Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

it's only love when she farts directly into your mouth

[QUOTE=Demolitions2;51482316]Next to me? She's already farted on me. The first time she did it, I didnt even hear it, and just felt my leg rumbling under her butt in bed. She then proceeded to die laughing for an hour.[/QUOTE] thats a keeper

Any tips for a Tinder hookup? She's swinging by my dorm later tonight for just some fast and loose fun. (also, I'm 19, she's 24)

[QUOTE=Flicky;51493224]Any tips for a Tinder hookup? She's swinging by my dorm later tonight for just some fast and loose fun. (also, I'm 19, she's 24)[/QUOTE] wear a condom

[QUOTE=Mobon1;51493927]wear a condom[/QUOTE] Wouldn't dream of doing otherwise. EDIT: No longer necessary, she stopped answering texts and unmatched me. :v:

I've been with my gf for almost 3 years (March will be 3yrs) and I have recently started chatting with my ex. In a nutshell we were close as friends and partners and I ruined it. Now we're chatting again and any romance is dead but we still have that close friend connection. I don't feel like I'm putting my current relation at risk but I know my gf wouldn't approve all the same. My question is, do you think it's wrong to hide this from my gf or tell her regardless of how she may feel about it? Personally I don't think either option would change the future. She wouldn't like me talking with my ex but she wouldn't do anything about it besides snoop into our convos to make sure there isn't an affair. My ex and I both agreed if we say anything sexual we cut ties and I don't want to lose my friend.

no way dude that's the risk you take with relationships, when they don't work out you sever forever

if your gut feeling is that it will upset her then why are you doing it [editline]7th December 2016[/editline] like i get that you're your own man and you can do what you want or whatever and i'm not saying you should be a slave to her every whim but "hey please try to not be super close friends with someone you've been inside" seems reasonable

[QUOTE=TheGronk;51495708]I've been with my gf for almost 3 years (March will be 3yrs) and I have recently started chatting with my ex. In a nutshell we were close as friends and partners and I ruined it. Now we're chatting again and any romance is dead but we still have that close friend connection. I don't feel like I'm putting my current relation at risk but I know my gf wouldn't approve all the same. My question is, do you think it's wrong to hide this from my gf or tell her regardless of how she may feel about it? Personally I don't think either option would change the future. She wouldn't like me talking with my ex but she wouldn't do anything about it besides snoop into our convos to make sure there isn't an affair. My ex and I both agreed if we say anything sexual we cut ties and I don't want to lose my friend.[/QUOTE] Who do you value more? Your ex or your girlfriend?

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;51495901]no way dude that's the risk you take with relationships, when they don't work out you sever forever[/QUOTE] What

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;51495901]no way dude that's the risk you take with relationships, when they don't work out you sever forever[/QUOTE] depends on the circumstances first gf left me and hurt me fucking badly, so we don't talk now second gf and I decided we were better as friends, talk occasionally when we see each other, and ask each other for advice if we need it it's not black and white

Any advice on dealing with a clingy SO? I've posted here earlier about the same topic but it has become a lot more pronounced as time has gone by. While I wouldn't mind a few days by myself doing something else than being with her, she's feeling pretty bad since she haven't seen me since yesterday and I'm not coming over. I don't like to write this, but it's just too much and its putting a strain on me. It makes me see her negatives so much easier since I just don't get enough space I feel. Even when I'm not with her she's tagging me in everything she sees that is couple related on Facebook and just now she has been pretty naggy about me coming over. She always talks about how much she appreciates this relationship, how she feels it's going to last forever and how sad she is that I haven't told her I love her yet. She dreaming a lot of us two marrying and eventually having kids and this is just, I don't even know. Its scary and too much planning considering we haven't been together for 2 months, let alone even gone into a relationship on Facebook. All of this is pushing me away. Her nagging earlier just made me want to go to her less and less for every message I got. She seems to be absolutely dependent on me and this assumption is just further reinforced when she has openly said to me she's afraid she might end up committing suicide if I were to suddenly leave her. I really don't know what to do. I have no plans of leaving her but just hearing that all of her well being is on me is very off putting. I don't want her to be addicted to me. [editline]8th December 2016[/editline] She also found out my internet alias somehow. I tried to keep that hidden since I like to speak my mind on here to vent and get advice etc. I'm a little scared she'll end up finding this account to dig since she now knows the name I go by on the internet. One part of me hopes she actually sees this so I at least can indirectly tell this to her somehow. I don't want to open up about it since I have a strong feeling it'll affect her badly.

