Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

There is a pretty big stigma against older virgins though, at least in the US. Especially men.

Of course there is, but that doesn't mean you have to help it along. Someone who is legitimately worth your time won't care one way or the other. Virgin or not, they'll want to focus on making sure you both have a nice time together.

To people who have a fulltime job and a SO, how do you find a good balance? I'm about to graduate from school and work a year fulltime. My girlfriend still goes to school (senior year), and my job is usually in the evenings. Every week I have atleast one day off that we spend together (usually sundays) but we both feel like that's not enough. Has anyone delt with this before? Did you work less, did you compromise with your SO? Did you do something else?

[QUOTE=thrawn2787;52297933]There is a pretty big stigma against older virgins though, at least in the US. Especially men.[/QUOTE] Same stigma exists in Denmark, but we've also got something of a phenomenon here: a lot of girls also gets turned on by the idea of being someone's first, so it's not quite as bad. I remember reading an article where they'd been going around and asking quite a few girls how they felt about virgins, and somewhere close to 80% answered they'd like to be with one. I can't say anything about the US, but I like to faintly imagine it's somewhat similar.

[QUOTE=thrawn2787;52297933]There is a pretty big stigma against older virgins though, at least in the US. Especially men.[/QUOTE] I lost my virginity at 21, and the girl refused to believe I was STILL a virgin up until the act. Then she believed me. :v: It's the same everywhere.

[QUOTE=Ardosos;52297864]What's the age cutoff for it being excusable to have no idea what you're doing when it comes to sex? I really feel like I missed the acceptable window of opportunity.[/QUOTE] its only really an issue if both people don't know what theyre doing. the chick i lost my v card to said she was an expert but later on found out she was pretty shit. don't know if that helps you or answers your question but worst blowjobs and handjobs i've ever had. i also want to add to this that to her losing your virginity should be special and you should hold it dear to your heart as a milestone in your life, but i dont see it that way, its just putting your dick in something. so anyone reading this who is a virgin, don't sweat it its no big deal. [editline]1st June 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52298780]To people who have a fulltime job and a SO, how do you find a good balance? I'm about to graduate from school and work a year fulltime. My girlfriend still goes to school (senior year), and my job is usually in the evenings. Every week I have atleast one day off that we spend together (usually sundays) but we both feel like that's not enough. Has anyone delt with this before? Did you work less, did you compromise with your SO? Did you do something else?[/QUOTE] i live together with my gf, its pretty easy to do shit when we both dont have work on and we wanna do something we do it. other wise we see each other at dinner and bed. [editline]1st June 2017[/editline] but i have run into the problem of there not seeming like theres enough time. if you do the math you actually end up having a shit load of spare hours every week, just try to find points where they meet up and go for a walk or hang out some where.

As much as I miss sex: It's not that really big kind of a deal. I found the first few times to be somewhat underwhelming, honestly. Like, I lost my virginity when I was almost 24 and it's less of a "Oh my god, what have I missed out on all my life before?" and more of a "meh.". Cuddling, however, is literally god tier. That's what I miss the most. Being able to sleep and wake up right next to someone you love is the best feeling in the world. [QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52298780]To people who have a fulltime job and a SO, how do you find a good balance? I'm about to graduate from school and work a year fulltime. My girlfriend still goes to school (senior year), and my job is usually in the evenings. Every week I have atleast one day off that we spend together (usually sundays) but we both feel like that's not enough. Has anyone delt with this before? Did you work less, did you compromise with your SO? Did you do something else?[/QUOTE] Most important thing should be to have a good routine. For example my ex would have stayed from thursday to friday at my place and I'd stay at hers from saturday to monday. Relationships are always compromise to a degree, I'd recommend trying to find two days each week that you can spend together.

[QUOTE=Live2becool;52297580]How da heck are you scoring those discord dates?[/QUOTE] First I knew for a few years wanted to meet the group of a small discord server, drove to her cause she was only a few hours away, turned out we both saw each other more than just friends. The second one I am heading to toronto to meet up with some csgo friends. I asked another girl from toronto in a discord if she'd just like to hangout, we talked to each other more leading up to my flight. It changed from a few hours downtown to the whole weekend. Uh, just don't be weird :v:, and live near them. The guy that creepily flirts half the time is brushed off in just even casual meet ups. maybe my discord is a rare thing, two discord members started dating when one moved to their state.

