Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=Birdman101;51528442]Anybody getting their SO's anything cool for christmas? Im getting her a k cup coffee machine and making a chia pet penguin out of foam.[/QUOTE] If I can get a few days off of work, I'm taking her to London

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51531502]This girl, Holly, I went out with is friends with my friend (Key). Holly is really nice, funny, witty, really cute face. I had a good 5 hour date with her on Tuesday, and texted the next day a lot. Thing is, Holly keeps telling my friend Key that she's been asking me to go on other dates and I haven't been responding, except she hasn't... Holly went to this drop in dance thing yesterday and told Key that she asked me to go, except she didn't. I told Key that and she was like "wtf". What is going on. Then Holly did ask me to go skating on next Tuesday and I said yes. She hasn't responded to me since that. Holly told Key that she asked me to go skating Thursday and that I HAVEN'T RESPONDED WTF[/QUOTE] stand next to each other, and send some text messages. see if they show up for the other person. try communicating through an app or something instead if you have issues

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51534525]No that's not it, it's not an issue of cell service. She asked me and I agreed to go skating on Tuesday at one place but then she told our friend that she asked me to go on Thursday at another place and that I hadn't responded. That's not a cellular issue[/QUOTE] Ask her to stand next to you and give it a go anyway, or use a different app with seen receipts. Either it's a cell problem or she's fucking with you and this would fix both

I don't have any answers but I've met a few chicks that do this. Had a friend of a friend ask to hang out and then flake at the last second, pretending her phone had died or something and then tell my mate a completely different bullshit story about how I cancelled. Did this like 3-4 times before I just blocked her.

Sounds like she's got some weird issue following through and is too embarrassed to admit it in that case

I have something really personal and I only told two good friends in confidence while super drunk. I'm not sure if I want to post it since it makes me feel like less of a man and I feel unfair against my current GF who's virginity I took. In case you're wondering it's not an STD or something. Mostly afraid that these posts will come back to haunt me some day. Afraid to call my doctor about it. Not sure what to do.

If calling your doctor is a situation you've considered because of whatever your issue is, you should probably call them. Better safe than sorry Also maybe I'm in the minority, but I find being vulnerable enough to share your deep insecurities, even if only on a forum, to be pretty dang manly.

Ayyy I've got a date of sorts on monday.

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[QUOTE=Mega1mpact;51543703]-snipsnap-[/QUOTE] I think seeing a doc would be for the best. also if you jerk off whatesoever i'd lay off, it would only desensitize you more

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51543881]Are you circumcised?[/QUOTE] no

[QUOTE=Mega1mpact;51543703]I might delete this post in the future so I'd appreciate it if people cited with a snip. I don't feel sex. It's not that my penis is small or anything I just don't feel a lot, if anything. I need actual visual confirmation that it's in etc. None of my past GFs including my current one have ever made me cum. Which makes me feel like a moron when even after 30 min I have to either fake an orgasm or do something else. It really makes me feel like less of a man. My GF always jokes about my high pain tolerance and I've always thought that it's somehow linked. For example someone made a deep cut in my finger a week or so ago with s scissor by accident and all I felt was some pressure. Didn't feel any pain. I do feel pain sometimes but not everywhere and it has to exceed a certain threshold. I feel unfair towards my current GF because I feel like taking her virginity as someone who she can never sexually please is just rude. The fact that I've felt unsure about doing it with her due to the age difference doesn't really help (17 & 21, legal over here tho).[/QUOTE] Stop bashing one out with a deathgrip

yeah $10 you're deathgripping

I'll do a no fap December then.

Speaking of bad dick things I chafed the absolute fuck out of mine for uh reasons Can I put Vaseline on it or what? Like it doesn't sting normally but clothing rubbing against the head is irritating

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;51545618]Speaking of bad dick things I chafed the absolute fuck out of mine for uh reasons Can I put Vaseline on it or what? Like it doesn't sting normally but clothing rubbing against the head is irritating[/QUOTE] Just try not to irritate it till it heals itself. The first week of sophomore year high school, my junk was wrapped gingerly in TP because There was dried rust sealant on my hands when I took a shower and rubbed myself extremely raw.

