Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

On New Year's Eve my GF who has vaginism and I finally managed to have sex after almost a year of fruitless attempts. I felt almost nothing because of the condom and it still hurt her a bit but not to the point of penetration being impossible like before, I still have a hard time realizing we actually managed to do it. Now I guess the next step is to learn to actually derive pleasure from it. She said she's going back on the pill next week so we can try it without barrier, but what I'm a bit concerned about is the fact she hasn't felt much during this first try. That's how it was when I first started fingering her and she eventually grew to adore it so I suppose the same will happen here, but still...

[QUOTE=Aetna;51611767] To the post above me as well, this applies. As long as you aren't jerkin' it 4 times a day everyday you should be perfectly fine. I have a fairly standard fap schedule and it doesn't effect my ability. [/QUOTE] Makes sense. I average once a night before bed and thats about it, so I suppose I'm in the clear for that sorta thing.

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51611830]What's the most y'all have had sex in one day? The record for me is 6 and after that, I couldn't even think about sex. That was too much, I don't really recommend it often lol[/QUOTE] From 9 pm till 4 am, didn't really keep track of things

[QUOTE=_Axel;51611817]On New Year's Eve my GF who has vaginism and I finally managed to have sex after almost a year of fruitless attempts. I felt almost nothing because of the condom and it still hurt her a bit but not to the point of penetration being impossible like before, I still have a hard time realizing we actually managed to do it. Now I guess the next step is to learn to actually derive pleasure from it. She said she's going back on the pill next week so we can try it without barrier, but what I'm a bit concerned about is the fact she hasn't felt much during this first try. That's how it was when I first started fingering her and she eventually grew to adore it so I suppose the same will happen here, but still...[/QUOTE] used to date a girl with the same issue and the only time she could have sex was if she was on mdma, so we used to actively drop it together whenever we wanted to bang lol, not that i suggest you do that. anyways after a while she started to be able to do it normally and we found that positions made a big difference.

[QUOTE=cricket50;51612934]used to date a girl with the same issue and the only time she could have sex was if she was on mdma, so we used to actively drop it together whenever we wanted to bang lol, not that i suggest you do that. anyways after a while she started to be able to do it normally and we found that positions made a big difference.[/QUOTE] Well we drank a bottle of white wine and a bottle of champagne before so that might have something to do with it :v: We tried again the morning after and it still worked, I suppose when it's worked once it's a lot less stressful to try it again and that makes it much easier. Doggystyle and missionary worked the best, she tried doing cowgirl but that didn't work as well. She also wanted to try spooning so we did but I don't find it to be a very convenient position.

my gf and me broke like 2 months ago, we still living togheter atm, we came from vacation (I came 2 days early to be sure everything is okay in home) Past tomorrow she will bring a bi girl (She's bi too) I first though about a fucking trheesome, like almost every men out there But i'm pretty sure that i'll just play games and watch porn in bathroom.I fucking suck

I've know this has been discussed before, but my gf and I have a height difference of almost 30 cm, and it makes some positions hard to do, like both lying on our sides looking at each other, wich is unfortunate, since my girl prefers to do it while we look at each other. Do you people have any advice for partners with high height differences?

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;51613108]I've know this has been discussed before, but my gf and I have a height difference of almost 30 cm, and it makes some positions hard to do, like both lying on our sides looking at each other, wich is unfortunate, since my girl prefers to do it while we look at each other. Do you people have any advice for partners with high height differences?[/QUOTE] Lying on your side looking at each other....? That's just uncomfortable. I mean, it can be done, but it's just a totally unnecessary struggle. Positions that would work best would be missionary (and if she's extra short just push her legs up so your faces are at a more even level) or cowgirl. One position I enjoy is laying my girl on her side at the edge of the bed then take her standing up. Plenty of flexibility for her to look over her shoulder at me, same goes for regular old spooning. She must be really flexible cause she can always manage to kiss me somehow even when we're facing away from each other. [editline]2nd January 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Kabstrac;51611830]What's the most y'all have had sex in one day? The record for me is 6 and after that, I couldn't even think about sex. That was too much, I don't really recommend it often lol[/QUOTE] When I was still in high school I think I managed about the same. Y'know, back when you could jerk off back to back without pausing, whereas now when I fap I instantly want to stop the second I'm done. It's actually a blessing and a curse, nowadays when I get wandering eyes or an invitation to cheat, I instantly go have a fap and voila the idea disgusts me.