Just cherish the times you do have together, and enjoy that time as much as possible. Beating yourself up over the fact you won't have much time to be with each other is just going to make it harder for you in the long-run, try and see the silver-lining in the situation instead. After a week hard at work, those Sundays will be the best thing ever to look forward to, and you'll both have an absolute blast. It'll also make you both appreciate just how much you care about each other, and the time spent together will be much more special. You can also do the good old Skype calls for when you're too busy to hang out, but free enough to chat. I used to plug my earphones in and potter about the house doing chores, cooking dinner, whatever, all whilst talking with my ex. But don't do what I did and be too afraid to tell your SO if you're genuinely too tired to chat. I ended up dreading the Skype calls cause some days I was just far too tired and really didn't want to do anything other than sit on the sofa and watch a movie, but was worried that me saying so would upset her. It ended up being worse than just telling her, cause she'd be able to pick up that I wasn't in the mood and we'd not have a good flow of chat and then we'd call it a night and it'd kinda sting both of us. Depending on what your job is, hell, you could even do the Skype calls whilst you're at work. She's also in her final year of school, so you working evenings will suck for only a few months out of the year, no? When she's on her holidays, that'll open up a tonne of free time for you to hang out in the day, so you could mark those holidays down on your calendar and both look forward to some quality time where you've got days and days to spend time together.

Finally decided to break up with my LDR of one and a half years. The emotional distress behind seeing someone for a week followed by not seeing them for months at a time took a toll on me. This combined with the limited amount of things we could do to spend time together (plus rarely just getting to lay next to her at night due to the distance) put me through way more than I need. I told myself when she left the last time I'd give it a month and if I still felt the same way I'd break up with her. So here I am a month later. Hopefully once either of us becomes more financially mature, we can move in together. But right now, I can't see doing long-distance for 3-5 years.

good for you for going through with it.

Seeing a single drop of blood is enough to make me feel really sick. With that in mind, First girlfriend ever (LDR). First time in bed together. First time cunnilingus. She didn't told me she was on her periods. A year and a half later I put a stop to our relationship because of the distance. LDR's really suck if you can't see your partner often. I lost 15kg in 3 weeks because I was living this situation really bad btw, best diet ever.

How the hell did you get to eating her out and only JUST then realise she was on her period boy

[QUOTE=mollow;52318464]How the hell did you get to eating her out and only JUST then realise she was on her period boy[/QUOTE] Good question and I can't think of any explana- the lights were off. And she'd just taken a bath, so nothing visible on the outside. Still, I really don't know why she didn't tell me about her period sooner. Just nervous I gess ?

[QUOTE=Eirheinger;52318482]Good question and I can't think of any explana- the lights were off. And she'd just taken a bath, so nothing visible on the outside. Still, I really don't know why she didn't tell me about her period sooner. Just nervous I gess ?[/QUOTE] my my i'd have been waving a (fittingly red) flag all day long. :v: LDRs are shit though, you're right. Can't recommend them unless you have fairly immediate plans once it becomes serious not for it stay like that.

[QUOTE=mollow;52318500]my my i'd have been waving a (fittingly red) flag all day long. :v: LDRs are shit though, you're right. Can't recommend them unless you have fairly immediate plans once it becomes serious not for it stay like that.[/QUOTE] Yeah absolutely, at first I was looking forward to see her twice a month before we could live at least in the same city, but we ended up seeing each other once every two month, and I definitly not recommend this. However, if you got loads of money, and you can affort travelling to see your partner at your will, why not ?

I'm having trouble lately, I can't let go of my feelings for a girl who doesn't feel the same way but wants my friendship I've tried to cut her out but it's still shit because I see her often at school

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;52318846]I'm having trouble lately, I can't let go of my feelings for a girl who doesn't feel the same way but wants my friendship I've tried to cut her out but it's still shit because I see her often at school[/QUOTE] I went through the same kind of shit. I can't really advice you, but here's what I did after some time trying to forget about her : -Completely stopped talking to her -Feeled really really bad when I saw her -Given other girls a try (didn't work) -Forgot a bit about her -End of "Lycée" (in France), went elsewhere in France to pursue my studies -Never heard of her again Now that I think about it, I think she lived it really bad, for sure I did. Ruined a friendship + still feeling bad about it nowadays. Do what you want man, but maybe cutting her out isn't the best thing you can do, for sure if I could go back in time I definitively wouldn't take the same decision again.

