Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=Ardosos;52321341]What does it mean if someone says that they're "borderline" with no other words? Borderline what? I've heard it said by a few people, someone said it here in this thread once as I recall.[/QUOTE] [url]http://www.bpdaustralia.com/about-bpd/[/url]

Coffee date went well! Talked a lot, organized another date for this weekend.

I actually cancelled the date I had with the other person (date with the first gal is still going ahead as planned) because I came to the realization that I'm not comfortable dating two people at once. Didn't bullshit them and texted them exactly that: I met someone today and we intend on seeing eachother again and I didn't feel like the meetup was fair to her anymore as I'd be feeling like I was leading her on. Is that reasonable on my part?

[QUOTE=StrawberryClock;52322106]I actually cancelled the date I had with the other person (date with the first gal is still going ahead as planned) because I came to the realization that I'm not comfortable dating two people at once. Didn't bullshit them and texted them exactly that: I met someone today and we intend on seeing eachother again and I didn't feel like the meetup was fair to her anymore as I'd be feeling like I was leading her on. Is that reasonable on my part?[/QUOTE] Seems fair to me

So I started going out more with my friends. Sure the cost means that I sacrifice one to three days what could be used for my SFM and writing projects, but it makes me happy when work goes sour. Been hanging out with this girl I met ways back. She's like the total opposite to me; spry and roaming to my dull and sluggish, loud to my soft, and so on. Do opposites like that tend to attract, because I do have a feeling. It's like a missing piece, or a hint of motivation to keep up with her.

It's more about compatible personalities, but opposites can be complementary. Plus, once you meet someone who is unlike you, but whom you get along with really well, it'll SEEM more like an "opposites attract" scenario because you learn so much new stuff from/about each other than you might from someone who is just like you.

The "opposites attract" thing is more about balance, I think. Like if you're kind of more of a sedentary person, you're gonna want someone who is a little more active to encourage you to get out and do more physical things while you can help them settle down and relax sometimes. Getting two lazy people together is probably kind of counterproductive lol. But yeah it's more about "let's help each other keep each other in check" rather than WE ARE STARK OPPOSITES WHO HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON, y'know?

[QUOTE=Pascall;52331379]The "opposites attract" thing is more about balance, I think. Like if you're kind of more of a sedentary person, you're gonna want someone who is a little more active to encourage you to get out and do more physical things while you can help them settle down and relax sometimes. Getting two lazy people together is probably kind of counterproductive lol. But yeah it's more about "let's help each other keep each other in check" rather than WE ARE STARK OPPOSITES WHO HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON, y'know?[/QUOTE] Yeah she's anything but lazy. Her and her friends more active schedules makes me want to get out of this "stay indoors, write, and play online games 24/7" funk I've had since college ended. We do share similar interests and hobbies that keep us interested in forming discussions and whatnot that's for certain so we're never bored. Plus there's always something new to find and get more interests so it's never monotonous.

The girl I went on a date with was an opposite to me, though it just made me more intrigued and interested in finding out more about her. You don't have to be similar to match, it can sometimes help not to be.

Opposites don't really attract. Similar people with some clearly divergent points feel like they are attracted to an opposite, while the actual truth is that the similarities far outweight the differences, but those differences spice up the relationship.

Sooo i could use some advice or what should i do. I went to work at an apartment this morning and there was this nice lady living there and while i was unpacking my work stuff the lady's daughter comes out of nowhere and completely surprises me, why i was surprised? well she looked really good and i was not expecting anything like this to happen. Anyway while i was working i've seen the girl looking at me every time she goes by the bathroom ( Where i was working) she gives me a really sweet smile when i look back. So while doing stuff i got out and began talking to the lady because i love to explain what i do exactly so the people who live in the house/Apartment can feel somewhat safe and secure and have some social contact of course, anyway. We began talking about some random stuff and we had many discussions and her daughter comes out again and joins the discussion and it was fun and i made them feel comfortable having me in their home so it was all good. And when i was about to leave she gives me another huge smile, like when a girl who likes you smiles at you i guess can call it and i wanted to ask for a number but her mother was standing there and i don't want her to misunderstand it or takes it in the wrong way so i did not do anything and now i regret it because i don't think i'll be ever seeing this girl again. Now see, I only knew the name of the lady because the apartment was in her name but i heard her call her daughter's name so now i know the name of the daughter without asking or anything else. So, since i have a name and found her instagram and facebook and yes i know it might sound like stalking but what can i say. I don't think she heard my colleague say my name so i don't think she knows my name and i was thinking of following her on Instagram and maybe take it from there if she accepts ofc. Is it weird to do so? Will it make me look very bad and intrusive? Should i go for it? I'm sorry for the long text but i think the girl likes me too and i don't want to miss the opportunity.