My fiancee and I went to a Japanese strip theater for our last night in Kabukicho. Whew, what a ridiculous and amazing show. It's a totally different experience from American strip clubs, both somehow a lot more artistic and fun AND more depraved. Each dancer gets three to four songs. They come out in costumes, with props, and perform heavily choreographed dance routines. Some sexy, some fun and poppy, others telling a story, etc. By the third song they start stripping, and in the fourth they are fully nude and hanging out over the audience so everybody can get a good look. The audience claps along with the music, cheers at the flourishes, sometimes even sings along during the more rowdy songs. After the set is finished, the lights come uo and the music stops, and the dancer sticks around to pose for pictures at 500 yen a pop. After the pictures, they do one final song, fully or mostly nude, where they jump and clap and showcase their bits. Then the next dancer comes on, and it all starts over. It was a bizarre experience, but a hell of a lot of fun too. We like going to burlesque shows back home, and this was basically just really good burlesque taken to the next level. Would definitely recommend if any of y'all end up in Japan and want something fun, sexy, and a little weird to blow a night on.

I hate walls of text and I hate being a whiney little twat but I need advice. When me and my girlfriend got together she told me she's not had a boyfriend in years as she likes being single. Yet she hadn't been attracted to anybody like she had me. So we decided to go for it. It was great. We ended up with a really intense relationship. I've been with people for years and it never felt as strong as it did being with this girl for two months. On Monday she told me that the last two months has felt like two years and she can't handle it. She wants to focus on her business (she has her own business) and can't commit to anybody. So she ended it. One day were were talking about spending Christmas together, texting every second of every day, and then a week later we're over. I was drunk when she ended it (she was dropping me home, we'd been out with friends/family). I text her the next day asking for closure and if we should still be friends. She told me "I dont think we should be anything, I think we need to not talk". She said we both need some time apart to move on and she won't change her mind. I was willing to give her all the space in the world, I think her business is great and often I've tried to cancel plans so she can work instead. She has all my support. I asked what changed and she kept saying "I don't know". Over and over. She said she really likes me and we got a lot in common but "some point last week I realised that's all it is". I'm crushed. I've gone through my whole 23 years without emotionally responding to anything, I'm always the life of the party. But now I'm miserable and I don't know how to handle it. I'm trying to move on and better myself with new job opportunities and starting driving lessons but I can't focus. I went to a party the other night and put a photo on Instagram and I noticed she unfollowed me the next morning. Why? She's not the one hurting. I know next week she has an important meeting about her business. I want to text her the day after and just say "how did it go?". That's all. Nothing more. People say you should do no contact for 30 days but we weren't together years, neither of us did anything wrong. Would that be a good idea? I can understand her reason for wanting to be single, I respect it. But I still want to support her, as a friend.

[QUOTE=Dan2593;51547403]I hate walls of text and I hate being a whiney little twat but I need advice. When me and my girlfriend got together she told me she's not had a boyfriend in years as she likes being single. Yet she hadn't been attracted to anybody like she had me. So we decided to go for it. It was great. We ended up with a really intense relationship. I've been with people for years and it never felt as strong as it did being with this girl for two months. On Monday she told me that the last two months has felt like two years and she can't handle it. She wants to focus on her business (she has her own business) and can't commit to anybody. So she ended it. One day were were talking about spending Christmas together, texting every second of every day, and then a week later we're over. I was drunk when she ended it (she was dropping me home, we'd been out with friends/family). I text her the next day asking for closure and if we should still be friends. She told me "I dont think we should be anything, I think we need to not talk". She said we both need some time apart to move on and she won't change her mind. I was willing to give her all the space in the world, I think her business is great and often I've tried to cancel plans so she can work instead. She has all my support. I asked what changed and she kept saying "I don't know". Over and over. She said she really likes me and we got a lot in common but "some point last week I realised that's all it is". I'm crushed. I've gone through my whole 23 years without emotionally responding to anything, I'm always the life of the party. But now I'm miserable and I don't know how to handle it. I'm trying to move on and better myself with new job opportunities and starting driving lessons but I can't focus. I went to a party the other night and put a photo on Instagram and I noticed she unfollowed me the next morning. Why? She's not the one hurting. I know next week she has an important meeting about her business. I want to text her the day after and just say "how did it go?". That's all. Nothing more. People say you should do no contact for 30 days but we weren't together years, neither of us did anything wrong. Would that be a good idea? I can understand her reason for wanting to be single, I respect it. But I still want to support her, as a friend.[/QUOTE] No, she's told you she doesn't want to even be friends, leave her in peace bro - as you say it wasnt a long relationship, move on.

