Super Friendly Social and Love Advice v8 - Stop spamming her with texts. - General

[QUOTE=SideZeo;52407946]Perhaps I should give it a chance. I'll guess I'll look into it tomorrow Though then again, a part of me is quite uncertain. I mean, in Tinder one of the first impressions are still your looks right? Because I'm perhaps not the strongest contender regarding physical attractiveness[/QUOTE] Many women I've talked to swipe solely on looks although there are people who reads the description too. But don't let that discourage you, I'm (at least I think I am) a little above average looking and I still only get a few matches a week and then I have friends who I consider ugly who get about the same or more. I think it has more to do with what kind of pictures you have. As a first picture you should probably have one where they can get a good look of your face and then I would go with something that displays social value like a vacation with friends. Also, when you are new on tinder your profile card gets displayed more often so your chances are the best right in the beginning. I got like 10 matches in two weeks when I got it, Just try it. Worst case scenario you don't like it and remove it.

[QUOTE=arleitiss;52408650]Ok I managed to carry her to toilet then asleep. Just FYI (just in case many wonder why I dont care about her): AS it turns out shes nor my character or retarded in other words. She asked me: "You dont mind wife spending 1500 Euro on a bag righ"? "I am buying Chihuahua for 1000 Euro" (idk about dog prices but tbh I would tell that dog to fuck off)" "My Sunglasses are worth 300 Euro" [Hell Shit, they are on my PC desk, so I take pics, ejoy free pics men) while you can) Here are pics of apparently expensive glases: [T]http://i.imgur.com/Izrkhhx.jpg[/T] Apparently these shits are worth more than my life, so RIP.[/QUOTE] ah... the faint scent of Irish PUI

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;52409187]W... what?[/QUOTE] Well, he did mention they were drinking earlier that night...

Sorry for shit-show, I was hammered as a dog last night. tl;dr: I am not gonna pursue her anymore, I simply dont see any future with her while I am looking for someone that would be worth putting time into, that's the bottom line. Apprently shes getting a chihuahua dog and calling it Gucci... When I told her to get a proper dog - she said other dogs are not stylish... so yeah :suicide: [editline]28th June 2017[/editline] On a side note - apparently I got the job.

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ahaha right so I've been using tinder a bit just because I'm bored, didn't really intend for anything to come out of it, and I enjoy chatting to random people so thats mainly what ive been using it for, never went in with the intention of meeting anyone. SO chatting to someone, I say passively something about the app working funny, they suggest adding me on fb, I think sure why not and then they immediately say "so when are you free" and obvs I didn't expect this at all and now I'm probably meeting them at some point in the next few days oops I've gone on dates before but never off an app like this so I've no idea what to expect. I hope this doesn't sound bad but I'm really just going to treat it as a laugh? I'm not particularly invested in any way at all so I'm not bothered if anything bad happens, but she's a friendly enough person it seems so I wouldn't mind just seeing what happens.

I'd say just be glad you got some sort of contact out of it. I have only had 2 matches on tinder and neither of them responded to me when I sent a message, and that's in years of using it so yeah. Be appreciative of anything that happens and just act as if it will be good, because something is certainly better than nothing.

Taking girl out for a milkshake and walk tonight àaaaaaaáaaaâaaaaã

What can I do to make my girlfriend more confident/more comfortable with affection? I know that I'm not necessarily doing anything wrong but for various reasons she has very low self esteem. What else can I do other than treat her as well as I can and give her genuine compliments? Does it all have to come from within her, or can I do something?

Going for my final x-ray tomprrow then the whole roof fall can be forgotten like a bad dream. Starting new job on Monday so finally things are looking bright. My timeline in recent months: 24th of February - I get rekt by SUV on side of the road. 1st of March - I miss holiday because well, I am fucked up to go anywhere. 8th of March - I fall off roof of hospital. 6th of April - I go home after being in hospitals for nearly two months. 14th of April - I return to work but I work from home due to health issues from accidents. 16th of April - I am told our product is being closed so 140 people lose jobs. 25th of May - last day in work. 26th - Today : I am jobless ,going sleep at 5 AM and waking up at 3 PM and play games all day and night. So yeah, some shit luck but finally things are climbing back up. It seemed like fun - oh i can sit at home play games all day, no working, but tbh I rather work than continue this way + i have to pay rent and bills and my reserves are depleted :v:

