Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=GoldAssassin;51422254]I have a bit of a situation here. long I'm so fucking confused about all this.[/QUOTE] If R has to manipulate and exploit A's feelings in order to change things significantly in their relationship, then perhaps the relationship isn't healthy at all.

[QUOTE=GoldAssassin;51422254]I have a bit of a situation here. stuff I'm so fucking confused about all this.[/QUOTE] So your friend's make-or-break moment in this relationship depends on forcing his current girlfriend to be the third wheel and seeing how she'll react to him basically hitting on someone else right in front of her? Your friend sounds like a great guy.

[QUOTE=Sir Whoopsalot;51422420]So your friend's make-or-break moment in this relationship depends on forcing his current girlfriend to be the third wheel and seeing how she'll react to him basically hitting on someone else right in front of her? Your friend sounds like a great guy.[/QUOTE] Not really hitting on the other girl in front of her, just hanging out with the other girl (and possibly her friend(s)) and making A feel kinda left out and ignored. Tbh I don't understand the problem completely and translating it into words even more.

Okay, fine, that's just how it came across to me. Either way, forcing someone into what is basically a third wheel is just being a dick.

[QUOTE=Rossy167;51420066]Nah, I hadn't met her before she was drunk. I made the right choice, and my flatmates and her friends were so close too. Afterwards myflatmate said "can't believe you did that". It's just frustrating as a guy on what feels like an eternal quest to get laid. [editline]24th November 2016[/editline] Just wanted to vent that feeling of 'argh!'[/QUOTE] Did the same thing once when I was younger, never regretted it and you won't eventually. Your time will come, this wasn't it. If anything you want your first time to be a good, memorable one with someone you want don't make it all about your "eternal quest" to get laid. Will happen when it happens don't worry

you 100% did the right thing

I know dw, I just wanted to vent.

You know you can just use their real names, right? It's not like if you say "Jessica" I'm going to know who you're talking about. Or at least use fake names, just initials is really hard

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Fuck yes. So, the girl I was dating (for a while I was unsure if she was still interested, after tonight, I'm certain we [b]are[/b] dating) - hadn't seen her for 3 weeks.. Tonight she was with her friends in a cafe bar and sent me a picture, I asked if I can join, she said sure. Went there, was awkward at first cos her friends both were too shy to talk in English with me so we sat and held hands.. It was nice, was holding hands and once they both left (I'm pretty sure on purpose but they said I think to go to the bathroom or something - because of other things about the evening I think it was on purpose :D) she looks at me and kisses me and we only stop once her friends come back... We would've all drank together but she has some kind of class which she's teaching tomorrow. So after maybe an hour or so we decided to walk one of her friends home and they were both walking in front of us, the other girl kept looking back to try and catch us... But I'm pretty sure she was unsuccessful because we were playing along and being sneaky... Once the other girl was home we walked back through the park and at one moment we stopped while her friend was still walking and she must've walked about 10x further than she was already walking in front of us (again, on purpose, even when it was only us two and her - but I'm pretty sure she didn't realise we stopped this time because of her unsuccessful attempts to spot us) and by the time we got to the trolleybus stop and just before they both left we weren't playing that game anymore, was a good evening for sure. Pretty sure that her friend isn't gonna stop asking about everything now she saw us kissing, but it's not a bad thing - obviously both friends knew that we're dating, but yeah we just aren't that comfortable around other people especially when I only just met those girls. I felt like it'd be rude to immediately slam faces together even though it was very apparent that it was gonna happen given the chance. And I think now that the initial meeting with them is over with, it's not gonna be such a big deal if I'll be there when her friends are there also, so it's chill.

i think a lot of people are weird about that, i know i feel weird if people see me kissin' i mean i'm fine if it's short but i don't want anyone seeing like a long or sloppy one, that's just weird

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;51432021]i think a lot of people are weird about that, i know i feel weird if people see me kissin' i mean i'm fine if it's short but i don't want anyone seeing like a long or sloppy one, that's just weird[/QUOTE] Oh of course, idgaf if it's strangers though (the cafe bar was packed and most people were not drinking but eating food and yeah) and we didn't give a shit then... and when she was going to the bus we didn't care either, even though her friend was looking the whole time as she was actually waiting for her to get on the bus. So yeah, that's reassured me a fuck load - she's had some shitty circumstances recently so I feel like such a fucking good person for being so supportive even though I was hoping we'd spend time more often, but I think that soon it's gonna be a hell of a lot easier to do so. Might even go to the cinema on monday after I've finished at the office (I got a second job here in Riga, fucking happy as shit because it's unreal engine 4 programming for a VR product that's gonna be fucking huge if things go to plan!)

i lost my emotion called love

[QUOTE=mastfire;51432139]i lost my emotion called love[/QUOTE] I called my friend while I was walking home giddy as fuck, she was telling me about how she hopes she won't fall in love with a guy she was spending a good deal of time with and I told her that while I know I'm not in love or something right now (because she always says it as a joke when I talk about the girl - can you call her a SO if you're not actually "in a relationship" but dating - though it looks like it'll go that way anyway, which is good of course...) I told her if it goes how I'm hoping then it's gonna happen and that's one thing I'm still not ready for because of past experiences and yeah... but I'm not gonna actively try to prevent it, that's dumb.. I just know signs of abusive shit and what to look out for now *clap* so eh, so far so good, nothing to worry about.

