Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=CarnolfMeatla;51813301]Oh boy. Because of having problems with my foreskin I had to be completely circumcised. And now I gotta wait a whole month for the wounds to heal. What should I do? I never managed to not masturbate/have sex for longer than a few days. I never managed a whole week. This is gonna be a terrible time.[/QUOTE] Speaking from experience, the best thing to do is to, like others have said, focus on something else the moment you feel the urge to masturbate. Working out can also help relieving the urge, but it can be difficult depending on your level of pain. Also, the recovery period is actually longer than just a month. The wound might've healed, but doctors (well, mine at least) usually recommend that you refrain from all sexual activities up 1,5-2 months after the surgery, to be completely sure everything has been healed as it should.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;51813312]Damn dude, that is rough. I recommend working out to relieve sexual frustration. Hangout with some friends, take your mind off of it.[/QUOTE] Sports are also not allowed. And I got no friends because I just moved here for the job. [editline]12th February 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Spetsnaz95;51813560]Speaking from experience, the best thing to do is to, like others have said, focus on something else the moment you feel the urge to masturbate. Working out can also help relieving the urge, but it can be difficult depending on your level of pain. Also, the recovery period is actually longer than just a month. The wound might've healed, but doctors (well, mine at least) usually recommend that you refrain from all sexual activities up 1,5-2 months after the surgery, to be completely sure everything has been healed as it should.[/QUOTE] Oh my god! *think happy asexual thoughts* Also I fucking hate your avatar.

Thanks for the help guys! [QUOTE=CarnolfMeatla;51813301]Oh boy. Because of having problems with my foreskin I had to be completely circumcised. And now I gotta wait a whole month for the wounds to heal. What should I do? I never managed to not masturbate/have sex for longer than a few days. I never managed a whole week. This is gonna be a terrible time.[/QUOTE] I think this would actually be good for you, because not being able to resist masturbation for a few days seems like a sign of addiction. You should occupy yourself more with your hobbies

I can't speak for him, but for myself, the pain and nasty looking wound was more than enough to deter any thoughts of masturbation. Not only that, but masturbation means risking tearing the wound open again, which means literally bleeding from your dick, and needing another surgery.

The whole idea of dick injuries in general terrifies me, because I imagine it's a world of pain if you just get a boner, and especially when you're trying to go a month or two with no sexual activity, that shit could happen at any old random time, totally out of your control, and might just exacerbate your wound

It's not a fun experience, I can say that much. But generally the worst pain will be gone after about two weeks, at which point the stitches should start dissolving as well (assuming you don't need to have them removed by a doctor. I never had to). Absolute worst case scenario is needing multiple surgeries, like I had to, because something went wrong. It gets exhausting real fast.

when i was 14 i had to give a urine sample for something and they explicitly told me that i need to not jerk off because they're testing for protein and if they find some there's evidence my kidneys are all fucked up i did it anyway and the doctors got mad

[QUOTE=Loofiloo;51815505]The whole idea of dick injuries in general terrifies me, because I imagine it's a world of pain if you just get a boner, and especially when you're trying to go a month or two with no sexual activity, that shit could happen at any old random time, totally out of your control, and might just exacerbate your wound[/QUOTE] The worst thing is that it is totally normal for the body to have some kind of selftest. And you can't do anything about it. Unless you have insomnia and can't sleep. Everytime you go through the deep sleep phase, the body tests the erectile function of your dick. The first 3 nights were not so bad because the doctor put a compression dressing on it. So I only woke up to a bad feeling like having your dick in something really really tight while getting aroused. So you stand up and walk a bit in a cirlce to literally walk your boner off. But after he removed the dressing, the first night was horrible. I woke up with every boner having it hurt a little bit. The physical pain was really not bad, but the psychological. I was afraid all the stitches would explode and I would bleed worse than some suicide victim. But that time is over, the boners come and go. Now I just gotta wait. Normally I train almost every day in the gym but that is a big no no for the next weeks. Time to learn that new DCS module that came out.

Dick surgery sounds like the worst.

