Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;52208900]Do you have any hobbies to keep you from spending 300 dollars on a plane ticket to visit a girl that most likely isn't interested in anything long-term?[/QUOTE] Lol, Im not gonna do it. Im just trying to vent my feelings.

hey guys if you think your dating is going bad i spilt a glass of wine on a tinder dates macbook air and had to buy her a new one so

So a girl I dated for a while, and who (the last time i saw her) said we were officially 'together', basically ghosted me as far as I can tell, she just hasn't spoke or said a word to me for about two months. In that time I've tried only twice to just figure out why, the second time I apologized if I'd done anything wrong that upset her (even though I'm positive I didn't, I was careful, but I just hate having the feeling that I upset someone without knowing), because idk, to me thats the only reason you'd literally refuse to speak to someone you were relatively close to without letting them know. don't get me wrong, I'm not naive, I don't want to get back with her, because frankly I think anyone who does this sort of thing is immature at best and cowardly at worst, but I just hate feeling like I could have done something wrong without knowing. regardless of what happens I'm just going to remove her from everything this weekend at the latest I think, facebook, snapchat, everything. Funnily enough despite not speaking to me she opens all my snapchat stories which is odd, but fuck all that. what I want to know is, do I try one last time to just try and message and ask why it all happened? Even if I did this and she didn't answer back I'd still remove her, I just need closure, its hard to explain. I don't want to have to do all this but I just hate thinking about it and not knowing why it all happened. It was my v.first time dating or seeing anyone like this before so I think this is why its hitting me more than it should.

[QUOTE=gustavholst;52145399]I tried to explain a star wars meme I saw to a moderately attractive male today, but all I could really get out was "Ewan McGregor is great" after rambling for a while. This is why I shouldn't talk to anybody else ever.[/QUOTE] Update: I am more charming than I thought. Got a date out of it.

[QUOTE=jammy job;52209827]So a girl I dated for a while, and who (the last time i saw her) said we were officially 'together', basically ghosted me as far as I can tell, she just hasn't spoke or said a word to me for about two months. In that time I've tried only twice to just figure out why, the second time I apologized if I'd done anything wrong that upset her (even though I'm positive I didn't, I was careful, but I just hate having the feeling that I upset someone without knowing), because idk, to me thats the only reason you'd literally refuse to speak to someone you were relatively close to without letting them know. don't get me wrong, I'm not naive, I don't want to get back with her, because frankly I think anyone who does this sort of thing is immature at best and cowardly at worst, but I just hate feeling like I could have done something wrong without knowing. regardless of what happens I'm just going to remove her from everything this weekend at the latest I think, facebook, snapchat, everything. Funnily enough despite not speaking to me she opens all my snapchat stories which is odd, but fuck all that. what I want to know is, do I try one last time to just try and message and ask why it all happened? Even if I did this and she didn't answer back I'd still remove her, I just need closure, its hard to explain. I don't want to have to do all this but I just hate thinking about it and not knowing why it all happened. It was my v.first time dating or seeing anyone like this before so I think this is why its hitting me more than it should.[/QUOTE] This answer is going to suck, but you're better off letting everything go and removing her asap. Sometimes you don't get closure on these kind of things, that's not your fault. It's their fault for being a shitty person and not being able to talk about their own feelings with you.

I decided to start dating and set up a profile on a dating app how does this look? [IMG]http://i.imgur.com/SHh9I3w.png[/IMG]

[QUOTE=Svinnik;52212548]I decided to start dating and set up a profile on a dating app how does this look? [IMG]http://i.imgur.com/SHh9I3w.png[/IMG][/QUOTE] A couple of things: a) I'm not sure about the "want a serious relationship" thing, because it's possible it'll scare a lot of possibly great matches off because they'd like to take things slow and see how they unfurl. Try an A/B test on that. b) Be a bit more specific about the books - Rephrase that to say, for example - I love reading Sci-Fi and Fantasy. Some of my favorites include : blah blah c) Again, about the cooking thing - talk cuisines. What do you like to make? d) Don't be negative - Instead of saying "I'm not interested in TV Shows" you can phrase it in a way that accentuates something else - "I lead a pretty active life, but some of the shows I liked were American gods, blah blah e) Oi, don't you be horning in on what is one of the only things us Indian guys have, dammit. :v:

[QUOTE=Svinnik;52212548]I decided to start dating and set up a profile on a dating app how does this look? [IMG]http://i.imgur.com/SHh9I3w.png[/IMG][/QUOTE] I rewrote it entirely Hey, I'm X, a Modern Orthodox guy who recently moved to Jersey from Boston. I'm looking for an honest committed relationship. I have a lot of interests, a few ones are probably cooking, reading, music, and sometimes watching movies/TV. I like to cook beef jerky and steak but I'm diversifying into learning how to cook a few other dishes, I need someone to help me out with that. I'm a bit of a book worm with my favorite author being Kurt Vonnegut, his books are a great blend of science fiction and realistic fiction. I like all types of music, currently I'm listening to Kayne's earlier albums. I don't spend much time watching TV or movies (more of a video game guy myself) but my favorite movie is Waltz with Bashir and currently I'm watching American Gods. It's a great show and I can't recommend it enough. If that's not enough, I'm good with computers and I can fix yours for free. is this better?

May just be me, so take this advice with a grain of salt. But to me it comes off as very serious, which makes you come off as a very serious person, rather than a fun, cool to hang out with, person.

