Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

My ex and I only argued about non-issues, like differing opinions, tone of voice, choice of words and such It drove me so mad like holy shit [editline]28th November 2016[/editline] Like I don't think for 10 mins about the most correct word to say, lay off

Remember when i made a post about asking a girl out. Well, i spoke to her friend yesterday and apparently she was never interested in dating lol. It seems she wanted an FWB deal but how am i supposed to know that when she acts differently. I guess i "scared" her away when i asked her out on dinner. Me personally i got interested because she seemed also interested so i gave it a try but i wouldn't mind a FWB deal. Not sure if i should ask her directly about what she wants or just forget about the whole thing?

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;51440060]Remember when i made a post about asking a girl out. Well, i spoke to her friend yesterday and apparently she was never interested in dating lol. It seems she wanted an FWB deal but how am i supposed to know that when she acts differently. I guess i "scared" her away when i asked her out on dinner. Me personally i got interested because she seemed also interested so i gave it a try but i wouldn't mind a FWB deal. Not sure if i should ask her directly about what she wants or just forget about the whole thing?[/QUOTE] If you are interested in her, do not go for an fwb deal. Things will just get way worse

[QUOTE=da space core;51440076]If you are interested in her, do not go for an fwb deal. Things will just get way worse[/QUOTE] Well, i don't really know what i am but i guess i'm a little interested but that's why i wanted to date her so i get to know her better. It's not like i'm going to "force" her to become interested in me. It just that she acted very interested to only her friend to tell me " it's nothing special". To be honest, i was out on Saturday and i asked her to come and meet me and she did, but only to disapear for the rest of the night and i couldn't find her until the club closed and she told me she's going home, but while i was standing there with here, guy after guy came and held on to her and stuff without her telling them to back off. It felt wrong to me, gave me the wrong impression i guess you could say. I guess she's a nice girl but i want to avoid headachs from stuff like that so it feels like an FWB deal is better than a love relationship. It would have been much better if she was clear about what she wants.

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;51440147]Well, i don't really know what i am but i guess i'm a little interested but that's why i wanted to date her so i get to know her better. It's not like i'm going to "force" her to become interested in me. It just that she acted very interested to only her friend to tell me " it's nothing special". To be honest, i was out on Saturday and i asked her to come and meet me and she did, but only to disapear for the rest of the night and i couldn't find her until the club closed and she told me she's going home, but while i was standing there with here, guy after guy came and held on to her and stuff without her telling them to back off. It felt wrong to me, gave me the wrong impression i guess you could say. I guess she's a nice girl but i want to avoid headachs from stuff like that so it feels like an FWB deal is better than a love relationship. It would have been much better if she was clear about what she wants.[/QUOTE] You don't sound like you're of the mindset that will make a FWB relationship work. Shit will get complicated one or both of you will get hurt and all in all it won't be worth it.

How do I tell my girlfriend to stop messaging me about everything that is happening in her life in a nice way? So annoying to be spammed down with how she's drinking a protein shake, telling me she's shaking it and how disgusting she found it followed by telling me how Isaac and Johan are the most popular names in her family. Now she's just spamming me down with random non sense I really don't care about but I don't have the heart to tell her to stop either :// She has this really boring way of telling her stories too, aaaa

just don't reply to them?

Is the the kind of person to get upset if you don't reply or at least read them?

[QUOTE=halflife_123;51442092]Is the the kind of person to get upset if you don't reply or at least read them?[/QUOTE] Not really, but that doesn't stop her. If I don't reply she just keeps on fueling it

then just don't and see how long it takes until she notices

[QUOTE=PredGD;51442109]Not really, but that doesn't stop her. If I don't reply she just keeps on fueling it[/QUOTE] It's not an easy thing to approach her about, like, she will probably take it the wrong way... Maybe do the same back till she gets annoyed and then ask her why it annoys her? Then if she says because she doesn't care about everything you're doing, tell her that you didn't really know how to tell her that she doesn't need to tell you every single little detail about her life? Better than saying "I wish you would stop being so annoying and telling me boring shit you're doing all day every day" isn't it?

[QUOTE=PredGD;51442109]Not really, but that doesn't stop her. If I don't reply she just keeps on fueling it[/QUOTE] It sounds like she just wants to talk to you even though she doesn't have anything noteworthy to say. [editline]28th November 2016[/editline] Also, I'm sensing a demand-withdrawal cycle going on between you two.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;51442635]It sounds like she just wants to talk to you even though she doesn't have anything noteworthy to say. [editline]28th November 2016[/editline] Also, I'm sensing a demand-withdrawal cycle going on between you two.[/QUOTE] I assume that as well and it's cute from her side but it ends up being a little much sometimes. I googled the demand-withdrawal thing but I couldn't really grasp what that was about. What does it mean?

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51445026]Essentially, when someone is clingy, the other one gets more reclusive[/QUOTE] That's part of it. As a result, the "clingy" person starts placing more demands on the person who is withdrawing from the relationship in an effort to rein them back in (leading the other person to withdraw further).

Just be upfront with her. No need to play games with her. Depending on the person, she may even appreciate you just being honest. I think one of the above users is right about her just wanting to talk to you and trying to find anything to talk about to keep a conversation going. Maybe give her re-assurance that you aren't going anywhere but sometimes you need some space. I'm usually the one that ends up "clingy" in those types of relationships, and at least for me, someone telling me upfront makes it all easier.

[QUOTE=Psycho9182;51418036]Got my first succ. But she asked if I "gotta blast" like Jimmy Neutron, I couldn't finish cause I was laughing a bunch.[/QUOTE] Late, but I've gotta say you found yourself a keeper. Was it a one time thing?

