Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

For the most part its pretty normal for a first time. I didnt feel my first second or third time very much.

I imagine eliminating the sensation just so you can last longer sort of defeats the purpose. Sure, you can last as long as you like but at that point you're just humping for humping's sake. That's why you can always go for round two in which you're most certainly going to last longer, unless your partner is an ass that thinks you gotta have godlike stamina from the get-go.

If I switch condoms to a brand I'm not used to I basically lose the ability to finish, it's very distracting (for me) and basically a dream come true (for her)

I flat out can't cum from sex, although it feels amazing. I blame death grip.

antidepressants can also play a role in that, i've noticed

[QUOTE=Kierany9;52493382]I flat out can't cum from sex, although it feels amazing. I blame death grip.[/QUOTE] Takes me forever to cum too. But it's gotten better since I stopped masturbating so much. My girlfriend always comments how it's weird that she gets the orgasms first, it's literally the opposite of all her previous relationships. I won't lie, that always boosts my ego to new highs. :v:

I never understood guys that just pump away til they're done and leave it at that with the lady being unsatisfied. I always make sure that any girl I'm with finishes at least once before I do, it's only fair that both of us enjoy it properly, otherwise what's the point? If I've happened to finish before she does (which is rare :v:) then I'll make sure that once cleanup is taken care of that I make sure she gets her orgasm too.

Nice guys finish last

Went out for a work / ex work mates night out last night, it was really good. Got kind of drunk, I am not too hungover (and smart drunk me got a takeaway and didn't touch it, leaving it free to have for breakfast!) but one of the guys currently working on my team cheated on his gf with a girl from our work which I found to be very uncomfortable and this left a sour taste in my mouth. After leaving him and most of the group in the club we were in, I grassed him up to his gf via facebook messenger. She rang me to talk about it for a bit and she asked me a few questions which I answered to the best of my drunken abilities and she then thanked me for telling her. I have never met her but I have heard from mutual friends that she is a nice girl, I felt so fuckin bad for her when I was messaging/speaking to her. I could tell from her tone of voice that she sounded so done. I also later found out from someone else that this was not the first time he had cheated on her with this girl from work. I know I've done the right thing but man am I worried about work being super awkward now. But there is no guarantee he will even know I grassed him up, and even if he does, it's his problem I guess.

[QUOTE=halflife_123;52498720]Went out for a work / ex work mates night out last night, it was really good. Got kind of drunk, I am not too hungover (and smart drunk me got a takeaway and didn't touch it, leaving it free to have for breakfast!) but one of the guys currently working on my team cheated on his gf with a girl from our work which I found to be very uncomfortable and this left a sour taste in my mouth. After leaving him and most of the group in the club we were in, I grassed him up to his gf via facebook messenger. She rang me to talk about it for a bit and she asked me a few questions which I answered to the best of my drunken abilities and she then thanked me for telling her. I have never met her but I have heard from mutual friends that she is a nice girl, I felt so fuckin bad for her when I was messaging/speaking to her. I could tell from her tone of voice that she sounded so done. I also later found out from someone else that this was not the first time he had cheated on her with this girl from work. I know I've done the right thing but man am I worried about work being super awkward now. But there is no guarantee he will even know I grassed him up, and even if he does, it's his problem I guess.[/QUOTE] He cheated in front of the whole team, there was probably more people who know him, honestly someone would have told her, or she'd have discovered it somehow. His choice, his dick, his problem. He's not necessarily a bad guy, but come on he's got to choose what/who he really wants. A shame for the girl though. You might wanna get some news to see how she's going, give her some support if needed (as you seem to really care for her). Sure it's gonna be awkward at work, and he may cause you some trouble if he finds out you're the one who told her.

[QUOTE=Eirheinger;52498792]He cheated in front of the whole team, there was probably more people who know him, honestly someone would have told her, or she'd have discovered it somehow. His choice, his dick, his problem. He's not necessarily a bad guy, but come on he's got to choose what/who he really wants. A shame for the girl though. You might wanna get some news to see how she's going, give her some support if needed (as you seem to really care for her). Sure it's gonna be awkward at work, and he may cause you some trouble if he finds out you're the one who told her.[/QUOTE] Well one of the things that also put me off a bit was that some of the other guys did not seem too willing to tell her, if I am the only one then that sort of leaves me on my own haha. But you may be right, others may have told her as well. Honestly I don't know her and haven't met her, I certainly feel bad for her but would feel weird sending a follow up message to her. I think she has quite a few friends who will be supporting her. I am not too worried about work now that I've been thinking about it for a bit. If he wanted to get pissy with me, he would have to reveal the reason to everyone else on the team who doesn't know the story. And his argument would be shot down because he wouldn't even have a good reason to be pissy. There is a position at work I have been mulling over applying for which I think I am going to go for (and likely get) so that will probably get me out of any awkward situations that may arise. Anyway this is getting a bit off topic for this thread and I was mainly just looking for somewhere to rant about it so this will be my last post about it. I just hope he get what he deserves from this.

