Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51300623]I'm sorry to hear that man. I know I'll/we all get over it eventually, but it hurts so bad right now. I mean this was the girl I saw in my future, and up until 2 days ago I thought she did too. It was just so sudden, no warning, nothing; she just came to me while I was at work (fortunately I was working alone) and told me that she doesn't feel "it" anymore or something and hasn't for the last few months but has forced herself to be with me thinking her lack of feelings would pass. I wish she would've told me sooner or something, so I could at least be prepared or tried ANYTHING to work on it, and if we couldn't fix things then at least we would've tried. That's the part that hurts, because I was happy these last few months but deep down, she wasn't and I wasn't aware until the last minute. I don't know if it could've been "fixed", and I guess I'll never know anyways. I've invested years of emotion and energy into our relationship and it is just gone. it feels like a part of me has died, she was my partner in everything. When she told me this the other day, when we broke up, I couldn't even speak. We sat in her car and I think I said 30 words over a period of an hour. Idk why I'm writing this, just to get the words out I guess. i hope it doesn't sound melodramatic, but she was an enormous part of my life and I'm just still coming to terms with what happened.[/QUOTE] i had a similar situation. I started wondering when she felt this way and felt dumb thinking it all was alright, while she was thinking about ending things up. TO be honest, if our situations are similar enough, prepare for an existencial crisis for the next year. I dont mean this as a bad thing. For me, losing everything was (after i cried and begged to get her back) a start from cero. I started asking myself who i was, what i did, what i wanted from it and what i was doing with my life. I thought that everything was kind of sorted out, but now im in that point where i dont know who am i , and looking for the future seems like the most terrifying thing in the world. I would spare this advice, since this was the year i almost killed myself: Let yourself be where you are, make the mistakes you feel you have to make. Dont expect people to fully understand you because your situation is yours and only yours, and only you will know the complexity of it. The sadness goes away but very, very slow, and it could feel like eternity. Crisis are good, it lets you evolve into the man you want to be, but its hard as fuck, because it affects you deeply inside you. So, all the conclusions people will give you like "you gotta let herself go" or "love yourself first" or any life facebook text are like cheating process. You wont get them untill you take all the dirty road to truly feel them. I just now im sincerily feeling my ex was not "the one", but it took a lot of pain that, honestly, jsut started with the break up. I had to see her everyday at college, being happy, with a new boyfriend. Had to hear her say she doesnt love me anymore, that i should go to the shrink, that im in bad shape and to get moving with my life and stop bothering her. I had to cry, drunk, in my knees begging her to come back to realize that couldnt be anything but problems going in my head, rather that her being some sort of sane answer. So, if you feel like this could be your case, i truly wish you luck and strength to become the better man you are about to become, if not, thanks for the oportunity to rant a bit myself, haha. Keep up man.

Things are getting iffy with the girl I know at work who I assumed was really into me. It seemed like there were obvious signs, like she'd say little flirty things at work and said she was really glad I wanted to add her on facebook, and she'd been wanting to get my number in the few days before. I invited her to my birthday dinner and she said she had a great time, so when I said we should do something again she said "yes please!" And we made plans to go ice skating. Well, the day before ice skating she texted me that she actually had an appointment to keep, but wanted to make it up to me by buying me dinner. So I told her the three days I have free this week, and she basically said "i'll let you know." I asked her last night where we'd be going, and now she's changed the plan and says she wants to have a picnic together. Well, to me that sounds like even more fun. But I asked her what day, and all she has said to me is "probably friday." And it's really hard to get a straight answer out of her. So my instinct is that she's trying to subtly get out of these plans by being shifty with the time and place, but she's the one who keeps bringing up more and more new ideas. So it's half exciting for me if any of these things will happen, but half really frustrating since I can't get her to tell me anything definitive all week

