Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51672226]Honestly the only foreplay I enjoyed was massaging and rubbing my fingers softly on her skin, pretty much anything else didn't cut it for me Hopefully just because I wasn't really into them and not anything worse Cuddling's fine too[/QUOTE] I do gotta say, just going all over that smooth skin with one's hand does feel really nice. (And even better with the mouth.)

[QUOTE=Milksprain;51671446]I think you're all tearing into him a little too much. He has to learn somewhere, not everyone has had amazingly tender sexual experiences.[/QUOTE] I'm not trying to criticize him at all - and if it came off that way, I'm sorry Sebi, I didn't mean to be a dick. It's just hard for me to understand what you're feeling. [editline]15th January 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51669448]Well I mean, after I'm done I get tired and my sex drive just ends, so[/QUOTE] And this is very normal, it's called post-coital depression/dysphoria/tristesse. I dunno if it's happened to you, but after I fap I'm often disgusted at whatever porn I was watching and just want to clean up and move on. Sex is a little different but that feeling can be different for everyone.

So, this girl that works at a restaurant I frequent for lunch during work gave me her number last week in my to-go. I've noticed a few times over the past few months that she is always looking at me when I look up from whatever I'm doing or eating. She works as a server and is only off one day during the week when I'm working. I asked if I could take her out or see her sometime, she agreed, but she hasn't really been coordinating with me. Just telling me when she goes in to work or when she's off. When I ask her if I can come see her at work, she doesn't respond. It doesn't help that she lives a state away. Kind of at a loss, really. Knowing a little bit about server life, my gut tells me to offer her a foot rub and a face to sit on, idek how well that would go over text, or at all, though.

cooking as a couple has got to be one of the best things about any relationship

I remember one time we spent the better part of the day making chilli that we planned on eating for at least 2 days but we somehow completely fucked it and it ended up tasting like garbage, was still fun but man, it was really really bad

So, after lurking in this thread and knowing about the death grip problem people have, it never occurred to me that I had it until I had a whole weekend on a ski trip with my new girlfriend and couldn't orgasm or keep it hard during sex, making it a small crisis in the relationship. At least she could get me off with oral. Do you guys recommend I totally lay off masturbation or change something else in the routine? Right now my thoughts are complete abstinence.

the less you cum, the easier you cum just lay off it for a few

[QUOTE=Hawke7;51673916]So, after lurking in this thread and knowing about the death grip problem people have, it never occurred to me that I had it until I had a whole weekend on a ski trip with my new girlfriend and couldn't orgasm or keep it hard during sex, making it a small crisis in the relationship. At least she could get me off with oral. Do you guys recommend I totally lay off masturbation or change something else in the routine? Right now my thoughts are complete abstinence.[/QUOTE] As I said before, unless you're masturbating all the time, several times a day, masturbation shouldn't be the problem. And if she's able to get you off with oral, it sounds more like anxiety to me. You're probably thinking way too much during the act itself and it's distracting you. As I suggested with others, I highly recommend finding a way to reduce your anxiety, and if all else fails, seek out medication to assist you with the dysfunction. Whenever it's happened to me it's been the first time, hardly ever any time after that. You can try not masturbating and it might help but it might not. It's worth a shot first I guess.

[QUOTE=Hawke7;51673916]So, after lurking in this thread and knowing about the death grip problem people have, it never occurred to me that I had it until I had a whole weekend on a ski trip with my new girlfriend and couldn't orgasm or keep it hard during sex, making it a small crisis in the relationship. At least she could get me off with oral. Do you guys recommend I totally lay off masturbation or change something else in the routine? Right now my thoughts are complete abstinence.[/QUOTE] Honestly laying off fixed it for me. If I can't cum then I'll just say I'm tired after 4 hours or so and do a quick wank to prevent my balls from hurting a ton. Honestly I just have sex now when I have the urge to fap.

My girlfriend refuses to properly communicate with me and it's making me crazy. Something is obviously bothering her and I know it's not me, because she's shed some light on what is wrong. But she isnt talking to me at all now I geuss what I wanna ask is what do I do. Im planning on speaking to her in person tomorrow after school.

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;51676319]My girlfriend refuses to properly communicate with me and it's making me crazy. Something is obviously bothering her and I know it's not me, because she's shed some light on what is wrong. But she isnt talking to me at all now I geuss what I wanna ask is what do I do. Im planning on speaking to her in person tomorrow after school.[/QUOTE] Even if *nothing* is bothering her, if you want more communication, and that just isn't what she wants, then you should probably start wrapping your head around the idea that it isn't going to work. It isn't a big deal, just part as friends and move on. But something is probably wrong. Same advice applies.

