Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=srobins;51747567]What's an acceptable age gap? I've never really had this issue come up for me personally before, I'm 21 and have recently been getting to know a cool chick in a new circle of friends.. Was pretty happy with how things were going but just found out shes only 18 which seems a bit weird to me. I had assumed she was like 19-20. Not really sure how to feel about it but leaning pretty heavy towards backing off, if only out of.. I don't know, unspoken social rules?[/QUOTE] pfff that's nothing, last girl i was with was 18 and i was 26.

[QUOTE=srobins;51748098]I really can't stand bar life anyway, much prefer private parties so that's not really even on my radar. I've gone bar hopping like 2-3 times with my buddies and each time I find myself just bored wishing I was somewhere else.[/QUOTE] If I'm gonna get drunk, i'd rather do it at home with a bottle of cheap wine than at a bar ordering overpriced drinks. I really don't think underage drinkers are missing out on much by not being able to order their own alcohol... It never stopped me before I turned 21. In my case, my roommate/ex were more than willing to take my requests.

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;51748960]pfff that's nothing, last girl i was with was 18 and i was 26.[/QUOTE] The youngest girl for me was 15 but I was 17 at the time so that's not bad. It's different when you're in high school. There were seniors that would date freshman all the time. That age gap is a little big - 4 years at the most, but somehow because you're all in school together it makes it less weird I guess??

[QUOTE=Blazyd;51752600]The youngest girl for me was 15 but I was 17 at the time so that's not bad. It's different when you're in high school. There were seniors that would date freshman all the time. That age gap is a little big - 4 years at the most, but somehow because you're all in school together it makes it less weird I guess??[/QUOTE] imo seniors dating freshman was always kinda pathetic. At least 21/18 we're both in college and pretty much on the same page in life, freshman in high school is like fresh off the boat from middle school being a literal child, and high school seniors are just on the verge of adulthood. Maybe that's just me though.

I just tell the girls I'm in the Yakuza and they let me move in.

I don't think there's any blanket statement you can make to compare two ages' maturity. I had a buddy in college who was 21 dating an 18 year old and i was like "I don't know how he can stand it, she's so much less mature than we are." Then 5 years later the universe had to throw that idea back in my face when i met the girl i mentioned a few posts up

Is it acceptable for my gf to ignore me for extended periods of time? Often when we have a disagreement she'll end the conversation in silence for up to 12 hours

It's a little childish. Would be more mature if she indicated that she needed some space and then cut contact for a bit. I wouldn't say it's entirely unacceptable, depending on what you're disagreeing about, but she could be a little more adult about it.

Depends on if you accept it Its certainly not a healthy thing

[QUOTE=Pascall;51753916]It's a little childish. Would be more mature if she indicated that she needed some space and then cut contact for a bit. I wouldn't say it's entirely unacceptable, depending on what you're disagreeing about, but she could be a little more adult about it.[/QUOTE] The most recent disagreement (last night) was about her being dismissive of me. Once I brought it up she got defensive then ceased communication. Currently in the period of silence. Usually when she starts talking again she just pretends nothing happened.

[QUOTE=bs8814;51754054]The most recent disagreement (last night) was about her being dismissive of me. Once I brought it up she got defensive then ceased communication. Currently in the period of silence. Usually when she starts talking again she just pretends nothing happened.[/QUOTE] Yeah, that's not a particularly healthy response. Seems like she's just burying her head in the sand?

[QUOTE=bs8814;51754054]The most recent disagreement (last night) was about her being dismissive of me. Once I brought it up she got defensive then ceased communication. Currently in the period of silence. Usually when she starts talking again she just pretends nothing happened.[/QUOTE] She definitely needs to grow up and grow a pair. Leaving you out of a critical part of a relationship like this means she is treating you very unfairly and is not at all healthy.

I'm pretty useless at the texting / getting to know game wondering if you could give me advice. I've been having pretty consistent chats with someone for a while now primarily using facebook (I know). We had arranged to meet last Saturday but she had to cancel because her family was coming up (She sent me a pic of the text from her family if that stands for anything). She went pretty quiet on the weekend so I threw her a text message asking how its going with the family and she responded saying she was taking a break from social media while her family was up, which is fair I guess. I also left it with her to pick another day to meet up as her schedule tended to be a bit busier. The last time we chatted properly was Friday and that brief message on Sat. I'm useless at this stuff it seemed to be going pretty well and if the family thing hadn't of cropped up it would have been fine. I'm under the assumption if she wanted to just brush me off / reject she wouldn't have even bothered showing me the text Should I bother sending a follow up or should I just return with radio silence and wait till she responds to the last message I sent on the weekend (My phone signal here is like a blackhole so I had to responded via Snap which hasn't been seen yet) TL;DR useless at this, been chatting, arranged to meet up on weekend, family visited so go canceled, went silent.

