Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49622039]Don't feel bad, I pointed out that my girlfriend has ab fat, as I was playing with it. Apparently that's not something you're suppose to do![/QUOTE] little bit of ab fat is cute imo, girls who worry excessively about body fat make me sad so many girls I've hooked up with are convinced they're fat but they genuinely only have a tiny little bit and it ain't that bad though I think I might be a chubbie chaser not gonna lie

I know right, my girlfriend doesn't seem to get that having a bit of weight isn't bad at -all-. I mean she's by no means even chubby, but she's got this hella hourglass figure that's just... [I]damnnn[/I]

So this chick is coming up to see me this weekend, but her sister has to drive her up here on the account of her legs don't work. They're both staying with me so this ought to be fun.

I knew a parapelegic guy in high school who had throttle and brake hand controls in his car, and a special drivers liscence. He also had this totally bitchin neon green collapsable wheelchair. The only thing other people had to do for him was hold the door and occasionally carry his bag.

[QUOTE=No Party Hats;49622532]I know right, my girlfriend doesn't seem to get that having a bit of weight isn't bad at -all-. I mean she's by no means even chubby, but she's got this hella hourglass figure that's just... [I]damnnn[/I][/QUOTE] I wasn't an ass kinda guy, [I]until I met my current girlfriend.[/I] [I]Goddamn is she fine.[/I] I seriously can't get enough of her figure. [QUOTE=Birdman101;49625803]I knew a parapelegic guy in high school who had throttle and brake hand controls in his car, and a special drivers liscence. He also had this totally bitchin neon green collapsable wheelchair. The only thing other people had to do for him was hold the door and occasionally carry his bag.[/QUOTE] Oh dude I have a classmate in college with the same shit. His van is like, from space or something. He hits a button and it opens the side, pops out a ramp, and lowers itself as much as it can before hitting curb. The drivers seat turns around and squats for him to get in too. Its fucking awesome.

[QUOTE=Birdman101;49625803]I knew a parapelegic guy in high school who had throttle and brake hand controls in his car, and a special drivers liscence. He also had this totally bitchin neon green collapsable wheelchair. The only thing other people had to do for him was hold the door and occasionally carry his bag.[/QUOTE] I've known some people who were in wheelchairs but never dated one before, so we'll see how awkward this can be.

[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;49625887]I wasn't an ass kinda guy, [I]until I met my current girlfriend.[/I] [I]Goddamn is she fine.[/I] I seriously can't get enough of her figure. Oh dude I have a classmate in college with the same shit. His van is like, from space or something. He hits a button and it opens the side, pops out a ramp, and lowers itself as much as it can before hitting curb. The drivers seat turns around and squats for him to get in too. Its fucking awesome.[/QUOTE] Damn, thats fancy. The dude I knew just kinda manhandled himself into the seat, then folded up the wheelchair and pulled it in.

[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;49625887]I wasn't an ass kinda guy, [I]until I met my current girlfriend.[/I] [I]Goddamn is she fine.[/I] I seriously can't get enough of her figure. [/QUOTE] A-fucking-men dude, I was never exceedingly interested in ass till my girlfriend showed me the light. I am now a firm believer in the booty. Shit now im stuck at work thinking about that ass, hnngg

no, but I'd tell her shes got to have some regard for her health. If she continued destructively overeating or not working out or whatever, that might make me start questioning it.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49629147]If any of you guys' boyfriend/girlfriend suddenly gained 200 pounds and had no intention of losing it, would that make you reconsider the relationship? (loopoo is except from this question because of chubbie-chase bias)[/QUOTE] Yea. Disregarding the complete lack of attraction to overweight people, someone who doesn't take care of themselves or have any care for their health probably isn't the kind of person I would want to date anyways.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49629245]Yea. Disregarding the complete lack of attraction to overweight people, someone who doesn't take care of themselves or have any care for their health probably isn't the kind of person I would want to date anyways.[/QUOTE] Exactly this, actually already had this chat with her

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49629147]If any of you guys' boyfriend/girlfriend suddenly gained 200 pounds and had no intention of losing it, would that make you reconsider the relationship? (loopoo is except from this question because of chubbie-chase bias)[/QUOTE] chubby to me is like 5ft something at 60-70kg. I dunno what my ex was but she was short and thick but not fat, she looked great, just a little chubs. if I was in a longterm relationship and my gf started packing on the pounds, it wouldn't bug me too much unless her personal hygiene went out the window: I'm talking greasy hair, lack of showering, laziness (I say this cause I just can't help but think how disgusting most fat people look cause they seem to throw personal hygiene out the window). if she put on serious weight I'd probably motivate her to start jogging by offering to start with her

What's a good way to alleviate a girl's cramps when she's on her period? Cuddling, massages?