My girl is getting implanon tomorrow. Some of the side effects look ugly, what do we have to look forward to

Continuing on the birth control conversation, I'm on the pill. I take it as perfectly as possible (except for that one game of Killing Floor 2, hard mode, where I was about 10 minutes late in taking it because of zeds). How worried should I be about pregnancy if we don't use a condom?

When it comes to hormonal contraceptives there is virtually no chance unless you mistime it or you are taking other medications that lessen their effect, ie some antibiotics.

[QUOTE=Mr. N;51549759]When it comes to hormonal contraceptives there is virtually no chance unless you mistime it or you are taking other medications that lessen their effect, ie some antibiotics.[/QUOTE] Okay! Thanks! Also, I found [url=birth-control-implant-implanon]this[/url] on side-effects though I've never used one, so I have no idea outside of what you can read on the internet.

[QUOTE=Penultimate;51549796]Okay! Thanks! Also, I found [url=birth-control-implant-implanon]this[/url] on side-effects though I've never used one, so I have no idea outside of what you can read on the internet.[/QUOTE] The internet if full on anecdotes and most of them are from angry middle aged women blaming it for literally creating fat cells. We know the crazy periods are a given, testosterone based weight gain can be controlled, but so help me god if it touches her beautifully voracious sexual appetite I may cry.

I'll try to make some sense of this, been on my mind alot, but there's this girl that I've been talking to for the past 3 months, we've known each other for over a year but started to talk more, like 1 -3 times a week and pretty much over the weekend. She's brought up the topic of why I talk to her; this is the 2nd time it's been brought up, since shes used to people only contacting her for help with stuff but I haven't. In talking to her I have a pretty good idea that she's got a bit of social anxiety and insecurity especially after she broke up with someone earlier this year. When I found out that she was single I kinda jokingly ask her out on a date; ended up asking on a day that wouldn't work out and she said something like I'm a lovely guy but shes not ready to try dating yet. Let alone work and school. That was a few months ago and since then we've actually gone out and did some stuff and she's opened up to me more, but I've never brought up stuff about relationships since then. However, I feel like trying again but even though we're both straight forward people I'm scared shitless to go and say, "hey I don't know what it is but there's something about you that makes me feel.." I've never really a romantic type of guy, or really had any relationship experience, but last time we were together for a party she seemed alright with me having my arm around her. This sounds weird to ask but would a subtle thing like trying to hold her hand and seeing how she reacts seem harmless? I want to try asking but I would rather wait till after the holiday stress has past. I mean does asking her "what she sees in me" sound a little too strong? Another thing, I know it something you usually shouldn't ask, but how do I ask her about her ex? I kinda got the story from one of her friends but rather have it from her. Her ex is one of her close friend's brother and she seems close to their family; she watches their younger siblings from time to time. But long story short he's going to a college up north and basically told her he wanted an open relationship and wanted to date other girls. I think he was her first relationship and know it probably scarred her quite a bit, if not added to her anxiety. And doesn't help that I think her family is also hard on her about it, even though it was his idea. She's kinda mentioned him but I've always kinda moved away from it. Could use some advice on this

Yo can I get some advice on this shit. So my girlfriend of a year broke up with me, and I have no idea what to do. She was helping me get my life together and I guess it got to be too stressful for her. She told me all this stuff about how she wanted to go back home and focus on school, which I completely understood. She told me that she didn't want me to disappear from her life and I was still her best friend. I was taking the situation really well until about 2 weeks after it happened, she started acting really distant and weird to me so I started to get really worried. It turns out that she got together with this dude she works with. So that completely fucked me up. I've asked her a couple times to talk to me so I can get some answers and move on from my life, and all I get are constant "maybe" and "later"s and no real definite answer. I just want to move on with my life but it feels like I can't until I get some closure. What should I do?

