Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=maeZtro;49602514]Don't stare at whatever is "wrong" with her. But seriously just try to treat her/him like you would anyone else; I've never dated one myself but in my experience people don't want you to feel sorry for them or look at them as someone who needs special treatment from others.[/QUOTE] I've already discussed most of that stuff with her and I think we're cool on it. She's a cool lady and likes me a lot, for some reason, and I dig her even though talking to her is like pulling teeth.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49603189]even though talking to her is like pulling teeth.[/QUOTE] Elaborate?

I met another girl from Tinder, for coffee, and I'm starting to think some people are not meant to be compatible with each other before even saying a word. She was cute, and nice, but the second we met up, I felt awkward and not really sure what to say exactly. Obviously it's a little hard to make amazing conversation when you're first meet someone, but this just felt really "off" the whole time.

[QUOTE=4yourmalice;49603468]I met another girl from Tinder, for coffee, and I'm starting to think some people are not meant to be compatible with each other before even saying a word. She was cute, and nice, but the second we met up, I felt awkward and not really sure what to say exactly. Obviously it's a little hard to make amazing conversation when you're first meet someone, but this just felt really "off" the whole time.[/QUOTE] hey man it's true; when the 'spark' isn't there, it just isn't. Doesn't mean things are doomed, just means it's a little harder to break the ice naturally. Usually when social lubricant like alcohol, etc is used But I can't just look at it from that one viewpoint; some people are just very closed off and take a while to get used to new people. Or it could've been an off day for both of you It's really up to you if it's worth pursuing.

[QUOTE=Kite_shugo;49603541] It's really up to you if it's worth pursuing.[/QUOTE] I messaged her on Tinder, asking for her number and if she wanted to get together again. Haven't heard from her since. I'm not really concerned, as like I said, it just felt really off the whole time. I always try to give dates a second chance though, cause like you said, maybe it was just an off day for her or whatever.

[QUOTE=4yourmalice;49603697]I messaged her on Tinder, asking for her number and if she wanted to get together again. Haven't heard from her since. I'm not really concerned, as like I said, it just felt really off the whole time. I always try to give dates a second chance though, cause like you said, maybe it was just an off day for her or whatever.[/QUOTE] How was it a problem on her end, though? You said you felt awkward and didn't know what to say, so maybe you killed the vibe? She turns up to a date and then finds out the person she's meeting is uncomfortable and awkward, I dunno about you but if that happened to me, I'd sorta be put on my back foot the rest of the night and I'd end up feeling equally awkward and uncomfortable.

I have to really stop being so transparent with my feelings in a way that only sets me up for disappointment. I mean I have to stop saying gushy shit out of nowhere. Only leads to awkwardness or sadness. Fuck me.

[QUOTE=loopoo;49603860]How was it a problem on her end, though? You said you felt awkward and didn't know what to say, so maybe you killed the vibe? She turns up to a date and then finds out the person she's meeting is uncomfortable and awkward, I dunno about you but if that happened to me, I'd sorta be put on my back foot the rest of the night and I'd end up feeling equally awkward and uncomfortable.[/QUOTE] Yeah I wouldn't doubt I came off as a bit weird to her. Nothing felt very natural. Any joke I would make, she didnt literally roll her eyes, but I could tell thats how she was feeling.

[QUOTE=4yourmalice;49604030]Yeah I wouldn't doubt I came off as a bit weird to her. Nothing felt very natural. Any joke I would make, she didnt literally roll her eyes, but I could tell thats how she was feeling.[/QUOTE] damn, she seems like a buzzkill.

[QUOTE=loopoo;49604109]damn, she seems like a buzzkill.[/QUOTE] It's hard to tell off the one encounter alone, but you're probably not very far off.

Hung out with my girlfriend yesterday, her fucking brother laid down on the other couch right as we were about to do stuff, what a little shit.

[QUOTE=AverageTyler;49604210]Hung out with my girlfriend yesterday, her fucking brother laid down on the other couch right as we were about to do stuff, what a little shit.[/QUOTE] Aww his cockblock sensors triggered. Don't blame him, he was compelled by otherworldly forces to barricade your fun time. jk blame him. brat move.

Fuck the brother instead. Problem solved.

[QUOTE=Riller;49603363]Elaborate?[/QUOTE] She's just extremely shy. We met online and she reached out to me first, but anything I asked just got one word answers, I figured she wasn't interested so I just bluntly asked if she had any interest in me and she offered to skype with me since it would be easier to talk. We sort of hit it off but shes still just extremely shy and hard to talk to. She says she likes me and is interested in me but she barely talks to me.

[QUOTE=AverageTyler;49604210]Hung out with my girlfriend yesterday, her fucking brother laid down on the other couch right as we were about to do stuff, what a little shit.[/QUOTE] My gf's brother once took a shit as we were starting to make out. Ruined the mood

in my first gf's house her sister (1 year younger) had a room right opposite hers and the bathroom was right next door, it was a fantastically awful combination the walls were paper thin too

My gf got tested and it turns out she doesn't have any std's at all. Thank god.

Having to be away from someone you're building a relationship with sucks. We only get 4 days with eachother every 10 days or so, which isn't bad, but isn't as great as being with them all the time. At least it lets us both get excited for one another and learn to appreciate each other more. And this is only for a few months until I get out for summer break, and I also have spring break to look forward to too (one week off). What do you guys think, should I be worrying at all?

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49609205]Having to be away from someone you're building a relationship with sucks. We only get 4 days with eachother every two weeks or so, which isn't bad, but isn't as great as being with them all the time. At least it lets us both get excited for one another and learn to appreciate each other more. And this is only for a few months until I get out for summer break, and I also have spring break to look forward to too (one week off). What do you guys think, should I be worrying at all?[/QUOTE] Because of work I see my girlfriend 1 day on the weekends for a few hours, don't sweat it my man. You'll be free to spend tons of time with her soon.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49600007]The place I live in has nowhere to go and do things except eat. I need home date ideas.[/QUOTE] Russian roulette [editline]27th January 2016[/editline] alright so an fwb i got who just came back from an exchange trip in the US got drunk and started asking me if we were gonna be more than friends i fucking knew this would happen from the get go, she felt really comfortable with me when she met up at mine, she came to me one day in tears about how nobody would buy her apartment in the city and all that. I mean I don't mind being a shoulder to cry on, didn't make it awkward but i knew she was falling In the states she would constantly send me messages of tumblr gifs of just kinky bdsm shit while i was working and also talk about future prospects, but i kind of brushed it off since i dont want a relationship rn (im 19 turning 20, im a uni student, let me be dumb) anyway she asked and wrote tons of paragraphs on why she doesnt want casual sex anymore, i basically told her she calls the shots and decides whether she wants to terminate this, i dont really mind bothways but i dont really want to date her dont get me wrong, she's really cool and attractive and funny she's just not my personality type, and i feel she's a bit more mature than me, her knowing the basics is honestly good, i cant predict what would happen if she knew more, i only know the basics from her idk i feel shitty just telling her that i dont want anything more, she doesnt want to give this whole thing up i just think shes really lonely and is chasing affection and i can give that but i dont feel ready to date at all if not ever

You both agreed on having casual sex and nothing more. You are honest and straightforward, so there is no reason to feel shitty for not wanting a relationship with someone who's desperate and not your type. Of course it's a pity, but if she really doesn't want it to be casual anymore, I think it would be better to part ways and not be friends (at all) anymore since that'll only make things more complicated.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49614879]Just don't end up like my sister once you do get time together. She goes to her boyfriends house literally everyday. Her boyfriend is her only friend.[/QUOTE] Yeah, we spent time together every day this past weekend, but that was just because we're still getting to know eachother and feeling this out. We had awesome times every day, we got a few dinners together and watched a few movies. She told me she had a really great time at all of our dates,and so did I, so that's good. Though her and I are independent, too, we hang out with other people and it's a very mature relationship so far. I'm liking this a lot, e.g. we both have our own lives and seeing and talking to eachother is just something we both want to do. I feel like I'm in an actual relationship with someone as opposed to being tethered to someone on the basis of love and not having time to hang out with anyone else out of fear of guilt. [editline]26th January 2016[/editline] Also we like the same fucking pornstars. It's a goddamn match made in heaven. The moment this realization happened we were both just exclaiming "oh no" and "holy shit this is amazing" and it was just a cool moment. I'm loving how I can be myself around her, it's great.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49614879]Just don't end up like my sister once you do get time together. She goes to her boyfriends house literally everyday. Her boyfriend is her only friend.[/QUOTE] My girlfriend is my only friend - but I didn't really have any friends to begin with.

Just wondering, do you guys agree that great friends > a girlfriend/boyfriend?

[QUOTE=thermobaric;49620548]Just wondering, do you guys agree that great friends > a girlfriend/boyfriend?[/QUOTE] Depends on the person. Theres some shit people can't confide to their friends, but can confide to their lovers, and vice versa. My best friend shot himself last year, and I know I will never find another friend like him and I know for certain I will never find girlfriend who will fill the same role as he did, as well as be my girlfriend. So for me, I'm more worried about finding a girlfriend than I am finding another best friend.

[QUOTE=thermobaric;49620548]Just wondering, do you guys agree that great friends > a girlfriend/boyfriend?[/QUOTE] Nah those are two completely different things even though your girlfriend can also be your best friend. To me it depends on the person really, I have always put my friends first but if I meet someone that's truly special and I fall in love with her I guess I would marry her and put her first.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49620946]girlfriend/boyfriend should also be a great friend[/QUOTE] Definitely this. They should always be someone you can rely on for support, but not neccessarily need to support yourself.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49620946]girlfriend/boyfriend should also be a great friend[/QUOTE] this goes without saying, seeing people in relationships where there's minimal trust and closeness boggles my mind. but I also think it's a damn healthy thing to have lots of close friends, rather than holing yourself up from the world and just spending every waking minute with your SO

Pissed off the girlfriend something fierce. God I feel like such a fucking asshole sometimes

Yeesh id be long dead if I ever did that.