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51611830]What's the most y'all have had sex in one day? The record for me is 6 and after that, I couldn't even think about sex. That was too much, I don't really recommend it often lol[/QUOTE] My fiancee and I rented a nice hotel room with a big jacuzzi tub for a weekend just after we started dating. We had both come off a bit of a dry spell, and we had been exchanging some pretty saucy texts the whole week leading up to it. It was a frenzy. I don't even know how many times we actually had sex, but we were both too sore to keep going by the end of the weekend. We must have gone at least once every hour or so for our entire waking stay, and we even had plenty of toys to use for my recovery periods. On a related note: the Magic Wand is perhaps the most ridiculous sex toy ever made. She's still somewhere between terrified and awestruck on the rare occasions it's produced, and it's such an intense toy for her that "rare occasions" are about all she's willing to tolerate. Just the sound of turning it on makes her jump. [editline]2nd January 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Aetna;51613796]When I was still in high school I think I managed about the same. Y'know, back when you could jerk off back to back without pausing, whereas now when I fap I instantly want to stop the second I'm done. It's actually a blessing and a curse, nowadays when I get wandering eyes or an invitation to cheat, I instantly go have a fap and voila the idea disgusts me.[/QUOTE] Yeah, same. My sex drive dropped off pretty sharply over the past couple of years. It's still at a healthy level, and my fiancee and I still have sex often, but the idea of all-day marathons just sound exhausting to me now.

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;51614324] [editline]2nd January 2017[/editline] Yeah, same. My sex drive dropped off pretty sharply over the past couple of years. It's still at a healthy level, and my fiancee and I still have sex often, but the idea of all-day marathons just sound exhausting to me now.[/QUOTE] Straight up. I rarely ever go for more than 20-30 minutes and maybe 5 times a week. Then there's the rare occasion I just can't seem to finish and I go until I'm physically exhausted, or legitimately get bored with the whole procedure and give up. Getting older is a strange process.

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51611830]What's the most y'all have had sex in one day? The record for me is 6 and after that, I couldn't even think about sex. That was too much, I don't really recommend it often lol[/QUOTE] 'bout a full afternoon, from lunch to dinner. Literally had to carry her to the car and from the car to the restaurant afterwards, and from the restaurant back to the car/car back to bedroom cause she was too sore/exhausted to walk.

This thread always makes me so depressed and yet I can't stop reading.

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51550029]Depending on the pill, you should have some leeway for missing the exact time to take it. I'd avoid variances of 15 minutes or more though to be safe. Just take it at the same time everyday and unless you are some weirdo where the pill doesn't work for you, you'll be fine. Have fun! [editline]18th December 2016[/editline] Just ask her "Hey, I am just wondering how you'd feel about us dating?" Like seriously be straight up about it. You can fluff it up a bit and say that you're fine with just continuing as friends but you think there's potential and you just want to see where you stand in her eyes. That's how I would do it and how I have done it in the past (with success)[/QUOTE] Well took your advice and finally kinda asked her. We ended up going out for dinner last Friday night, everything was going good, I think we spend 5 hours talking or something, but eventually we started to get playful with each other while at the restaurant, like holding hands n stuff; found out her arms are ticklish. I guess I got a weird look on my face after a while and she asked me if I was alright. I just ended up asking what she thought of me but she never gave me an answer. It was starting to get late so we paid the bill and walked out. Now that I think about she hinted at continuing talking in my car, one thing lead to another we started rough housing and tickling each other, next thing I know she straight up kisses me we both pause like did that happen, and next thing I know we went to town for like a solid hour of that. Eventually her folks called and it was getting real late, so we both had to get home. But she suddenly went into that " Oh fuck I shouldn't have done that" mode and left. I don't think I did anything wrong, and I asked her a few times during that if she was alright with this. And she said yes. But anyways when I got home she started messaging me apologizing for being rude by randomly kissing me. I told her not to worry about it and not to think about it that way. Later Saturday we talked and both felt good and okay over the situation, and talked into the night like we normally do. So now I'm not quite sure what to do next, I mean I still really like her, next time should I just talk to her about it and straight up say that I enjoyed it, or honestly tell her how I feel about her. I'm sure I'm overthinking or complicating this. I know jack when it comes to this stuff. A buddy told me that she get made the first move because neither of us did earlier.

