Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52381320]We split on the tenth of this month, then a week later she changed her facebook relation from single to in a relation. Would've already been quite quickly, but the starting date of that relation was the first of this month.[/QUOTE] Forgive me if this offends you, but does it really matter? If she made her mind up about wanting to break up with you, shouldn't it be a moot point? I assume things weren't good for those final 9 days. Am I wrong?

[QUOTE=WhiteGirl88;52388681]Forgive me if this offends you, but does it really matter? If she made her mind up about wanting to break up with you, shouldn't it be a moot point? I assume things weren't good for those final 9 days. Am I wrong?[/QUOTE] You don't just start shopping around before properly ending things with your current companion. It's a despicable move and a break of trust.

oh no my dad asked me during breakfast if i was thinking about getting married it's starting

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;52391061]oh no my dad asked me during breakfast if i was thinking about getting married it's starting[/QUOTE] lmao Are you thinking about getting married ?

i mean yeah probably, assuming nothing weird or drastic happens in the next year

Don't really see how it's his business unless you're marrying him, which I'd say you shouldn't as a rule

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52381320]We split on the tenth of this month, then a week later she changed her facebook relation from single to in a relation. Would've already been quite quickly, but the starting date of that relation was the first of this month.[/QUOTE] One thing to remember is that the start date might have defaulted to the first, so it's possible she just didn't set the date. Either way though I hope things go well for you.

Broke up with my girlfriend of like 4 or 5 weeks, can't remember. Did it through text like an asshole, but I just wasn't feeling it. Left in the night before, left my PS2 and toothbrush over there guess I ain't getting that shit back.

[QUOTE=Bleach Qeef;52392377]Broke up with my girlfriend of like 4 or 5 weeks, can't remember. Did it through text like an asshole, but I just wasn't feeling it. Left in the night before, left my PS2 and toothbrush over there guess I ain't getting that shit back.[/QUOTE] why was your ps2 over at her's

[QUOTE=Bleach Qeef;52392377]Broke up with my girlfriend of like 4 or 5 weeks, can't remember. Did it through text like an asshole, but I just wasn't feeling it. Left in the night before, left my PS2 and toothbrush over there guess I ain't getting that shit back.[/QUOTE] Breaking up through text, that can be okay But god dammit leaving the ps2 behind, unforgivable, you monster

[QUOTE=Bleach Qeef;52392377] Left in the night before, left my PS2 and toothbrush over there guess I ain't getting that shit back.[/QUOTE] Hope you enjoy Red Screens of Death in your nightmares

i very nearly pooped my pants last night while on a date with an extremely pretty girl

[QUOTE=NeonpieDFTBA;52392084]One thing to remember is that the start date might have defaulted to the first, so it's possible she just didn't set the date. Either way though I hope things go well for you.[/QUOTE] Well when I first saw it it said the 17th of this month, I confronted her about it, she said it wasn't any of my business. Then the next day my friend sent me a screenshot which showed she changed it from the 17th to the 1st

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52393172]Well when I first saw it it said the 17th of this month, I confronted her about it, she said it wasn't any of my business. Then the next day my friend sent me a screenshot which showed she changed it from the 17th to the 1st[/QUOTE] Excuse me but, even if her behaviour isn't appropriate or fair, she's right, that's probably not your business. Changing the date might have been her little revenge, in order to drive you mad, and it seems like it worked. Not trying to defend her, I just think you need to move on, and that particular fact isn't of importance. [B]I may be wrong[/B]

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;52392633]why was your ps2 over at her's[/QUOTE] Watching movies, we didn't have any other medium. In my defense I had only known her for maybe a month.

[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;52393172]Well when I first saw it it said the 17th of this month, I confronted her about it, she said it wasn't any of my business. Then the next day my friend sent me a screenshot which showed she changed it from the 17th to the 1st[/QUOTE] it doesn't matter honestly move the fuck on

[QUOTE=_Axel;52388780]You don't just start shopping around before properly ending things with your current companion. It's a despicable move and a break of trust.[/QUOTE] It doesn't make her a saint, but I think the worst thing would be if she cheated and kept up a relationship with him. At least she broke up with him. [QUOTE=LordCrypto;52394052]it doesn't matter honestly move the fuck on[/QUOTE] As untactful as this may be, I agree. She chose not to have you in her life. You did nothing wrong. Some relationships aren't meant to be forever and that's okay. Give yourself some time to be sad, then go out and find yourself a new boo.

