Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=SuperLoz;52528221]Wow, you're tall Do you play basketball?[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=been a while;52529678]No, I've never cared for sports. I get told to play, but that kind of stuff just isn't for me, I don't know why. I guess I just don't give a shit.[/QUOTE] 6'5(1.95m) here, at this point I'm convinced that "Do you play basketball" is a mandatory question that comes right after "How's the weather" when tall people meet someone new for the first time.

[QUOTE=Kierany9;52530259]6'5(1.95m) here, at this point I'm convinced that "Do you play basketball" is a mandatory question that comes right after "How's the weather" when tall people meet someone new for the first time.[/QUOTE] I get it with a lot of new people I meet. It's kind of funny when I'm talking to a girl (not often by the way, I don't talk to a lot of people I don't know) and she asks that question, mentions my height, etc. I just want to think of a way to reply to it without feeling weird. I dunno, I just don't really feel for anyone other than the girl I mentioned, so it gets me to feel weird when that stuff happens.

(pls don't quote, to be snipped later) I think my relationship's going to end soon, my SO has always been a bit bad at communicating when we're not in person, and multiple times I've been stood up because she changed plans and didn't bother to tell me until I asked. The worst offender of this behavior is when I flew back home from a vacation early to spend New Year's with her and she waited until I asked her when to pick her up, the day of, to tell me that she'd made plans with her parents instead. It happened again today. We scheduled a dinner date about a week ago for the night that she got back into town for the school year. Today around noon I asked her what time she wanted to grab dinner and she started beating around the bush, so I asked her again and she got really upset and defensive. She'd decided to just spend the evening with family and friends instead but didn't bother to tell me until I asked about our plans, again, on the day of. I feel like she's incapable of communicating like an adult and it drives me up the wall.

Yeah honestly I'd end that

That seems infuriating, especially cause of them becoming defensive and upset despite the fact they'd committed to plans a week prior and bailed at the last minute. That's the sort of shit you pull with friends, but with your SO? No way. My last serious relationship, we'd drop shit so fast if it meant we could hang out (to a certain extent), or we'd just join each other in whatever plans we already had going on.

[QUOTE=loopoo;52535113]That seems infuriating, especially cause of them becoming defensive and upset despite the fact they'd committed to plans a week prior and bailed at the last minute. That's the sort of shit you pull with friends, but with your SO? No way. My last serious relationship, we'd drop shit so fast if it meant we could hang out (to a certain extent), or we'd just join each other in whatever plans we already had going on.[/QUOTE] In my case, one of my ex's spoiled "I'm busy" for me. She was a single mom studying to be a nurse and she was an intern in a hospital while working at a store to pay her bills. Yet she always went "YES!!!" when I asked if she'd like to see or do stuff. After her, I've had women working office jobs 8-16 (like me) or students without any jobs who went "Too busy, don't have time :(" and that infuriated me. Now I'm engaged to a woman who wants to see me all the time and I don't even have to ask her if she has time as she always finds time for me no matter what. She has two kids and two jobs as well.

General rule of thumb, when somebody tells you that they're either busy or they don't have time it usually means that they do have the time but simply don't want to spend it with you. It's not like that's uncommon. And it's nothing to be ashamed of either. Still, if that happens repeatedly you might want to reconsider what your relationship means to you and your SO. My ex had these times when she said she wasn't feeling "social" and she wanted to stay alone and while she apologised and she was honest I should have seen that as a sign that she wasn't properly opening up to me.

But people can genuinely be busy at times? As much as I like someone, if I honestly need to get some work done, or need to do an errand, I'm not going to drop real responsibilities so I can hang out with them. If anything, part of a healthy relationship is being able to tell your SO you're busy and can't hang out without things turning sour. I've had times where I've had to do work, but my SO came over anyways but respected the fact I needed to get shit done, but just having them there was nice in it's own way.