Ok so i have a question i cant really seem to answer: So we were at a new years party last night with a group of friends of my cousin, at a cute girl's house. I currently live with him and his parents, so all the area is filled with friends and contacts and all from him. We were like 7-8 people. They know each other a long time ago and all the group origins started from two friends who are a couple, and then the others started coming. Well, the party was pretty lit, lots of games, drinks and weed. Never got that fucking drunk and felt that good as that night, became instant friends with all those guys and from drinks to games the things started getting fun. The couple of the the group is very open, and from that group, theres another girl (the one who owned the house) who i saw a couple times at other reunions but never got to talk her too much. Well, shes like a third wheel in the couples relationship, probably trios and all that from time to time. And not gonna lie, kinda liked her since the last reunion. So, i kinda looked after her this party but seemed like she had no interest, so i desisted, and eventually she started making out with the other girl in her boyfriends face. The dude was just happy so i could tell he was into it, and very used to it. The shit got even stranger when the third-wheel girl actually started making out with me. For a moment it seemed out of nowhere, but everyone cheered up for us (yeah we made out in front of everyone). She and everyone else where all like "duuuude read the signs" and then yeah, seems like she did say a couple things pointing in that direction, although her attitude is very neutral and it seemed like she had no interest from moment to moment. Well...after that it was them, the couple making out, then the girls, then the girl with me, then the girls with the girl still holding my hand and derivations from that (i even got enough signs to tell even the guy was into me). Then we all went to the bathroom, and well, the girls started making out and suddenly i realized to myself ".....am i really gonna have a fucking foursome right now?" and to put it into context, i have only have one serious relationship for two years, it ended in the beginning of 2016 and in all year i just dated one girl for a month, thats it, we didnt have sex or anything, so you can tell how after a year without it all the situation seemed like some exploding overcompensation for the lack of it. For my "luck" my cousin got pretty wasted and needed the bathroom, so we all went outside. And, as a good cousin, i stayed with him to make sure he didnt fucking die from all the puke. I stayed for a good hour and then went outside to pick up something warm for him to drink. The couple was sleeping in the owners room, where there were two beds, so they were in one and in the other was the cute girl and her little sister. Outside the bathroom, in the living room, the other guys were sleeping in the floor. So, when i went out the girl was walking towards me and asked if i needed something. Tried to tell her if she had some aspiring or something and i dont know how but i just started making out with her right there. I must admit, i missed all those feelings, even if they were just superficial at that moment. The moment was so hot i even grabbed her hand and just straight up putted it in my pants. She grabbed firmly, and after a minute she laughed a bit and said "come on dude the guys are right there ahah" and yeah, they were like a meter away, sleeping, but they were there. So i laughed it off and went back to my cousin. After that, we all woke up and i started cleaning all the mess. We had breakfast, said goodbye and all. Looked at my phone on my way home and through the party the girl added me on facebook and i added the couple too. Then they added me in a chat group where all the friends were. Thing is, and this is were i wanted to go, the girl is actually pretty cool. Shes nice, living through similar processes, her family was great with me, cute, funny, likes vydia as much as i do and shes also a bi, like me, but i get shes in another state of her life. She broke up a couple months ago with her ex from a toxic relationship and now shes probably looking for fun, sex, all that stuff. I wouldnt say im not at this point, but..is it too silly to fool around with the idea that maybe, from all the illusions of a great night and all the alcohol that was involved in this story, that is not too crazy to think that we could start to know each other better from now on? maybe something in the future...? I dont know, i mean, i dont want to be that innocent and try to give more of a meaning the night deserves, but aside from that, would it be to stupid to start talking with this girl and see what happens? even knowing all the crazy stuff that goes between those three i really dont care..the only person i have actually been jealous about was with my ex and it was after we broke up, because when she started another relationship i still was inlove with her and hurt a lot, but now i really dont give a fuck about all that mambo jumbo, this girl seems actually great. What do you think guys? sorry if i went into TOO much detail, but i cant help it.

Nah, detail is good. Id say go for it. Even if shes not looking for something serious, just go have some fun with her.

For the past week I've been dreaming every night about my ex who broke up with me just before Christmas, it feels terrible yet for some reason good at the same time. I'm trying hard to just get on with shit but these vivid as fuck dreams are not making it easy.