So about that online friend i was hitting off with. I fucked it all up. All week we were getting more and more flirty and last night I talked about maybe meeting up and maybe make a move to either or. Well she was kinda iffy about it, but it seemed to me that she was against it. Ive been in 3 relationships where the other person was just fucking around with me for cheap lover type talk/feelings, with all of them ending up with said people saying they are just friends and had no real intention to do anything. So i fucked up and thought about the possibility of it happening again. So after a bad day at work, I came home and was greeted by said friend who just was being friendly like usual and talking about her food. She did a little cute banter about me playing a game and git good and i snapped. I just lost it, I said a bunch of stuff, accusing her of just toying with me. Also saying borderline that shes just a attention whore. And at the very fucking end, she tells me that my birthday present (this 5th) was going to be an announcement to me about wanting to meet, with her saving all of her Bday money as a starting point. I want to fucking die. I just completely blasted a person who actually fucking cared about me, over my stupid fucking anxiety. Now she feels like i just hate her so much, even though i've apologized profusely since the reveal. I don't deserve anyone to like me at all.

[QUOTE=codemaster85;51304550]So about that online friend i was hitting off with. I fucked it all up. All week we were getting more and more flirty and last night I talked about maybe meeting up and maybe make a move to either or. Well she was kinda iffy about it, but it seemed to me that she was against it. Ive been in 3 relationships where the other person was just fucking around with me for cheap lover type talk/feelings, with all of them ending up with said people saying they are just friends and had no real intention to do anything. So i fucked up and thought about the possibility of it happening again. So after a bad day at work, I came home and was greeted by said friend who just was being friendly like usual and talking about her food. She did a little cute banter about me playing a game and git good and i snapped. I just lost it, I said a bunch of stuff, accusing her of just toying with me. Also saying borderline that shes just a attention whore. And at the very fucking end, she tells me that my birthday present (this 5th) was going to be an announcement to me about wanting to meet, with her saving all of her Bday money as a starting point. I want to fucking die. I just completely blasted a person who actually fucking cared about me, over my stupid fucking anxiety. Now she feels like i just hate her so much, even though i've apologized profusely since the reveal. I don't deserve anyone to like me at all.[/QUOTE] hey man, we all make mistakes. you just need to open up and be honest about your insecurities (which it sounds like you've done) and hope to god she accepts that, because even though we would all love to preach patience in every aggravating situation, sometimes we snap under stress and anxiety when otherwise we would not if we were calm, and confident. we're all human at the end of the day! if this changed her mind about you though, then there's nothing you can really do about that, but better that it happened now and not mid-way through a serious relationship. just be patient. ill be prayin for ya dude

[QUOTE=codemaster85;51304550]So about that online friend i was hitting off with. I fucked it all up. All week we were getting more and more flirty and last night I talked about maybe meeting up and maybe make a move to either or. Well she was kinda iffy about it, but it seemed to me that she was against it. Ive been in 3 relationships where the other person was just fucking around with me for cheap lover type talk/feelings, with all of them ending up with said people saying they are just friends and had no real intention to do anything. So i fucked up and thought about the possibility of it happening again. So after a bad day at work, I came home and was greeted by said friend who just was being friendly like usual and talking about her food. She did a little cute banter about me playing a game and git good and i snapped. I just lost it, I said a bunch of stuff, accusing her of just toying with me. Also saying borderline that shes just a attention whore. And at the very fucking end, she tells me that my birthday present (this 5th) was going to be an announcement to me about wanting to meet, with her saving all of her Bday money as a starting point. I want to fucking die. I just completely blasted a person who actually fucking cared about me, over my stupid fucking anxiety. Now she feels like i just hate her so much, even though i've apologized profusely since the reveal. I don't deserve anyone to like me at all.[/QUOTE] you sound like a cool dude, sorry that happened. were your apologies all in person or over text or something? if no, maybe asking her to meet in person again and just having a real talk about your past and why you did it? obviously not too in-depth, just explaining like you did here. if she doesn't hate you and feels like you hate her, like you said at the end, maybe she'll understand?