[QUOTE=dannyketch;51669784]Joined POF awhile back. No luck so far. Two questions... Is POF the best free dating site? Is there another one I don't know about? Is there any way to reverse image search pictures on POF? like so I know if it's a catfish.[/QUOTE] I started dating my gf with POF within three weeks of signing up, funny enough she spent almost three years on it before she met me. No other dating site really worked for me, they either want you to subscribe just to message someone or were so limited on free accounts you couldn't really do anything but POF gave me just enough to communicate. OKC is alright but I didn't feel it was for me imo, everyone has their preferences.

I've been with the same girl for a year and a half now. Prior to that I spent nearly 4 years dating many different women and mostly just trying to have fun after a 3 year relationship with my high school sweetheart. I love and appreciate my girlfriend so much, and she lacks any qualities that scare me away in other women - but she has one major flaw, and that's that she's way too accommodating. If I want to do something a certain way, she smiles and says okay, and that's that. She agrees with me on everything even though she doesn't have to. I've told her before I'd rather she communicate and just tell me how she feels, but instead she holds it in while I speak my mind everyday. Dating someone like that, while comfortable and easy, gets boring. I miss the little arguments I had with exes, I miss disagreeing on things and coming to a conclusion. I've been debating leaving her the past few months because no matter how many times I tell her how I feel about this, she continues to be the same way. It's very frustrating and leaves me confused and sad about the situation. I think it's time I walk away, but hurting her really, really hurts to think about. She's been nothing but good to me. What do? I feel the obvious answer is to leave as I've obviously made it clear I've been thinking about it a while, but god damn it's a hard decision to make.

[QUOTE=Aetna;51678210]I've been with the same girl for a year and a half now. Prior to that I spent nearly 4 years dating many different women and mostly just trying to have fun after a 3 year relationship with my high school sweetheart. I love and appreciate my girlfriend so much, and she lacks any qualities that scare me away in other women - but she has one major flaw, and that's that she's way too accommodating. If I want to do something a certain way, she smiles and says okay, and that's that. She agrees with me on everything even though she doesn't have to. I've told her before I'd rather she communicate and just tell me how she feels, but instead she holds it in while I speak my mind everyday. Dating someone like that, while comfortable and easy, gets boring. I miss the little arguments I had with exes, I miss disagreeing on things and coming to a conclusion. I've been debating leaving her the past few months because no matter how many times I tell her how I feel about this, she continues to be the same way. It's very frustrating and leaves me confused and sad about the situation. I think it's time I walk away, but hurting her really, really hurts to think about. She's been nothing but good to me. What do? I feel the obvious answer is to leave as I've obviously made it clear I've been thinking about it a while, but god damn it's a hard decision to make.[/QUOTE] Have you tried teaching her the process of being a tease or merely told her to tease? If you have only done the latter you should consider trying the former. At a glance to me this seems like it could be a problem of "incompetence" (for lack of a better word) rather then an attempt to refuse to open up more. Most skills can be improved over time and teasing is a skill.

[QUOTE=Murky42;51678425]Have you tried teaching her the process of being a tease or merely told her to tease? If you have only done the latter you should consider trying the former. At a glance to me this seems like it could be a problem of "incompetence" (for lack of a better word) rather then an attempt to refuse to open up more. Most skills can be improved over time and teasing is a skill.[/QUOTE] This isn't about teasing. She's just incredibly submissive, to a fault. I don't really see that as healthy for her.

[QUOTE=LtKyle2;51678113]I started dating my gf with POF within three weeks of signing up, funny enough she spent almost three years on it before she met me. No other dating site really worked for me, they either want you to subscribe just to message someone or were so limited on free accounts you couldn't really do anything but POF gave me just enough to communicate. OKC is alright but I didn't feel it was for me imo, everyone has their preferences.[/QUOTE] Next question; Is there any site where I can meet older chicks? like MILF's/Cougars? POF is kind of limited.

[QUOTE=dannyketch;51679078]Next question; Is there any site where I can meet older chicks? like MILF's/Cougars? POF is kind of limited.[/QUOTE] There's plenty of older women on OKC that are easy enough to find if you spend the ten bucks for A-list membership. I tried my hand a few times back in the day and wasn't very lucky. Most older women aren't interested in younger men. I imagine it is a little strange for them to be thinking, "You're young enough to be my son".

I do gotta say, a woman being in her thirties has its perks

well me and my girlfriend of nearly 4 years finally broke up. things have been pretty poor between us lately though so i knew it was going to happen eventually (we've been ldr at college for a while). only sucker punch in it is that we had decided to take a break of sorts to take some pressure off and practically the next day one of my friends from back home told me she was already fucking another guy, day after that she called me and broke it off for real im overall just drained from everything so i don't really have too many strong feelings right now which is weird i guess. idk how to feel, or what it's like to be single again since it's been so long.