Clingy can be annoying but it isn't the end of the world. However if you have been with her 2 months then what you are suggesting is not normal. If she has the idea you will be married & having kids already, and might commit suicide if you left her, then she needs help.

She's exhibiting textbook emotional manipulation and abuse, even if it's not a conscious effort. The second someone starts threatening or alluding to suicidal tendencies on the end of a relationship, that's a huge red flag that they are [I]not ready[/I] for an adult relationship. This is something you need to bring up to her [I]immediately.[/I] It's not okay in any sense and she's not emotionally capable of having a healthy relationship unless she can be okay with space (which is entirely normal in any relationship, romantic or otherwise). You need to talk to her. Putting it off will only do more damage.

I proposed at the Ghibli Museum in Tokyo today. I'm engaged!

I honest to god occasionally get infuriated when my girlfriend just says "sorry" to something happening and I have no idea why. It doesn't warrant an apology so why are you saying it? All you've done is completely shut down a conversation, are you wanting me to say everything is okay and leave the situation there? It's just a habit I dislike, you're not saying sorry for me, you're saying it for yourself; like a get out of jail free card, I said sorry - so the situation is resolved; no all you've done is make me feel like the bad guy because you felt like you had to apologise for it.

Saying "sorry" a lot is a big indicator of social or relationship anxiety. People who say sorry a lot are very frequently people who have learned that they HAVE to say sorry a lot. There's a lot of uncertainty, they don't want to be blamed or be the target of anger or annoyance and even then, a lot of people still find apologizing so frequently to be annoying itself. It's kind of a vicious cycle, but I would try to understand. It may be agitating, but in a lot of cases, "sorry" is a speech tic like "um" or "uh". Here's a little snippet from a blog post on the same thing. It's not a rare occurrence either. [quote] think it's because I put the heavy weight on my shoulders of trying to make everyone happy. And when someone isn't happy, I accept the blame for it. When I'm hanging out with someone and I can tell he or she isn't having fun, I think that it's my fault. And you can surely predict that I will repeatedly say, "I'm sorry." I'm also scared of confrontation. I hate fights with a passion. I always feel like, if I disagree with someone, he or she will leave me. And so, before the confrontation hardly begins, I will quickly say, "I'm sorry."[/quote] [[URL="http://www.meant2live.net/2013/07/why-do-i-say-sorry-all-time-experts.html"]x[/URL]] I would have a conversation with her and figure out why she feels the need to apologize. This is something you wanna do though when you're NOT feeling annoyed or angry or upset. Only when you're calm and able to communicate about it. Otherwise you'll just trip that "sorry" cycle again and you'll have to start all over. Do some reading up about it too. Like I said, it's fairly common.

Aye, I used to constantly apologise for everything, it's something I had to ween myself out of, I guess being on the receiving end is something I've never experienced, and so knowing I used to have that part of me while experiencing it from someone else, makes me infuriated. I'll try and talk to her about it some time.

Same thing is one of my pet peeves and I'm sure I've been guilty of it in the past. I try not to flip out about it as I've asked different people at different times not to say sorry for trivial things as they've no reason to and unsurprisingly had them apologise for it.

How do you guys handle long periods of separation? I'm going to be abroad for 5 months next February and my GF and I are kinda sad about it, she's also afraid that we'll drift away or that I'll fall in love with another girl there. How should we expect this to affect our relationship and how can I reassure her?

