll be curious about it. Again, if she answers you, call her to discuss terms. If she ignores you for at least a week, let her go and delete her number. Most importantly dont overthink things. If she doesnt answer dont think about it, just remove her from your life and be done with it. Remeber: its her loss not yours.

[QUOTE=RzDat;52080326]Don't worry about other people's opinions, the only opinion that should interest you is that girl's. Like i said, if you really want to keep the relationship or at least find out why she's ghosting you, send her only ONE text inviting her to talk. Something like "Can we talk? Its important" or "You busy? Because i really need to talk to you". Make it sound important so she'll be curious about it. Again, if she answers you, call her to discuss terms. If she ignores you for at least a week, let her go and delete her number. Most importantly dont overthink things. If she doesnt answer dont think about it, just remove her from your life and be done with it. Remeber: its her loss not yours.[/QUOTE] I agree with this man. Just ask her to talk and see where it goes from there.

Ugh, rejection is so fucking hard to get over from even when the girl is polite. I would love to write down what happened but even i wouldnt read it i guess. Is two weeks too short of a timespan to tell a girl you want to be with her?

I'm still debating with myself if a rude reject is better than a nice reject. Usually with rude rejects I get over them easily but when the girl is all nice about it it takes a lot for me to just forget her and move on. Is complicated to say the least.

[QUOTE=TrannyAlert;52079687]Agggghhh I want to break up with my girlfriend but she lives with me in my parents house and she has tons of shit here going to be so awkward. Don't even know what to do[/QUOTE] it can be done in a very short time, believe me. I've done it, she'd lived with me for 6 months or so and my room had basically become hers with the amount of shit she moved in with her. took less than an hour to clear, and I had to do it all myself because she refused to come to the house to do it. I should have set her a deadline and told her I was going to dump it if she didn't come and get it. but oh well. point is that it can be done fast. [editline]9th April 2017[/editline] speaking of which I accidentally threw my suit in with her stuff because I was too busy crying to notice that I'd done it, over 2 years later and I still don't have that suit back rest in rip suit, you were shitty, but you were still a decent suit

[QUOTE=dcalde78;52081119]it can be done in a very short time, believe me. I've done it, she'd lived with me for 6 months or so and my room had basically become hers with the amount of shit she moved in with her. took less than an hour to clear, and I had to do it all myself because she refused to come to the house to do it. I should have set her a deadline and told her I was going to dump it if she didn't come and get it. but oh well. point is that it can be done fast. [editline]9th April 2017[/editline] speaking of which I accidentally threw my suit in with her stuff because I was too busy crying to notice that I'd done it, over 2 years later and I still don't have that suit back rest in rip suit, you were shitty, but you were still a decent suit[/QUOTE] She came back from her dads and just broke up with me She said she would talk but ended up just saying no to everything I had to say. Her stuff is being picked up thursday and she's back at her dads now, not having her sleeping here. I tried so hard to have another shot at this and she seemed so adamant. Found out she had been talking with a guy over the weekend about overly sexual stuff and moving into his flat since it's better for getting to work Punch in the gut but good for me since I will be able to get the mind off the turd quicker AGHH

well she sounds like an asshole

[QUOTE=SoftHearted;52081110]I'm still debating with myself if a rude reject is better than a nice reject. Usually with rude rejects I get over them easily but when the girl is all nice about it it takes a lot for me to just forget her and move on. Is complicated to say the least.[/QUOTE] rude rejects are the ones that hurt less for me if they're being rude they're being brutally honest. I'm one who appreciates brutal honesty (kinda am like that myself so I would be a hypocrite if I didnt) nice rejects are fine too if done well, with tact mostly what I absolutely hate though, is getting the subtlest, smallest implied signals of "i am [I]not[/I] interested". fucking talk to me instead of letting me sort you out

[QUOTE=TrannyAlert;52081140]She came back from her dads and just broke up with me She said she would talk but ended up just saying no to everything I had to say. Her stuff is being picked up thursday and she's back at her dads now, not having her sleeping here. I tried so hard to have another shot at this and she seemed so adamant. Found out she had been talking with a guy over the weekend about overly sexual stuff and moving into his flat since it's better for getting to work Punch in the gut but good for me since I will be able to get the mind off the turd quicker AGHH[/QUOTE] Damn that sucks what she did. How are you feeling about this?