I told my girlfriend we could live together once I have a full time job. She replied 'I have my own life and I'm barely home anyway.' :/

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51453186]Ouch. What was your response to that? How long have you two been together?[/QUOTE] -snipped original post. probably shouldnt post stuff like that on an internet forum- I just said 'yeah true' and dropped the subject. She's had problems at home for years so I thought she would appreciate me saying that.

anyone got tips for lasting longer in bed as a dude? No matter what the fuck I do the first ejac always comes faster than I want or anticipate. It's always been something that bothers me and I'd imagine... bothers any girl I've been with sexually cause I've definitely had girls not want to continue once I finished 1 time, even if I wanted to continue

[QUOTE=Kite_shugo;51455810]anyone got tips for lasting longer in bed as a dude? No matter what the fuck I do the first ejac always comes faster than I want or anticipate. It's always been something that bothers me and I'd imagine... bothers any girl I've been with sexually cause I've definitely had girls not want to continue once I finished 1 time, even if I wanted to continue[/QUOTE] best advice is that if you're feeling close, slow down and/or stop, get in on some of that smooching action, or go for the ol' chest. keep her entertained whilst you've stopped, then once you feel that you're not going to blow, start going again. always worked for me.

so, its been a year without sex. My ex is uni mates with me and i have to see her with her new boyfriends all the time and its driving me nuts. Once, i made the mistake of talking to a new ex of hers because he found me out of the blue in a saloon, and he childishly commented on their sex life (he is a bit younger so i get that kind of stupid shit chat). My only sex life is with my ex. Im mad, i feel like a looser. I KNOW its very dumb and childishly to think this but, lets say having sex, for me, would be a good choice to at least put me on the right train of thought to get completely over her.... besides not using a girl, be honest about it, using a condom and doing it with a girl out of my circle, is there any other precaution i should consider to do this?

[QUOTE=dcalde78;51455847]best advice is that if you're feeling close, slow down and/or stop, get in on some of that smooching action, or go for the ol' chest. keep her entertained whilst you've stopped, then once you feel that you're not going to blow, start going again. always worked for me.[/QUOTE] I dunno, whenever I do this as soon as I resume I just feel the urge stronger than before My compromise was to cum pre-sex and manage to keep it hard through excitement. Not the best, but it worked

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51455868]Are you going in bare?[/QUOTE] Not recently but possibly soon in the future, so I'd imagine it'll be worse

[QUOTE=dcalde78;51455847]best advice is that if you're feeling close, slow down and/or stop, get in on some of that smooching action, or go for the ol' chest. keep her entertained whilst you've stopped, then once you feel that you're not going to blow, start going again. always worked for me.[/QUOTE] that usually works for me but like Sebi said it can also have the effect he said. Honestly the biggest things that have made me last longer are thinking really hard about it, alcohol, or the one time I found out inadvertently that small amounts cough syrup makes you last long as fuck. Switching positions seemed to help too. I've seen that numbing spray shit for your dick but I don't think I wanna screw with that stuff also, my merge fucked up

[QUOTE=autodesknoob;51455912]My ex is uni mates with me and i have to see her with her new boyfriends all the time and its driving me nuts[/QUOTE] That sounds miserable.

[QUOTE=OvB;51456041]That sounds miserable.[/QUOTE] i just want out

[QUOTE=thejjokerr;51456222]I understand it must be difficult to see her with her new bf. But you're focusing on the wrong thing imo: focus on your friendship with her. Her new boyfriend will either become another ex or he'll grow up to be more mature and it'll be easier to be around him. Or he'll stay a douche and you'll just have to deal with him for the sake of your friendship. Written from me sitting here in my armchair.[/QUOTE] well, i think she hates me.

[QUOTE=thejjokerr;51456381]I don't think I understand the uni mates part you said then. If you're not sure about how you relationship with her is from her side, consider asking her about it. It could help or set you free from her and get you ready to move on. [editline]1st December 2016[/editline][/QUOTE] well we have talked through this year, but i think she doesnt want to chat anymore at all. From her side, she thinks im still inlove with her, than im messing with her life and all that, since her ex told her i talked with him. She got mad, blasted my asshole through whatsapp, called me names and blocked me before i could say anything, so thats the point where we are. I dont think i could do any good in talking with her, i assume shes happy with this new new guy and that i shouldnt mess with her head. Sounds like crap, but i think my problems are my own at this point and if i feel bad because i see her with new guys, its something i should solve by my own, thats why i was asking about the sex thing, but yeah, i tried asking her. To this point, i dont think neither of us know whats going on with the other, but i hardly think shes interested in knowing that, at all.

[QUOTE=autodesknoob;51456478]well we have talked through this year, but i think she doesnt want to chat anymore at all. From her side, she thinks im still inlove with her, than im messing with her life and all that, since her ex told her i talked with him. She got mad, blasted my asshole through whatsapp, called me names [B]and blocked me before i could say anything[/B], so thats the point where we are. I dont think i could do any good in talking with her, i assume shes happy with this new new guy and that i shouldnt mess with her head. Sounds like crap, but i think my problems are my own at this point and if i feel bad because i see her with new guys, its something i should solve by my own, thats why i was asking about the sex thing, but yeah, i tried asking her. To this point, i dont think neither of us know whats going on with the other, but i hardly think shes interested in knowing that, at all.[/QUOTE] Sounds pretty straightforward to me mate. Why are you still talking to her and why are you still "friends" with her?

[QUOTE=darksoul69;51456501]Sounds pretty straightforward to me mate. Why are you still talking to her and why are you still "friends" with her?[/QUOTE] Im not. I dont talk to her, last time we talked was when her ex told her i talked with him, then she screamed at me through whatsapp and that was like a month ago. I think we miscarried the topic a bit, since i wanted to know tips for causal and safe sex haha.