Despite my best efforts at forgetting her, every little thing seems to remind me of something she said, a joke we laughed at, a conversation we had. It's been almost 7 months since I realized I was in love with her, and half the summer is already gone. That was time I had hoped I would get over her. I'll admit, I haven't been doing much until lately. With working only 2 days a week and not having renewed my permit, my opportunities to change my scenery have been limited. Making that worse is the ongoing trial and error when it comes to managing my symptoms of ADHD and depression. My doctor's 6 month rotation is up next month and the medicine I was switche to hasn't made much of a difference. I'm also going to need to undergo psychiatric testing to determine if I actually have ADHD, Bipolar Disorder and Asperger's as I've believed I have since I was diagnosed as a child, because my experience is atypical for all of those disorders. Meanwhile, I haven't felt like doing much of anything that I need to do before I go back to college, and a large part of me just doesn't care about anything because I feel empty inside. If that wasn't enough, my best friend is moving over an hour away to get a job working for a newspaper next week and I feel more alone than I have in a long time, even though I live with both of my parents, two dogs, one of whom is just a puppy and both of my grandmothers are still living. I have no excuse to feel this stressed. In spite of that, I went to the beach for over a week, I started an internship on Monday, and I'm going to Washington DC this next week to do research for my thesis at the Library of Congress. I don't know why I can't just forget about her already.

[QUOTE=Mr. Sarcastic;52412344]Despite my best efforts at forgetting her, every little thing seems to remind me of something she said, a joke we laughed at, a conversation we had. It's been almost 7 months since I realized I was in love with her, and half the summer is already gone. That was time I had hoped I would get over her. I'll admit, I haven't been doing much until lately. With working only 2 days a week and not having renewed my permit, my opportunities to change my scenery have been limited. Making that worse is the ongoing trial and error when it comes to managing my symptoms of ADHD and depression. My doctor's 6 month rotation is up next month and the medicine I was switche to hasn't made much of a difference. I'm also going to need to undergo psychiatric testing to determine if I actually have ADHD, Bipolar Disorder and Asperger's as I've believed I have since I was diagnosed as a child, because my experience is atypical for all of those disorders. Meanwhile, I haven't felt like doing much of anything that I need to do before I go back to college, and a large part of me just doesn't care about anything because I feel empty inside. If that wasn't enough, my best friend is moving over an hour away to get a job working for a newspaper next week and I feel more alone than I have in a long time, even though I live with both of my parents, two dogs, one of whom is just a puppy and both of my grandmothers are still living. I have no excuse to feel this stressed. In spite of that, I went to the beach for over a week, I started an internship on Monday, and I'm going to Washington DC this next week to do research for my thesis at the Library of Congress. I don't know why I can't just forget about her already.[/QUOTE] Hey man, I don't know you or your life but I was in a relatively similar situation. I had the hots for my friend for like 2 years and I saw no end to it; I thought I would be in her clutches for the long run. That changed when I started really talking to the girl who is now my girlfriend, she made me realize that the girl I had been crushing on for so long wouldn't have been a good fit for me, and now we are happily together. I am not sure if any of this helps, but just know that you will get over her eventually.

[QUOTE=Pelf;52391167]Thanks for the advice guys. It's kind of a complicated situation but I'll keep your advice in mind going forward.[/QUOTE] Yeah you guys were right, friends after a breakup doesn't work. The situation was complicated but still, it doesn't work. Maybe after some time we could kinda be friends, definitely not good or close friends though. I'm gonna cut contact until school starts up to help me get over shit. Thanks again for all your advice.

How about "where do you want to go in LA and when"

[QUOTE=usaokay;52412673]I successfully asked a girl to hang out with me in LA, but I don't want to seem like it's a romantic date or something. Don't get me wrong. I like her, but I also want to get to know more about her. How do I go about approaching asking about where she wants to hang out, what she wants to do, and when exactly she wants to do it?[/QUOTE] Be forthcoming and truthful. Tell her exactly that: I want to get to know you, here's some ideas I had of things we could do together.

[QUOTE=usaokay;52413400]aaaaaaaand during our discussion where to hang out, she says we could do it this Saturday at the Anime Expo because her, "boyfriend's work is close by." I'm still going to hang out with her. As friends. Yeah. [sp]And the hunt continueeeees.[/sp][/QUOTE] The good news is that you just made a friend with a lot of common interests, so as long as you weren't too interested you can focus on that.

