Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

So, embarrassing question time. I'm coming off of a dry streak with this great girl, we've been friends for a while and recently it came to light that we both had a thing for each other. Great girl, miles out of my league, and I'm practically bursting through my pants when we just make out. But then we get naked and I find that I can't really get it up. This isn't really a normal problem for me, but she's made it clear that she's hanging around for me as a person, and that she doesn't want me to "cheat" and grab a pill. I figure a lot of it comes down to feeling outclassed and putting myself on the spot kills it as a result. Anyway, anyone have any insight? I know it's not really an uncommon issue for people to run into from time to time, but it still bugs me more than it should.

[QUOTE=dogmachines;51657945]So, embarrassing question time. I'm coming off of a dry streak with this great girl, we've been friends for a while and recently it came to light that we both had a thing for each other. Great girl, miles out of my league, and I'm practically bursting through my pants when we just make out. But then we get naked and I find that I can't really get it up. This isn't really a normal problem for me, but she's made it clear that she's hanging around for me as a person, and that she doesn't want me to "cheat" and grab a pill. I figure a lot of it comes down to feeling outclassed and putting myself on the spot kills it as a result. Anyway, anyone have any insight? I know it's not really an uncommon issue for people to run into from time to time, but it still bugs me more than it should.[/QUOTE] Perhaps anxiety stemming from "she's miles out of my league"? It should get better as you get more comfortable around her.

[QUOTE=dogmachines;51657945]So, embarrassing question time. I'm coming off of a dry streak with this great girl, we've been friends for a while and recently it came to light that we both had a thing for each other. Great girl, miles out of my league, and I'm practically bursting through my pants when we just make out. But then we get naked and I find that I can't really get it up. This isn't really a normal problem for me, but she's made it clear that she's hanging around for me as a person, and that she doesn't want me to "cheat" and grab a pill. I figure a lot of it comes down to feeling outclassed and putting myself on the spot kills it as a result. Anyway, anyone have any insight? I know it's not really an uncommon issue for people to run into from time to time, but it still bugs me more than it should.[/QUOTE] Leagues are a myth. Nobody is out of your league if they truly like and appreciate you.

The real problem isn't that you think someone is out of your league It's when they think you're beneath them

Now.. *hits blunt* If straight girls use dildos for masturbation, do lesbians use fleshlights?

[QUOTE=ZombieWaffle;51660385]Leagues are a myth. Nobody is out of your league if they truly like and appreciate you.[/QUOTE] Straight up. I've dated plenty of women who I thought were "out of my league" but much to my surprise, won them over. And besides, any girl that turns you down because she thinks she's out of your league isn't worth your time. If she's paying any attention to you at all and it's positive, she's in the same ballpark.

Confidence/charisma and a good sense of humor matter more than looks. Looks can be changed, but innate confidence/charisma and a good sense of humor can't be taught.

[QUOTE=BuffaloBill;51661368]Confidence/charisma and a good sense of humor matter more than looks. Looks can be changed, but innate confidence/charisma and a good sense of humor can't be taught.[/QUOTE] Confidence can be gained though, same for humor.

I don't have a problem but I just wanted to say that I've been seeing a girl and it's going really well, we've been going on the dumbest and lamest dates ever and we have a great time with them. The other day we went to a coffee shop to figure out what we wanted to do for the day and we just ended up playing chess for like three hours with a set we found under the table and laughing our asses off the entire time and it was dumb and cute as fuck. I hope it becomes a thing, she's super great there isn't really a point to this post sorry

Thanks for the responses folks. I'm pretty quickly moving to a better frame of mind, I already knew that setting myself up as the "lesser", especially coming off a streak of single-ness, was probably not great. But as I was saying, it's a pretty easy mindset to get out of just by getting more comfortable with someone.

[QUOTE=AtomicSans;51662202]I don't have a problem but I just wanted to say that I've been seeing a girl and it's going really well, we've been going on the dumbest and lamest dates ever and we have a great time with them. The other day we went to a coffee shop to figure out what we wanted to do for the day and we just ended up playing chess for like three hours with a set we found under the table and laughing our asses off the entire time and it was dumb and cute as fuck. I hope it becomes a thing, she's super great there isn't really a point to this post sorry[/QUOTE] I'm firmly of the opinion that you know you've found someone special when you can do dumb shit and/or literally nothing and love it. My girlfriend and I spent like two hours on Friday just laying on a sofa listening to smash mouth mashups and it was excellent.

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;51662770]I'm firmly of the opinion that you know you've found someone special when you can do dumb shit and/or literally nothing and love it. My girlfriend and I spent like two hours on Friday just laying on a sofa listening to smash mouth mashups and it was excellent.[/QUOTE] Haha, that's cute! Yeah, I'm getting that feeling too. We also have the exact same sense of humor which totally helps, and we have those little moments where we both independently find the same humor in something and bust out laughing at the same time. It feels amazing.