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Both my life and relationship keep on getting better and better and I have no idea when it's going to stop, holy shit. Nothings perfect, I'm still a picky eater who hardly eats anything and we do sometimes end up pissed off from time to time but we've always managed to talk it through and apologize like adults. And then cuddling.

you've discovered the key to a successful relationship and it's compatibility and communication

[QUOTE=_Axel;52264172]She just opened up and told me a couple months ago, when we had sex for one of the first times, I was laying down on her too hard and she couldn't speak and tell me to stop when it hurt too much. She didn't feel comfortable telling me until now. I feel like shit. I'm a monster. I don't know what to do. Any excuse would sound hollow, I can't put things into words properly when it comes to telling her how disgusted of myself I feel.[/QUOTE] Update on this. We spent the 4-day weekend after that whole discussion together and had a good time, she was much more cuddly and happy than before. After the second day she told me she was sorry for saying what she said about open relationships and the like. It was an accumulation of small issues (quoted one being a big one) that coupled with the distance gave her doubts about being happy with me. But that weekend and the following ones comforted her about it. The bad part is that she feels sad when I go back to Liege and has trouble sleeping for a couple of days afterwards. We've been having a bit of non-penetrative fun since then, but she didn't feel ready to try PIV sex again. Yesterday, she told me by text that she wanted to have sex with me again, and we talked a bit about her thinking we should stop "making a big deal out of it", that I should stop asking her if she was alright every 15 seconds while we were doing it. While talking about this, the quoted event was brought back up at some point. She told me it really was a terrible thing for her, and that every once in a while when she thinks back about it she feels very angry at me, even though she says she shouldn't. She also said that while she does sometimes want to have sex with me when I'm away, it fades away when I'm actually here. I don't know what I can do, aside from telling her it's something I deeply regret, and feel awful about, and that I'm sorry she had to endure that. I don't know how to stop her from being angry towards me when talking about this, I think it's justified, but I don't know how to heal what I hurt.

It's an honest mistake. Most people would say something. I had a similar issue to you in the past. I've stopped saying sorry and started taking more of a lead role. It's all good to say everyone's equal, but often that's not what the girl wants, she wants someone that keeps her on her toes, at least in my experience. I think being apologetic and asking permission for everything(where social queues would be better suited) isn't much of a turn on.

[QUOTE=reevezy67;52399791]It's an honest mistake. Most people would say something. I had a similar issue to you in the past. I've stopped saying sorry and started taking more of a lead role. It's all good to say everyone's equal, but often that's not what the girl wants, she wants someone that keeps her on her toes, at least in my experience. I think being apologetic and asking permission for everything(where social queues would be better suited) isn't much of a turn on.[/QUOTE] it's a matter of discretion, to discover if the partner's fine with you making decisions in bed without consulting them

[QUOTE=reevezy67;52399791]It's an honest mistake. Most people would say something.[/QUOTE] That's the thing, though. She couldn't, she had trouble breathing because I was too heavily laying on her.

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the way I keep it erect is to please my girl: hearing her sigh in pleasure makes me a rock

[QUOTE=_Axel;52399823]That's the thing, though. She couldn't, she had trouble breathing because I was too heavily laying on her.[/QUOTE] Yeah but I guess my main point is it was an unfortunate incident, but it wasn't on purpose. So you should learn from it but you shouldn't beat yourself up from it.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;52399877]Could it be insecurity causing you issues? If all else fails, you could always take some pills for it, no shame in it.[/QUOTE] guess that's a solution but I would only go for that if everything else fails. Maybe seeing a doctor wouldn't hurt, I guess

[QUOTE=thermobaric;52400060]guess that's a solution but I would only go for that if everything else fails. Maybe seeing a doctor wouldn't hurt, I guess[/QUOTE] How long have you been trying? Took me and my ex 2 months before we had PIV sex

[QUOTE=_Axel;52399823]That's the thing, though. She couldn't, she had trouble breathing because I was too heavily laying on her.[/QUOTE] Perhaps just try a different position? If she doesn't want to feel "pressed" then maybe try cowgirl, then she gets much more control and no compression into the bed. [sp]also way hotter than missionary or whatever you were doing imo[/sp]