Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

small shit like that can have more of an effect than you would think. I remember looking back through an ex's instagram, not that we'd had many photos or she tagged me in much but she had a photo of a battleshots game we played (battleships with shots for those that can't figure that out lel) and she'd tagged me in it. I was looking one day out of curiosity and saw that she'd removed my name from the post, but kept the post up. I dunno why she did it, nor will I ever but it was a little saddening that she didn't want something as small as that seen by other people. but hey, her call in the end so I can't be mad at her for doing what she felt was right (something I've come to realise a lot more recently)

I ended up driving to Florida to take a four day vacation with previously mentioned highschool sweetheart. We love each other, I love her son, we're going to try to make it work. Only thing is it's going to have to wait a few months because I have a lot of work to do back in North Carolina. We're not going to actually get serious until we both have our rooms cleaned, so to speak. So I'm going to go back and live in my own place for a few months and she's going to do the same, and after we both get accustomed to and comfortable with and capable of being alone, then we can be with each other. We both need to handle our own business first. But the day will come when all of my dreams come true and I get to start a family with the only woman I've ever loved. Things are really great right now. Also if you're ever in Florida, go to Anna Maria island. Best beach ever.

any tips on getting over the feeling of wanting to start anew? ive been feeling lately like i want to ditch everything and move to the city or another state. theres really no reasoning for it, and i dont want to break up with my gf..

If you have money go on a holiday. Find a new hobby. Learn a language. I used to get that problem, then I found a hobby and made long term goals that I work on most days.

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;52369021]any tips on getting over the feeling of wanting to start anew? ive been feeling lately like i want to ditch everything and move to the city or another state. theres really no reasoning for it, and i dont want to break up with my gf..[/QUOTE] I don't have any advice on how to avoid the feeling, if anything I've actively made plans to do just that. Maybe sometimes you do just need a change. Every time I've thrown it all away and left everything behind, I've ended up with something way better on the other end of it, and I've ended up making myself way stronger as a requirement of having to deal with the unknown. It's a therapeutic process. Or yeah like said above you could just need a small changeup like a vacation or self improvement that can fit within your current lifestyle. Or even consider whole lifestyle changes rather than location changes. Small or large, your brain is calling out to you to wake up and do something. And there's probably a good reason for it.

i dont feel like going on a holiday, but i do think i need to shake up my routine a bit. at the moment i think i want to start going to the gym again, and i still want to move but without leaving my gf behind. its just so damn hard to find a house for us that will let us have a dog.

Yeah in America, Emotional Support Animals are legally allowed to be in most rented homes/apartments as long as you have written documentation by a doctor or therapist/psychiatrist of some sort. They also have permission to fly on a plane with the same documentation. Not allowed to have public access though so you can't take them out and about. That's only actual task-oriented service dogs. Idk what the rules are elsewhere though. Might be worth looking into.

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Either way I'd break up with your current SO IMO. That's straight not healthy.

I'm going out on a date for the 5th time with this girl, out at a boardgame bar in town tomorrow. She's made it pretty clear that she'd like to get physically intimate with me (straight up texted me that she wanted someone to cuddle with her and I shouldn't be afraid to kiss her). There might be a possibility tomorrow that I could invite her back to my place for the night (or at least soon in the near future). I'm just kind of intimidated because I've never been physically intimate with anyone before and I'm not sure how to react to her advances. I'm not stressed about it but I really feel clueless. I don't think it'll be a bad experience if I invite her back to my place but I don't even know what I'd do. The best way I can describe it is that feeling you have when you dive straight into the competitive multiplayer of a game you just bought and you struggle trying to figure out the controls on the fly because they don't use the same key shortcuts as other games in the genre: the stakes are low but it's awkward and it kind of sucks.

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Do you hate stuff less if you do it with your significant other? I'm having a really difficult time phrasing this, but what I mean is, say you hate something. Then you go into a relationship, and your girlfriend loves this thing, and she wants to go with you. If the two of you went together, would you hate it less, because you're doing it together? Or would you still hate it, and just pretend not to, for her sake?

I say do what you want to do, but don't continue doing nothing, you might start inadvertently stringing one of them along and doing some damage. Look at both sides, while the suicide threat is a very(very) bad sign, insecure people aren't always abusive, but you have to judge that for yourself. Have you spent time together in person? Is he different then? Maybe it's the distance? If you think he's going to be abusive I'd get out.

[QUOTE=J Paul;52368743]I ended up driving to Florida to take a four day vacation with previously mentioned highschool sweetheart. We love each other, I love her son, we're going to try to make it work. Only thing is it's going to have to wait a few months because I have a lot of work to do back in North Carolina. We're not going to actually get serious until we both have our rooms cleaned, so to speak. So I'm going to go back and live in my own place for a few months and she's going to do the same, and after we both get accustomed to and comfortable with and capable of being alone, then we can be with each other. We both need to handle our own business first. But the day will come when all of my dreams come true and I get to start a family with the only woman I've ever loved. Things are really great right now. Also if you're ever in Florida, go to Anna Maria island. Best beach ever.[/QUOTE] Really happy for you man. I had to read again the previous posts, and about the child not being yours, I know some people that ended up together when the woman already had a daughter, and he seems to love the child anyway, as his own, even though (for now) it's very clear he's not her dad. The family has got 2 more children, and I can't see any difference in the actual love that he's giving to all 3 kids. So I don't think you have to worry about that. Have fun with your new family man

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So I finally managed to get out of a somewhat bad/abusive relationship. I've blocked her on pretty much everything that I can think of. She has tried to get in touch with me through other people. I've ignored them but just thinking of her showing up to my house or work possibly unexpected gives me anxiety. The last time her and I spoke in person, she tried to break this glass jar by knocking it over and she also punched me in the throat, not hard, but still did. I never want to see her or talk to her again. Do you all have any ideas on what I can do? Please don't quote this, I'd like to snip it later.

Sounds fucked up. Keep staying out of contact with her. Do not make any attempts at contacting her or her friends, and do not respond to any attempts at contact made to you by her or her friends. If she is someone who even gets physical, talking with the police might be advisable as well.

[QUOTE=Spetsnaz95;52372249]Sounds fucked up. Keep staying out of contact with her. Do not make any attempts at contacting her or her friends, and do not respond to any attempts at contact made to you by her or her friends. If she is someone who even gets physical, talking with the police might be advisable as well.[/QUOTE] Yeah, I've added the Non-Emergency number to my phone just in case I do need to call them. I just don't know how I would even go about contacting them about it...

[QUOTE=StrawberryClock;52369721]I'm going out on a date for the 5th time with this girl, out at a boardgame bar in town tomorrow. She's made it pretty clear that she'd like to get physically intimate with me (straight up texted me that she wanted someone to cuddle with her and I shouldn't be afraid to kiss her). There might be a possibility tomorrow that I could invite her back to my place for the night (or at least soon in the near future). I'm just kind of intimidated because I've never been physically intimate with anyone before and I'm not sure how to react to her advances. I'm not stressed about it but I really feel clueless. I don't think it'll be a bad experience if I invite her back to my place but I don't even know what I'd do. The best way I can describe it is that feeling you have when you dive straight into the competitive multiplayer of a game you just bought and you struggle trying to figure out the controls on the fly because they don't use the same key shortcuts as other games in the genre: the stakes are low but it's awkward and it kind of sucks.[/QUOTE] So I ended up kissing her when I met her today. It was a bit awkward but not totally unpleasant and we ended up smooching a ton of times over the night and the more we did it the nicer it was. We also talked about expectations a bit and we agreed that for now it was just nice to have some fun together and even though we could call eachother boyfriend/girlfriend it didn't need to mean anything long term for now.

When your FWB tells you she wants you to stick it in her ass tonight because she has a UTI, it really takes your mind off things.

Turns out my ex girlfriend probably cheated on me when we were still a thing This breakup just keeps getting worse lol

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52380892]Turns out my ex girlfriend probably cheated on me when we were still a thing This breakup just keeps getting worse lol[/QUOTE] What makes you think that?

[QUOTE=uber.;52381020]What makes you think that?[/QUOTE] We split on the tenth of this month, then a week later she changed her facebook relation from single to in a relation. Would've already been quite quickly, but the starting date of that relation was the first of this month.