[QUOTE=_Axel;51527950]How do you guys handle long periods of separation? I'm going to be abroad for 5 months next February and my GF and I are kinda sad about it, she's also afraid that we'll drift away or that I'll fall in love with another girl there. How should we expect this to affect our relationship and how can I reassure her?[/QUOTE] I'm 4 months away from my girlfriend at the minute, she's in Michigan I'm in London, so; there's a fair bit of distance. Communication is always helpful, text is difficult but it's better than nothing. You have to actively want to keep things working. It's also a good testing of the grit in a relationship. Try and Skype (messenger, whatever) at least once a week, and talk on the phone 1-3 as well. There's a cool website called [url]www.rabb.it[/url] where you can watch movies or browse the web at the same time too. Do things like get drunk together, play games or just do anything. Try not to be distracted when you phone them because you'll be half in the conversation and half out. As for the falling for somebody else, this was something I battled with shortly before leaving, and honestly you both have to trust each other; it's hard to let yourself be vulnerable like that but you just have to both realise it's going to be a little hard and just trust each other & communicate. Trust in yourself, trust in her, trust in the universe - you just have to let that anxiety go and not let it consume you, otherwise you let it happen.

[QUOTE=ZombieDawgs;51528172]I'm 4 months away from my girlfriend at the minute, she's in Michigan I'm in London, so; there's a fair bit of distance. Communication is always helpful, text is difficult but it's better than nothing. You have to actively want to keep things working. It's also a good testing of the grit in a relationship. Try and Skype (messenger, whatever) at least once a week, and talk on the phone 1-3 as well. There's a cool website called [url]www.rabb.it[/url] where you can watch movies or browse the web at the same time too. Do things like get drunk together, play games or just do anything. Try not to be distracted when you phone them because you'll be half in the conversation and half out.[/QUOTE] Thanks, I'll check that site out, seems interesting! [QUOTE]As for the falling for somebody else, this was something I battled with shortly before leaving, and honestly you both have to trust each other; it's hard to let yourself be vulnerable like that but you just have to both realise it's going to be a little hard and just trust each other & communicate. Trust in yourself, trust in her, trust in the universe - you just have to let that anxiety go and not let it consume you, otherwise you let it happen.[/QUOTE] She says she does trust me but is afraid nonetheless, which I kind of get since she used to be in a manipulative semi-LDR relationship with someone who ended up cheating on her. We certainly do trust each other but the hard part for her is probably letting go those bad memories.

Anybody getting their SO's anything cool for christmas? Im getting her a k cup coffee machine and making a chia pet penguin out of foam.

Rabb.it is awesome for movie dates when you both can't really get together. My boyfriend only lives like maybe 15 minutes away but sometimes I don't have the energy to go out somewhere with him. We make up for it by watching movies together.

[QUOTE=_Axel;51528309]Thanks, I'll check that site out, seems interesting! She says she does trust me but is afraid nonetheless, which I kind of get since she used to be in a manipulative semi-LDR relationship with someone who ended up cheating on her. We certainly do trust each other but the hard part for her is probably letting go those bad memories.[/QUOTE] Rabb.it is great for movies, like others have said. As for the trust problem, find something new to do to distract yourself. My gf's in the US for studies, coming back Saturday (yay) and we don't really get to talk a lot due to the time difference. For the time she's away, I've been learning Calc 2 and 3 as well as AP Physics. It helps to distract myself, especially since I'm a pretty insecure person.

Gf says she's gonna leave me one day if I keep sneaking farts in bed at night. What do?

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;51530064]Gf says she's gonna leave me one day if I keep sneaking farts in bed at night. What do?[/QUOTE] Make them sneakier.

make them incredibly loud and obnoxious she didn't say anything about loud and obnoxious farts

alright so im at a christmass impasse i know there's a store in the mall that my girlfriend loves but it's all clothes and shit and i don't like buying clothes for someone as a gift as a principle because that feels kind of weird but i know she'd like something from there. i can't exactly give her a gift card, that's a terrible gift especially for your SO on christmas how do i give her the opportunity to buy her own present without making it sound like i'm an asshole that didn't have any actual ideas

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51531502]This girl, Holly, I went out with is friends with my friend (Key). Holly is really nice, funny, witty, really cute face. I had a good 5 hour date with her on Tuesday, and texted the next day a lot. Thing is, Holly keeps telling my friend Key that she's been asking me to go on other dates and I haven't been responding, except she hasn't... Holly went to this drop in dance thing yesterday and told Key that she asked me to go, except she didn't. I told Key that and she was like "wtf". What is going on. Then Holly did ask me to go skating on next Tuesday and I said yes. She hasn't responded to me since that. Holly told Key that she asked me to go skating Thursday and that I HAVEN'T RESPONDED WTF[/QUOTE] Mobile network fuckery?