I still feel self-conscious about being friends with girls who have boyfriends. I'm worried about becoming "that guy she tells you not to worry about." It's happened to me before. A jealous boyfriend broke up with this female friend of mine because he was too psyched out about how close I was to her, and even though [i]I[/i] know she never cheated, that's still an awkward thing to go through. What makes it even more fucked up is that I only ever met the guy once, and it was months later that they broke up. But I guess his girlfriend either talked about me so much and/or talked about me so highly that he got way too insecure about it. And again, I know she and I never did anything wrong, and it all comes down to his own jealousy that caused the breakup, but it still kinda makes me wary about getting too close to girls who aren't single. It kinda sucks because there are a few girls I work with that I get along famously with, and who really seem to like me a lot, and I would love to spend more time with them outside of work, but I never suggest it because of the above. And when I get right down to it, the fact that I [i]would[/i] ask these girls out in a heartbeat if they were single makes me feel all the more like I should keep my distance.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;52416814]I still feel self-conscious about being friends with girls who have boyfriends. I'm worried about becoming "that guy she tells you not to worry about." It's happened to me before. A jealous boyfriend broke up with this female friend of mine because he was too psyched out about how close I was to her, and even though [i]I[/i] know she never cheated, that's still an awkward thing to go through. What makes it even more fucked up is that I only ever met the guy once, and it was months later that they broke up. But I guess his girlfriend either talked about me so much and/or talked about me so highly that he got way too insecure about it. And again, I know she and I never did anything wrong, and it all comes down to his own jealousy that caused the breakup, but it still kinda makes me wary about getting too close to girls who aren't single. It kinda sucks because there are a few girls I work with that I get along famously with, and who really seem to like me a lot, and I would love to spend more time with them outside of work, but I never suggest it because of the above. And when I get right down to it, the fact that I [i]would[/i] ask these girls out in a heartbeat if they were single makes me feel all the more like I should keep my distance.[/QUOTE] this is the most masturbatory post i've seen in awhile

[QUOTE=autodesknoob;52398937]Ok, i wanna share this with anyone. Maybe no one reads it, but its ok, writing it will be enough. I got in love, with a friend i made since march. One of the few people in my life who truly understands me and has made me feel special. After a few months told her what i felt. She said she didnt felt that, but told me i was one of the most special persons in her life. That i took her out of her depression and all the days we have shared and enjoyed have been awesome. Since that i have tried to remain cool with that. We have met a lot and really enjoyed what we have done. We started seeing each other less since uni got really heavy on me. We have a lot of projects and ideas that we want to accomplish. A lot of times she has said those are alone the things that keep her motivated. She then started telling me she was seeing her ex´s family because shit was hardcore back at her house. I understood, but im no idiot too. When i fell in love with her i knew it wasnt gonna be easy. She was getting out of a recent relationship that was all to her. Her ex cheated on her and many guys came to her looking for something romantic, so i guess shes alone and hates the fact she is not capable of making relationships that dont require her giving a little body. I Told myself "well, i can be her friend and really support her, even in some of her romantic tales" but i realize how ridiculous a plan like that is for someone with zero emotional stability like me. In that sense...i felt something i havent really thought about since ever. I always do this thing, where im 100% available to people i wanna be all the time with. I make myself dispensable, and all in all, is making me miserable. I dont really think she knows im this much inlove with her, but i cant keep doing this to me, putting myself all by myself in the friendzone. Doing stuff nobody asked me to do, and falling in love with people who arent interested in me. Saw a few instagram stories where she and her ex were fooling around (maybe kiss or not idk) and told myself its enough. Im not being honest with me or her about my feelings, and im never am. Between my emotional stability and their emotional stability, i always pick the person i love over me, and that just has made me miserable my entire life. When i fell in love with my ex, it was super easy. No one had to convince the other about our feelings. So, after all this, i have decided to come out straight with what i feel, and put and end to our relationship. I fucking hate this because it literally came out to crush her or crush myself, and im tired of rooting for everyone but me. I hate to do this to her, confirming all her fears about me and other men, but i cant handle this anymore, and im not acting for false hopes im myself feeding to my brain. I gotta be the bad guy for once and grab some control on my life. Do you think im being a total jerk?[/QUOTE] welp, told her. She hates me. Says im doing all this because i cant have her and thats no love. I, for once though, am not diminishing what i feel. Fuck, i feel so empty.

[QUOTE=autodesknoob;52418050]welp, told her. She hates me. Says im doing all this because i cant have her and thats no love. I, for once though, am not diminishing what i feel. Fuck, i feel so empty.[/QUOTE] I think she will understand with time. In her mind, she might see this as you not wanting to be a part of her life because she won't do you, making you seem shallow. In reality, of course, it's because it hurts too much to be so close while knowing that she will never feel the same way, which I hope you told her. Not gonna lie, it's gonna suck for awhile. You will get through it though, it'll make you a wiser person.

tbh it sounds like its for the best if it's tearing you to shits apart, you will go crazy eventually, anger will go away.