[QUOTE=No Party Hats;49629027]A-fucking-men dude, I was never exceedingly interested in ass till my girlfriend showed me the light. I am now a firm believer in the booty. Shit now im stuck at work thinking about that ass, hnngg[/QUOTE] Girl I had an interest in did similar to me, never thought I had an interest until I met her and it was hilarious in my mind as the first thing that popped into my head was a quote from Anchorman. I don't think photos do it for me, I need an extra dimension to appreciate things.

[QUOTE=Genericenemy;49630738]Girl I had an interest in did similar to me, never thought I had an interest until I met her and it was hilarious in my mind as the first thing that popped into my head was a quote from Anchorman. I don't think photos do it for me, I need an extra dimension to appreciate things.[/QUOTE] The tactile element sold me on it. Her booty isnt like flabby but its not stiff eithe,, its the perfect softness for 11/10 grinding action. Now I just need to convice her im not bullshitting when I say stuff like that

[QUOTE=_Axel;49630537]What's a good way to alleviate a girl's cramps when she's on her period? Cuddling, massages?[/QUOTE] throw a soft blanket in the drier, give it to her, and just do what she says. [editline]29th January 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=No Party Hats;49630805]The tactile element sold me on it. Her booty isnt like flabby but its not stiff eithe,, its the perfect softness for 11/10 grinding action. Now I just need to convice her im not bullshitting when I say stuff like that[/QUOTE] Just tell her you're an expert on how hot she is, or something like that.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49629147]If any of you guys' boyfriend/girlfriend suddenly gained 200 pounds and had no intention of losing it, would that make you reconsider the relationship? (loopoo is except from this question because of chubbie-chase bias)[/QUOTE] I'd only be worried for the health issues. Yeah being unattractive would suck but it's definitely not a deal breaker and it's not like we'll both be attractive forever (see: aging).

My concern is if they gained that much weight and [I]didn't care.[/I] If they were actively fighting against it thats one thing, that happens. My GF went from 120 pounds in highschool to 220 in 3 years due to a change in medication and she was actually exercising [I]more[/I] during that time in a desperate attempt to stop it. She's been fighting to get back down to ~160 ever since. Meanwhile I now weigh 20 pounds more than when I met her. Which is kind of a good thing, I was a damn stick. And a portion of that is muscle from working in manufacturing for a couple of years. Still need to do cardio. Lots of cardio.

Is putting off a relationship to focus on work weird? I just can't see how I can build anything meaningful with anyone whilst finishing my masters dissertation, assessments, and trying to find a job. It's a 24/7 workload, and pretty sure my grades/prospects would suffer if i took anymore time out than i do already for excercise/social things. Then again some people seem to be able to manage it?

Some people are not all people! I know I could probably not handle a relationship that isn't an LDR because of my current workload. I just wouldn't have the time or energy. Your focus and what you can handle is all up to you. And if you want to focus on school, then that's just fine. As for the earlier weight discussion, I had an ex that gained another 60-70 pounds over the course of our relationship, and while it wasn't his weight or appearance that made me break up with him, because I was still attracted, it was the fact that he was getting so comfortable with me that he was expecting me not to care that he was slowly becoming super lazy and didn't want to do anything for himself. I had to apply for jobs for him, I had to help him apply to college, I had to tell him to clean his room and eventually I realized that I wasn't his mom and what we had going wasn't really healthy at all, even if we did care about each other a lot. I think us breaking up was better for him in the long run because now he has a full time job, a nice girlfriend and they have a one year old together. So I'm glad he got his shit together. But it was never a matter of appearance for me.