I had a balloon catheter in for a week or so once, sleeping with that was HELL. You'd wake up, and for a few seconds you'd just totally forget you've got a big tube down there, you roll over onto it and AaaaAAAAA

[QUOTE=RaptorJGW;51812680] -suddenly realize that's valentine's day [/QUOTE] I did this too. Last sunday I told my girlfriend I can see her on wednesday and she said "Couldn't you skip your gym or something so we could spend tuesday together instead?" and I went "Oh, okay!" and I JUST realized like 2 hours ago what day it is. :v: Also I ain't bringing her anything. I'm probably paying for a nice meal though.

you dont need to remember valentine's coming when the only LDR you have is in the future

"I aint getting my missus anything for valentines day, she'd genuinely think I was having an affair if I did" - one of the guys in my office at work

if you don't remember valentine's day while on a relationship, you actually evaporate into shadow like a vampire

[QUOTE=SgtTupelo;51817745]I did this too. Last sunday I told my girlfriend I can see her on wednesday and she said "Couldn't you skip your gym or something so we could spend tuesday together instead?" and I went "Oh, okay!" and I JUST realized like 2 hours ago what day it is. :v: Also I ain't bringing her anything. I'm probably paying for a nice meal though.[/QUOTE] at least get some flowers or something jesus

Me and my gf don't do valentines day, never have and probably never will.

So after my break-up with the mother of my child/fiance I began talking to a girl that I knew from work and who was also friends with my bestfriend and my brother. She was in a bad relationship and left to Kansas, but she was miserable with the guy she was with because he was physically and emotionally abusive. We began talking and we hit it off pretty well and we started long-distance dating and video chatted and talked pretty much all night. (At this point they broke up but she stayed at the house they moved into and just went to work and then straight to her spare room.) She was interested in the beginning it turns out, but she wouldn't approach me about her interest because I was with my fiance at the time. Well, as it turns out she was wanting literally any excuse to come back home and so she decided to come back home in March to basically try and have a relationship with me and to also get her life together and away from her abusive ex. She lied about that part though, she actually got together with my mom and brother and made up an elaborate story about how she was coming back home in March to get me amped up to see her, meanwhile she was putting herself on a bus to drive 550+ miles to see me and my son while we were over at my brother's one night. I have to say, it's really uplifting to go from someone who would yell and get upset with me because I was anxious and unable to talk to someone who is willing to ride on a bus for 26 hours to see me and actually mean that they want a relationship with me.

[QUOTE=Sinbues;51818875]So after my break-up with the mother of my child/fiance I began talking to a girl that I knew from work and who was also friends with my bestfriend and my brother. She was in a bad relationship and left to Kansas, but she was miserable with the guy she was with because he was physically and emotionally abusive. We began talking and we hit it off pretty well and we started long-distance dating and video chatted and talked pretty much all night. (At this point they broke up but she stayed at the house they moved into and just went to work and then straight to her spare room.) She was interested in the beginning it turns out, but she wouldn't approach me about her interest because I was with my fiance at the time. Well, as it turns out she was wanting literally any excuse to come back home and so she decided to come back home in March to basically try and have a relationship with me and to also get her life together and away from her abusive ex. She lied about that part though, she actually got together with my mom and brother and made up an elaborate story about how she was coming back home in March to get me amped up to see her, meanwhile she was putting herself on a bus to drive 550+ miles to see me and my son while we were over at my brother's one night. I have to say, it's really uplifting to go from someone who would yell and get upset with me because I was anxious and unable to talk to someone who is willing to ride on a bus for 26 hours to see me and actually mean that they want a relationship with me.[/QUOTE] Sounds like a nice person, but still watch out because not everyone has good intentions.

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;51817901]at least get some flowers or something jesus[/QUOTE] Flowers are cheesy, I think I'll follow the immortal words of Descartes instead!

[QUOTE=Legend286;51820609]Sounds like a nice person, but still watch out because not everyone has good intentions.[/QUOTE] I'm careful as to not rush things. But I'm also someone that will not let what's happened to me before dictate how I proceed with future relationships.