A friend of mine recently lost her virginity, and what is meant to be a really lovely experience was totally ruined by an asshole friend of hers. Basically what happened: her and friend A had a bit of a thing for a few weeks, but she decided that it was better off to be friends only. She had the courage and kindness to tell him straight, instead of stringing him along, and he agreed, even saying that "he wasn't ready for a relationship either". Fast forward a few weeks, she meets friend B at a party, who she's always found attractive, and they hit it off. They go back to friend B's place, and she loses her virginity. Then friend A finds out and totally ruins everything by guilt-tripping her and making her feel like shit, saying "you lead me on" and all that stuff. So now, what was meant to be a really nice time for her has her feeling like human garbage to the point where she's crying on the phone explaining it to me. I can't help but feel so bad for her because this is gonna be the memory she has of her first time, which sucks. Fuck people like that. If you're too emotionally immature to speak it out with someone and just block them on everything instead, you're a dick. Good job being a terrible friend as well when she could have used your support. I think friend A is an asshole who was secretly hoping to rekindle things with her and now is throwing a tantrum because he realises he can't. Would rather shit all over someone else's happiness cause he didn't get what he wanted.

Fcuk people are children. I feel old, everything everyone does seems childish.

[QUOTE=loopoo;52318975]A friend of mine recently lost her virginity, and what is meant to be a really lovely experience was totally ruined by an asshole friend of hers. [...][/QUOTE] But surely you told her that friend A is a complete dick and that she mustn't feel guilty about her relationship with friend B ? Is she fine now ? Yeah friends of stereotype A generally = shit [editline]6th June 2017[/editline] [QUOTE=reevezy67;52319063]Fcuk people are children. I feel old, everything everyone does seems childish.[/QUOTE] Yeah but one can't simply become an adult without doing stupid childish things. I'm sure in a year or two I'll regret the majority of my posts, but meh, that's how people grow up. I think the real problem with people is that most of us don't want to reckognise we did mistakes.

Yeah dude. She was a sobbing mess to start with and felt awful, and I told her she straight up was a textbook definition awesome person in how she handled it, especially since she had the guts to tell him straight about how she felt. I ended up making her feel way better and removing most of the guilt she felt, then we spoke about waffles and were laughing about stuff by the end of it. Mission success. People sure do suck, though. I told her she doesn't need to surround herself with people like that who just bring negativity, and he did her a favour by showing his true colours.

[QUOTE=Eirheinger;52318932]I went through the same kind of shit. I can't really advice you, but here's what I did after some time trying to forget about her : -Completely stopped talking to her -Feeled really really bad when I saw her -Given other girls a try (didn't work) -Forgot a bit about her -End of "Lycée" (in France), went elsewhere in France to pursue my studies -Never heard of her again Now that I think about it, I think she lived it really bad, for sure I did. Ruined a friendship + still feeling bad about it nowadays. Do what you want man, but maybe cutting her out isn't the best thing you can do, for sure if I could go back in time I definitively wouldn't take the same decision again.[/QUOTE] I don't see another way honestly Whenever we were together I would eventually feel upset that the great moments we had, the nice dynamic between us couldn't become romantic I wasn't shy about it, we even talked about it and luckily she was straight up with me about how she didn't feel that for me I don't see how being her friend could work, I know it wouldn't. It's a very hard decision to make fortunately school ends in two days and then I can never ever see her again. guess its for the best

im 15 going on 16 next month and (almost) a complete virgin+never actually had a gf and i feel like im missing out is this normal

Completely normal. At your age, it's not something I would even worry about.

[QUOTE=The Dovahneer;52319578]im 15 going on 16 next month and (almost) a complete virgin+never actually had a gf and i feel like im missing out is this normal[/QUOTE] word of advice: 80% of your mates are lying about losing their virginity, so don't feel bad about being a virgin yourself.

[QUOTE=loopoo;52319680]word of advice: 80% of your mates are lying about losing their virginity, so don't feel bad about being a virgin yourself.[/QUOTE] its not that i feel bad i just feel the need to go out and either find a gf or get laid

[QUOTE=The Dovahneer;52319699]its not that i feel bad i just feel the need to go out and either find a gf or get laid[/QUOTE] Well congratulations, you are a male and your body and mind is telling you to mate. Don't stress out too much about being single, you have many years ahead of you and you should worry about doing it at the right time, not the soonest time.

So, I've been with my SO for a year now and her parents want to to take me to a fancy restaurant up in central London :excited: They are a pretty well-off family and as a Welshman who's just barely scraping the roof of the working class I feel like as if I have a lot to live up to. Advice?

Just... be yourself? I mean dress up nicely, that's a given, but there's no special rules you gotta abide to.