Hey lads, a few months ago I asked if it was wrong of me to ask my girlfriend to seize contact with her ex's. A quick update on how it has been going. Backstory: we're almost 4 months in right now, and it has been a rollercoaster. The first 3 months she was quite distant, really felt like it needed time on her side to grow. Which I completely accepted, I took her pace and I really enioyed seeing it improve over time, although it was quite difficult from time to time. We got over that point, I've found out this summer vacation that she can be very loving and caring. I've stayed over multiple days, and it's been amazing. We've really grown towards each other. The problem is that although she is a very pleasant person to be around, she has always had troubles keeping people around her. She has a very superficial relationship with her parents, compared to mine I would call it quite cold and distant. while she was growing up, she has felt very lonely at home and at school. She had quite a couple of boyfriends before me, 7 in total (she had lived together with the last two, only being 23). She kept contact with the last two, because they were the only two who would stay in contact. Those are to this day, the only people close to her next to me. Although I didn't really like the fact that she is so close with them, I accepted it because of your advice. Although I have expressed my discontent a couple of times, I've never forced her to take distance from them until last night, when I wanted to break up. Although she has always been very honest about it, the fact that the last ex met up with her 3 times a week at her place didn't feel alright. The fact that I've found male socks under her bed wasn't pretty either. The last drop in the bucket was the fact that she is going to stay over with the ex before the last one for 3 nights because he lives closer to the airfield, since she is leaving for her home country. She passed a line, and I didn't see a point in staying with her if I have to force her to seize contact with the only people she feels accepted and liked by next to me. It came as a shock to her, especially after having grown towards each other so much. We took 4 hours to talk about our feelings, which was quite emotional. She couldn't understand why I've never forced her and waited till it got so out of hand. She was open to me and wanted to do anything for me to fix it. The reason why she's gonna stay with that ex is because his parents are very close to her, it feels like home she has never had. She pointed out she would never cheat, because there is not a single point for her in it. Why ruin so much, the few things she has, for some simple pleasure. In the end we didn't end it, but we're both still quite hurt and worried. She told me she'll stop seeing her 'friends' when the summer vacation is over, when she has things to keep her busy so she wouldn't be so lonely. I dont mind her staying in contact, I just want it (temporarily) to stop. It feels like an unhealthy situation, the last thing I am looking for in a relationship is issues from the other side in the beginning. I might change my mind, but it feels neccesary right now and she conciously chose for me. I wont see her for a month, I told her to think about if she really wants to continue with me on that basis. Did I fuck up facepunch? Am I being unfair? The people around me tell me I shouldn't want so much issues and look for someone else, but I really do love her. It's the last issue we have and we got so far, next to those stupid exes issue she's everything I was looking for..

[QUOTE=thermobaric;52499431]Hey lads, a few months ago I asked if it was wrong of me to ask my girlfriend to seize contact with her ex's. A quick update on how it has been going. Backstory: we're almost 4 months in right now, and it has been a rollercoaster. The first 3 months she was quite distant, really felt like it needed time on her side to grow. Which I completely accepted, I took her pace and I really enioyed seeing it improve over time, although it was quite difficult from time to time. We got over that point, I've found out this summer vacation that she can be very loving and caring. I've stayed over multiple days, and it's been amazing. We've really grown towards each other. The problem is that although she is a very pleasant person to be around, she has always had troubles keeping people around her. She has a very superficial relationship with her parents, compared to mine I would call it quite cold and distant. while she was growing up, she has felt very lonely at home and at school. She had quite a couple of boyfriends before me, 7 in total (she had lived together with the last two, only being 23). She kept contact with the last two, because they were the only two who would stay in contact. Those are to this day, the only people close to her next to me. Although I didn't really like the fact that she is so close with them, I accepted it because of your advice. Although I have expressed my discontent a couple of times, I've never forced her to take distance from them until last night, when I wanted to break up. Although she has always been very honest about it, the fact that the last ex met up with her 3 times a week at her place didn't feel alright. The fact that I've found male socks under her bed wasn't pretty either. The last drop in the bucket was the fact that she is going to stay over with the ex before the last one for 3 nights because he lives closer to the airfield, since she is leaving for her home country. She passed a line, and I didn't see a point in staying with her if I have to force her to seize contact with the only people she feels accepted and liked by next to me. It came as a shock to her, especially after having grown towards each other so much. We took 4 hours to talk about our feelings, which was quite emotional. She couldn't understand why I've never forced her and waited till it got so out of hand. She was open to me and wanted to do anything for me to fix it. The reason why she's gonna stay with that ex is because his parents are very close to her, it feels like home she has never had. She pointed out she would never cheat, because there is not a single point for her in it. Why ruin so much, the few things she has, for some simple pleasure. In the end we didn't end it, but we're both still quite hurt and worried. She told me she'll stop seeing her 'friends' when the summer vacation is over, when she has things to keep her busy so she wouldn't be so lonely. I dont mind her staying in contact, I just want it (temporarily) to stop. It feels like an unhealthy situation, the last thing I am looking for in a relationship is issues from the other side in the beginning. I might change my mind, but it feels neccesary right now and she conciously chose for me. I wont see her for a month, I told her to think about if she really wants to continue with me on that basis. Did I fuck up facepunch? Am I being unfair? The people around me tell me I shouldn't want so much issues and look for someone else, but I really do love her. It's the last issue we have and we got so far, next to those stupid exes issue she's everything I was looking for..[/QUOTE] No, you didn't fuck up in bringing it up as an issue. I don't know if I would have stayed with her in your position though. Honestly from the sound of it I probably wouldn't have even gotten back with her. It sounds to me like she's trying to have the best of both worlds with your ex and you. Props to you for being okay with that, I probably wouldn't be. Also, just because she said she didn't do anything doesn't mean she didn't do anything. You found some dudes socks under her bed. I would probably take that as better evidence than her word.

