Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;52323034] I get it, but I don't think having a mother that isn't interested in your life other than your grades is something nice[/QUOTE] Emotionally that's tough yes. But it's a pretty good blessing to have when your mum isn't concerned with your love life at all. On the plus side at least when you're finally done with your education (whatever level you get to) she'll perhaps switch her interests, right? : ) Then you'll have to deal with her wanting grandkids 24/7 ~

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;52323034] I get it, but I don't think having a mother that isn't interested in your life other than your grades is something nice[/QUOTE] Well at least she's interested in one aspect of your life... But sure, as mollow said, it's tough. Haven't you got a father/bro/sis/relative or close friend with whom to talk about such things ?

[QUOTE=Eirheinger;52318543]Yeah absolutely, at first I was looking forward to see her twice a month before we could live at least in the same city, but we ended up seeing each other once every two month, and I definitly not recommend this. However, if you got loads of money, and you can affort travelling to see your partner at your will, why not ?[/QUOTE] My boyfriend lives half way across the world. We can't afford to meet often since we're both broke, but ain't we got love. Trust, communication, and compromise can make anything work. We live in 2017, you can almost replicate being in person with someone. Almost.

[QUOTE=WhiteGirl88;52323237]My boyfriend lives half way across the world. We can't afford to meet often since we're both broke, but ain't we got love. Trust, communication, and compromise can make anything work. We live in 2017, you can almost replicate being in person with someone. Almost.[/QUOTE] Mmmmh I disagree. I don't know if you ever been with him physically, but personally I felt a huge difference between a communication (vocal/video/whatever) and being physically with her. Maybe we don't have the same physical needs (and I'm not just talking about sex)

[QUOTE=Eirheinger;52323267]I don't know if you ever been with him physically, but personally I felt a huge difference between a communication (vocal/video/whatever) and being physically with her.[/QUOTE] We have, and I agree with you here. Snuggling up with your boo while you both watch a show is better than streaming it through Teamviewer. [QUOTE=Eirheinger;52323267]Maybe we don't have the same physical needs (and I'm not just talking about sex)[/QUOTE] Possibly. Sex ain't a big thing for me. I could live without it. Not everyone is cut out for LDR's and that's okay! But personally, I feel that while the journey might suck, my guy is worth the pain that I go through, and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I know we'll cut the distance and be together. If I may ask, is your LDR with your GF not working or something? What's up?

[QUOTE=WhiteGirl88;52323298]We have, and I agree with you here. Snuggling up with your boo while you both watch a show is better than streaming it through Teamviewer. Possibly. Sex ain't a big thing for me. I could live without it. Not everyone is cut out for LDR's and that's okay! But personally, I feel that while the journey might suck, my guy is worth the pain that I go through, and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I know we'll cut the distance and be together. If I may ask, is your LDR with your GF not working or something? What's up?[/QUOTE] I told a bit about it a few pages backward. Basically: we were seeing each other like once every two month, and we couldn't talk often, like sometimes days passed before she could talk. I lost 15kg in 3 weeks (because I was living it really bad, stopped eating and started thowing up everyday) before stopping the relationship. I see a psychologist on a weekly basis and all. It's been roughly 4 months since then. Maybe she was part of the problem, but anyway since then my policy is basically [B]never again[/B]

[QUOTE=Eirheinger;52323366]I told a bit about it a few pages backward. Basically: we were seeing each other like once every two month, and we couldn't talk often, like sometimes days passed before she could talk. I lost 15kg in 3 weeks (because I was living it really bad, stopped eating and started thowing up everyday) before stopping the relationship. I see a psychologist on a weekly basis and all. It's been roughly 4 months since then. Maybe she was part of the problem, but anyway since then my policy is basically [B]never again[/B][/QUOTE] Yikes. I'm really sorry that happened to you. I hope you aren't scarred from continuing any other romantic pursuit. Sometimes things don't work out but that doesn't mean you have to disregard LDR's or what have you.

[QUOTE=WhiteGirl88;52323409]Yikes. I'm really sorry that happened to you. I hope you aren't scarred from continuing any other romantic pursuit. Sometimes things don't work out but that doesn't mean you have to disregard LDR's or what have you.[/QUOTE] Currently I'm single and considering how I'm addicted to feel, see, smell and hear the person, I'll try not to go into another LDR. I'm not scarred of having another relationship (especially 'cause it was my first and only one) but I'm a bit scarred about what relationship really are. See I'm a bit extra romantic, like XIXth century romantism you know, putting all my guts into feelings and emotions. The more I look at what kind of relationship are around me and which kind works the most, the more I'm disappointed about love and everything

I couldn't do LDR. I'm the kind of guy who gets depressed if I don't see my SO at least once a week. Thankfully right now my girlfriend is constantly going "I miss you! Can we see today?" and we see at least thrice a week. I don't know how to explain it, but I kind of forget how the other person looks and feels if I don't see them often enough I guess? They sort of don't feel like a real person if we are separated for too long, I much prefer actual human contact over 6000 texts every day.