[QUOTE=MrDestroyer;51555560]Yo can I get some advice on this shit. So my girlfriend of a year broke up with me, and I have no idea what to do. She was helping me get my life together and I guess it got to be too stressful for her. She told me all this stuff about how she wanted to go back home and focus on school, which I completely understood. She told me that she didn't want me to disappear from her life and I was still her best friend. I was taking the situation really well until about 2 weeks after it happened, she started acting really distant and weird to me so I started to get really worried. It turns out that she got together with this dude she works with. So that completely fucked me up. I've asked her a couple times to talk to me so I can get some answers and move on from my life, and all I get are constant "maybe" and "later"s and no real definite answer. I just want to move on with my life but it feels like I can't until I get some closure. What should I do?[/QUOTE] Move on without her. If you can get closure from her then that's great but I wouldn't count on it. It sounds like she broke up with you to get with this guy, or at least didn't feel the same way for you as she did at the start of the relationship, and if that's the case then she would be very avoiding of talking to you and shit like that, trying to hide what she actually did. I would just try to move on without her. It's the best for both of you right now, considering it seems like she's already moved on. Honestly, the best thing you can do for yourself is to cut them from your life. Stop talking to her, stop texting her, and just accept that you'll never get the exact closure you want and start picking yourself up and pushing forward.

[QUOTE=MrDestroyer;51555560]Yo can I get some advice on this shit. So my girlfriend of a year broke up with me, and I have no idea what to do. She was helping me get my life together and I guess it got to be too stressful for her. She told me all this stuff about how she wanted to go back home and focus on school, which I completely understood. She told me that she didn't want me to disappear from her life and I was still her best friend. I was taking the situation really well until about 2 weeks after it happened, she started acting really distant and weird to me so I started to get really worried. It turns out that she got together with this dude she works with. So that completely fucked me up. I've asked her a couple times to talk to me so I can get some answers and move on from my life, and all I get are constant "maybe" and "later"s and no real definite answer. I just want to move on with my life but it feels like I can't until I get some closure. What should I do?[/QUOTE] Install an addon to block any account of hers you know. You will get better closure if you don't "check up" on her.

[QUOTE=MrDestroyer;51555560]Yo can I get some advice on this shit. So my girlfriend of a year broke up with me, and I have no idea what to do. She was helping me get my life together and I guess it got to be too stressful for her. She told me all this stuff about how she wanted to go back home and focus on school, which I completely understood. She told me that she didn't want me to disappear from her life and I was still her best friend. I was taking the situation really well until about 2 weeks after it happened, she started acting really distant and weird to me so I started to get really worried. It turns out that she got together with this dude she works with. So that completely fucked me up. I've asked her a couple times to talk to me so I can get some answers and move on from my life, and all I get are constant "maybe" and "later"s and no real definite answer. I just want to move on with my life but it feels like I can't until I get some closure. What should I do?[/QUOTE] You don't get closure from her. You get it from yourself. It sucks right now, and you'll probably feel like shit for a while, but eventually you'll understand that the world keeps turning, life goes on, there's a bajillion women out there, et cetera. In the meantime, focus on your work, be it school or whatever interests you. Make some new, quality friends. Lift heavy-ass weights and eat better. In general, just keep yourself occupied. Also, cut her from your life completely. No texting, calling, social media connections, nothing. I'm sure you had very strong feelings for her and all that, but it's incredibly unhealthy for the both of you to remain """friends""". She's moved on, you need to do the same.

So I've been talking to a girl for a while who I met on twitter, and we've been getting along pretty well. Really enjoy talking to her and we've been talking almost every day for a good two weeks. Been asking her out to London to meet up but she's been really shy about it saying how shes nervous. Managed to convince her to go the week after Christmas but it's the first time I've ever done anything like this so i'm nervous as shit too. Main thing i'm concerned about is not knowing what to talk about, I've talked to her so much online i'm just worried i'll have nothing to talk/ask when actually meeting her. Even when talking to her now I just don't really know what to talk about, but I still really enjoy just talking to her even if it's about dumb pointless stuff just to sustain the conversation. We've planned to go to a museum/aquarium so hopefully that'll help. Any tips or pointers would be appreciated :)