One day I'll meet a girl who won't stop texting me after I make a Monty Python reference One day

One day I'll meet a girl who won't stop texting me One day

One day I'll meet a girl who's into me One day

One day I will stop hesitating at the key moment and just go with the flow and make a move. Seriously, happened in two separate ocasions: Girl I am somewhat interested in comes over to me late at night in the pub, moment happens, I hesitate because I hope to not fuck things up, or because I was holding a torch for somebody else as well and start to ponder what ifs, girl leaves and in 5 minutes is making out with another member of the group. I should learn out of those, but I seem to be terrified of losing female friends if I show interest, and I am not really for showing interest to a stranger I met at 3 AM in low light, loud volume and high alcohol conditions. Hell, I got asked by a random girl to give her a neck massage in the middle of a festival this summer; I obligued, she thanked me, then stood there, and I awkwarded out and nothing came out of it. Guess I have to work out self-esteem issues; being an outcast form when I was 7 to when I was 15, with a window of respite when I was 10, plus a bad experience when I was starting out Uni, and another a few months after finishing Uni, made me prone to subconsciously assume I am an outsider no matter what, and that my presence could be done without. So I have to make the effort to remind myself that that is not the case, that I have friends who care for me, who enjoy having me around and showing me they care. Step by step, and the mere progress feels good, yet not being able to be more comfortable is annoying.

Ideas on how to stay focused on the present after a really bad break up anyone please? :smile:

One day I'll meet a girl

[QUOTE=elevate;51307820]One day I'll meet a girl[/QUOTE] One day

I learned today that this really shy and sweet girl likes me even though she has never talked to me How do I let her off easy and say that I am in absolutely no mental condition to be dating anyone

I once thought like that ("one day I'll meet a girl" that is), then I met my best friend (and yes, I do occasionally text her Monty Pyton quotes). As long as you guys try you'll find people willing to put in the effort to want to know you. I met her after I got ghosted over coffee as friends. This chick didn't have the fucking guys to even tell me she didn't want to be friends. I'm ok with that fact, it just would have been less shitty to not act like it at first. Feeling shitty because of that I downloaded a bunch of shitty chatting apps, and on one I met her, my best friend. And now we both can't imagine our lives without the other. Basically, the moral of this story is to never give up hope. You never know where you will find new friends or flames.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;51304276]Things are getting iffy with the girl I know at work who I assumed was really into me. It seemed like there were obvious signs, like she'd say little flirty things at work and said she was really glad I wanted to add her on facebook, and she'd been wanting to get my number in the few days before. I invited her to my birthday dinner and she said she had a great time, so when I said we should do something again she said "yes please!" And we made plans to go ice skating. Well, the day before ice skating she texted me that she actually had an appointment to keep, but wanted to make it up to me by buying me dinner. So I told her the three days I have free this week, and she basically said "i'll let you know." I asked her last night where we'd be going, and now she's changed the plan and says she wants to have a picnic together. Well, to me that sounds like even more fun. But I asked her what day, and all she has said to me is "probably friday." And it's really hard to get a straight answer out of her. So my instinct is that she's trying to subtly get out of these plans by being shifty with the time and place, but she's the one who keeps bringing up more and more new ideas. So it's half exciting for me if any of these things will happen, but half really frustrating since I can't get her to tell me anything definitive all week[/QUOTE] I don't know, that sounds like genuine scheduling problems rather than trying to weasel out of something. Personally if I were gonna ditch somebody that I made plans with, I would have just said "I have an appointment, but we should figure something else out sometime!" rather than specifically say "let me buy you dinner!".

If you truly loved someone, you don't just move on from them immediately, no matter how bad the circumstances/things were ended. I think it is inhumane to date someone, and them be one of the most important people in your life for a year or more, and then just ditch them via a simple text and then just completely forget about them, never speaking again. There is no regard for the other persons feelings, and it also shows cowardice, lack of care, disrespect, and just pure shitness of a person. (this is of course EXCLUDING extreme circumstances such as rape/physical abuse victims who are in danger if they tried to get out of relationship another way, and even then, these victims do not get over it immediately, and take longer than the dick who abused them due to their traumatic experience). I honestly do not know how people like that live with themselves, completely selfish, and careless behaviour. So, to end this half rant, I would like to question those who do this, how could/can you do this to another person, and why? because I genuinely do not understand these people and think they should not have relationships until they can maturely end things where needs be, and respect the other person's (who bare in mind, has ALSO made a huge investment in the relationship they had together) feelings, and allow for anything needed to be said to be said, before parting ways and beginning the healing process.

