Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women"
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[QUOTE=cricket50;51582340]getting drunk with someone can be an incredible way to get to know them if you arent a creep
[editline]25th December 2016[/editline]
ive taken girls to the pub on dates before which sounds rough but you just get a few pints in loosten up the atmosphere and have a great convo[/QUOTE]
My girl and I instantly vibed together, not even an awkward moment. And that was before we got tipsy
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;51584983]My girl and I instantly vibed together, not even an awkward moment. And that was before we got tipsy[/QUOTE]
tehe phrasing
Finally with my girlfriend after 4 months apart.
Feels g r e a t
My sister gave me a vinyl Groot and I love him, and I got my girlfriend some shoes and a long shirt, I had never put a lot of effort in my gifts, and now I did and she loved it!
Also we had our first and second time together on friday and yesterday, it was so cute and great and I think I'm falling in love with her, so I'd say the holidays were great for me!
Alright so, the stuff I spoke about in the last few posts I made here, it ended because I ended it - I got the feeling that she didn't want the same thing, so I said to her I was thankful for the time we spent, but I'm sorry we can't continue it because it's going to end badly and most likely for me. So I put that behind and we don't talk anymore, and probably won't at least for a while because yeah - maybe eventually we could be friends but I don't really see it, oh well no hard feelings.
So, during the last part of the story with the girl I don't talk to - she was busy and I decided to join my friend for a drink and I met a girl. And well, we decided that as she's not only here for a week like she thought (and is staying for a couple of years at least) that we could become friends. So, during this time I'm obviously very much against breaking any boundaries because I already find it hard enough as it is when there's one person I have feelings for. Though it was a few days into us literally spending 3 whole days together, not constantly doing things with each other, but just doing our own thing for probably 90% of that time.
We kinda realised that it was way too interesting how we get along so we have been together since the 9th of Dec and I spent Christmas with her and her mum and brother and it was amazing and I felt really welcome. First Christmas in a long time that I've actually truly enjoyed 100% with no bad aspects. Though I think right now we're sloping into a bit of a dip because of her own health problems, but I'm supportive of her. And she told me a while ago that I help her anxiety a lot, which meant a lot considering she has medication for it.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51591762]So how was you guyses Holidays? I got my girl a movie shes been wanting and a neat as fuck hat with a hole in the top, so you can wear a bun but also stay warm.
In return, she got me a Deadpool comic along with the Deadpool movie.
[editline]27th December 2016[/editline]
I also got 2 pounds (literally, 2 pounds) of Slim Jims from my parents[/QUOTE]
I had sex with a tinder girl I hadn't messaged in 2 months. Really didn't think she'd respond, and come round so it was a pretty intense session. Took me ages to climax because I'd already finished masturbating like 30mins earlier.
Back in August, I was shopping for shoes at the local mall, and the girl working there caught my eye. We briefly chatted as I browsed what was for sale, and then made my purchase and left. As I walked back to my car, I convinced myself that I should actually try and get this girls number (a first for me from a stranger) so I went back and basically just asked her for it (another first), and she gave me her digits. We tried making plans a couple times, but nothing ever fell through and we didn't talk until a few days ago.
On Christmas day, I said "fuck it" and texted her "Merry Christmas. Hope all is well." she responded, and quickly messaged each other about how Christmas was going. I asked her the next day, if she'd be interested in grabbing a coffee soon and she agreed. We're meeting up this Sunday and I've never been so nervous/excited for a date. I guess cause I really don't know much about her and I'm afraid we'll sit there awkwardly trying to make convo. But also, because she's honestly one of the prettiest girls I've talked with, let alone gotten a date out of.
My boyfriend visited me at work today just to say hi and because we were trying to give out as much merchandise as possible before a football game, my boss put him to work and he did it without complaint. He actually had a ton of fun. And my boss is even going so far as to pay him for his work, too.
No one else would've ever done that, I think. Not even my own family. Made me really [I]really[/I] happy at the end of my 7 hour shift.
So, I booked me and the gf tickets for the cinema tomorrow and the seats were getting booked up fast so I should have done it earlier, but after I did it she seemed to be..idk...annoyed about something?
The whole "I'm fine" thing. Do I just leave her alone or what? we're going to see each other today so it's not going to be the most fun day if there's something wrong.
I mean, she's had other stuff going on that could've annoyed her I just feel like it's me somehow. Idk.
Had one of the best dates of my life last night - and completely out of nowhere too.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51601567]When people do that to me, I no longer take responsibility for anything wrong.
Doesn't matter if it is your fault, if they can't communicate like someone out of elementary school, too bad. You can't do anything if they don't tell you what you did.[/QUOTE]
Sometimes people do it because they need time to think or calm down before talking. It's never a good idea to rush an inflammatory discussion if something is bothering them.
[QUOTE=PredGD;51499585]Any advice on dealing with a clingy SO? ...[/QUOTE]
Update on this. I did talk to her about it shortly after reading the replies I got but I never got around to posting again since I thought it was resolved. I straight up told her that I don't really dig the idea of even talking about marriage or kids this early in a relationship and she seemed really embarrassed by me even mentioning it like that. She played it off as her fooling around which I doubt considering how serious she has been when mentioning it and how many times it has been mentioned. Either way, I gave in, there was a small break up scare for some reason I don't fully remember but we didn't actually go through with that. She stopped mentioning it completely and it seemed fixed. She continued with her clingy behavior but I didn't really mind at the time. I felt better around her and everything seemed up but now it's resurfacing, me noticing the clinginess a lot more and wanting more space. I don't miss her, I don't mind not meeting her, I don't mind staying home alone without her. Whatever used to be there seems to be gone and to be honest, I'm not sure if there ever was anything there other than a small flirt that unfortunately for me evolved further than it should have.