[QUOTE=loopoo;52535534]But people can genuinely be busy at times? As much as I like someone, if I honestly need to get some work done, or need to do an errand, I'm not going to drop real responsibilities so I can hang out with them. If anything, part of a healthy relationship is being able to tell your SO you're busy and can't hang out without things turning sour. I've had times where I've had to do work, but my SO came over anyways but respected the fact I needed to get shit done, but just having them there was nice in it's own way.[/QUOTE] That's why I said "usually". I'm not saying that people can't be genuinely busy at times. But what I am saying is that you shouldn't be surprised when people also tend to say that they don't have time when they could make some. Maybe I worded that a bit inaccurately.

The way you worded it made it come across like people saying they're busy are, more often than not, just saying that cause they don't wanna hang with you.

Life made me a bit of a pessimist I guess. Bottom line is you shouldn't take it personally even if that happens.

[QUOTE=loopoo;52535534]But people can genuinely be busy at times? As much as I like someone, if I honestly need to get some work done, or need to do an errand, I'm not going to drop real responsibilities so I can hang out with them. If anything, part of a healthy relationship is being able to tell your SO you're busy and can't hang out without things turning sour. I've had times where I've had to do work, but my SO came over anyways but respected the fact I needed to get shit done, but just having them there was nice in it's own way.[/QUOTE] Yeah, I understand if I say "Wanna see today?" they might go "Can't, got shit to do." But when it's "Wanna see this week?" and it's still "Can't, I'm busy" or so, it pisses me off.

Personally I believe that if someone wants to see you but they're busy, they'll ask to reschedule, to find a date where they can be available for you if they simply reply "I'm busy", then chances are they don't really care about seeing you that much It takes no effort to add "how about on sunday when I got time?" to the message

To be fair though sometimes people are just really busy

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;52539554]To be fair though sometimes people are just really busy[/QUOTE] It's about how people bring it, though. A "Sorry I can't, I'm busy" is very different from "I don't have time at X moment but let's do that sometime in the future". Context matters.

including buttholes

My roommate is gone for the month so I have thirty days to fuck on as many things as possible. We already violated the couch and the kitchen table, trying to figure out how to do the kitchen counter since it's just barely too tall for me to stand next to at dick height. A stepping stool seems dangerous for this.

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;52540416]My roommate is gone for the month so I have thirty days to fuck on as many things as possible. We already violated the couch and the kitchen table, trying to figure out how to do the kitchen counter since it's just barely too tall for me to stand next to at dick height. A stepping stool seems dangerous for this.[/QUOTE] Be a man and do it on the roof

my roof is my upstair's neighbor's apartment floor that's probably not feasible i have made a list of things we need to fuck on before he gets back: laundry machine kitchen counter couch again (the arms gave me some sweet pushback with my feet and legs for deeper penetration, also it's comfy) inside his closet both showers balcony :o not really, we're on the first floor and that's...a bad idea, probably i think thats basically all the places in my house that would be amusing

you won't truly live until you fuck on you roommates bed dick move, yes... but still the most kinky place you could do it

I did consider that if i'm 100% honest but I'm not going to do it, that's just gross

Me and my girlfriend were going to fuck in my roommates bed once too, but it just stank of stale farts and Fosters.

it's more that like im not an asshole and respect personal space

I want to chime in on the sex connoisseur -talk: I've done it on / in - Bed - Shower - Massage-bed - Sauna - Sofa - Standing up - On the floor - On a table :buddy:

[QUOTE=cyclocius;52541342]Me and my girlfriend were going to fuck in my roommates bed once too, but it just stank of stale farts and Fosters.[/QUOTE] Did you used to share a house in Liverpool?

Best place to fuck is in a swimming pool. Until the condom breaks because of water friction. :saddowns:

[QUOTE=Thechuz1337;52541463]Did you used to share a house in Liverpool?[/QUOTE] No, Middlesbrough. I can't imagine the smell is too unique to any one place however.

Best place to fuck is either at your own workplace in the bathroom or in a train (not the bathroom, really in the train)

[QUOTE=cyclocius;52541550]No, Middlesbrough. I can't imagine the smell is too unique to any one place however.[/QUOTE] Just sounded suspiciously like my bed

we fucked in a park once, that was...mostly scary for me, although she loved it