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;52333271]Sooo i could use some advice or what should i do. I went to work at an apartment this morning and there was this nice lady living there and while i was unpacking my work stuff the lady's daughter comes out of nowhere and completely surprises me, why i was surprised? well she looked really good and i was not expecting anything like this to happen. Anyway while i was working i've seen the girl looking at me every time she goes by the bathroom ( Where i was working) she gives me a really sweet smile when i look back. So while doing stuff i got out and began talking to the lady because i love to explain what i do exactly so the people who live in the house/Apartment can feel somewhat safe and secure and have some social contact of course, anyway. We began talking about some random stuff and we had many discussions and her daughter comes out again and joins the discussion and it was fun and i made them feel comfortable having me in their home so it was all good. And when i was about to leave she gives me another huge smile, like when a girl who likes you smiles at you i guess can call it and i wanted to ask for a number but her mother was standing there and i don't want her to misunderstand it or takes it in the wrong way so i did not do anything and now i regret it because i don't think i'll be ever seeing this girl again. Now see, I only knew the name of the lady because the apartment was in her name but i heard her call her daughter's name so now i know the name of the daughter without asking or anything else. So, since i have a name and found her instagram and facebook and yes i know it might sound like stalking but what can i say. I don't think she heard my colleague say my name so i don't think she knows my name and i was thinking of following her on Instagram and maybe take it from there if she accepts ofc. Is it weird to do so? Will it make me look very bad and intrusive? Should i go for it? I'm sorry for the long text but i think the girl likes me too and i don't want to miss the opportunity.[/QUOTE] Go back at a reasonable time and introduce yourself to the daughter, maybe even explaining how you feel. Humanz are quite a relaksible set of organisms that will enjoy company and talk more easily than you'd think. There is not point doing it digitally, just go to the location where you went and talk to the girl you like

[QUOTE=Mr. Banjo;52333720]Go back at a reasonable time and introduce yourself to the daughter, maybe even explaining how you feel. Humanz are quite a relaksible set of organisms that will enjoy company and talk more easily than you'd think. There is not point doing it digitally, just go to the location where you went and talk to the girl you like[/QUOTE] I don't think i can just go back since i finished with what i was doing there and if i use my private time to go there and knock on the door just like that then it will look very wrong don't you think? Thats why i'm asking if i should contact her digitally first.

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;52333905]I don't think i can just go back since i finished with what i was doing there and if i use my private time to go there and knock on the door just like that then it will look very wrong don't you think? Thats why i'm asking if i should contact her digitally first.[/QUOTE] I'm just saying, explain the situation to her in a cute way and she'll be all like "awwww". If she turns you down just move on because there's like 4 x 10^9 more women out there

"hi, sorry to bother you. i wasn't able to talk to you the other day since we have policies about it but now that i'm not working, i just wanted to say hi and introduce myself. this might seem a little forward but would you like to maybe get coffee or something sometime?" idk something like that

[QUOTE=Eriorguez;52332353]Opposites don't really attract. Similar people with some clearly divergent points feel like they are attracted to an opposite, while the actual truth is that the similarities far outweight the differences, but those differences spice up the relationship.[/QUOTE] I might have worded my post weird. I mean difference as in she's a bit more active than me. Her schedule means she could go shopping or drive for a while where I just want to unwind after work. We do make time to see other, and we do both share the same hobbies and interest so we never feel too distant. It's not that we don't share interests, she's just more energetic.

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;52334324]"hi, sorry to bother you. i wasn't able to talk to you the other day since we have policies about it but now that i'm not working, i just wanted to say hi and introduce myself. this might seem a little forward but would you like to maybe get coffee or something sometime?" idk something like that[/QUOTE] Sure, that sounds good but it would be weird to just go back to the apartment and ask for her? That's why i'm asking if it's better to contact her on Instagram first and see how it goes. I guess you could say "Play it safe" Also note, she is Syriac Christian which makes me extra nervous because i don't want her family to misunderstand my intention because if it goes wrong then no one will be happy. She apparently comes from a big Assyrian family that have lived in Sweden since the 70s.