[QUOTE=SgtTupelo;52323502]I couldn't do LDR. I'm the kind of guy who gets depressed if I don't see my SO at least once a week. Thankfully right now my girlfriend is constantly going "I miss you! Can we see today?" and we see at least thrice a week. I don't know how to explain it, but I kind of forget how the other person looks and feels if I don't see them often enough I guess? They sort of don't feel like a real person if we are separated for too long, I much prefer actual human contact over 6000 texts every day.[/QUOTE] I agree in every way. Being physically with the person feels like hugging a giant teddy bear in a bed, it's hot, happy and relaxing, whereas texting and all feels cold and a bit inhuman in a way, like a relationship with a bot.

[QUOTE=Eirheinger;52323222]Well at least she's interested in one aspect of your life... But sure, as mollow said, it's tough. Haven't you got a father/bro/sis/relative or close friend with whom to talk about such things ?[/QUOTE] I have my best friend, but it's not about talking about things, it's about being able to do so I get that there's worse mothers than that, but it's horrible to have her nullify anything else that goes on in your life as if it doesn't matter and doesn't take a toll on you as mollow said, it's a blessing when you don't want to tell her things, but it's a curse when you want to

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;52323768]I have my best friend, but it's not about talking about things, it's about being able to do so I get that there's worse mothers than that, but it's horrible to have her nullify anything else that goes on in your life as if it doesn't matter and doesn't take a toll on you as mollow said, it's a blessing when you don't want to tell her things, but it's a curse when you want to[/QUOTE] I was talking about having someone else than your mother to talk to, like being able to talk to your dad instead of her. Because she doesn't seems to care about this kind of stuff you should find someone else to talk to. Or, have a talk with her about that, and make her understand that you need to talk about such things with her because, as a human being, you can't ignore your feelings and emotions, and dealing with those is tricky enough to require a mother's help.

[QUOTE=Eirheinger;52323868]I was talking about having someone else than your mother to talk to, like being able to talk to your dad instead of her. Because she doesn't seems to care about this kind of stuff you should find someone else to talk to. Or, have a talk with her about that, and make her understand that you need to talk about such things with her because, as a human being, you can't ignore your feelings and emotions, and dealing with those is tricky enough to require a mother's help.[/QUOTE] yeah I tried, she dismissed my concerns dad's not been around since I was two, the rest of my family lives in south italy while I'm in Milan

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;52324143]yeah I tried, she dismissed my concerns dad's not been around since I was two, the rest of my family lives in south italy while I'm in Milan[/QUOTE] What kind of mother does that ?

[QUOTE=Eirheinger;52324152]What kind of mother does that ?[/QUOTE] one who wants a disciplined soldier as a son I guess its like she's never ever been in her teens. actually she was 19 when I was born so that probably says a lot about her anyway

I just want to echo what somebody said, IDK 5-10 pages ago, about being fairly direct in showing interest in meeting someone. I tend to wait only 3-4 messages until I give them my number (which may or may not matter, since many people just used the mobile app; I don't, only desktop). Texting wise, I gauge them just a little longer, but within another 10-20 texts I'll make it crystal clear I'm down to meet in person. If they aren't willing after already having detailed conversation with you, they probably will be very hard to convince. Possibly half the time they are a dude instead, or they are just too paranoid and timid to actually date people. It becomes a chase at that point, and isn't worth it, no matter how attractive or compatible they are. Another thing is, I've found it shouldn't really take longer than 2, [I]maybe[/I] 3 weeks to meet them once. It's kind of like the first 48hrs for crime scenes, the more that time passes, the less likely anything will materialize. Of course there are exceptions, but don't frustrate yourself by banking on them. I think this is my 4th attempt at the OKC game, and I already went on 2 different dates. Not saying a whole lot, as the first one was cut short by her mom needing a pickup. It was a nice hike up a local mountain I haven't had the chance to visit before. Although, that was that and I think she quickly changed her mind or something (seemed super self conscious), have not heard from her in a little over a week. Less than a week after that I met this cool goth girl for smoothies. I was pretty late unfortunately, but the traffic was a bit unpredictable going in to the city I met her in. She kinda shrugged it off though, once the date had started I think her doubts or concerns were gone. We basically just talked for 60-90mins, quickly seeing we a had a lot of good chemistry. One interesting thing of note is that she is big in to polygamy, dating 1.5 girls (one full on, the other she describes more as friend with benefits, not much actual intimacy going on), and I believe some married guy that is very open with his wife about it. I don't need any opinions on it, I already have my own for the most part, and am willing to explore this type of dating structure deeper. I guess I sort of dated 2 girls at the same time in the past, telling each other how things are going with them. I still think of my self as new to the idea of polygamy, but the fact that I even know what it is helps, according to her.