Don't you love it when the person who's been in constant communication with you and just enjoys talking and texting just suddenly stops? It's been a whole day now. I hate this because I have no idea what happened. And it doesn't help that my mind always goes to the worst outcome e.g. she just wants to stop talking to me forever, even though the day before yesterday we talked for like an hour and had a good time with laughs and stuff and talked about our relationship, and how I respect her bounds if she wants to take it slow, and how we are both happy with this. I wish she would just say something.

[QUOTE=Occlusion;49631105]Is putting off a relationship to focus on work weird? I just can't see how I can build anything meaningful with anyone whilst finishing my masters dissertation, assessments, and trying to find a job. It's a 24/7 workload, and pretty sure my grades/prospects would suffer if i took anymore time out than i do already for excercise/social things. Then again some people seem to be able to manage it?[/QUOTE] Thats not at all weird and it's actually smart. I typically work 50-90 hours a week depending on the season, and I absolutely love my work and I wouldn't trade it for anything. Anytime I start down the road towards a relationship, one of the first things I tell my partner is that if they ever ask me to choose between them or my job, my job will always win. It's horrible but my job is a career that I'm extremely lucky to have, and I'm not going to trade it for a woman who may not be with me in a years time. [editline]29th January 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=NixNax123;49631494]Don't you love it when the person who's been in constant communication with you and just enjoys talking and texting just suddenly stops? It's been a whole day now. I hate this because I have no idea what happened. And it doesn't help that my mind always goes to the worst outcome e.g. she just wants to stop talking to me forever, even though the day before yesterday we talked for like an hour and had a good time with laughs and stuff and talked about our relationship, and how I respect her bounds if she wants to take it slow, and how we are both happy with this. I wish she would just say something.[/QUOTE] Who knows dood, maybe her phone got shut off, maybe she dropped it in the toilet, or maybe she has some shit goin down. Don't get all paranoid. Shoot her a message on facebook or something. Just the other day I was on the phone with my current girlfriend when she said something like "ugh my ex keeps texting me, let me call him and tell him to fuck off and I'll call you back" and I didn't hear anything from her till like 2am that night. First place my mind went was "welp she got back together with her ex, gg no read" even though I was smart enough to know that wasn't the case. What actually happened is she ended up in the emergency room because of complications with her surgery.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49631494]Don't you love it when the person who's been in constant communication with you and just enjoys talking and texting just suddenly stops? It's been a whole day now. I hate this because I have no idea what happened. And it doesn't help that my mind always goes to the worst outcome e.g. she just wants to stop talking to me forever, even though the day before yesterday we talked for like an hour and had a good time with laughs and stuff and talked about our relationship, and how I respect her bounds if she wants to take it slow, and how we are both happy with this. I wish she would just say something.[/QUOTE] I thought I'd blown it early on in my current relationship because a similar thing happened. Suddenly I just got nothing from her for like 2 days. Turns out she had bronchitis. And her mother too. She was kinda occupied. I felt so foolish for jumping to conclusions. Give it time. Yeah it sucks, but if you freak out and react to it now you [I]will[/I] blow it.

yea dont be a dipshit and accuse her of anything

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49631494]Don't you love it when the person who's been in constant communication with you and just enjoys talking and texting just suddenly stops? It's been a whole day now. I hate this because I have no idea what happened. And it doesn't help that my mind always goes to the worst outcome e.g. she just wants to stop talking to me forever, even though the day before yesterday we talked for like an hour and had a good time with laughs and stuff and talked about our relationship, and how I respect her bounds if she wants to take it slow, and how we are both happy with this. I wish she would just say something.[/QUOTE] Your thoughts will cause you a lot of problems. Chances are she's caught up in her own shit and just doesn't have time to get back to you, but she will. Regardless of what happens, you have zero control of the situation. Best thing you can do is take a deep breath, let it go, and forget about it. When she replies, you'll feel great having not stressed yourself during that window of no communication. I used to get nervous when my exes would go out with their girls or hit the bars on their own. I knew I wasn't going to get any replies while they were out having fun, so I got over it. Made it much easier to sleep at night knowing that people are going to do what they're going to do regardless of how I feel about it, and just live life. Never had any negative consequences from this outlook and I maintain it to this day. Plus you get brownie points from your woman when she realizes that you trust her unconditionally.