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;52334537]Sure, that sounds good but it would be weird to just go back to the apartment and ask for her? That's why i'm asking if it's better to contact her on Instagram first and see how it goes. I guess you could say "Play it safe" Also note, she is Syriac Christian which makes me extra nervous because i don't want her family to misunderstand my intention because if it goes wrong then no one will be happy. She apparently comes from a big Assyrian family that have lived in Sweden since the 70s.[/QUOTE] Personally I think it would be really weird to go to this person's house. Supposing the girl herself doesn't answer the door, then you have to tell one of her parents "Hey I came back to your house to see your daughter." To me that'd be way more awkward than contacting her online

You said it yourself though, it felt like a stalker move to contact her online. It kind of is. Being earnest, and honest, and going back to meet her the 'proper' way is a better and less creepy show of interest. It puts you at equal footing, rather than you first having a window into her life through her profiles.

[QUOTE=DChapsfield;52335484]You said it yourself though, it felt like a stalker move to contact her online. It kind of is. Being earnest, and honest, and going back to meet her the 'proper' way is a better and less creepy show of interest. It puts you at equal footing, rather than you first having a window into her life through her profiles.[/QUOTE] If I was in her situation, I would much rather have someone message me online than just show up at my door though. And I think being able to explain yourself with "I remembered your name and looked you up" is not as weird as "I remember where you live and I came back." Best case scenario, if she's super interested, it probably won't matter either way. But worst case scenario, it's a lot easier to block a person on the internet than it is to keep them physically off your property. I think looking people up or "stalking" them online isn't [i]immediately[/i] weird because I think it's something everybody's done in small doses. It starts to get weird when you're looking up really old posts, or trying to find shit that they aren't displaying openly to the public. Stuff like that. People post a lot of things openly on Facebook and Instagram, and if you actually add/follow a person on those sites, you're inviting them to have that same "window" into your life, so it becomes equal footing on that platform too.

School's finally over everybody made it past the admission to the maturity exam, cool but apparently I am somehow the worst one in my classroom, which I know isn't true and now I feel belittled and humiliated

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;52336454]School's finally over everybody made it past the admission to the maturity exam, cool but apparently I am somehow the worst one in my classroom, which I know isn't true and now I feel belittled and humiliated[/QUOTE] Wow, that sucks that anyone whatsoever could say that, was it any other student or a school staff of some sort?

[QUOTE=SimplySimmers;52341763]Wow, that sucks that anyone whatsoever could say that, was it any other student or a school staff of some sort?[/QUOTE] nobody said anything, a few days after the last school day in order to know whether you've been admitted you wait till they display a paper with everyone's results and grades my grades are the lowest amongst the class, but I surely can't be the worst one apparently people who've been absent for 1/4th of the entire school year managed to get better grades than I did? Yet I get to share their same grade, in behaviour even?

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;52342130]nobody said anything, a few days after the last school day in order to know whether you've been admitted you wait till they display a paper with everyone's results and grades my grades are the lowest amongst the class, but I surely can't be the worst one apparently people who've been absent for 1/4th of the entire school year managed to get better grades than I did? Yet I get to share their same grade, in behaviour even?[/QUOTE] Wtf same grade in behaviour ? WTF behaviour grade ? I suppose you're about 18, you've still got behaviour grade ?

[QUOTE=Eirheinger;52347059]Wtf same grade in behaviour ? WTF behaviour grade ? I suppose you're about 18, you've still got behaviour grade ?[/QUOTE] yeah, if you have a low grade (anything below 7/10 means bad, 8 is pretty meh) it means you've been absent a lot, you're always late for class, you don't pay attention in class, you don't do homework, the usual thing

This probably belongs here. [video=youtube;R20DrhsdJaQ]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R20DrhsdJaQ[/video]

Do you ever see something with a date on it like an old newspaper or a movie release date or something like that and think to yourself "ah yeah, that was back when I was with my ex. Things were good back then" and feel kind of sad

It has been almost a year since I've broke up with my ex-GF and met a new one. Yet at least once a week, for a month or so, I've been getting dreams about my ex-GF and her trying to seduce me. Tonight I almost fell for it. How pathetic am I?

[QUOTE=CruelAddict;52351923]It has been almost a year since I've broke up with my ex-GF and met a new one. Yet at least once a week, for a month or so, I've been getting dreams about my ex-GF and her trying to seduce me. Tonight I almost fell for it. How pathetic am I?[/QUOTE] You ain't.

[QUOTE=GoDong-DK;52352088]You ain't.[/QUOTE] Sure feels like it :v: