Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;52053289]Remember that romantic relationshios should be supplementary to your life. If you grow too dependent, it can put a lot of emotional pressure on the other person.[/QUOTE] Exactly. The way I described it to co-workers about my past relationship was 'being a 40 year old married couple when we were 19'. It can be hard to readjust to life without a person but it's very possible. There's no shame in taking it hard though, I've still got a serious drug problem that I slipped into after my last breakup that I'm trying to wean off of.

my girlfriend had to tell me to "stop being selfless" yesterday which was a weird sentence to hear. she was half joking, i think, but there's probably some truth to it. i'm just really laid back and can roll with the punches and she has a tendency to get really anxious about a lot of things and she has a stomach condition so she can't eat certain foods sometimes, depending on the severity, so a lot of the time I'm just like "idk where do YOU want to eat" because i don't really have any preferences and will eat basically anywhere, i just want to eat somewhere where she can eat and be happy i certainly don't think i'm like waiting on her hand and foot or anything, and if i don't want to do something or really want to do something i'm equally vocal, and this is an equal relationship in all respects. i think i need to probably work on offering up suggestions so she doesn't feel like she's running the show and i'm along for the ride, i don't want her to feel like i'm unfulfilled or something and that i can't do what i want, it's just that usually what i want is for her to be happy because i'm pretty much already good

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;52054651]my girlfriend had to tell me to "stop being selfless" yesterday which was a weird sentence to hear. she was half joking, i think, but there's probably some truth to it. i'm just really laid back and can roll with the punches and she has a tendency to get really anxious about a lot of things and she has a stomach condition so she can't eat certain foods sometimes, depending on the severity, so a lot of the time I'm just like "idk where do YOU want to eat" because i don't really have any preferences and will eat basically anywhere, i just want to eat somewhere where she can eat and be happy i certainly don't think i'm like waiting on her hand and foot or anything, and if i don't want to do something or really want to do something i'm equally vocal, and this is an equal relationship in all respects. i think i need to probably work on offering up suggestions so she doesn't feel like she's running the show and i'm along for the ride, i don't want her to feel like i'm unfulfilled or something and that i can't do what i want, it's just that usually what i want is for her to be happy because i'm pretty much already good[/QUOTE] I'm naturally the same way; I'm extremely indecisive and really easy to fulfil so my attitude can come across as too submissive or uncaring. I just started making decisions and acting more dominant overall even if the choices are inconsequential to balance out the perception at the very least. [editline]3rd April 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=TheLonelyDonu;52053008]On a personal note, I think this is why my last girlfriend left me. She had a terrible childhood, and I always tried my hardest to do right by her. I'm not sore over it anymore, I feel bad for her even, but I wish she had known the depths of why we didn't work out.[/QUOTE] The School of Life always has great perceptively-altering and stigma-breaking videos; a large part of the post-Renaissance philosophies they call upon has largely shaped my current view of love and sociability.

[QUOTE=TheLonelyDonu;52053008][video=youtube;IuV80wYRld0]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuV80wYRld0[/video] This video presets and interesting take on why people leave other people. It relates to childhood and paternal love and how that first love influences our thoughts on our romantic love. On a personal note, I think this is why my last girlfriend left me. She had a terrible childhood, and I always tried my hardest to do right by her. I'm not sore over it anymore, I feel bad for her even, but I wish she had known the depths of why we didn't work out.[/QUOTE] This is a bad attitude to have, don't assume you know the 'real' reason she broke up with you is because her parents didn't love her to try and rationalize her breaking up with you. Especially that last sentence.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;52058528]Usually the reason for a breakup is much more simple than we want it to be.[/QUOTE] That's so true and fucking heartbreaking man. Like how could something that used to be so amazing be fucked over by just one simple fact or happening?

I'm not sure what to take away from that video. It implies that I should be fairly cunty because my father didn't love me and wasn't in my life. I never want to be the man that he is and I'm proud of the fact that so far at least, I'm nothing like him. He's got no issue with smacking a woman, he uses them and cheats on them. I've never so much as raised my voice to a girlfriend, and the one time I thought about cheating on a girlfriend, I was fucking furious with myself. I'm nothing like my father and I hope to fuck I never will be.

My girlfriend of 2 years told me I'm not good with feelings, and not very empathetic. Do I sound like a sociopath? I think I do, but she says some people just aren't good at it.