Me and my girl broke up, she initiated it. I feel kinda sad, mostly empty tho

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Okay, this post might be a bit of a mes but I need to vent some of this feeling because holy hell, last night and this morning was legit a movie for me. I mean it was ideal, fulfilling, and weird. To cut a long story short last night I went to a club with a mate of mine, we ended up meeting these two girls and for some reason, going to the casino?? None of us were gamblers but there we were. My friend went home instead of staying with the other girl, but I spent all morning with this girl that I have since become unabashedly smitten with. Since this is the thread for the nitty gritty details, we did have some sex but due to a combination of my deathgripping habit (this is perfect motivation to bloody well stop that) and still being a bit drunk, it was no good. Happy to report that both parties were satisfied in the end however, albeit with aching jaws :v: Best part was what followed after. The cuddling, drinking tea and having very in-depth conversations about ourselves and our ideas all morning. We were both just way more interested in each other than ever wanting to waste time sleeping, and it was amazing. We eventually just walked around in the morning sun, got some breakfast, and lay on the grass. Neither of us really wanted to go but we had to sleep at some point, so we parted ways. I know this stuff probably happens all the time but I haven't been so into someone to just spend so much time together off the bat in quite some time. My head is absolutely reeling, I need to sleep and process this. I hope this post made sense and fit the thread, I get confused with SGS and Superfriendly. I'm real happy you guys, and I hope that you're all having swell times with your partners.

Sounds like you two had awesome chemistry, and it's a great sign that the morning after (when you were probably sobered up?) you still really enjoyed each other's company. Ask her out again!

Spent the weekend with a girl I met in a discord while I was visiting canada. Sucks, I never clicked so easy with someone before but I'm going to have to go back home soon.

Have anyone had this thing where your dick just completely dies while having sex with this hot chick, like your penis had a stroke and died? Well, a girl I met on Saturday told me she had a boyfriend while we were doing it. I feel like shit.

What kind of person waits until [I]during sex[/I] to admit something like that? That's messed up.

[QUOTE=Bucketboy;52343005]Have anyone had this thing where your dick just completely dies while having sex with this hot chick, like your penis had a stroke and died? Well, a girl I met on Saturday told me she had a boyfriend while we were doing it. I feel like shit.[/QUOTE] Don't, you're not the one at fault here. She's the one who cheated on her BF and you weren't even made aware of it until that point.

Yeah that's definitely fucked up on her part. Sex under false pretenses is never cool.

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[QUOTE=loopoo;52340867]Sounds like you two had awesome chemistry, and it's a great sign that the morning after (when you were probably sobered up?) you still really enjoyed each other's company. Ask her out again![/QUOTE] Yeah we spent so long together we went from drunk to hungover. That's part of the reason we were lying on the grass, to re-energise ourselves with the sun. Also because just laying around watching the clouds and occassionally making out is pretty much the perfect thing to do on a Sunday. I'll defs be asking her out again, don't you worry, but there's no rush. I think we could both use some time and I want to get this right. Yesterday morning was a great time and a good sign, but there's got to be a balance. Feels like we cheated by segueing sex into coffee like we did anyway. Don't want to burn out or try to rush things.

[QUOTE=_Axel;52343043]Don't, you're not the one at fault here. She's the one who cheated on her BF and you weren't even made aware of it until that point.[/QUOTE] She told me she wanted to break up with him and I laughed not that I found the situation funny but it was a reaction i guess.

I think I'm love with my coworker. We've been friends for 7 years now, ever since I started at the company, and over the last year have grown extremely close. I've watched her get engaged, married, have her son, all while meeting with her every morning to tell her my latest shenanigans of being in my 20's, allowing her to "live vicariously" through me, since she's 12 years older than I. We frequently have beers after work or plan weekend activities together, and just, click, we have the same opinions on everything and I can make her laugh without even trying. I know exactly how to cheer her up, how to make her smile. A couple months ago I had a bad motorcycle accident that I walked away from with no injuries, so we went out for drinks to celebrate. I was walking her to her car after a few beers, when she started to cry. When I asked what was wrong, she told me how scared she was about losing me, that she loves me and wouldn't know what to do if I wasn't there for her anymore. I cracked a lighthearted joke to cheer her up and she looks up at me, and next thing I know we're pushed up against her car making out, feeling her up, grabbing her hair. We were always a little touchy before but never like this. But now we're sneaking in a kiss here and there, I'll give her ass a quick squeeze now and again, we'll sneak each other looks whenever we see each other... and I really look forward to those moments. I've never spent 7 years getting to know someone before getting physical with them and I'm always so excited when I get to see her everyday. Hell, I can smell her perfume on my jacket right now as I'm typing this and it's making me smile. I know this isn't anything that can go anywhere, and won't go any further than it already has and I won't let it - I can't, won't. But god damn it kills me, I love this woman and would do anything for her. It just kinda sucks. I'm mad at myself for for even acting on impulse in that parking lot and sparking all this.

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