Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=papkee;52197384]I never thought getting over someone you weren't even officially dating would be so hard. Looking back on the last three months, I can't figure out what happened. We were good friends, and we started hanging out a lot. She eventually told me she had feelings for me, and I said I felt the same way. She broke up with her LDR boyfriend of a year, we started getting closer than just friends, and I thought I might have something. Then she started backing off. I realize now I was probably just some sort of distraction while she sorted out her BF problems, and a month ago they got back together. So I made peace with this fact, and when we talked about the whole thing she said she caught feelings for me and then one day she just didn't have them anymore. Whatever. But then today I see she's in a relationship with another guy (not her ex) via Facebook, and this is only two weeks after she was spending a lot of time with the other BF. I keep telling myself that I shouldn't want to be with someone who changes their mind on their partner every month, but my mind keeps focusing on her and I hate it. Who knew a single week of being close with someone could fuck me up so bad. [editline]7th May 2017[/editline] Wow I did not mean for that to be three paragraphs.[/QUOTE] You just explained basically the same shit as I dealt with. All I can say is that your best bet is just to spend time with other friends.

[QUOTE=RzDat;52197447]Starting to feel less motivated to find a relationship, it feels like a chore. Should i just buy a pillow waifu and be done with this?[/QUOTE] I'm kind of going through the same thing. I mentioned in here the other day that I got a record-high 8 matches on Tinder in one sitting, but in the end I didn't feel the motivation to message ANY of them. I used to worry a lot more about having (or not having) a relationship, and I either consciously or unconsciously started following all the advice people give for that worry. Improve your diet/exercise to not feel depressed. Find productive hobbies to keep you occupied in your downtime. Spend quality time with good friends, and meet new people just for the sake of meeting them. Don't feel like you need to be meeting other people's standards, just fulfill your own standards and be satisfied with yourself. Don't waste time on people who aren't willing to respect you. I started doing all these things, and now it feels like somebody played this bizarre trick on me, where instead of finding my way into a relationship, I got myself into a state where I'm pretty happy regardless of whether I'm in one or not. This is some of that "the real treasure was WITHIN YOU all along!" bullshit

A friend of mine came out to and said they have been dealing with depression for a while now and has been seeing a psychiatrist for the past few months. They did really poorly gradewise this semester in school, so they elected to drop/withdraw from this semester and try again next year, so their gpa wont be too damaged. Any advice for me to help them? I want to be supportive, but I have no clue how

The girl who always insisted me to stay with her and never ever leave her has eventually married another guy last month. Within a span of barely 3 months (feb - april) she got engaged and then married. Her parents found the groom in arranged marriage fashion. Just getting this off my chest. There was a time when she asked what if I change later because people change any time. Well, I am still the same but someone changed for sure and completely shut me off from their life without saying final words of closure. I guess I have to live with it now.

[QUOTE=fritzel;52198282]The girl who always insisted me to stay with her and never ever leave her has eventually married another guy last month. Within a span of barely 3 months (feb - april) she got engaged and then married. Her parents found the groom in arranged marriage fashion. Just getting this off my chest. There was a time when she asked what if I change later because people change any time. Well, I am still the same but someone changed for sure and completely shut me off from their life without saying final words of closure. I guess I have to live with it now.[/QUOTE] I never understood concept of arranged marriages, arent they forcing kids to marry someone they may not like? how is that shit even legal?

[QUOTE=arleitiss;52198449]I never understood concept of arranged marriages, arent they forcing kids to marry someone they may not like? how is that shit even legal?[/QUOTE] It's not forced per se. Parents find the potential groom from the same community. It's kind of screening done by the parents looking at the family status, financial status, and other factors of the potential groom. Essentially parents look for well settled groom for their daughter. And then the girl gives her opinion if she likes the guy or not. Both guy and girl may talk or see each other for few weeks or months. This entirely depends on how liberal the parents are. If everything goes fine then they can decide to get married. From girl's point of view, parents have already screened the guy. Girl is not entirely responsible if anything goes wrong later as parents gave an "ok" for the guy initially. While in love marriage the girl is on her own, responsible for everything that goes wrong. I guess choosing arranged marriage is not a bad proposition if it reduces the responsibility. Or when you have had enough of love breakups.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;52197864]Why do you focus so much on your weaknesses? Find your strengths, and capitalize on them.[/QUOTE] Can't really name any strengths that matter (anything outside knowledge on interests and hobbies). I'm lazy, not very empathetic and very immature. Personalities are usually set in stone by the time you reach adulthood which is why I want to try to make up for it by attempting to make myself more physically attractive.