[QUOTE=dcalde78;52059185]I'm not sure what to take away from that video. It implies that I should be fairly cunty because my father didn't love me and wasn't in my life. I never want to be the man that he is and I'm proud of the fact that so far at least, I'm nothing like him. He's got no issue with smacking a woman, he uses them and cheats on them. I've never so much as raised my voice to a girlfriend, and the one time I thought about cheating on a girlfriend, I was fucking furious with myself. I'm nothing like my father and I hope to fuck I never will be.[/QUOTE] It's more like if say you had an abusive father then when you seek a relationship because you're familiar with the abuse you're more likely to love someone who treats you with the same familiar abuse you're used to. It's not really about how you act but traits of potential lovers which draw you to them.

[QUOTE=TheLonelyDonu;52053008][video=youtube;IuV80wYRld0]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuV80wYRld0[/video] This video presets and interesting take on why people leave other people. It relates to childhood and paternal love and how that first love influences our thoughts on our romantic love.[/quote] The video isn't why people leave their partners, it's about what draws them to certain partners in the first place. Our parents/families are the most influential model of relationships in our lives. People tend to model their own behavior in relationships after their parents' relationships just because that's what we perceive as "normal". It's a bit of a stretch to assume that someone would [i]leave[/i] a relationship because their partner isn't abusive enough. [QUOTE]On a personal note, I think this is why my last girlfriend left me. She had a terrible childhood, and I always tried my hardest to do right by her. I'm not sore over it anymore, I feel bad for her even, but I wish she had known the depths of why we didn't work out.[/QUOTE] You are clearly still sore about it if you are still trying to convince yourself that the reasons she left you have to do with how troubled and traumatized she was and not with the content of your own relationship with her. It's pretty pretentious to assume that the reason she left you was because she wanted a relationship modeled after her abusive childhood and you were just too nice for her to handle. [editline]5th April 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=RichCrentist;52060087]My girlfriend of 2 years told me I'm not good with feelings, and not very empathetic. Do I sound like a sociopath? I think I do, but she says some people just aren't good at it.[/QUOTE] I feel the need to point out that empathy is not an entirely good thing where the more you have of it, the better of a person you are. Low empathy [b]does not[/b] mean you are a sociopath. Lots of people have low empathy. Low empathy is also attributed to autism spectrum disorders. Low-empathy people can either be prosocial or antisocial. A sociopath is someone who has low empathy and is antisocial. High-empathy has a lot of downsides. When you are highly empathetic, you are more likely to put yourself in the shoes of another person who is suffering - whether you want to or not. Having high empathy can be a huge obstacle in professions related to healthcare and social work - can you imagine being a surgeon and overly empathizing with the people you're operating on? It would affect your precision and your ability to perform your job well. What about being a trauma counselor and empathizing with every client you have who has been through some awful tragedy? Secondary trauma is a huge issue in professions like this and having high empathy just exacerbates that. Having high empathy can actually make you a less easy person to talk to. I have friends and family members who I would say are of varying degrees of empathy and I go to them for different things. When I was dealing with trauma, I avoided going to my high-empathy friends as much as possible because I knew I would be a huge burden on them. I have actually had to comfort one of my high-empathy friends regarding [i]my own[/i] trauma because they reacted to it so adversely. I ended up even more stressed out than before because of it. I also have people in my life who are low-empathy who I like to talk to because they will give me objective advice. I would say my mom is a low-empathy person - I can talk to her about my problems and she won't freak out, but she will help me come up with a plan of action for how to move forward. Talking to her helps me calm down and center myself because she doesn't get overly emotional and escalate the situation for me. It isn't better to have high empathy than low empathy or vice versa. Both of them have their strengths.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;52062297] (good words)[/QUOTE] Thanks that makes me feel better. I'm 99% sure I'm not autistic. Prosocial as in outgoing you mean? I'm outgoing, but I'm also an introvert.