When my ex and I had a falling out it was so..civil and shit, it made it hurt 100x worse.

[QUOTE=Crpto2007;52081326]Damn that sucks what she did. How are you feeling about this?[/QUOTE] The usually sick stomach kinda stuff. I had a good rant at her though and said that it's disgusting what she's done. I wanted so much for us to try again since we have been stuck in my mums house, my room for 1 year together everyday and it was obviously too cramped and too much. I wanted to see how we were when apart and saw each other like boyfriend and girlfriend but she didnt even give it a thought, just threw it away. The most worrying part is how emotional she is. When this happened she did not cry once, not even a tear. Like jesus christ did you care about me that little.

[QUOTE=gustavholst;52078438]I can relate because I'm experiencing something very similar, although it is fresher for me. I don't think you're pathetic (although that I totally relate to also) and hopefully time will help. I think one of the worst parts for me is how alone in this feeling I am, but all you can do is the best you can.[/QUOTE] Ah, I'm sorry to hear that :/ But I guess it can be quite warming to know that you can relate to other people, so they will understand and support you too. Thank you, I appreciate that :smile: . I know I'm not really pathetic for having feelings, but it's just a random feeling you get sometimes, you know? Hmm yeah, it takes a lot of adjusting too. I've had offers from nice guys, but I still feel super lonely and stuff because they're not who I wanted, so I get you. Yeah you're right, and I find that even though the feels are just there, just try doing the best for yourself, and improve yourself, and just get out there (not in a romantic, dating sense, I mean just trying new things and taking up available opportunities to you). I really hope your situation improves for you, and even if you end up how I am right now, then I'd like you to know that I am very much a happy person, and happy with my life, it's just that tiny thing, and you can still enjoy life, even though you feel like your whole world has been ripped into shreds :smile:

I've recently started taking anxiety meds which has taken a lot of the edge off and allowed me to start repairing my stagnant social life. However, this has made me realize there's two components to my problem: anxiety (which the meds are taking care of) and lack of experience. Most of what I've been doing recently is rebuilding relationships with people I already know but just haven't talked to much in some time - relationships where there's already a connection, as weak as it may be. I haven't really tried making any new ones, which is where the second part is affecting me. Despite that I've been pretty alright with friendships so far in my personal day-to-day life, so at the moment I'm thinking more in terms of online friendships - there's some people here on FP I've wanted to get to know for some time now, but I've never had any idea how to approach that. Can anyone offer some advice?

[QUOTE=SoftHearted;52081110]I'm still debating with myself if a rude reject is better than a nice reject. Usually with rude rejects I get over them easily but when the girl is all nice about it it takes a lot for me to just forget her and move on. Is complicated to say the least.[/QUOTE] Rude rejects with complete cut off have the lowest cooldown. Out of sight, out of mind. Polite rejects leaves a sliver of hope which can reset the cooldown counter every time.

[QUOTE=racerfan;52081671]I've recently started taking anxiety meds which has taken a lot of the edge off and allowed me to start repairing my stagnant social life. However, this has made me realize there's two components to my problem: anxiety (which the meds are taking care of) and lack of experience. Most of what I've been doing recently is rebuilding relationships with people I already know but just haven't talked to much in some time - relationships where there's already a connection, as weak as it may be. I haven't really tried making any new ones, which is where the second part is affecting me. Despite that I've been pretty alright with friendships so far in my personal day-to-day life, so at the moment I'm thinking more in terms of online friendships - there's some people here on FP I've wanted to get to know for some time now, but I've never had any idea how to approach that. Can anyone offer some advice?[/QUOTE] I met my two best friends here on FP and we've been friends for about seven years now. All you gotta really do is ask them what's up! Don't push yourself to be their "friend", just have a chat. But don't be obnoxious or anything. Generally I go by the rule of, if they don't seem to be busy but aren't giving me much conversational feedback, they're not really interested in chatting. So I move on to talk to someone else. Of course I don't really talk to anyone on this godforsaken website anymore now that I found my two close friends lmao but I'm not closed off to conversation. As long as the person I'm talking to isn't under 16 tho that's kinda weird when you're almost ten years older than them.