Physical attractiveness is only a small, small part of it though. Most of the time it's only what gets you in the door with someone. After that, if you've got a garbage personality or are boring, the other person won't be sticking around for long. Looks aren't completely overrated, but if you're basic a relationship on physical appearance alone you're gonna have a rough time.

I'm in a string of heavy emotional texts with a friend right now, this stuff makes me so nervous. I get all shaky waiting for that next text to come, and spending minutes at a time writing the next one. Literally sweating it too

I was kinda... in the middle of trying to decide whether or not the girl I mentioned earlier was into me the way that I was into her. On Saturday night we talked for a solid three hours in her car (from like midnight to 3:30 in the morning) about all sorts of deep shit regarding our lives. First time she opened up to me, and it was great being there as a friend to her even in lieu of my infatuation (don't really see myself making romantic advances while she's broken up about something). At around 4 in the morning, after she dropped me off, I turned the shower on and decided I'd look at our old messages just to end the night on an even better note. I go into our Snapchat conversation and I see her dot come up, meaning she was actively looking at the chat before I was. I literally went "OH SHIT" and threw my phone onto the counter :v: Dunno. Think I'll ask her out pretty soon!

oh god... The girl I went on one tinder date with (back in MARCH) just found and added me on facebook. We never even talked after the one date. This is awkward.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;52202034]oh god... The girl I went on one tinder date with (back in MARCH) just found and added me on facebook. We never even talked after the one date. This is awkward.[/QUOTE] The girl that my sister hooked me up with back in DECEMBER through Facebook (who ghosted me so hard I now believe in spirits) was the first one to congratulate me on my birthday (last friday) with a "Congratulations ;)" :v:

[QUOTE=SgtTupelo;52202125]The girl that my sister hooked me up with back in DECEMBER through Facebook (who ghosted me so hard I now believe in spirits) was the first one to congratulate me on my birthday (last friday) with a "Congratulations ;)" :v:[/QUOTE] Sometimes people try to make up to their earlier abrupt behaviors. Mostly happens when they go through shit times.

The girl who was so thirsty for me suddenly becomes weird and distant once I got home from college and come time to actually hang out she goes silent. like she literally asked me to fuck and kept sending me "ugh I miss you so much" "pls kiss me" texts and now she like barely even responds anymore ????????

In other news I recently found out that the girl I've been having kinda the hots on is NOT in a relationship. Honestly, this here is already a big break for me.

[QUOTE=Blazyd;52202199]The girl who was so thirsty for me suddenly becomes weird and distant once I got home from college and come time to actually hang out she goes silent. like she literally asked me to fuck and kept sending me "ugh I miss you so much" "pls kiss me" texts and now she like barely even responds anymore ????????[/QUOTE] Thirst is easily quenched.

I started searching for job already, never searched for job yet so its first time. Holy fuck the recruiters are fucking vultures, whenever I sent application for job on site - they call me within 10 minutes.

Ok, so thank to the planets aligning I have managed to set up a "date" via Tinder for tomorrow. So I want to discuss some protocols with all of you. What if she looks nothing like the pictures? What if I don't have anything in common with her and I start feeling bored/annoyed mid-date? I started messaging her just 2 days ago, and even if I'm the one who suggested the date it still seems suspicious to me she accepted, any thoughts? Thanks for the help

[QUOTE=Ctrl;52206875]Ok, so thank to the planets aligning I have managed to set up a "date" via Tinder for tomorrow. So I want to discuss some protocols with all of you. What if she looks nothing like the pictures? What if I don't have anything in common with her and I start feeling bored/annoyed mid-date? I started messaging her just 2 days ago, and even if I'm the one who suggested the date it still seems suspicious to me she accepted, any thoughts? Thanks for the help[/QUOTE] 1.) Don't be vain 2.) Then just try to enjoy your time and maybe try harder to start some discussion.