We talked about it again just a few days ago before bed time. She had noticed me becoming more distant and less attentive of her. She said it felt like I had gotten stuck with her and lost my feelings, and now I wasn't able to break her off again since I didn't want to hurt her. I told her that it sounds about right and that I was never able to find much of a spark but that I had been trying and that I hoped it'd pop up. I can't remember what we talked about there and then, but the idea of a break up popped up again. I wasn't too emotionally bothered at the time and she seemed fine as well, but when the hammer hit that we were going to break up, she couldn't hold the tears in anymore. She immediately pulled back her agreement on breaking up and pleaded me to try fixing stuff with her instead of "taking the easy way out". I was almost paralyzed since I wasn't sure what to say. It felt right to break up but at the same time, my choice was destroying my SO from the inside and it hurt to see. Eventually she decided that she'd rather grab her belongings and walk out in the middle of the night just walking until public transport starts moving again. I couldn't take that and told her we'd try fixing the stuff we know can be fixed and communicating better before we make this choice. Clingy being one of them.
Last I saw her was on Wednesday and she has stopped sending both messages and snaps almost completely. She has also stopped tagging me in stuff on Facebook. I feel space and I like it, but I don't miss her. It feels like life goes on like it has always done, before I met her. It's easy to forget she's even a part of my life. I don't think I feel much of a connection to her. A part of me hopes that we can fix this to make this work but a part of me thinks it's impossible. I don't think it's right to keep her "reserved" until I can make up my mind, especially not when it feels like it'll be the opposite of what she hopes for.
I don't have a lot of experience with relationships. I've never been on this side of one before, being the guy who wants to break up and move on. Is there any hope in making this stuff work from the sound of it? I don't want to give her false hope if there is none.
My girlfriend of almost 2 years took advantage of our ending a lease and moving out of that shithole to break up with me, because she's done nothing with her life at all this year (I have no idea how that's my fault, I've tried getting her back into her studies, but she never listened, instead just playing some MMO all year).
She says she was thinking of it for a while. The fucked up thing is she accepted the christmas gifts I gave her without any question.
So, yeah... fun times.
[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51603133]Went from no sex in months to having sex 3+ times a day, holy mackerel. The dream is real
Bless this time of year[/QUOTE]
Advantage of having a GF
[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51603681]I know of a lot of people who accept gifts while intending on breaking up after receiving, shit's fucked[/QUOTE]
I've had two different female friends tell me these stories of how, when you're a girl, you have to deal with a lot of unwanted affection and creepy guys who will shower you with unwarranted gifts. But the thing is, they also NEVER refuse those gifts.
With the one girl it was a stalkerly Steam friend who would gift her games all the time, and messaged her EVERY time she came online, and she just recently blocked him when he started suggesting he might move to the state we live in.
Another girl was given this super-nice custom-painted ukulele by this guy who then immediately broke down into a desperate confession of love.
I don't know, maybe in these cases you can say it's justified, because it's something positive to come out of all the shit they had to deal with coming from these weirdos? But I don't think I would feel right accepting a ton of gifts from someone when they have this specific unwanted intent in mind. All I can say is I'm glad I'm not the kind of guy to spend a bunch of money trying to win someone over like that.
[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51606499]In this instance, we aren't actually dating, just extra good friends lol.[/QUOTE]
:dogwow:
Guys like that are weak and deserve to have advantage taken.
You sound cool
[QUOTE=The Jack;51606634]Guys like that are weak and deserve to have advantage taken.[/QUOTE]
you should never "feed" these types of guys (or girls). they may think you are accepting their gifts or kindness because you have some inkling of romantic feelings toward them, and they will never leave you alone.
in the long run, its far better to be blunt and tell them there is no chance of a romantic relationship ever happening.
For them, but not for you. I'm poor and value stuff.
[QUOTE=The Jack;51607444]For them, but not for you. I'm poor and[B] value stuff.[/B][/QUOTE]
But not the feelings of others, evidently.
[QUOTE=The Jack;51606634]Guys like that are weak and deserve to have advantage taken.[/QUOTE]
Or, crazy idea, how 'bout it's not okay for anyone to take advantage of anyone?
[QUOTE=The Jack;51606634]Guys like that are weak and deserve to have advantage taken.[/QUOTE]
Yikes
But when you're surrounded with gifts, what's the merit of being deep?
[QUOTE=The Jack;51609368]But when you're surrounded with gifts, what's the merit of being deep?[/QUOTE]
Being a normal human person and not a hoarding douchebag
[QUOTE=The Jack;51609368]But when you're surrounded with gifts, what's the merit of being deep?[/QUOTE]
Sociopathic behaviour: a primer
[QUOTE=The Jack;51609368]But when you're surrounded with gifts, what's the merit of being deep?[/QUOTE]
This is an extremely selfish mindset.
Argh, I still have issue maintaining, hell, even getting an erection in a proper sexual situation, and it is endlessly frustrating. Decided that laying off the porn and fapping for January ought to help rectify that.