[QUOTE=dannyketch;51669784]Joined POF awhile back. No luck so far. Two questions... Is POF the best free dating site? Is there another one I don't know about? Is there any way to reverse image search pictures on POF? like so I know if it's a catfish.[/QUOTE] I met the girl I'm currently dating through match.com, I found her within 1 month and talked to quite a few others before her. My advice is sign up and create a decent profile (you can probably even copy it from PoF if you want) and just wait - eventually match will send through an offer to your email for a month for a stupidly low price. I was on PoF for the best part of the year, all I got were window shoppers than all just stopped talking when it came to going on a date. If you pay for a dating site you're more likely to find somebody who's actually serious about finding somebody IMO

[QUOTE=VIOLATION_SNG;51680164]well me and my girlfriend of nearly 4 years finally broke up. things have been pretty poor between us lately though so i knew it was going to happen eventually (we've been ldr at college for a while). only sucker punch in it is that we had decided to take a break of sorts to take some pressure off and practically the next day one of my friends from back home told me she was already fucking another guy, day after that she called me and broke it off for real im overall just drained from everything so i don't really have too many strong feelings right now which is weird i guess. idk how to feel, or what it's like to be single again since it's been so long.[/QUOTE] Here's how you be single: Ask your guy friend to hang out Go to a sports bar together with $50 Order a brownie with ice cream on top for $6 Spend $44 on the arcade section and pool table for the rest of the night with your friend

[QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;51680673]Here's how you be single: Ask your guy friend to hang out Go to a sports bar together with $50 Order a brownie with ice cream on top for $6 Spend $44 on the arcade section and pool table for the rest of the night with your friend[/QUOTE] Uh, is this what you do...?

[QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;51680673]Here's how you be single: Ask your guy friend to hang out Go to a sports bar together with $50 Order a brownie with ice cream on top for $6 Spend $44 on the arcade section and pool table for the rest of the night with your friend[/QUOTE] I think I'd rather resort to craigslist.

[QUOTE=RIPBILLYMAYS;51680673]Here's how you be single: Ask your guy friend to hang out Go to a sports bar together with $50 Order a brownie with ice cream on top for $6 Spend $44 on the arcade section and pool table for the rest of the night with your friend[/QUOTE] you just went on a date

[QUOTE=CoilingTesla;51681439]I think I'd rather resort to craigslist.[/QUOTE] For chicks? Enjoy all the botspam.

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;51681642]you just went on a date[/QUOTE] He brought his girlfriend so I didn't think of it that way I see a difference between being single and trying to meet people for relationships. I don't look for dates when I go out, I try to waste my time doing dumb stuff with my friends. The best part about being single is you can use different friends to have fun whereas with a relationship you are mostly tied to the same person and their schedule and preferred outings.

Well, I just broke up with my girlfriend, but I live with her until march. I have no clue what happens now.

[QUOTE=Aetna;51679592]There's plenty of older women on OKC that are easy enough to find if you spend the ten bucks for A-list membership. I tried my hand a few times back in the day and wasn't very lucky. Most older women aren't interested in younger men. I imagine it is a little strange for them to be thinking, "You're young enough to be my son".[/QUOTE] More like "Guys at your age are probably not rich enough yet"

[QUOTE=hakimhakim;51685149]More like "Guys at your age are probably not rich enough yet"[/QUOTE] That was never a problem for me, income never even came into the conversation (however, on OKC and I think on POF it does allow you to list your income bracket, which might be why I never had anyone say anything like that to me). I hooked up with a mid-30's woman once, and a late 40's woman once, both out of curiosity. First time was better than the second time, although it did get awkward for a second when her daughter I didn't even know existed came knocking on the door while this chick is on top of me squirting all over my groin. ...I kinda wanna go back in time 4 years. [editline]17th January 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Anti Christ;51683697]Well, I just broke up with my girlfriend, but I live with her until march. I have no clue what happens now.[/QUOTE] You guys talk limitations about bringing people home? 'Cause I watched my buddy go through that and it wasn't fun to watch, I can't imagine what experiencing it was like.

[QUOTE=Aetna;51685970] You guys talk limitations about bringing people home? 'Cause I watched my buddy go through that and it wasn't fun to watch, I can't imagine what experiencing it was like.[/QUOTE] It won't be an issue. I'm not emotionly attached to her, and don't care what she does. I'm more concerned with any shit flipping that may occur from her side.