Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=Zombinie;51921644]How do you guys view losing your virginity? How did it change you? How should virginity in males be treated? Some people think that it is just an arbitrary barrier, and you should get it over with w/ a prostitute / hookup as soon as possible if you are having difficulty because it will help you "over" that barrier of fear give you more confidence in yourself, also making you less pressured to get to the sex because it's no longer a big deal. Others think that your virginity should be saved until you are with someone you really care about, making it a special, ceremonial event that you will remember for the rest of your life. [sp]I feel dumb, guilty, and embarrassed to say this but I am actually considering hooking up with a person on reddit (yes, I know, just please don't bully me I hate myself already), because part of me just wants to get it over with, I am awkward around women and I have this idea that maybe if I lose my virginity I will walk with new confidence or something. Like if I don't snag this opportunity to lose my V-card, I never will because I will never get un-awkward and etc etc. What's more, is that the person on reddit is a guy. Yeah. This makes me even more conflicted because I am 90% straight, and because of that I feel like my first experiences should be with a girl, otherwise I will be forever primarily gay which is not how I feel, but how could I say that I am not primarily gay if I lost my virginity to a guy?[/sp][/QUOTE] You think having gay sex with a dude on Reddit is going to bolster your confidence with women? Sorry but lmaoooo Not trying to be a dick but that's just kind of ridiculous. I feel like losing your virginity just for the sake of it is kinda dumb, if you just hire a hooker or.. have a gay experience when you're apparently straight, it's like what's the point? Not to say losing your virginity naturally to a woman is like some groundbreaking life-changing event, because it isn't, but at the very least wouldn't you want to look back and be somewhat proud of the event? [editline]7th March 2017[/editline] Building confidence is something you work on over time, you push yourself out of your comfort zone and get accustomed to social interactions and accepting failure along the way. Sleeping with a stranger isn't going to magically instill confidence in you and especially not under such unique circumstances. I think you should just chill and realize that being a virgin at whatever age you are isn't really a big deal, if anything the "big deal" is inability to naturally meet up with a partner. Like, when you're done with the deed and you're no longer technically a virgin, then what? You're back to exactly where you are but now you have a weird story to tell, that's it.

[QUOTE=Ardosos;51924138]When I was in college I talked to a lot of people with varying amounts of sexual experience and based on my anecdotal evidence the only people who feel it doesn't matter are people who aren't virgins.[/QUOTE] It really doesn't - honestly, your first time is gonna [I]suck[/I] as far as "doing the deed" is concerned, especially if you're doing it with another virgin. Really the only memories I have of it were actually the events leading up to the sex and the afterglow moments following it. It's up to Zombinie, but if I had to do it all over again, I'd still do it with someone I bonded with than some rando just to get it over with. Even if the sex itself wasn't special, the feeling of vulnerability and affection that came with it was.

yeah it's basically real bad in terms of the actual act but the part that matters is everything leading up to it, you can see what's essentially the culmination of your relationship up to that point. the actual sex will pretty much certainly be terrible, but that's not what matters.

Any advice on maintaining an erection with a condom? First time for me but my girlfriend is experienced, she can turn me on quickly but once the condom goes on its all downhill. If I can't solve it I'm just going to hold off on the sex.

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;51921862]When I wasn't a virgin anymore I felt exactly the same as when I still was Reality is always boring compared to our imagination[/QUOTE] truth After I had sex for the first time I was talking to one of my best friends about it and I said something like "it hasn't hit me yet that I actually did it." But the thing is it never "hit" me. Nothing really changed about me. It's just like "oh yeah, that happened." Maybe a little confidence boost at first but then you're just the same as you were before just with a new experience. Before I did it I always thought "man it would be so cool to have sex with her" then I actually have sex with her and it's like "ok cool, whatever."

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51928930]make sure she's ready to go as soon as the condom is on and then get up in there. You could get her to put the condom on for you as well.[/QUOTE] We're typically both ready, its just once its on it just goes flacid quick. It's like a on/off switch.