[QUOTE=srobins;51308673]I don't know, that sounds like genuine scheduling problems rather than trying to weasel out of something. Personally if I were gonna ditch somebody that I made plans with, I would have just said "I have an appointment, but we should figure something else out sometime!" rather than specifically say "let me buy you dinner!".[/QUOTE] I'm still wondering, because i've heard about this kind of thing from lots of people. People make plans, plans get canceled, and one of those people re-schedules for "eventually" and then "eventually" never comes. So after telling me "probably friday" she said she'd have to check her schedule. I texted her about it yesterday afternoon and got no answer. I saw her at work today and asked her about it, and she told me she got home late and "I promise i'm not ignoring you." So I told her i've got pretty much every afternoon off for the next week, and now i'll just wait and see if she makes contact

So man I'm having a fucking wild ride at the moment, long post coming Couple of weeks ago I hooked up with a work friend of mine. We were drunk and as we left the pub she bundled me into a taxi and took me back to hers. It was sort of predicted by every one of our work friends in fact most of them thought it had happened already, but it finally did happen. We had chemistry for ages and everyone, including us had acknowledged it before. Thing is, she's sort of not a great person. She looks out for her friends and is mostly fun to be around with, but my best friend has already asked me never to bring her out with us again, because she was incredibly rude to him both times he's met her, and she genuinely believes that women in physically abusive relationships are more at fault than the men because they just need to balls up and leave him. She has huge self esteem problems and anxiety issues that she squishes down into herself, doesn't accept or acknowledge and then they explode out of her at odd moments. She's screamed at me on the phone before, because I've 'accused her of being a bad friend' (I've never done that or even implied it) The morning after we hooked up she was hugely embarrassed and kept insisting that it would never happen again between us. I was bit upset by that, but whatever. Figured she didn't want to blur professional boundaries, nbd whatever. Anyway she told me like 5 times nothing would ever happen and it got weird because like, I got it the first time, and I didn't need to be reminded. I walked out of there without any intentions of chasing after her Anyway last two weeks I've sort of overthought everything and thought something might happen/wanted something to happen despite the above - we were both busy during this time and didn't really see each other, and I had a lot of time on my hands and I think I let my mind run away with myself. After a week or so I was okay again. Anyway at work there's three of us and I found out that for a while she was hooking up with my other friend pretty consistently while I was like...hanging out with them...so we'd see some movies at her place and they'd get it on while I was peeing and then stop when I came back, and I had no idea that this was going on until much later, so I feel used because why did they invite me if they were just gonna make out? I don't get it. But I think what pisses me off most is that I know it happened, and she knows I know, but she's still lying about it and it's just a bit dishonest and that annoys me because while she doesn't owe it to me to be honest about it, I feel like I was taken advantage of Anyway, since then I've been wondering why the hell I've gotten so worked up about it. Like why I got worked up and wanted to get with this girl when I don't really think she's all that nice. She's acted pretty selfishly in loads of situations before regardless of what happened with this So I don't know if I'm looking for advice - I think it's entirely possible that being so anxious about it is leading me to be pretty unreasonable about the whole thing. Either that or I have a right to be upset. There's just a lot to process and its complicated and i'm having trouble getting my head around. I guess I just want someone's interpretation of the situation