I hate to admit it, but I feel pretty desperate for some compassion. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4.5 years on NYE, after learning from my best friend that they had sex a few nights before and that he was cheating on me for quite some time, even with other mutual friends. I've gotten a couple of girls' numbers but they really don't seem interested. I feel like I shouldn't be this caught up about it, but I the only people I talk to are my immediate family and a few coworkers at work. At least I have my dog.

[QUOTE=CoilingTesla;51821121]I hate to admit it, but I feel pretty desperate for some compassion. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4.5 years on NYE, after learning from my best friend that they had sex a few nights before and that he was cheating on me for quite some time, even with other mutual friends. I've gotten a couple of girls' numbers but they really don't seem interested. I feel like I shouldn't be this caught up about it, but I the only people I talk to are my immediate family and a few coworkers at work. At least I have my dog.[/QUOTE] I find that posting on FP helps numb the pain of loneliness.

[QUOTE=Zombinie;51821296]I find that posting on FP helps numb the pain of loneliness.[/QUOTE] I wish I found sarcasm amusing at this point. I guess I could start going to the bar.

[QUOTE=CoilingTesla;51821529]I wish I found sarcasm amusing at this point. I guess I could start going to the bar.[/QUOTE] Not sarcasm :/ Try the bar though, it couldn't hurt.

So I fucked up pretty hard by provoking an arguement with the GF, which made me feel like shit and then I somehow made it worse by not forgetting about it. I've said sorry and everything else. Now I feel really bloody bad and she doesn't want to see me tomorrow as we planned. What the fuck do I do?

[QUOTE=josm;51822056]So I fucked up pretty hard by provoking an arguement with the GF[/QUOTE] It's valentines day what are you doing Personally I'd just say something along the lines with "lesson learned, I'm a stupid asshole" before going to bed or around tomorrow morning and then if she still has not replied just let tomorrows plans go. If she's said she doesn't want to be with you just set your plans after that, get in touch with a friend, stay home and play video games or go work out. You can't go two extra miles while she goes none, you did apologize and that should be enough. Although if she do agree to see you tomorrow maybe bring her something small as a bribe to forgive you.

Having a serious talk with my possibly ex girlfriend, we're not sure. We talked about the current state of our relationship and the failings in it, lack of communication, we're both rather lazy people but we should still do stuff together and not just laze about, dress up and make efforts and dates and shit like that. We also talked more long-term. I want Kids, I love children and family. She's quite unsure if she wants children but is steering towards not. We both said people can change and all that, but it's not likely. We're still great friends (not sure if we always will be, but it's good right now), and we agreed to see what time makes of us. If we do get back together we have to accept that in the far future we might want different stuff, and if that's the case then that's it. But life's short and we're not even 25 yet (24), not much time for absolutes and definites. I also apologised for my behaviour on Sunday, which I posted about last page. I'm always a wreck when we leave after a weekend together and I said stuff and posted stuff that shifted the blame away from me because I was sad and angry and that was absolutely not justifiable and I apologised profusely. I'm not sure where we stand right now, but we're friends at least and that's more than most people get out of a break up so I'll take it. Blogpost ho! EDIT: We're going to give it another go, watch this space.

[QUOTE=LordCrypto;51744251]people who ghost are bad. added a friend of a friend i met a few months back on facebook last week, started shooting the shit, asked her if she wanted to grab dinner earlier in the week, got a "i would say yes, but car shopping", nothing after that and that was tuesday.[/QUOTE] so it took a while to get synced back up with her but we're going on a date next week finally

Are there good sex positions to accommodate for girth? So far my GF and I have been only doing missionary but it still hurts a bit for her, which makes it difficult to derive pleasure from it. I suppose size is something one gets used to after a while but it would be best if it could be pleasant for both parties until then.

[QUOTE=_Axel;51826023]Are there good sex positions to accommodate for girth? So far my GF and I have been only doing missionary but it still hurts a bit for her, which makes it difficult to derive pleasure from it. I suppose size is something one gets used to after a while but it would be best if it could be pleasant for both parties until then.[/QUOTE] Cowgirl & Reverse let the girl decide how to go at it