[QUOTE=LtKyle2;51931378]We're typically both ready, its just once its on it just goes flacid quick. It's like a on/off switch.[/QUOTE] Speaking of switch, I got to tell my girlfriend about the Nintendo switch cartridge's bitter taste [T]http://i.imgur.com/lCg2NEpl.jpg[/T] lol

Cool day today, my gf joined me at the office which is in a coworking space (I get one whole desk for me because of a VR project I work on.) It feels so nice that she takes so much interest in my work and today she helped me by designing some GUI textures :) Hopefully when we get some time and a good set of ideas we'll sit down and actually make a game together. I think I could teach her Substance so we could make our game from scratch and she can texture while I model and we could both program with blueprints in UE4 (She actually wants me to teach her because she finds it interesting.) 2017 is a good year, and it's probably gonna get even better :) [QUOTE=PsycheClops;51931770]Speaking of switch, I got to tell my girlfriend about the Nintendo switch cartridge's bitter taste [T]http://i.imgur.com/lCg2NEpl.jpg[/T] lol[/QUOTE] but why is it covered in denatonium benzoate? I googled it, that's smart :) Will definitely get my gf to taste it if we ever get a switch which we might.

[QUOTE=Legend286;51932068]but why is it covered in denatonium benzoate?[/QUOTE] So that it tastes horrible and toddlers don't eat it

And now we're back to "Conversations With My Girlfriend" In this episode, my girlfriend said she was going to "duck tape" (adorable typo) a pillow to a chair. I quacked in response to the typo and this follows: [T]http://i.imgur.com/6HqCbwh.jpg[/T] [T]http://i.imgur.com/jfbvTmw.jpg[/T] How to ruin innocence with facts :wink:

[QUOTE=PsycheClops;51938539]And now we're back to "Conversations With My Girlfriend" In this episode, my girlfriend said she was going to "duck tape" (adorable typo) a pillow to a chair. I quacked in response to the typo and this follows: [/QUOTE] ok but why would you tape a pillow to a chair

to make a hard chair more comfy?

How do you bridge the gap from where you are with women and where you want to be? I'm so far removed I can't even imagine what success would look like. I used to think it was just about physical need for me but it's so much more than that, and I can't deal with it.

Depends on where you wanna be. Not everyone's gonna become a Don Juan or anything overnight. The key is baby steps. Figure out the things that are holding you back and tackle them effectively, one by one.

date tomorrow totally stoked

[QUOTE=Ardosos;51950796]How do you bridge the gap from where you are with women and where you want to be? I'm so far removed I can't even imagine what success would look like. I used to think it was just about physical need for me but it's so much more than that, and I can't deal with it.[/QUOTE] Start by taking care of yourself. You may have a hard time getting others to like you if you don't like yourself in the first place: try to do things you know your future you will be grateful for and proud of. Women (or most people for that matter) like people who are confident. It might be a hard state to attain if you don't presently have a very high opinion of yourself, but like Pascall said, baby steps can go a long way. An accumulation of small changes can eventually lead to huge improvements: Exercise regularly (bonus point if you manage to find a sport you really like), take care of your appearance (shave/trim your beard, tidy your hair, find a clothing style that suits you), find yourself a hobby, that sort of things. Lastly, women are people like anybody else. I don't know if you're sociable with men but don't see every conversation with a female through a romantic or sexual prism, just enjoy it as its own thing like you would a convo with a male friend. It should ease up your nerves to remove that kind of pressure, and by focusing on the conversation itself it's easier to make it enjoyable for both parties, something women appreciate as well. Being able to make interesting conversation can be a huge plus.

You know how people look up at the stars in the night sky and realize how insignificant it all is in the grand scheme of things, how humanity is nothing more than a single grain of sand in an endless beach? That's how I feel when I see couples. It just feels like relationships are so far beyond my comprehension. It's overwhelming and soul crushing. Reading this thread and the super friendly social thread always make me feel terrible about myself, but I keep coming back.