[QUOTE=killerteacup;52500488]No, you didn't fuck up in bringing it up as an issue. I don't know if I would have stayed with her in your position though. Honestly from the sound of it I probably wouldn't have even gotten back with her. It sounds to me like she's trying to have the best of both worlds with your ex and you. Props to you for being okay with that, I probably wouldn't be. Also, just because she said she didn't do anything doesn't mean she didn't do anything. You found some dudes socks under her bed. I would probably take that as better evidence than her word.[/QUOTE] I completely agree on this... I mean 3x a week at her exes??? And 3 nights with that other dude? GONE FOR A MONTH? She most likely is cheating (most likely emotionally if it wasn't physical) on you dude. She probably does not want to admit it. I would move on and treat yourself nice and get some counseling and an STD checkup. Cheaters aren't worth the time of day.

The advice you guys give me is again is exactly the same as what my parents and friends have been saying, so I guess I'm not being completely unfair. Yesterday evening we called, after she got back from her last ex (yeah..) because she had to print her flight tickets. Believe it or not: the guy still didn't know about me, even though we've been together for 4 months. She said that she finally told him about me, and also said that I was uncomfortable with them hanging out. So I guess that after she gets back from Bulgaria (her home country) next month they won't be hanging out anymore. At least, that's what she has promised me. She also changed plans with the other ex, instead of staying there for 4 days and 3 nights, she will only sleep over there for 1 (which I'm okay with). They won't be seeing each other after the vacation anyway since he lives quite far away, so that's also solved. She sounded quite down, it feels like I broke her heart this weekend. I want to believe her stories, I really do. I want her to be happy and comfortable around me. I don't want to take her away from her 'friends', but these friends are exes and so much contact goes too far for me. I have to draw a line somewhere. I felt guilty after our last phone call, because I can really notice that she has good intentions. She has been open and honest about it, and she is willing to change for me. That's the only reason why I'm staying with her. This is the last chance I'll give her. Sorry but not sorry. Thanks guys, your initial advice of not being too bitchy about her hanging out with exes was correct. I guess it can go well sometimes, it's just that her situation makes it very difficult. It isn't a nice gesture to hang out and sleep over so much with exes, even if she could 'handle' it properly. Them being the only social contacts next to me is unfortunate, but that doesn't suddenly make everything alright. Sucks that I have to make her choose, but this one is on her.

If my girlfriend stayed the night with an ex(or any guy alone other than a relative for that matter) I'd tell her to f off. Though I understand everyone is different.

[QUOTE=reevezy67;52501782]If my girlfriend stayed the night with an ex(or any guy alone other than a relative for that matter) I'd tell her to f off. Though I understand everyone is different.[/QUOTE] If the guy isn't an ex and is gay, I suppose it's ok.

Do you know how her and her exes broke up? Was it toxic at the time or mutual?