I suppose adding a girl randomly on facebook to strike up a conversation can be p weird considering I don't actually know the person :rollout:

[QUOTE=fritzel;52081677]Rude rejects with complete cut off have the lowest cooldown. Out of sight, out of mind. Polite rejects leaves a sliver of hope which can reset the cooldown counter every time.[/QUOTE] Or worse yet, the "not quite a rejection" rejection.

[QUOTE=redBadger;52081778]I suppose adding a girl randomly on facebook to strike up a conversation can be p weird considering I don't actually know the person :rollout:[/QUOTE] My ex approached me that way, and I've done it before with girls both close and long distance. Most of the time it has worked out well but it truly depends on the circumstance. Some girls may leave you on delivered or seen but there is a good chance that you'll get a reply and then you can strike up a conversation. I mean if you do it straight after they accept it wouldn't be the best idea because that'd be a tad weird, if I were you I'd wait a few hours or days before approaching them and it should be good.

I want to share with you guys my experience from yesterday, maybe you guys could relate to it, maybe you can call me young and silly, I don't know, I just want to know who in his life has ever felt this. OK, I will start with this probably long wall text. My name is Julio Orellana, maybe known as falcont2tjockey or something, I have made lots of YouTube videos, from comedy to art, and I am 22 now. I had a relationship of one and a half years that started near my father’s death and ended at the beginning of last year. The whole 2016 was a crazy path of mistakes and stupidity, alcohol, drugs and new experiences that changed my life completely. I'm studying film and arts at (maybe) the best uni of my country. That's my passion, which became more and more lesser of a thing once my girlfriend dumped me and she started dating other people. My life began to crash into and endless void of darkness which I never thought I could felt in my life. Depression, insomnia and crying every day. I became mad, crazy I didn't know where to run. I started talking to friends, people I knew I could count on, and made the best friendships that I have from that experience. This year, I had a bit of trouble since my ex is my college mate, and I still must see her every day of the week. So, I have to deal with that plus her exes that still roam the uni. Fortunately, I am better now, and even when this makes me sad, it still is something that's under me. Well, from time to time, my anxiety thoughts and loneliness kick in, and I get a little desperate. Unsure about love, unsure about dying alone, unsure about irrational stuff that makes us do stupid shit. One time I almost fucked a mature lady just because she messaged me thought tinder and I was still in conflict with my desires. I have never fucked out of the blue with no one, I only enjoyed the sex I had with my ex once 3 or 4 months passed and I really cared about her, not before, before it was just a burden. I left this lady nude, at her bed, sad because I didn't want to fuck and I asked her to take me home. I broke her down, it was very stupid of me to just use a person to see if I could do a one night stand and enjoy it. I was only able to have sex with my gf because at some point, she was there for me, she really cared about me even if it was just because she felt lonely and wanted someone to be there for her. It was real for me at that time. After all this mess, the uni threw a party like a week ago or more. I went there with a friend, and reached a couple people at someone’s apartment. We were five, me, Ramiro (my friend) two other dudes (friends of my friend) and a girl, let’s call her Sarah. I kind of liked her looks but nothing too strong. And as always I tried to make the best out of the situation instead of just seeking someone out or whatever, so I sat down next to my friend and talked to him. (we are still at the apartment at this point). I was planning on doing that until I started listening to what Sarah was telling, which was stuff that really interested me for real. Nightmares, jazz, and the situation about our modern cinema in our country. We started debating a bit while the other friends started joining the conversation. At some point, I am sitting next to her talking about how Edgar Wright (from Shaun of the dead and Hot Fuzz) is one of the better filmmakers of this era, and after that, she started me showing some animated music videos she loved. At this point, I am having a really great time. She goes to the bathroom, and one of the guys, Jonas, says "Isn't she cool?". The other guys say "yeah she is so cool omg" And I am just sitting there, thinking "please, don't make her sound like this alien being out of this world" But I am dumb, we were all a bit drunk, and sometimes i say stuff just to fit in, so i say (as a really bad joke) : "I hope she doesn't have a bf!" And one of the guys, Jonas, says "dude, she's my ex" I say I am sorry, that I didn't know, make him not worry about it. Sarah comes back and we keep talking about memes and stuff. We then hurry up. The gates of our uni were about to close, so we run to get to the party. I was a helper at a class, and the president of the students' movement was from the class I taught, so even when the gates were closed we managed to make it in. The night goes very well. I wasn't trying to reach Sarah in any way, but we always ended up together, talking about shit and discussing everything we loved. She was 19, and knew about cinema structure and philosophy better than myself. Some guys started coming in. Her ex tried to reach her out. I knew i wasn't planning on doing anything romantic with Sarah, so I approached him and said "Dude, please, it's not going to work that way, I know from experience". I, the whole 2016, tried to get back with my ex. Nothing, nothing worked. Jonas told my friend, Ramiro, to grab me out of Sarah so he could talk to her. When Ramiro told me this i told him "stop it, I’m not doing anything, if Sarah wants to talk to Jonas she’s gonna walk to him" I asked Sarah how she felt with her ex being there. She was kinda uncomfortable with him lurking around, she explained me they were only like a few weeks together and nothing else. Apparently, the guy went a little crazy and wanted to marry her at some point (Yeah, in like a week). So, we ditched that topic and went to dance, not before discussing why Bernie was the right choice and how the republicans screwed it up with Hilary, because her card was the woman card and nothing else (we screamed drunk at the dance floor). We talk about uni. She hasn't really decided yet to enter film and arts, so she's doing just the mayor courses. I ask her why is that, and she says she's afraid, she has never touched a camera and feels she's gonna fail hard. I tell her to screw that, that if she waits a few years more it's gonna be even harder, that life starts now and she owns to the world the ideas for shorts and movies she has been shouting to me the whole party. That if she likes it and she’s afraid, that's the right fucking point of everything we love, because there are stakes on it. We are vulnerable. Her face was priceless, like she was hearing exactly what she needed. We danced the rest of the party. It was good. I didn't want to get touchy, so I just grabbed her waist a couple times and that was it. In the middle of that our friends reach us and we all go to the apartment. The apartment was from her ex. I get there and I just launch myself in the couch, tired, not before noticing her ex makes her sleep in the same room as him. I don't really care, at this point, nothing romantic really concerns me. In the middle of the night, I hear a few talking heads and Sarah comes to the living, where I am sleeping, and sleeps on the floor. Next morning I plug my charger besides her (since I didn't found another one) and sit there a bit to let my mom know I am alright, kinda drunk but alright. Sarah wakes up, and we discuss how our shitty 5 year old cellphones can't even run SNES emulators properly. We all eat breakfast from the store under. Her ex starts talking about his production company and I am really, really into it. He seems like a cool guy, and I start asking him about the job and all. He really doesn't seem to have a grudge about me. Gotta give it to the guy, he is a gentleman. He showed me all these really cool and popular music videos he has made, and just to joke a bit, i say to him "damn, the only famous thing I got on the internet is a video of me and my friends showing our butts". This video is all about internal jokes we had as a group of friends that somehow got to 900.000 views and started a fan club and a small movement of random stupid humor that we kinda needed in my country. In that moment, Sarah says "no way, is that fucking you? Are you the guy behind "PUTA WEON"?" (which means something like "FUCK, DUDE"). My shyness and I say "yeah", in a kinda low voice, and she starts talking about how she really loved the video, and how she watched it at her lonely nights. Never felt that kind of sensation, like you actually made someone feel better through your "art", which was ironic, since that could be considered my most "trash" art I have ever made. We all go to the metro, and say goodbye that day. When I am my way home I noticed I have Sarah´s ID in my pocket, so I remembered she asked me to hold her phone in my pocket a while, and maybe she threw her id too without noticing. I get home to add her on Facebook and tell her, but she already added me. I get kinda happy, it's always the other way around. She didn't talk to me first so I guessed she didn't know she forgot her ID, so I told her. She responded with the "Oh no!" meme and that was it lol. I could see she tried to write some stuff since I could see the three dots on the Facebook chat, but she then erased it and never sent anything. Two days go by and I can't stop thinking about her. I cannot describe the feeling, it wasn't something physical, it was something else. So, I tell her the next day "Hey, are you going to class tomorrow?" and she says yeah, and we arrange a meeting. Then, she starts asking about the video, and points out a section where I was laughing like an idiot, saying it was her favorite part. She says she loves my laugh. I tell her I annoyed everyone for laughing so hard when we were recording. She says that's impossible. She then says she was afraid of contacting me because she was shy and all, but really wanted to ask me about that part. Says that when I laughed at the party, she immediately knew it was me. We then spend a few hours talking about memes and art, then we say goodbye. We meet the next day. She was really shy and had to make something for uni, but didn't know where to, so I pointed her out how she could make it and helped her. I had to run to another campus and she knew, so when she noticed I was kinda rushing, she said "It's ok, you can go if you have to". I thought about it for a moment, and asked her: Me: "Hey..." Her: "Yes?" Me: "..." Her: “...What? (smiles)" Me: “(smile like an idiot with a confused face) You wouldn't want to go out some day, right?" Her: "Yeah...yeah I would" Me: "Cool, we could go climb a hill, or ice-skating" Her: "You live near "El Panul" right?" Me: "Yeah! We could hike that" Her: "Sounds good" (smiling) Me: "Cool!" I felt really good to have the guts to ask that. Time goes by, and we chat a few hours about cinema, music, and humor. I show her some of my videos and she really loves them. We share a lot, and it feels like it. I laughed really, really hard on my computer with all the shit she said and the videos she sent me. Never in my life have I laughed hard at the computer screen by myself. We then organize the hike we are doing next Saturday, and she asks me if it's too weird if she gives me her trekking bag the day before so she doesn't have to carry it around at the party she's going to. I say not really, since I have classes at the same time before she has her test. We meet. She's sleeping in a couch at uni, I sit next to her and I show her that I managed to install some PS1 games on the cellphone and I installed a controller to play with it. We play and laugh like half an hour. She's shy but I’m myself am too so it works. We then meet next Saturday at the metro and take the bus. She wants to change her clothes before going to the hill, so we pass by my uncle’s house, which is the house I have lived in while I am studying for the past 5 years and counting. We sat down a bit. We are both tired and kinda hungry, so we sat a bit at the living room. It’s kinda early so everyone is sleeping. She asks me if i know about the clay motion animations of Lee Hardcastle, I say fuck yeah and we start watching them in her cellphone. Little by little we discover we are both big gore lovers. We eat breakfast and say hello to my uncle and aunt. We then go to my room and keep watching videos. We are called to have breakfast with the family and we go again. My family really loves her. She ditches her shyness away and it really works. I start rambling about aesthetics (yes, it's a real career which I am also studying) and she goes with it. All the other family members watched us talking about this crazy ideas only me and her really get while we shout at the dinner table. We have breakfast and go straight to my room. She starts showing me "Over the garden wall", that cute Cartoon Network animation, which I have heard but I haven't watched it yet. We both lay on my bed and start watching it like we know each other from forever. Little by little we are both under our sheets because it's cold as fuck. We end up watching more and more shit. She shows me her art, her Tumblr and lots of material she has. I show her my pictures, drawings, videos and everything. It's crazy how well she gets everything that I had behind my videos. I showed her a video I made that remind me of an idea she told me at the party. She laughs about this (running joke she makes) about me remembering everything. She loves it, and comments on every aspect I never saw about it myself. The video is about alopecia, and how I dealt with it when I had it. Kinda body horror like. We understand each other completely. It was like rushing through our whole lives finding out we have been living almost the same patron. We start watching memes and videos. We laugh like never before. She says she hasn't laughed like that from like kindergarten. I am also laughing like a madman. We start listening to music and it's already lunch. Damn. We go downstairs and the same goes. We all six have a great time, watching Tom and Jerry videos and music. I can tell she feels like home with us. We four: me, her and both my cousins do the ditches and, with my uncle and aunt, smoke weed after that. She starts showing me her favorite videos from Youtube and she and I laugh like maniacs the whole time. Even my memelord cousin, who is my best friend since the past two years, doesn't really get why we are laughing at some stupid remixes of the "I am not racist of anything, but Asian people..." meme. We go upstairs and listen to music. Everything Everything, Vaporwave, The Whitest Boy Alive, Pearl jam, and All That Jazz. Its uncanny and surreal how hard is for us to show each other new stuff. We know everything the other one knows. Then, she shows me "Odin's Afterbirth", an insane gore animation. I fucking love it, and start talking about what I loved and why. She agrees complete and we are almost screaming from how cool the scenes are. We watch a few movies (part of movies). The Thing (1982), The Animation Show, etc. We then try to sleep, since we are kinda tired from all the day laughing. She says her face and abs hurt from all the laughing. We don't get to sleep. We start talking about our lives, our goals, our relationships. I told her that all my ex stuff destroyed me, that I love that, that I love I changed. I told her I saw my father’s death, and how that felt. I tell her I don't believe in fast love, that it's easy to fall in love with all the beauty someone has to offer. That I don't believe that's it, that one has to fall in love with the ugly. Love someone’s rage, love someone’s destruction, someone’s failures. She agrees completely. She says she hates to be touched, that she has a problem since her ex (not the one from the party) cheated on her so much and so frequently that she developed some sort of phobia to it. She says she has never loved, that that guy was a piece of shit, but she learned so much from him she couldn't stop getting hurt just to grow in that artistic aspect. That she doesn't really believe in love, and that hates when guys just reach to her to fuck with her. She feels like an object, and that if she doesn't give some of her body, it's like she's being mean. I ask her about all the guys commenting her Facebook posts. She says she hates that. She gets put on a pedestal all the time. She's cute, but she is so much more. I get her, I truly do. From my art, women tend to approach to me feeling like I am some sort of roller-coaster of a life changing experience, when the truth is I am just a guy who gets home, eats chips and lays in his bed. I ask her if what I was feeling was only special to me. She says no, she's feeling it too. I tell her I am not really thinking about something physical, that it's like a consciousness feeling. She agrees. I tell her of the shit I lived through 2016. How I almost fucked an old lady (never told anyone that), how I couldn't fuck my girlfriend for three months because I didn't love her until that, and how much pushed in I felt with that. How people say "hey, you were lucky! She stayed with you all that time" and how I hated that. FUCK THAT. If I don't want to fuck EVER it's my decision. I tell her I was unsure about my sexuality too at that time, and how I thought I was maybe gay for a while. I tell her I am bi. I keep talking about how all love is practically coming from fear, of being alone, of dying alone, of having kids, how our partners shaped us to be the boyfriend/girlfriend they wanted and how we saw them doing the same with their new partners. She tells me how fake everything is. I tell her how hard it hurt to know that all the true love I felt was never that, that immediately random guys came by and shared everything i thought so special and unique I had. All was nothing, and how that's why I almost died when my ex started dating someone. I think Sarah was the first true person to understand what I felt with all that. I promise to her I won't date her. That I am not gonna be that guy again. She says she always believes that when someone tells her that. She says that all the relationships she has had are guys named with a J in their first name and an A in their second name (yeah, we have second names in here). I am Julio Andrés. We laugh about it. I tell her I wanted to do something at the trekking, but since we didn't go I showed it to her in my bed. I bring my camera, and start teaching her how it works. Her eyes glow, and I try to rush through it since her parents are coming to pick her up. It's 9 pm already, the day went flying by. We talk about some more art, Greek art to be specific, and the cosmovisions of the era. I give her some illustration I bought from a fair and an essay I made about the false goals of the documentary genre. She then goes, and I get on my room. I never, never felt connected to someone THAT much, it's indescribable. She could very much have been a guy and it wouldn't matter. My life changed yesterday. Not only I got how nothing in common I have had with all my previous relationships, how much true can be exposed with the right people, and how much admiration and comprehension can be felt from only one person, to make you feel like there's another person who has been through all her/his life to meet you, and say to you "I truly get you, and I am not trying anything. I am not saying this to get in your pants, and I am nothing more than a coincidence”. I feel liberated, released, and in peace. Not only I don't know now how relationships are going to be for me from now on, knowing how strong you can feel without a physical factor in between, but I don't care, and that's the real deal. It's, by far, the most intense emotional connection I have ever had, and I can't really explain it. Has anyone, ever, felt something like this?