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52380892]Turns out my ex girlfriend probably cheated on me when we were still a thing This breakup just keeps getting worse lol[/QUOTE] Makes it easier man. My ex cheated on me the day before she broke up on me. People like that don't deserve any part of you [editline]20th June 2017[/editline] God dangit, stopped thinking about her up until now lmao Getting myself angry again thinking about it. :disgust: ^ People who treat you like shit and crap on everything you've been through for whatever duration, do not deserve any of your time. I'm actually gonna go and remove my ex from Facebook now so I don't have any contact from her. [editline]20th June 2017[/editline] Done, fuck that ho

I accidentally ran into close friends of my ex yesterday. I only saw them a few times but they were always nice to me and are generally good people. They got married like a month ago. So I spent a bit of time talking to them and I might hang out with them regularly doing sports and shit (which is good since I barely have any local friends or contacts). I also spoke with them about my ex and apparently she didn't mention that she broke up with me and only mentioned it when she got asked at the bachelor party where I was. While they didn't, and shouldn't anyway, elaborate much on their opinions they told me that they were confused by her move and think that she probably doesn't even know herself what she actually wants. All in all it was good to get back in touch with them and get some of their insight. The last few days have been shit for me, honestly. I just can't let go of her. And I don't want to. I don't want to shut down the possibility of anything that could happen with her because I feel like the "what if" would haunt me. Every few days we write each other IMs and it's not like I want that to end, really. I just wish things could be better. And she says she's still single. This all really feels like she just needs some time to figure things out in her life. That's my hope, anyway. I'll wait for her as long as I can. And it's not like I'm not open for a relationship with another person instead. Meh. If it weren't for her I'd have already ditched every thought of this. [QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52381320]We split on the tenth of this month, then a week later she changed her facebook relation from single to in a relation. Would've already been quite quickly, but the starting date of that relation was the first of this month.[/QUOTE] What a dick move. How long have you been together?

[QUOTE=uber.;52381819]I accidentally ran into close friends of my ex yesterday. I only saw them a few times but they were always nice to me and are generally good people. They got married like a month ago. So I spent a bit of time talking to them and I might hang out with them regularly doing sports and shit (which is good since I barely have any local friends or contacts). I also spoke with them about my ex and apparently she didn't mention that she broke up with me and only mentioned it when she got asked at the bachelor party where I was. While they didn't, and shouldn't anyway, elaborate much on their opinions they told me that they were confused by her move and think that she probably doesn't even know herself what she actually wants. All in all it was good to get back in touch with them and get some of their insight. The last few days have been shit for me, honestly. I just can't let go of her. And I don't want to. I don't want to shut down the possibility of anything that could happen with her because I feel like the "what if" would haunt me. Every few days we write each other IMs and it's not like I don't want that to end, really. I just wish things could be better. And she says she's still single. This all really feels like she just needs some time to figure things out in her life. That's my hope, anyway. I'll wait for her as long as I can. And it's not like I'm not open for a relationship with another person instead. Meh. If it weren't for her I'd have already ditched every thought of this. What a dick move. How long have you been together?[/QUOTE] Near 14 months

I really need to chat with someone about an issue involving potential sexual assault and anxiety. If anybody is able/willing and knows what they're talking about (not to be a dick) I'd really appreciate a PM or add on Steam or something.

For potential sexual assault please contact law enforcement

So things with that girl I met a week or two ago more or less went nowhere, or at least, they've been put on the backburner indefinitely. It's what I expected really, she was going through some things and is basically just travelling a lot, so staying here was only temporary. She'll be in Canada soon and then I don't know if she's coming back here to stay with family again or going back home to Scotland. I let her know that I thought we had great chemistry and that I think we could have some good times together, and she seemed interested, but obviously she was leaving soon. She said that she'd give me a shout if she got a free night. I figure best case scenario she calls me up when she has more time and we spend some time together, but I'll admit the chances of that are low. I don't think I'll hear from her before she goes and she's bound to meet some interesting dudes on her travels so that's probably it. Some things aren't meant to last I guess. I still feel really lucky for the time we did spend together, and not everything has to lead to something more, but it would have been nice if we'd gotten a few dates out of it.

That's good man, just like you said, keep it on the backburner. Talk to her on text or whatever and just enjoy the times you had. You never know what will happen, maybe she will find some dude but maybe it won't work, she moves back and she hits you up again. Life's a mystery and you just gotta go with the flow. You never know, you might end up meeting someone, don't hold out for something to happen just live life.