[QUOTE=autodesknoob;52418050] She hates me. Says im doing all this because i cant have her and thats no love.[/QUOTE] Love is selfish. You know, to me all this "love is selfless" hits the same spot that "turn the other cheek" bullshit does. In the end, you're setting the bar so high that you have no option but to play limbo with it. Accept that if you're in love with someone that you also want to "have" them. If you're in love with someone then you're more than justified to do, not everything, but a reasonable amount of things to get that person to be with you. Not to force them, but to give it your best in general. Not trying to say that selfless love doesn't exist. But like I said, if you're in love with someone then you do have all the right to be selfish.

Quick post, the GF is coming over an hour. I'd like to make some tasty alcoholic drinks with her and I wanted to know if you guys had any quick n' dirty recipes. I got handy a [URL="http://i.imgur.com/S0u9a2v.jpg"]Nespresso Machine[/URL], some [URL="http://i.imgur.com/7xx7maS.jpg"]Cranberry Ginger Ale Soda[/URL] and a few bottles of booze my brother lent to me. [t]http://i.imgur.com/B0N2F9G.jpg[/t] [t]http://i.imgur.com/kso2dAJ.jpg[/t] Anything tasty that we can make and get drunk with?

Shots. But whiskey and the ginger ale wouldn't be bad. Possibly the gin and vodka too in it. The rum would be good with the espresso or coffee I'd think. Jager is best when being poured down the drain.

[QUOTE=StrawberryClock;52419556]Quick post, the GF is coming over an hour. I'd like to make some tasty alcoholic drinks with her and I wanted to know if you guys had any quick n' dirty recipes. I got handy a [URL="http://i.imgur.com/S0u9a2v.jpg"]Nespresso Machine[/URL], some [URL="http://i.imgur.com/7xx7maS.jpg"]Cranberry Ginger Ale Soda[/URL] and a few bottles of booze my brother lent to me. [t]http://i.imgur.com/B0N2F9G.jpg[/t] [t]http://i.imgur.com/kso2dAJ.jpg[/t] Anything tasty that we can make and get drunk with?[/QUOTE] That kinda depends on the non-booze you have to mix it with... Also your Wild Turkey is looking a little empty.

I hung with this tinder girl Wednesday and yesterday. Wednesday we went hiking and then stayed out till like 3am just talking in her car. Then yesterday we went hiking again and then just started talking in my car like last time. We talked some about our past relationships and we started getting a little touchy-feely and closer and closer and I realized that she liked me and was waiting for me to make a move but I had to wait for the right time. (I'm bad at making first moves, in my past experience it's the girls who usually made the first move). Then our faces were kinda leaning on eachother and I just thought 'fuck it' and went in for a kiss and it was such an amazing feeling. Like that pent up attraction I was feeling towards her was released. After that we cuddled in my car till like 4am lol. She lives kinda far so we usually meet somewhere halfway between us. I actually like her a lot more than I thought I would. but yay me I kinda have a girl now!!!

[QUOTE=Blazyd;52419727]I hung with this tinder girl Wednesday and yesterday. Wednesday we went hiking and then stayed out till like 3am just talking in her car. Then yesterday we went hiking again and then just started talking in my car like last time. We talked some about our past relationships and we started getting a little touchy-feely and closer and closer and I realized that she liked me and was waiting for me to make a move but I had to wait for the right time. (I'm bad at making first moves, in my past experience it's the girls who usually made the first move). Then our faces were kinda leaning on eachother and I just thought 'fuck it' and went in for a kiss and it was such an amazing feeling. Like that pent up attraction I was feeling towards her was released. After that we cuddled in my car till like 4am lol. She lives kinda far so we usually meet somewhere halfway between us. I actually like her a lot more than I thought I would. but yay me I kinda have a girl now!!![/QUOTE] Congrats man! It's an amazing feeling. You're so scared to do anything until you actually do, then you immediately wonder why you waited so long to do something so great

[QUOTE=Bathtub;52419771]Congrats man! It's an amazing feeling. You're so scared to do anything until you actually do, then you immediately wonder why you waited so long to do something so great[/QUOTE] Unless you're me - scared shitless, doing something anyway and realizing it didn't move you at all. All of this being your first experience of such kind.