Man that's a lot of writing hahaha. I don't know what to really say other than that yea, those kind of feelings can occur when you find someone you really, really click with. It seems like a perfect match. And it's really great you found that! I think you two can be great friends, or whatever you two agree to let it grow to. The only thing is to be careful. Don't get too...emotionally attached or emotionally rely on her like you would in a relationship with a person. It's important to understand you two are still independent people. Just be careful with what you two are and what you actually expect it to be? I don't know if I'm clear with it maybe someone else can explain it better. Also seems like you needed to get that off your chest and I hope writing out that wall helped you out bro.

[QUOTE=autodesknoob;52082352]I want to share with you guys my experience from yesterday, maybe you guys could relate to it, maybe you can call me young and silly, I don't know, I just want to know who in his life has ever felt this. OK, I will start with this probably long wall text. My name is Julio Orellana, maybe known as falcont2tjockey or something, I have made lots of YouTube videos, from comedy to art, and I am 22 now. I am Julio Andrés It's, by far, the most intense emotional experience I have ever had, and I can't really explain it. [/QUOTE] Oh hey, I love your video "That feeling when balding", it's amazing! I read your entire post and it's a good read! Also no, I've never felt such a connection with another person. I'm just 21 but when I was 18 I was 'running around' girls a lot and I might have felt a fraction of what you're explaining. So, good on you. Also do you have 2 last names? Andrés and Orellana?