[QUOTE=RichCrentist;52064057]Thanks that makes me feel better. I'm 99% sure I'm not autistic. Prosocial as in outgoing you mean? I'm outgoing, but I'm also an introvert.[/QUOTE] Prosocial just means that the person is nonviolent and not trying to cause damage to society, as opposed to a sociopath who is antisocial and violent/manipulative toward others. [editline]5th April 2017[/editline] Being low empathy also does not necessitate you having a mental disorder. It's normal and common.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;52062297] Having high empathy can actually make you a less easy person to talk to. I have friends and family members who I would say are of varying degrees of empathy and I go to them for different things. When I was dealing with trauma, I avoided going to my high-empathy friends as much as possible because I knew I would be a huge burden on them. I have actually had to comfort one of my high-empathy friends regarding [i]my own[/i] trauma because they reacted to it so adversely. I ended up even more stressed out than before because of it. I also have people in my life who are low-empathy who I like to talk to because they will give me objective advice. I would say my mom is a low-empathy person - I can talk to her about my problems and she won't freak out, but she will help me come up with a plan of action for how to move forward. Talking to her helps me calm down and center myself because she doesn't get overly emotional and escalate the situation for me. It isn't better to have high empathy than low empathy or vice versa. Both of them have their strengths.[/QUOTE] I have never seen empathy as something you can actually use to improve my relationships with other people. I think I'll consider this for the future! About the video, all I could think about was how little of my childhood I remember. I don't know how it feels to be loved not because my parents didn't show affection, but because I simply don't have any memories that have that emotion in them.

Sex is always interesting for me. And I really feel it. Besides i love to date with different kind of girls.

[QUOTE=NittyM;52070952]Sex is always interesting for me. And I really feel it. Besides i love to date with different kind of girls.[/QUOTE] I wish I could say the same, but unfortunately I'm cut out of the game

i'm not a huge fan of sex myself, i probably would be if i had the option to do it with lots of different people but i'd rather beat my own dick while im in a long lasting relationship.

My girlfriend is kind of a nympho I think. Or is having sex 3-6 times a day a norm I've been missing out on? I mean, it's cool and all but for the first time in my life I went "Sigh, here we go again" in my mind last night when she started feeling frisky. On the plus-side, I'm better than ever in in sex now, and can last waaaaay longer than before. :v: [editline]8th April 2017[/editline] Also my hips are now made of steel, putting even pole-dancers to shame.

I always thought I wanted a lot of sex until I booked a hotelroom with my girlfriend and I came 6 times on one evening and she still wanted more Should probably add that it took around 7 hours total that evening

Why are sex stories so atrocious It's either barely 5 minutes or 5 hours Why can't there be a middle point

hey guys i fuck for 2.45833333334 hours

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;52052393]thats why im worried if i ever break up with my gf my life will be a mess. we've been living together for almost a year, i wouldn't know what to do with myself if i had to come home from work, make dinner for just me and then go to a bed with no one in it.[/QUOTE] pat i feel this, only it's been 5 years in my situation, I probably wouldnt even bother cooking or cleaning anymore and would probably feel strange sleeping alone if we become single we can just date tho

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;52075472]Why are sex stories so atrocious It's either barely 5 minutes or 5 hours Why can't there be a middle point[/QUOTE] I can speed it up or slow it down, depends on the situation fucked my friend a couple of weeks ago, I came twice in an hour, she came much more. it were good

Reminds me of a pair of friends (they're together, by the way) who once had sex 28 times in just 4 days. :v: It was the GF who initiated most of it, and according to my friend, he was more or less incapable of cumming by the end of it and it hurt just walking around.

I've not been a virgin for 3 years now but I've honestly never got to that point [sp]like actually reaching the point of no return[/sp] during sex or foreplay/whatever. Is there something wrong w/ me??

[QUOTE=IAreLegend;52078119]I've not been a virgin for 3 years now but I've honestly never got to that point [sp]like actually reaching the point of no return[/sp] during sex or foreplay/whatever. Is there something wrong w/ me??[/QUOTE] wait so you've been banging for three years and never came during sex?

you need to fuck harder

someone's been deathgripping

I'm in the mood to feel self conscious tonight, what's the actual average length of a boning session? I know what hollywood says and what pornos say, but what's like, what's a realistic length of time?

[QUOTE=Ardosos;52079220]I'm in the mood to feel self conscious tonight, what's the actual average length of a boning session? I know what hollywood says and what pornos say, but what's like, what's a realistic length of time?[/QUOTE] I don't know, like 20 minutes?

[QUOTE=Ardosos;52079220]I'm in the mood to feel self conscious tonight, what's the actual average length of a boning session? I know what hollywood says and what pornos say, but what's like, what's a realistic length of time?[/QUOTE] I think I read somewhere that the average one lasts about 13 to 15 minutes. Anyway sex doesn't have to end when you cum. You can use your hands/mouth until you're ready to go again. Second time is bound to be much longer than the first. And the third will be waaaayyy longer.

Miss my girlfriend, Long distance fuckin' sucks.