I'm kind of in danger of splashing on my homie's girl (spoiler alert: she's not really his girl but its complicated). So a while ago, I was hanging out with one of my friends and we decided to meet up with my friend T and this girl, E, that he was hanging with. I hadn't met her, but the four of us hung out and I agreed to drive us to a nearby city to buy E some medical weed (she doesn't have her med card). I didn't talk much to her but I found her attractive, and she seemed genuinely thankful for my help. Later that night I brought her up to T and he mentioned he had hooked up with her a few times. I mentioned I thought she was cute. Another night we ended up hanging with the same group in a late night park sesh that T and E were at and I made some sarcastic jokes as I usually do and noticed that she was laughing at a higher percentage of my jokes than most people. It got cold so I skated to my car and grabbed some jackets and gave one to one of my friends, wore one, and E took one. She had to hold a flashlight to help someone pack a bowl, and rested her arm on my leg while holding it up for a while. We went back to T's house, I felt kind of awkwardly high, and after making some small talk and complimenting her shoes, I realized I had to be home soon and couldn't stay for the movie we were planning to watch with T. She hadn't taken my jacket off the whole time and it was cute to see her laugh and be like "oh yeah!" when I asked if I could have it back. Finally, I hung with a friend who knew her one night. While we were hanging he said "Oh yeah E sent me and T your tinder. It was pretty cute." And I just laughed it off and said I worked hard on my profile (I didn't). Later that night I arranged to hang with another friend, and idly looked at my Tinder deck. Who was my fifth person to swipe on? E. I was pretty sure that Tinder shuffles people who swiped right on you into the early part of your deck so I was pretty sure I knew what was gonna happen, and I thought hard. I finally swiped right on her, and matched, and sent her "omg you totally look like this one girl named E who I met IRL a few times! thats far from a bad thing, tho :)" She responded with laughter, and asked me what was up. She heavily hinted I should ask her to hang "my day was good! until now, I don't have anything to do now ... oh I could use a smoke, but I don't have a lighter :(" I was already with a friend, but we arranged to meet up and hang together. Then she asked if we could go somewhere else where T and some of our other friends were hanging, so we went there. She sat close to me at the park table and T was on the opposite side and it seemed a little awkward. After a while of cracking jokes and shit I had to go home and so did she, so we parted ways at her car. As I left I saw her hugging T and then driving off. That night T snap messaged me. He said he didn't wanna come off as an aggressive possessive, dick, but. . .and then didn't want to continue, so I had to tell him to spit it out. He asked me if me and E were tryna bang. I said that I didn't really know, and why? So he told me how they hooked up before and now he was catching feelings. I decided to just lay it out for him. I said: 1. she matched me on tinder. idk if it was because she knows me IRL or because she's into me, so idk if she's into me 2. i don't know the status between the two of you so I wasn't trying to make any moves right away 3. i think she's attractive and nice though He said he wanted to ask her out or something and he would be hurt if we did something. I told him he would have plenty of time to talk to her about it and he should do it soon. The next day I messaged her on Tinder when on a break at work and she replied and we had a daylong conversation, ending with her again mentioning that she didn't have a lighter so I went ahead and arranged to meet. We had a fun time, smoked at a school, went to target and bought a bunch of candy, munched out, jammed to music (our music tastes vibe hard) and finally separated. That night she tinder messaged me that the tinder app was annoying, so I asked her for her number and she promptly gave it. I felt kinda bad for hanging out 1 on 1 with this girl the day after T told me about that shit, but I just decided not to make a move until further notice. The next day I found a couple joints and texted her my joy. She was interested in smoking one with me, so we repeated the last night, this time with a little skating and Carls Jr. instead of Target. While we were out she mentioned that she wasn't sure, but she thought T had asked her on a date a couple of days prior, like to go to the movies 1 on 1. I asked her what she thought about it, and she said she didn't know. We had a fun night. The next day I got her snapchat via text, talked about how beautiful the day was. Told her I wanted to go hiking and sure enough she really wanted to go hiking too. So we hiked and had fun and then ended up at my friend's open pad, where we watched videos on his TV. While we were watching the videos we made a good amount of unnecessary leg and side contact. Then I drove her home and we parted ways. so yeah I have good feelings about this girl. she also hasnt left me waiting for a response for longer than 10 minutes this entire time, which could demonstrate interest. the only shadow hanging over me is that of T, who will definitely be angered/hurt if we end up doing something. I also don't know if she might still end up getting together with T like he wants, since he hasn't asked her yet wat do

I believe I just passed the final exam, and am just about to finish school feeling fucking happy and free