[QUOTE=bs8814;51754054]The most recent disagreement (last night) was about her being dismissive of me. Once I brought it up she got defensive then ceased communication. Currently in the period of silence. Usually when she starts talking again she just pretends nothing happened.[/QUOTE] So every time you try to discuss a problem with her she ignores you until you decide to drop it. I hope I'm stating the obvious here, but she does not respect your emotions or your needs in the relationship and that isn't going to change.

[QUOTE=skybob;51756568]Should I bother sending a follow up or should I just return with radio silence and wait till she responds to the last message I sent on the weekend[/QUOTE] Just wait until she responds. I know the urge to chat her is strong, but give her the time with her family she wants. She'll chat you back when she's ready.

i don't need advice but i do have a fun question for everyone what's something about your SO that you don't really like or that kind of bothers you but that you accept because it's part of them? either physically or emotionally. for example, some people cry very easily and i could see that being annoying

I've been struggling to stay optimistic about finding a girlfriend since I realized I had a crush on a friend I've gotten to know better who already has a boyfriend. They're both friends of mine, so for the sake of her happiness, I'm trying to give them their space. Essentially, I'm trying to avoid being around them since I feel miserable inside because she'll never know what I'm going through. Because I tend to be a more open-book-type with people I trust, this has made me more sarcastic and even more cynical than usual as I tend to be a pessimist. I've tried listening to anti-love songs and distracting myself by watching funny movies, but nothing seems to be working. I've fallen for this girl more than any crush I've had before and I worry that I'll never find someone. So I guess what I'm asking is how do you guys forget about your ex/crush?

My fiance doesnt like barbecue, marinara, or mashed potatoes. Like what the hell, thats a good third of the food I eat.

My girlfriend is a seriously picky eater, I end up finishing half of her meals because otherwise it won't be eaten. She doesn't like mashed potatoes for gods sake

[QUOTE=cyclocius;51759806] She doesn't like mashed potatoes for gods sake[/QUOTE] You're gonna have to break up with her...

I've been making my girlfriend eat stuff she says she doesn't like. So far she's actually liked 80% of the stuff she said she didn't, picky eaters are confusing

[QUOTE=TrannyAlert;51760256]I've been making my girlfriend eat stuff she says she doesn't like. So far she's actually liked 80% of the stuff she said she didn't, picky eaters are confusing[/QUOTE] I've been an extremely picky eater for almost my entire life to the point of it being a disorder where, combined with anxiety, it seriously affected me socially. I've only recently started to enjoy more foods(that I previously found repulsive) so I have no idea what I may or may not like and am still pretty hesitant to try stuff. Girlfriend's been supportive and offered me some things that I ended up liking or at least not finding disgusting. Don't judge us picky eaters pls. [QUOTE=Birdman101;51758647]My fiance doesnt like barbecue, marinara, or mashed potatoes. Like what the hell, thats a good third of the food I eat.[/QUOTE] Out of those three I only eat mashed potatoes.

I only judge u if you refuse to try stuff ;~)

[QUOTE=TrannyAlert;51760463]I only judge u if you refuse to try stuff ;~)[/QUOTE] or you don't like pineapple on pizza.

[QUOTE=TrannyAlert;51760463]I only judge u if you refuse to try stuff ;~)[/QUOTE] I refuse to try [I]some[/I] stuff. [QUOTE=HumbleTH;51760499]or you don't like pineapple on pizza.[/QUOTE] Don't like either :downs:

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51760628]My girlfriend makes spaghetti without meat. Does anyone here do that?[/QUOTE] Ate spaghetti with tomato sauce and tuna once, goes pretty well together.

[QUOTE=SataniX;51760246]You're gonna have to break up with her...[/QUOTE] I'm trusting that it's one of those imperfections that makes them who they are. The little things that make you love them more and not despair and weep internally. It's probably that. She wil not eat anything new, I hid a bit of sweetcorn in a meal once and she didn't notice, but how do you hide mash potatoes?

[QUOTE=cyclocius;51760894]I'm trusting that it's one of those imperfections that makes them who they are. The little things that make you love them more and not despair and weep internally. It's probably that. She wil not eat anything new, I hid a bit of sweetcorn in a meal once and she didn't notice, but how do you hide mash potatoes?[/QUOTE] Maybe you should try eating it and then regurgitate it back up while you're making out?

So my girlfriend out of the blue told me she wants to take a break, she didn't even want to talk to me in person. Eventually she agreed to talk to me, she told me she isn't doing wel personally and wants some time for herself, and that she isn't leaving me. And I eventually agreed to give her the time she needs. To be honest I'm really confused and sad this has happened, I'm not sure what to think

Sounds a bit dodgy in my opinion. She should be speaking to you about what's up with her, rather than supposedly bottling it up and then just suddenly saying you should have a break. If she wasn't doing well, you should be working together as a couple to sort it out and if anything she should be wanting you to comfort her and help her through this hard time.