[QUOTE=IQ-Guldfisk;52083212]Oh hey, I love your video "That feeling when balding", it's amazing! I read your entire post and it's a good read! Also no, I've never felt such a connection with another person. I'm just 21 but when I was 18 I was 'running around' girls a lot and I might have felt a fraction of what you're explaining. So, good on you. Also do you have 2 last names? Andrés and Orellana?[/QUOTE] Thank you. "The Feeling when balding" is that video i was talking about her going crazy with. yes. I do have 2 names, two thats not counting my two surnames. In here, we have two names, mines are Julio and Andres, and both my parents surnames, Orellana and Yáñez. These four names make my full name, Julio Andrés Orellana Yáñez. [editline]10th April 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=The Rifleman;52082494]Man that's a lot of writing hahaha. I don't know what to really say other than that yea, those kind of feelings can occur when you find someone you really, really click with. It seems like a perfect match. And it's really great you found that! I think you two can be great friends, or whatever you two agree to let it grow to. The only thing is to be careful. Don't get too...emotionally attached or emotionally rely on her like you would in a relationship with a person. It's important to understand you two are still independent people. Just be careful with what you two are and what you actually expect it to be? I don't know if I'm clear with it maybe someone else can explain it better. Also seems like you needed to get that off your chest and I hope writing out that wall helped you out bro.[/QUOTE] thanks man. Yeah, that vent was satisfying. Ill try to keep myself together, so i have zero desires over her. Im pretty confident i wont get hurt.

When stupid fucking memories and hypotheticals of your ex keep you up at night.

[QUOTE=The Rifleman;52083544]When stupid fucking memories and hypotheticals of your ex keep you up at night.[/QUOTE] You just have to let go

Let it goooo let it gooooo I couldn't sleep last night either until about 2.30, brains on overdrive thinking about my now ex aswell. Should be fine soon I hope

[url]https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Many-worlds_interpretation[/url] "That was a possible path, but the one I'm experiencing is a different one". Plus, trying to make sense of quantum physics (and their veering on metaphysics) will take a bit of the attention of your brain. Hell, I once started with hypotheticals due to a year having passed since a blown chance, and ended up trying to make sense of Interstellar with a pentadimensional approach to spacetime.

Don't you just hate when you have to take sides "I can give you my work but don't pass it to anyone else" Other person saw it. Later I got a message from them "Hey can I have x's work??" I said that, no, I gave a promise and you know that, you have to ask X about this. "Oh come on" I feel shitty but promises are promises

Loophole; pass your work, derivative from the original one. Then again, I'm usually somebody who looks for alternatives and workarounds before going with a blunt "no" when asked for help.

[QUOTE=Eriorguez;52084316]Loophole; pass your work, derivative from the original one. Then again, I'm usually somebody who looks for alternatives and workarounds before going with a blunt "no" when asked for help.[/QUOTE] I did offer mine, it's just we both know that they won't have enough time to complete it if I do it first. Surely enough it was met with "uh no thanks". Oh well, not like I care