So I met this beautiful junkie in a recent smoke session and guys... I think I instantly fell in love as soon as our squinted messy eyes met across the room, she giggled(well I think she did, I was high asf off the crack pipe) so I stumbled over to her and offered her my pipe.. Too which she accepted then I kinda forgot what happened and forgot what she looks like.. But guys, I'm in love

Is there a way to actually feel shit when using a condom? I've tried several kinds, extra-thin ones even, it doesn't change a thing. It really sucks that I can't enjoy having sex now that we finally can do it, sometimes I can't even maintain an erection because of how little I feel.

Water-based and silicon-based lube can go a long way. Never use oil-based with condoms, it can break down the latex.

[QUOTE=psychojake;51619199]Water-based and silicon-based lube can go a long way. Never use oil-based with condoms, it can break down the latex.[/QUOTE] I use manix or durex gels, is that what you're referring to? Should I put it outside only or does putting some inside around the tip help? It feels kinda uncomfortable around that area, like a small Indian burn. I also feel kind of... compressed? I'm trying not to use too small ones but the ones I use are already about 56 mm width, are there alternatives that are a bit bigger? I don't want the thing to slip off at the first occasion either.

It's not as easy for it to slip off as most people think it is. Even if it feels like it, it almost certainly won't

[QUOTE=_Axel;51619245]I use manix or durex gels, is that what you're referring to? Should I put it outside only or does putting some inside around the tip help? It feels kinda uncomfortable around that area, like a small Indian burn. I also feel kind of... compressed? I'm trying not to use too small ones but the ones I use are already about 56 mm width, are there alternatives that are a bit bigger? I don't want the thing to slip off at the first occasion either.[/QUOTE] I've never used the gel, but putting a couple of drops of lube both inside and outside can help make it better for both of you.

[QUOTE=Noth;51603637]My girlfriend of almost 2 years took advantage of our ending a lease and moving out of that shithole to break up with me, because she's done nothing with her life at all this year (I have no idea how that's my fault, I've tried getting her back into her studies, but she never listened, instead just playing some MMO all year). She says she was thinking of it for a while. The fucked up thing is she accepted the christmas gifts I gave her without any question. So, yeah... fun times.[/QUOTE] So, now after managing to be a royal cunt for the past few days, she says she did it all to make it easier for me to get over her, that her mother is having several major surgerys and wants extended post-op care from her, and that she doesn't know when she'll be back on this side of the country. I've been a massive cunt back to her over the past few days, but I just don't know what to think now

[QUOTE=Noth;51620165]So, now after managing to be a royal cunt for the past few days, she says she did it all to make it easier for me to get over her, that her mother is having several major surgerys and wants extended post-op care from her, and that she doesn't know when she'll be back on this side of the country. I've been a massive cunt back to her over the past few days, but I just don't know what to think now[/QUOTE] "Hey, so my mom is having several major surgerys and needs extensive post op care. I'd like to help her which involves moving across the country. I'd love to stay together with you but I don't know if I'll ever be back in your town again. Unless you wanted to move with me it may be best to end the relationship as I don't know if I can do a LDR". Notice that she didn't ask for your opinion at all - so it was her choice and she is the one who decided to not do a LDR. There is nothing "easier" about the way she handled this.

Actually, I think didn't ask me about LDR because I've been vocal in the past about them not working, at least in my opinion. But, staying up there for a medical reason is different than a long distance relationship. I would've waited until she came back, hell I would've even considered moving up there. But, you're right. There was nothing easier about this at all

[QUOTE=Noth;51620311]Actually, I think didn't ask me about LDR because I've been vocal in the past about them not working, at least in my opinion.[/QUOTE] Nah. This is a different situation from going away to college for 3-4 years, etc. She should have had a proper discussion with you about this. The way she handled it was cold and immature. Consider it a bullet dodged because if she cared about you at all she would have at least asked if you would be willing to move out there with her. If my mom was having major surgerys and needed post-op care I'd want emotional support from my SO - not to be alone and hurting from a breakup at the same time.

[QUOTE=Noth;51620165]So, now after managing to be a royal cunt for the past few days, she says she did it all to make it easier for me to get over her[/QUOTE] Could be wrong, but in my experience people usually say things like this to justify being shitty/make themselves feel better.

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Do you even have any proof that she is who she says she is, and if so, have you shown this to your parents?

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