[QUOTE=killerteacup;51310366]So man I'm having a fucking wild ride at the moment, long post coming Couple of weeks ago I hooked up with a work friend of mine. We were drunk and as we left the pub she bundled me into a taxi and took me back to hers. It was sort of predicted by every one of our work friends in fact most of them thought it had happened already, but it finally did happen. We had chemistry for ages and everyone, including us had acknowledged it before. Thing is, she's sort of not a great person. She looks out for her friends and is mostly fun to be around with, but my best friend has already asked me never to bring her out with us again, because she was incredibly rude to him both times he's met her, and she genuinely believes that women in physically abusive relationships are more at fault than the men because they just need to balls up and leave him. She has huge self esteem problems and anxiety issues that she squishes down into herself, doesn't accept or acknowledge and then they explode out of her at odd moments. She's screamed at me on the phone before, because I've 'accused her of being a bad friend' (I've never done that or even implied it) The morning after we hooked up she was hugely embarrassed and kept insisting that it would never happen again between us. I was bit upset by that, but whatever. Figured she didn't want to blur professional boundaries, nbd whatever. Anyway she told me like 5 times nothing would ever happen and it got weird because like, I got it the first time, and I didn't need to be reminded. I walked out of there without any intentions of chasing after her Anyway last two weeks I've sort of overthought everything and thought something might happen/wanted something to happen despite the above - we were both busy during this time and didn't really see each other, and I had a lot of time on my hands and I think I let my mind run away with myself. After a week or so I was okay again. Anyway at work there's three of us and I found out that for a while she was hooking up with my other friend pretty consistently while I was like...hanging out with them...so we'd see some movies at her place and they'd get it on while I was peeing and then stop when I came back, and I had no idea that this was going on until much later, so I feel used because why did they invite me if they were just gonna make out? I don't get it. But I think what pisses me off most is that I know it happened, and she knows I know, but she's still lying about it and it's just a bit dishonest and that annoys me because while she doesn't owe it to me to be honest about it, I feel like I was taken advantage of Anyway, since then I've been wondering why the hell I've gotten so worked up about it. Like why I got worked up and wanted to get with this girl when I don't really think she's all that nice. She's acted pretty selfishly in loads of situations before regardless of what happened with this So I don't know if I'm looking for advice - I think it's entirely possible that being so anxious about it is leading me to be pretty unreasonable about the whole thing. Either that or I have a right to be upset. There's just a lot to process and its complicated and i'm having trouble getting my head around. I guess I just want someone's interpretation of the situation[/QUOTE] Sometimes you're oblivious to a shitty situation when you're in it. Sounds like you're going after her because she's the only girl currently in your life, and because you 'lost' her. I know it's easy for me to say, but find another girl. Use Tinder or something. Just broaden your horizons a bit.

just helped the girl im crazy about work up the courage to ask her crush what he feels about her should i feel good or bad

[QUOTE=Boba_Fett;51310693]Sometimes you're oblivious to a shitty situation when you're in it. Sounds like you're going after her because she's the only girl currently in your life, and because you 'lost' her. I know it's easy for me to say, but find another girl. Use Tinder or something. Just broaden your horizons a bit.[/QUOTE] its good to hear that I'm not crazy for thinking I got put in a shitty situation though, some of my friends have said that I shouldn't have cared about it

[QUOTE=Bathtub;51307945]I learned today that this really shy and sweet girl likes me even though she has never talked to me How do I let her off easy and say that I am in absolutely no mental condition to be dating anyone[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Bathtub;51310702]just helped the girl im crazy about work up the courage to ask her crush what he feels about her should i feel good or bad[/QUOTE] You should let her down.