[QUOTE=Legend286;51432256]I called my friend while I was walking home giddy as fuck, she was telling me about how she hopes she won't fall in love with a guy she was spending a good deal of time with and I told her that while I know I'm not in love or something right now (because she always says it as a joke when I talk about the girl - can you call her a SO if you're not actually "in a relationship" but dating - though it looks like it'll go that way anyway, which is good of course...) I told her if it goes how I'm hoping then it's gonna happen and that's one thing I'm still not ready for because of past experiences and yeah... but I'm not gonna actively try to prevent it, that's dumb.. I just know signs of abusive shit and what to look out for now *clap* so eh, so far so good, nothing to worry about.[/QUOTE] that not what i meant like my attachment to anyone is non existent,I cannot feel love what so ever.

[QUOTE=mastfire;51432270]that not what i meant like my attachment to anyone is non existent,I cannot feel love what so ever.[/QUOTE] How come? I was in a similar boat before, but I'm all better again - it just takes time :)

[QUOTE=Legend286;51432280]How come? I was in a similar boat before, but I'm all better again - it just takes time :)[/QUOTE] I just don't last time i had a gf was 5 years ago. And we broke up in a good way.

[QUOTE=mastfire;51432293]I just don't last time i had a gf was 5 years ago. And we broke up in a good way.[/QUOTE] Maybe just try to meet some new people, unless you're happy by yourself, like, truly happy? If you are, then there's nothing wrong with that. If you aren't, the only way you can fix that is to try and find someone you get along well with - and that isn't always the first or tenth person you spend time with either. Just do what you feel is the best for you :)

well that won't happen with my heart securer than fort knox and i can't even open it

time for therapy

My girlfriend stayed at her friends last night. Getting the bed to myself was a delight

I thought the same but then after a couple of days of not having anyone else there I hated sleeping on my own. gotta get some of that spooning yo

Me and my girlfriend are long distance at the moment, but when we visit I always find it hard to remember that it's not just me in the bed when I'm asleep. Flailing arms, climbing up the other end of the bed and apparently a kick in the back of the head are just the footnote of my four year long list of crimes against her.

Was in Edinburgh for work this weekend (on the train back to London now). Managed to have a successful Tinder date (we banged in my hotel room) in the evening. I can now say that Tinder has actually got me laid.

My girlfriend is worried that because we have not fought in the 5 months since we've met, that that makes our relationship somehow unhealthy or perhaps doomed. Is she being a fucking loon, or is her worry appropriate?

[QUOTE=Killer monkey;51438830]My girlfriend is worried that because we have not fought in the 5 months since we've met, that that makes our relationship somehow unhealthy or perhaps doomed. Is she being a fucking loon, or is her worry appropriate?[/QUOTE] I personally fail to see how fighting in a relationship is good for the relationship, at least in mine. But here's a site that could possibly explain the benefits of fighting. [url]https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/7-reasons-fighting-good-relationship-slake/[/url] From what I could understand, depending on how you're fighting, it brings relationships closer than bringing them further apart.

I'd say it's a good thing but it depends on whether you're not fighting because you're both repressing issues with one another, or if you're not fighting because you're both good enough at communicating and solving problems with each other that escalation into a "fight" never happens If you're not fighting for any other reason than the latter above, imo there's probably something weird going on and it's worth thinking about and/or discussing with your SO. Not to say that EVERY other reason is bad, just that it's personally a bit of a red flag

Fighting and communication are not the same thing. It's NORMAL to have arguments now and then about certain things. We're people. But not having any arguments isn't a negative thing. It can either mean that you're good at communication already and solve conflicts without it leading to argument, or that you're bottling up reactions to those conflicts and ignoring them. From what I can tell, it sounds like you're just decent at communication or it could be that your relationship is still sort of on the newer side and you haven't hit those conflicting points that could lead to arguments. It definitely doesn't mean your relationship is doomed though.

my girlfriend and i talked enough about never fighting that i legitimately think our first fight was about whether or not we'd fight

never fought with my first girlfriend at all, right up until the relationship fell apart. almost 3 years and not a single argument. I also worried if that meant something about the health of our relationship, but I've come to realise that she didn't really communicate with me, and I was whipped as fuck.