With most online dating things, but Tinder especially, it's better to have something short and eye-catching than to try to encapsulate your whole biography in the description. Make people want to know more, rather than giving them everything up front.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;52215210]I have never seen a more expensive way to get that second date[/QUOTE] It at least gave follow up contact, leading to a second date? Right?

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52210740]This answer is going to suck, but you're better off letting everything go and removing her asap. Sometimes you don't get closure on these kind of things, that's not your fault. It's their fault for being a shitty person and not being able to talk about their own feelings with you.[/QUOTE] i think this is what I needed to hear tbh, removed her last night, thanks man.

[img]http://i.imgur.com/Uuo6kna.jpg[/img] this was my tinder profile for a while. honestly dont know what im doing wrong here. anyways, just kinda stumbled on this thread and maybe reading this will help me learn to be a normal people. iv been out of the dating loop for a while, so il rely on your guys help in the future when i end up making another horrible dating decision

I posted this in the "Sex and Girlfriends etc." thread already, but this seems to be the more active place to be : Just had my first casual hook-up in a long time. I'd been talking with this girl over the last little while, and had only met up once before, for coffee. It's the first time I've been actually aware that it's a "hang-out and fuck once in a while" casual situation, and not starting a serious relationship or anything. My instincts are to try to date her though and I hope I don't over-text her or anything and freak her out.

I need to fuck something

[QUOTE=Egg_Toaster;52216541]I need to fuck something[/QUOTE] hi

[QUOTE=Egg_Toaster;52216541]I need to fuck something[/QUOTE] I just broke a 1 year dry spell. I know that feeling.

2 year dry spell come at me.

i suppose I'm technically in a 20-year dry spell right now :toot:

[QUOTE=bob4life;52216110][img]http://i.imgur.com/Uuo6kna.jpg[/img] this was my tinder profile for a while. honestly dont know what im doing wrong here. anyways, just kinda stumbled on this thread and maybe reading this will help me learn to be a normal people. iv been out of the dating loop for a while, so il rely on your guys help in the future when i end up making another horrible dating decision[/QUOTE] That pic makes you look like an idiot tbh. Just take a picture of yourself with a genuine smile in broad daylight, in a park maybe. Simple as that.

Keep the Tinder hat on in every single photo you've got, though.

[QUOTE=bob4life;52216110][img]http://i.imgur.com/Uuo6kna.jpg[/img] this was my tinder profile for a while. honestly dont know what im doing wrong here. anyways, just kinda stumbled on this thread and maybe reading this will help me learn to be a normal people. iv been out of the dating loop for a while, so il rely on your guys help in the future when i end up making another horrible dating decision[/QUOTE] This makes you look like the kind of person I try to stay very far away from just do a nice thoughtful portrait or something

[QUOTE=Egg_Toaster;52216670]That pic makes you look like an idiot tbh. Just take a picture of yourself with a genuine smile in broad daylight, in a park maybe. Simple as that.[/QUOTE] i try not to take things too seriously. im happy with looking like an idiot because ultimately im not trying to win a medal for Best Tinder Picture. and if someone stumbles upon my profile and sees a picture of me with a handle of rum and a tinder hat on and finds it funny, then i see that as a step in the right direction. the kind of people who pass judgement over a joke are the ones i want to stay away from in the end, anyways. [QUOTE=austin0331;52217032]This makes you look like the kind of person I try to stay very far away from[/QUOTE] like this guy [thumb]http://i.imgur.com/wPyjTFJ.jpg[/thumb] this is my current thot profile pic. snapchat filters work wonders btw

This has been an interesting couple of days, remind me never to post under influence again. Basically jumped in a car and went on an adventure with a complete stranger I met on Tinder, she's from Iceland. We're not stranger's anymore 😊

[QUOTE=farmatyr;52217756]This has been an interesting couple of days, remind me never to post under influence again. Basically jumped in a car and went on an adventure with a complete stranger I met on Tinder, she's from Iceland. We're not stranger's anymore 😊[/QUOTE] In situations like this, it would be useful to keep your phone GPS on and the battery charged at all times, so we'll know whether to bring shovels or scuba gear to come get your snoo-snoo'ed corpse.

[QUOTE=papkee;52216650]i suppose I'm technically in a 20-year dry spell right now :toot:[/QUOTE] Just wait until you hit 24.

[QUOTE=bob4life;52216110][img]http://i.imgur.com/Uuo6kna.jpg[/img] this was my tinder profile for a while. honestly dont know what im doing wrong here. anyways, just kinda stumbled on this thread and maybe reading this will help me learn to be a normal people. iv been out of the dating loop for a while, so il rely on your guys help in the future when i end up making another horrible dating decision[/QUOTE] I used tinder ironically once too [IMG]https://i.imgur.com/cSYEXdS.jpg[/IMG]

Theres a friend i have been seen for the last month we met and its been awesome for real. Catched feelings not that long ago and it was bothering me big time. Decided to tell the truth and now im kinda afraid. I fear im not mature enough to handle this, but for other hand im more in peace with myself. I dont know guys, what do you think?

[QUOTE=snookypookums;52217997]In situations like this, it would be useful to keep your phone GPS on and the battery charged at all times, so we'll know whether to bring shovels or scuba gear to come get your snoo-snoo'ed corpse.[/QUOTE] Decided I wanted to do something crazy, live life a little. Got to know alot of new people and learned some Icelandic (that I've already forgotten).

I hate those people who feel the need to interfere with others well-being to maintain their own social outlook and ego. People are just trying to have a good time in this life and yet there are people who still feel the need to maintain their massive ego like fuck off see where that gets you in the real world