Thanks all of you. Yeah I didn't blow it yet, all I asked was "Hey loser. Everything alright?" and I haven't texted since then. I don't know what she's going through, but I plan on giving her space and trusting her. Our last exchange was [quote] (Her) "Also I am really into you, but I don't think I'm babe yet (after me calling her babe). I really do think we should both slow down a whole lot". (Me) "Yeah! Definitely, I agree. We shouldn't rush into stuff and I'm guilty of that but I totally agree we should just let this evolve naturally and not force anything" (Her) "No I'm totally guilty of it too! Just looking back and thinking about everything it seems better if we do take it slower." (Me) "You're right. Glad we both agree on this, because I want to start things off right with you, you know?"[/quote] Then she stopped. So I guess there's nothing I should actually be worrying about, because I totally agreed with her on stuff, and she seemed like she still wanted to pursue this. My mind is just immediately shifting to the worst, and I hate it, but I also know if I pester her I'll just make things worse.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49631793]Thanks all of you. Yeah I didn't blow it yet, all I asked was "Hey loser. Everything alright?" and I haven't texted since then. I don't know what she's going through, but I plan on giving her space and trusting her. Our last exchange was Then she stopped. So I guess there's nothing I should actually be worrying about, because I totally agreed with her on stuff, and she seemed like she still wanted to pursue this. My mind is just immediately shifting to the worst, and I hate it, but I also know if I pester her I'll just make things worse.[/QUOTE] Just let it go, and don't evaluate your conversation. I wouldn't give it any thought at all. When she replies, you'll be happy, and if she doesn't reply, you can shrug it off and go on about your shit. Letting your thoughts nag and poke and give you anxiety will blow your chances.

[QUOTE=Aetna;49631817]Just let it go, and don't evaluate your conversation. I wouldn't give it any thought at all. When she replies, you'll be happy, and if she doesn't reply, you can shrug it off and go on about your shit. Letting your thoughts nag and poke and give you anxiety will blow your chances.[/QUOTE] Oh I've already got passed the anxiety part. I actually had a huge meltdown yesterday about it (by myself, didn't get anyone else involved, didn't make any texts I regret). It's just that we've been so close lately, and we've been on a few dates and watched a few movies and a few nights ago we were laying in bed together and she just hugged me really hard and cried into my chest, because of a lot of things that are too personal to talk about, but it's not about us. So I felt good because I knew I was someone she could come to for comfort for really personal stuff like that, and it was something special. And we've both told eacahother really personal things and have had really initimate and physical experiences with one another. So I'd just be pretty heartbroken if something like this is just left open ended with no closure. But that's worst case and probably won't happen.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49631846]Oh I've already got passed the anxiety part. I actually had a huge meltdown yesterday about it (by myself, didn't get anyone else involved, didn't make any texts I regret). It's just that we've been so close lately, and we've been on a few dates and watched a few movies and a few nights ago we were laying in bed together and she just hugged me really hard and cried into my chest, because of a lot of things that are too personal to talk about, but it's not about us. So I felt good because I knew I was someone she could come to for comfort for really personal stuff like that, and it was something special. And we've both told eacahother really personal things and have had really initimate and physical experiences with one another. So I'd just be pretty heartbroken if something like this is just left open ended with no closure. But that's worst case and probably won't happen.[/QUOTE] Sounds like she's dealing with a lot of shit right now. And it's really miserable when you connect with someone and then they drop off the face of the earth or lose interest, but it can happen. I doubt that's the case here, you've obviously laid a foundation for whatever you want to call your relationship, but it's much better to just let it go and let things happen on their own for now. It'll turn out alright buddy, just gotta tread water til then.

I went along to the housing association here to check where I stood with my application with them, they told me my old joint application with my first gf had been cancelled in april last year (I hadn't bothered checking up on that for a while) I'm surprised she actually went and cancelled it to be honest, but at least now I can apply for renting a house again, I really want to move out of my parents house. granted I'd probably be shit at living on my own since I'm a lazy bastard and I can't be bothered with cleaning and I can't cook worth a shit but it'd be good to actually have the opportunity