Been talking to my ex-girlfriend (about 2-3 years ago) recently and man do I regret ever losing her. Was my first relationship so I didn't know how good I had it, but coming back to it I realise I took her and how much she cared about me for granted. At the same time, I somewhat dread reconnecting with people from high school because each time there's a reminder of some stupid mistake I made that I managed to suppress with time; seems like there's always another loose end at the end of the trail, but I guess it's better to remedy those blunders before it's too late.

[QUOTE=code_gs;51956313]Been talking to my ex-girlfriend (about 2-3 years ago) recently and man do I regret ever losing her. Was my first relationship so I didn't know how good I had it, but coming back to it I realise I took her and how much she cared about me for granted. At the same time, I somewhat dread reconnecting with people from high school because each time there's a reminder of some stupid mistake I made that I managed to suppress with time; seems like there's always another loose end at the end of the trail, but I guess it's better to remedy those blunders before it's too late.[/QUOTE] We have all made the same mistake but believe me you will move on and find someone better, I have been with my current partner for over 3 years. Even though I miss what I had I think about what I have now and it is so much better. We totally understand each other and whenever we argue we talk about if after which I believe it healthy. Just find someone more on your level, I know your position, I lost my V to my first proper GF but now I look back and think that was not right at all. Was just hormones mainly. I got depressed for years but meeting my new partner put a lot of things into perspective for me AKA: Get back in the game man, have a bit of fun, you may meet the "right one" whatever that means

[QUOTE=joshthesmith;51956750]We have all made the same mistake but believe me you will move on and find someone better, I have been with my current partner for over 3 years. Even though I miss what I had I think about what I have now and it is so much better. We totally understand each other and whenever we argue we talk about if after which I believe it healthy. Just find someone more on your level, I know your position, I lost my V to my first proper GF but now I look back and think that was not right at all. Was just hormones mainly. I got depressed for years but meeting my new partner put a lot of things into perspective for me AKA: Get back in the game man, have a bit of fun, you may meet the "right one" whatever that means[/QUOTE] It's not so much me thinking she's "the one" and more of me just having to face my stupid decisions in the past. We're friends now and I'm fine with that -- I've fully accepted that I missed my chance 3 years ago. I'm just trying to repair relationships, intimate or otherwise, that I caused people to hurt in; I know it might seem stupid or a waste of time, but I guess after feeling the pain myself I just feel awful for how I treated some people and I just want a form of apologetic closure.

I feel awful for what ive done to my partner and what she has done to me. Yet as much as any same prrson would immediately say to drop this relationship, i dont feel like dropping it yet given how much i am involved and how "running away from consequences" has been my leif motiv in my previous ones. So far, even though i sound like ive answered myself already, I'm still struggling with thoughts about what i have to do or what i should not.

[QUOTE=Metaru;51958458]I feel awful for what ive done to my partner and what she has done to me. Yet as much as any same prrson would immediately say to drop this relationship, i dont feel like dropping it yet given how much i am involved and how "running away from consequences" has been my leif motiv in my previous ones. So far, even though i sound like ive answered myself already, I'm still struggling with thoughts about what i have to do or what i should not.[/QUOTE] Sometimes feel the same man, 3 years deep in mine. Relationships are ruddy tough.

OK guys so I need a little rant. and possibly some advice. Brutally honest, made the mistake of shitting where I eat and was kinda seeing a girl from work. She got out of a bad relationship around a year ago and wants to do the casual shit which kinda worked for a while but I made my peace with it since I'm pretty head over heels, we've fallen out multiple times and always end up back together but I blew up a little at her cause she was dating a few other guys and I felt like such a backup (in my defence I asked her to let me know when she did this so I could work through it and do something to distract myself), I just realised she needed the time to do the single stuff, one night stands etc, but I think dating is an entirely different thing and she doesn't seem to see it that way. Full disclosure I've fucked up before and slept with a girl I knew pretty much the same day as I stayed with her when I was drunk as shit. Anyway my point is I was honest with her about this and she hasn't been honest with me about the dating, she straight up lied to me and I felt like a big bag of shit, ended up arguing for a couple of hours and she was already pissed off at something else, now she won't even look at me let alone speak to me. Even though we're gonna try the friends thing again, I'm not entirely sure we're capable of it, she's told some of our mutual friends she's just trying to work through some stuff and I do wanna try and save this but I just don't wanna feel like a pushover in the end up. It's like, she's told her friends all about me and everything and I'm the same with her, and it's obvious to everyone how well we get along and all that but fuck man, I don't wanna be someone's backup. She acts all couply with me and gets annoyed about me being with other people but apparently it's not ok if I don't like her dating? Just trying to wait out the silence at the minute and see what happens. Rant kinda over, even if it was a little rambling, just I feel like shit these days and needed to get it out. Girls genuinely confuse the fuck out of me.