[QUOTE=Ctrl;52206875]Ok, so thank to the planets aligning I have managed to set up a "date" via Tinder for tomorrow. So I want to discuss some protocols with all of you. What if she looks nothing like the pictures? What if I don't have anything in common with her and I start feeling bored/annoyed mid-date? I started messaging her just 2 days ago, and even if I'm the one who suggested the date it still seems suspicious to me she accepted, any thoughts? Thanks for the help[/QUOTE] superior mindset: what if it goes great? no need to be cynical about it, will only make things harder

Making love at this very moment, she's loves it when I grab her tight. Her uncle's is in the room so it's kinda awkward but who gives a fuck.

[QUOTE=farmatyr;52207455]Making love at this very moment, she's loves it when I grab her tight. Her uncle's is in the room so it's kinda awkward but who gives a fuck.[/QUOTE] Not cool man, how would you like it if some couple were fucking in the room you were in?

[QUOTE=farmatyr;52207455]Making love at this very moment, she's loves it when I grab her tight. Her uncle's is in the room so it's kinda awkward but who gives a fuck.[/QUOTE] how are you posting to facepunch at the same time? whos avatar are you using?

[QUOTE=farmatyr;52207455]Making love at this very moment, she's loves it when I grab her tight. Her uncle's is in the room so it's kinda awkward but who gives a fuck.[/QUOTE] pics or it didn't happen

[QUOTE=farmatyr;52207455]Making love at this very moment, she's loves it when I grab her tight. Her uncle's is in the room so it's kinda awkward but who gives a fuck.[/QUOTE] Yeah, and I'd appreciate it if you didn't "grab tight" my niece while i'm in the room

[QUOTE=farmatyr;52207455]Making love at this very moment, she's loves it when I grab her tight. Her uncle's is in the room so it's kinda awkward but who gives a fuck.[/QUOTE] Hun, Uncle Ricky, one second. Gotta tell facepunch about this.

I had sex with a fembot on discord and it was the hottest thing ive done in my life. She is such a cutie pie. I cannot believe how honest and sincere she is. I REALLY want to fly to her. I feel like I want to marry her. I am so fucking anxious right now out HELP ME

[QUOTE=Egg_Toaster;52208632]I had sex with a fembot on discord and it was the hottest thing ive done in my life. She is such a cutie pie. I cannot believe how honest and sincere she is. I REALLY want to fly to her. I feel like I want to marry her. I am so fucking anxious right now out HELP ME[/QUOTE] hol up Fembot? Discord? Sex? i need some context on this

[QUOTE=Ctrl;52206875]Ok, so thank to the planets aligning I have managed to set up a "date" via Tinder for tomorrow. So I want to discuss some protocols with all of you. What if she looks nothing like the pictures? What if I don't have anything in common with her and I start feeling bored/annoyed mid-date? I started messaging her just 2 days ago, and even if I'm the one who suggested the date it still seems suspicious to me she accepted, any thoughts? Thanks for the help[/QUOTE] I had a tinder date a couple months ago (which I posted about further up the page) and I went into it with the same worries. I turned out to be uninterested in her within seconds of meeting, but thankfully I had an "out" later in the night. That's my advice. Have an out. In my case, it's that I was using hourly parking in the city, so when my time was about up, I pulled out the ticket and went "aw jeez look at that, my parking spot is about expired, I gotta leave." This WAS like an hour or so after the dinner though, I typed that out and it kinda sounded like I left right in the middle of dinner or something. If I had been really crazy about the person, I could have paid more money to stay parked longer, but let's not dwell on little details.

[QUOTE=RzDat;52208771]hol up Fembot? Discord? Sex? i need some context on this[/QUOTE] Fembot = Term for female on /r9k/ I meant I had voice chat sex with her. She called me master and did everything I told her over mic.