To be fair you guys have only been going out for 4 months. IMO you should think really hard about if you are willing to put up with this stuff for however long your relationship goes on. I know if I saw that happening that early in a relationship I would run, I wouldn't want that hanging in the back of my mind. Also like you said you don't want to seem controlling to her, so yea. Just trust your intuition on this one. :smile:

[QUOTE=IQ-Guldfisk;52502348]Do you know how her and her exes broke up? Was it toxic at the time or mutual?[/QUOTE] The last one was mutual because the love faded away while they were living together. The thing is, both of them seem very solitary. But that might also mean that when they feel lonely, they long for each other. The fact that they hung out 3 times a week clearly showed that. They didn't have a temporary break after the breakup, which makes matters worse. She has told me that she still had some feelings for him, but would never initiate on them because they are 'incompatible'. But I have to take that with a grain of salt of course. The one before that was not mutual, she broke up because (I'm sorry facepunchers :v:) he was autistic and she couldn't bare to live with him any longer. I'm very sure that the loving on her side is gone, but not on his side. It took him 3 months to realize that they aren't together anymore. [QUOTE=GamerChick;52502397]To be fair you guys have only been going out for 4 months. IMO you should think really hard about if you are willing to put up with this stuff for however long your relationship goes on. I know if I saw that happening that early in a relationship I would run, I wouldn't want that hanging in the back of my mind. Also like you said you don't want to seem controlling to her, so yea. Just trust your intuition on this one. :smile:[/QUOTE] You're kinda right. It's that I still have feelings for her and that she has a wonderful personality, otherwise I would've never let it come this far. I don't know what I'm gonna do next. A month ago I promised myself to break up with her if I still doubted the relationship when she goes back to her home country. I really thought things were going in the right way, but here I am: wondering if it is all worth it. She's leaving this Thursday. I'll let you guys know what has come out of it. Thanks again for all the advice, I appreciate it.

Love Songs boys and girls. I was chatting with my Mum recently, and Smooth Radio was playing in the kitchen as we nattered. God only knows by the Beach Boys came on, and I proclaimed that I thought it was the greatest Love Song written. She argued otherwise, due to the beginning of each verse being a variation of "if we aren't in love anymore". I feel I need some backup on this, or at least a differing opinion to "It's not very positive is it?"

It's not very positive is it?

Why do all the fake profiles on Tinder have old woman names?

Been feeling for a friend of mine that I've known for about 6 months or so, [i]like[/i] liked her about a month after we met. I guess you could say it's normal, but it's kind of weird for me because I haven't felt anything in that way for 4 or so years. We've been talking for a couple months too. We're both in high school, I'm about to be a Junior, her a Sophomore. I think that if we know eachother better when school starts and we at least have a class, I'll try a move. Honestly idk, especially because this is the first time I've felt like this in a [i]long[/i] time. I like to think I have a chance, but no clue. I just wanted to post here because the only other person who knows is her friend that introduced us, whom I have a weird friendship with, but nothing bad. Never had a girlfriend, 16, and according to a lot of people, when the topic comes up, apparently I shouldn't have any problem getting girls (6'6, muscular).

so somehow early in my relationship or even before it I knew that this girl was into getting it rough. she seriously asked me to choke and spank her, and since then I've cuffed her with a belt and tied her up with a tie and had some sexy kinky times. basically she's always fantasized about bondage/bdsm type stuff but never dated someone who would do it. so I'm her dream come true, and she's mine, because I haven't done much either. plus it's really hot to act out my fantasies and the fact that she thinks it's really hot is really hot

[QUOTE=been a while;52527661] Never had a girlfriend, 16, and according to a lot of people, when the topic comes up, apparently I shouldn't have any problem getting girls (6'6, muscular).[/QUOTE] Wow, you're tall Do you play basketball?

I think I'm becoming a man whore since I've been losing weight. I might bang 3 different chicks in 3 straight days, call that a 3-peat

[QUOTE=cis.joshb;52528219]so somehow early in my relationship or even before it I knew that this girl was into getting it rough. she seriously asked me to choke and spank her, and since then I've cuffed her with a belt and tied her up with a tie and had some sexy kinky times. basically she's always fantasized about bondage/bdsm type stuff but never dated someone who would do it. so I'm her dream come true, and she's mine, because I haven't done much either. plus it's really hot to act out my fantasies and the fact that she thinks it's really hot is really hot[/QUOTE] Lucky bastard. [QUOTE=Bleach Qeef;52529237]I think I'm becoming a man whore since I've been losing weight. I might bang 3 different chicks in 3 straight days, call that a 3-peat[/QUOTE] Some would call you a player.

[QUOTE=cis.joshb;52528219]so somehow early in my relationship or even before it I knew that this girl was into getting it rough. she seriously asked me to choke and spank her, and since then I've cuffed her with a belt and tied her up with a tie and had some sexy kinky times. basically she's always fantasized about bondage/bdsm type stuff but never dated someone who would do it. so I'm her dream come true, and she's mine, because I haven't done much either. plus it's really hot to act out my fantasies and the fact that she thinks it's really hot is really hot[/QUOTE] Pfft, a girl I briefly dated liked being beaten up. Never got to that stage with her though.

[QUOTE=SuperLoz;52528221]Wow, you're tall Do you play basketball?[/QUOTE] No, I've never cared for sports. I get told to play, but that kind of stuff just isn't for me, I don't know why. I guess I just don't give a shit.