[video=youtube;y2PUAn1viOo]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y2PUAn1viOo[/video] For those going through break up (this is targeted towards women, but you can apply it to yourself if you're a guy as well, just switch the roles), this video is a good reminder. A friend sent it to me when I felt down. One part that I hate is the whole "forever comes with hidden terms and conditions" - i.e. love is seen as conditional amongst society. I have been raised to see love as an unconditional construct, so when I love, i love strongly, forgive, and let the relationship flourish, and love unconditionally. Whilst some may say this is a good characteristic, it really does have it downsides; I always get let down or disappointed because it turns out, the unconditional love I have for someone (who left my life a few months ago) wasn't returned. It was conditional. Extremely conditional in this case, and it hurts. Love shouldn't be conditional. People say if it is unconditional, then that means you have to stay even if it gets toxic - this is not true. You can leave a relationship for the better of the both of you, and still love each other. I think love is unconditional by definition. Love isn't something that should be thrown about like it means nothing. *rant over :v:*

[QUOTE=GisG56;51308930]If you truly loved someone, you don't just move on from them immediately, no matter how bad the circumstances/things were ended. I think it is inhumane to date someone, and them be one of the most important people in your life for a year or more, and then just ditch them via a simple text and then just completely forget about them, never speaking again. There is no regard for the other persons feelings, and it also shows cowardice, lack of care, disrespect, and just pure shitness of a person. (this is of course EXCLUDING extreme circumstances such as rape/physical abuse victims who are in danger if they tried to get out of relationship another way, and even then, these victims do not get over it immediately, and take longer than the dick who abused them due to their traumatic experience). I honestly do not know how people like that live with themselves, completely selfish, and careless behaviour. So, to end this half rant, I would like to question those who do this, how could/can you do this to another person, and why? because I genuinely do not understand these people and think they should not have relationships until they can maturely end things where needs be, and respect the other person's (who bare in mind, has ALSO made a huge investment in the relationship they had together) feelings, and allow for anything needed to be said to be said, before parting ways and beginning the healing process.[/QUOTE] One of ex-girlfriends tried to kill herself when I dumped her. I had seen that coming and stopped her from completing it. She had wanted to remain friends, so while she was in the hospital I gave her the chance and kept a line of communication open with her. Not long afterwards, I showed concern and she lashed out at me and made me feel simultaneously terrible and manipulated. At that point, I realized I had spent years of my life trying to support her and making her problems my own, I had run out of ability to care and put myself fully into the relationship, and when I had broken up with her it had been to stop her from making me feel this way. So I blocked her after she lashed out; in my opinion I gave her the chance and she almost immediately abused it after acting civil while in hospital and shortly after. My recent breakup sucked. I got a few lines of text explaining the (temporary) long distance thing was getting too hard, and that's been it. Cold turkey, full stop. It's bittersweet realizing someone you love will be happy without you, but the cut-and-dryness sucks. It's like someone just erased the passages that mention her in my future, leaving big ugly reminders without the closure of actually rewriting the story logically. I would never ghost someone if I could at all avoid it, it's cold as fuck. I'm glad I've never been there, everyone (Within reason) deserves at least an explanation and a real goodbye. If you made someone important to you and put in the effort, you can bear through another hard conversation.