Sounds like she wants you to commit while she runs free. Not a smart match at all, IMO. If you guys are on different pages as far as exclusivity goes, then it won't work.

I had date went well

is it normal to be super jealous? been with my gf for about 2 months and sometimes she says she goes out with a bunch of people from another town (especially on saturdays, which makes me pissed off considering its one of the few days i could enjoy fully with her) and it pisses me off so much i just go out with other girls secretly, although i think im overreacting and this shit might be ruining our relationship if she finds out or something but idk she knows im pissed off about it but i just say "sure if you want to go with them go ahead" because i dont want to sound like a dick, after all she can do what she wants but still any advices? its a bunch of guys she met at a party, they stole her mobile and sent me some texts, i was drunk and sent them very aggressive texts back and when she saw them she got so pissed off she wanted a "relationship pause" (or idk how that bullshit is called in english) but i managed to save it, from that day she goes out with them every once in a while and im still so angry about it

[QUOTE=Kabstrac;51965836]Sounds like you're both too immature for a commited relationship.[/QUOTE] I understand me, but what's the problem with her?

[QUOTE=chills2;51960425]Anyway my point is I was honest with her about this and she hasn't been honest with me about the dating, she straight up lied to me and I felt like a big bag of shit, ended up arguing for a couple of hours and she was already pissed off at something else, now she won't even look at me let alone speak to me. Even though we're gonna try the friends thing again, I'm not entirely sure we're capable of it, she's told some of our mutual friends she's just trying to work through some stuff and I do wanna try and save this but I just don't wanna feel like a pushover in the end up.[/QUOTE] If dishonesty is a deal breaker to you, then it's a deal breaker. Nothing wrong with that. That said, you should consider the spectrum of options here. Best case - She wasn't ready for/didn't want a committed relationship, and you missed some obvious clues/information. Slightly less best case - She wasn't ready for/didn't want a committed relationship, and failed to inform you of this unintentionally. Slightly more ehh case - She wasn't ready for/didn't want a committed relationship, and failed to inform you of this intentionally (out of fear of losing you or something more sinister). whole bunch of in between shit with her getting progressively more crazy/manipulative. Worst case - She's enjoying the drama and jerking you around deliberately. Sure, you probably did a handful of wrong/rash/stupid things here, but in anything but the best case, she still withheld some pretty important information from you. For many people, that's a dealbreaker. Particularly those of us that have had STD scares. [quote=chills2;51960425]It's like, she's told her friends all about me and everything and I'm the same with her, and it's obvious to everyone how well we get along and all that but fuck man, I don't wanna be someone's backup. [B]She acts all couply with me and gets annoyed about me being with other people but apparently it's not ok if I don't like her dating?[/B] Just trying to wait out the silence at the minute and see what happens. Rant kinda over, even if it was a little rambling, just I feel like shit these days and needed to get it out. Girls genuinely confuse the fuck out of me. [/quote] That right there is your sign to dump her. It could be anything from horrific insecurity/neediness, to just being a cunt in general. It doesn't matter though. In either case the answer is to run the fuck away. Even if she was abused and is reacting because her sense of self worth has been undermined [b]it's not your job to help her[/b], so move on. It's not worth it.

[QUOTE=Liota;51965996]I understand me, but what's the problem with her?[/QUOTE] If you already want to take a break from your relationship after 2 months, you might as well call it quits right there. Not a big chance things are going to work out

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