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;51662770]I'm firmly of the opinion that you know you've found someone special when you can do dumb shit and/or literally nothing and love it. My girlfriend and I spent like two hours on Friday just laying on a sofa listening to smash mouth mashups and it was excellent.[/QUOTE] i remember listening to thomas the tank remixes all day day with my ex, and then play some Broforce. Keep those moments up and enjoy them. [editline]13th January 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=autodesknoob;51654745]well, basically im new in this group of friends that my cousin has been part of since a few years ago, and we kicked it off so well that shes afraid if things end up bad the group could be damaged or that im gonna run off from it, since aparently i gave some "i want a relationship" vibes To be honest, i get it. I was a little confused since i got vibes of that from her more that i gave, i think. TL:dr: its not you its me, i dont want anything serious now she says[/QUOTE] I may see this girl again at another reunion. 5 to 6 folks. I should play it cool right?

[QUOTE=autodesknoob;51664978]i remember listening to thomas the tank remixes all day day with my ex, and then play some Broforce. Keep those moments up and enjoy them. [editline]13th January 2017[/editline] I may see this girl again at another reunion. 5 to 6 folks. I should play it cool right?[/QUOTE] Fuck yes play it cool. If she said that she doesn't want anything serious don't try too hard, or at all. Be casual, chat with her, if you're feeling adventurous, spark up a conversation, maybe a little flirty and if that leads somewhere cool, but that's it. If she shows a lack of interest, just enjoy the rest of your night and let it go.

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51656840]I can't get into foreplay, I'm just so full of lust I just wanna bust a nut every time, which makes sex sessions too short[/QUOTE] Sex doesn't have to end right after ejaculation. If you have to cum, go for it. Do some foreplay, cuddle, drink a glass of water, piss, and then lock and load for round II

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;51668103]Sex doesn't have to end right after ejaculation. If you have to cum, go for it. Do some foreplay, cuddle, drink a glass of water, piss, and then lock and load for round II[/QUOTE] Well I mean, after I'm done I get tired and my sex drive just ends, so

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51669448]Well I mean, after I'm done I get tired and my sex drive just ends, so[/QUOTE] you dont sound like much fun :c

[QUOTE=metallics;51669469]you dont sound like much fun :c[/QUOTE] Hey it's tiring to please a woman by thrusting constantly I'd be okay with not doing that if it meant lasting longer, but unfortunately it doesn't please me as well

Joined POF awhile back. No luck so far. Two questions... Is POF the best free dating site? Is there another one I don't know about? Is there any way to reverse image search pictures on POF? like so I know if it's a catfish.

[QUOTE=Aetna;51667433]Fuck yes play it cool. If she said that she doesn't want anything serious don't try too hard, or at all. Be casual, chat with her, if you're feeling adventurous, spark up a conversation, maybe a little flirty and if that leads somewhere cool, but that's it. If she shows a lack of interest, just enjoy the rest of your night and let it go.[/QUOTE] Well, I did that. Its all alright, no interest though, but, whatever.

[QUOTE=dannyketch;51669784]Joined POF awhile back. No luck so far. Two questions... Is POF the best free dating site? Is there another one I don't know about? Is there any way to reverse image search pictures on POF? like so I know if it's a catfish.[/QUOTE] POF is kinda lame. I met a few very nice girls on there, two of which I dated for a little while, but it took a lot of effort. If you're concerned about catfishes, just take a screenshot of their pic, crop it, and reverse Google image search. Catfish are usually obvious as fuck in my experience though. OKC is a MUCH better site, especially if you're willing to pay the ten dollhairs for the extra features. Well, pretty much all the useful features but they're still worth the cash. Bear in mind with online dating you really have to stand out. All the girls I met online told me how happy they were they'd met someone who wasn't a dick, and showed me how their inboxes got hundreds of messages a day. Whatever you send in that first message better have some substance or they're likely to move on to the next one, if at all. I'd feel a little creeped out in their position.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51670496]Theres more to sex than thrusting[/QUOTE] Well enlighten me please

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51670915]Well enlighten me please[/QUOTE] Damn dude, do you think sex is purely physical or something? You come off a little sociopathic with the way you're thinking about it. It's about sharing an experience with someone, both of you being at your most vulnerable and letting someone in. It's about making a connection, not about sticking your dick in some sugar walls. Even when I've had casual sex I still look them in the eyes and cuddle after and all that, because we let down our walls together.

Well I haven't been in true love yet so of course I don't know what it's like

even if it was "just thrusting" and you don't care about the emotion like damn dude you ahve options other than just thrusting

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51671339]Well I haven't been in true love yet so of course I don't know what it's like[/QUOTE] ...Did you even read my post? I even stated that during casual sex (as in casual, non-romantic), I'm intimate. I enjoy it. The fact that someone has trusted me so much to let me share that experience with them and we both get to feel trusted and appreciated. Again, if you aren't feeling any connection with any of your partners, you've got some deep-seeded issues to look into. Not to mention they're probably left feeling inadequate since you were off in some other world during sex. that hurts dude.

We're all different. Better to be understanding rather than criticizing, especially if he's not actually doing anything wrong.

when you send a little somthin somethin on snapchat and it ends up on your story with 15 views. :suicide:

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51670977]I love kissing during sex too. If the girl is on top, sometimes I like to just pause and make out while being ballsdeep[/QUOTE] goddamn that's some good shit. hopefully I'll manage to get myself out there a bit more this year, I'm going to be a bit more proactive in going out and meeting people than I have been previously.

Honestly the only foreplay I enjoyed was massaging and rubbing my fingers softly on her skin, pretty much anything else didn't cut it for me Hopefully just because I wasn't really into them and not anything worse Cuddling's fine too