[QUOTE=Carnotite;51311348]One of ex-girlfriends tried to kill herself when I dumped her. I had seen that coming and stopped her from completing it. She had wanted to remain friends, so while she was in the hospital I gave her the chance and kept a line of communication open with her. Not long afterwards, I showed concern and she lashed out at me and made me feel simultaneously terrible and manipulated. At that point, I realized I had spent years of my life trying to support her and making her problems my own, I had run out of ability to care and put myself fully into the relationship, and when I had broken up with her it had been to stop her from making me feel this way. So I blocked her after she lashed out; in my opinion I gave her the chance and she almost immediately abused it after acting civil while in hospital and shortly after. My recent breakup sucked. I got a few lines of text explaining the (temporary) long distance thing was getting too hard, and that's been it. Cold turkey, full stop. It's bittersweet realizing someone you love will be happy without you, but the cut-and-dryness sucks. It's like someone just erased the passages that mention her in my future, leaving big ugly reminders without the closure of actually rewriting the story logically. I would never ghost someone if I could at all avoid it, it's cold as fuck. I'm glad I've never been there, everyone (Within reason) deserves at least an explanation and a real goodbye. If you made someone important to you and put in the effort, you can bear through another hard conversation.[/QUOTE] I agree with your opinion on your situation; you gave her a chance and I am sorry about your story, it's really upsetting. It is hard to stop caring about someone you feel so strongly about - hence my beliefs about unconditional love. There is a limit to which of course someone declines your support, care and love that you give up and it becomes dorment - though doesn't mean that your feelings or care are completely gone. My recent break up was exactly the same as that, except I didn't even get an explanation in the text or any detail. It really does suck and I don't know about you but I genuinely do not know how people can do that to someone who they supposedly loved for however many years. Could not have worded that feeling any better, totally agree with you!!! Like you try to move on, but you cannot because it's all muffled in a massive mess in your head, and you can't give the story closure because there wasn't any. Yet they're galavanting off, moving on or whatever the hell their selfish selves are doing, while you're sat there trying to pick up the pieces of not only your shattered heart, but also trying to create your own closure out of all the bits and pieces before you can even consider moving on. I agree. I 100% agree with you again! If someone chooses to leave, fair enough, but you owe the other person a chance to express their feelings and for both of you to get some form of closure - it's the mature way and also it's fair because both people make a huge dedication/commitment to the relationship (especially if it was long term). I agree with that too... It is cowardice of them, disrespectful and it just says more about them as a person really, it's a really shitty thing to do. I think though it really does hurt (it's been 6months since mine and I'm no where near progressing through moving on yet), you should also consider the fact that they did that to you - they clearly didn't care, and as i said says more about them. Now before beating yourself up about the fact they didn't give a shit, don't. Because something I recently thought about was that it is just an indicator of part of who they are, and they could easily have done/will do it again to somebody else who they invest in their lives with their lies, and manipulation before ditching them cold turkey like they never meant anything. In my opinion, these sorts of people won't get far in life; at least relationship/social wise, it is not okay to treat someone else that way, even if the relationship got bad. People wonder why so many people out there are unhappy, or depressed, this is partly the reason; because of shit excuses of human beings behaving like this when it comes to ending a relationship. It destroys lives (even though we should never let it have that much of an influence), and is disgusting/inhumane in my opinion. Like you said, deserves explanation and real good bye (unless of course there were circumstances in which put someone in danger), so like you said within reason. If you ever want to chat about it, feel free to drop me a message, I'm happy to listen, and offer support; I know how you're feeling, or at least have some understanding of it. :smile:

[QUOTE=killerteacup;51310712]its good to hear that I'm not crazy for thinking I got put in a shitty situation though, some of my friends have said that I shouldn't have cared about it[/QUOTE] I can see both sides of this - I can totally see why people might not think you should care, and if it was just one of the parts of the things you explained then yeah I'd be confused why you'd care too, but as a complete package, she's just being a shit dude, ignore her and find someone else whilst you've got an excellent opportunity she created for you. It'll improve your quality of life x100.

[QUOTE=metallics;51311680]I can see both sides of this - I can totally see why people might not think you should care, and if it was just one of the parts of the things you explained then yeah I'd be confused why you'd care too, but as a complete package, she's just being a shit dude, ignore her and find someone else whilst you've got an excellent opportunity she created for you. It'll improve your quality of life x100.[/QUOTE] Its only the tip of the iceberg as well, none of my friends really care for her anymore Like the night we slept together was a night before i was heading out with her friends and she was setting me up with a friend of hers to hook up with. As it turns out that friend wanted something more which I didnt know but i think she might have. Also she just constantly criticises me for my sense of humor and suchlike and its just the worst

Went to the pub with the lads yesterday Had a great time but my lightheaded self esteem made me open a Tinder account and swipe LIKE without even looking for 10 minutes the fuck did i get myself into

[QUOTE=RzDat;51311789]Went to the pub with the lads yesterday Had a great time but my lightheaded self esteem made me open a Tinder account and swipe LIKE without even looking for 10 minutes the fuck did i get myself into[/QUOTE] If 50+ women can swipe 'like' to me and get a match, and then ignore me, so can you!

My crush turned down today's date and made no mention of rescheduling Guess it's time to let go and move on