Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=Starce;49670538]So, one of the most fucked up things involving a woman happened to me the other day. My girlfriend and I, practically lived together. Loved being together, everything was great, completely an awesome relationship and I've never had anything like it. Seemed like the right person. Going to work one day, I work 24's, so I'm not around when I'm working obviously. Before I head to work, she comes and sees me, we hangout, no big deal. She tells me she loves me and leaves. 30 minutes later I get a snapchat from her and it's her getting fucked by her ex-boyfriend. I can't get that image out of my head and it's been like a week now. Obviously I halted all communication and ended it right there, but man it's fucking rough. I haven't had it this bad in my life. Sorry to mope on you guys, I just needed to vent that shit out, that's fucking rough on me. 30 minute difference between I love you and a kiss, and fucking your ex. Crazy man. Not sure what I did wrong. Honestly couldn't see myself dating for a very long time. And what's even more fucked up, I wasn't a dick or anything. I gave her everything. Random presents, bought her dinner at least 3 times a week, bought her anything she could've ever needed, took her wherever she wanted, helped her with anything..it's just a shame. And her ex abused the shit out of her. What's the point? It's just a shame man. I care about her. I don't want to see her get hurt by him physically or emotionally again. But..I can't get the images out of my head. It constantly gets me. Just that heart drop feeling, every time I think about her. It's fucked up, man. Fucked up.[/QUOTE] I sort of knew a guy this happened to, not exactly but close. Dated one girl for years and she purposefully let him caught her cheating with another guy, then a few years later marries a girl and has 3 kids in 3 years with her, then she does the same thing. Shot himself soon after that. Absorb yourself in your work, thats all I can recommend. [editline]5th February 2016[/editline] Stopped by a jewelry store today and bought my girlfriend a necklace on accident. Going to give it to her this weekend since I may not be able to see her on Valentines day.

[QUOTE=loopoo;49672309]If that happened to me, I'd be devastated and probably get lifelong trust issues. I'm super grateful my first real relationship where I actually fell deeply in love was with a really sympathetic, caring and nurturing person who always tried her hardest to help me grow as a person and bring the best out in myself. Reading what that guy wrote tore at my heartstrings, I can't imagine how awful it must have felt, especially coming out of the blue like that. You think she was secretly feeling unwanted cause you were working 24 hour shifts? Damn...[/QUOTE] I went to work feeling like a piece of shit. But if I wasn't there doing what I love I would've been doing something stupid. The day I got off I bought some beer and got trashed, texted her, realized I fucked up and ignored her. Last night she texted me like nothing ever happened with just a simple "whats up". What's up? Bitch fuck off. I have never been in a relationship and not been cheated on. I don't know if it's me or what but I worship the ground my girls walk on. It's just wild man. Im getting over it little by little but I seriously couldn't see myself loving again simply for the fact that I'd be so scared to.

3 serious ones. One for 2 years and one for 3. To top it off, the valentine's day presents all came today. Shitty week man. A lot more happened on top of that but this obviously was the worst. I'm not suicidal or anything, I have my job and my guitar to fix my problems. Basically the moral to this story fellas, no matter what happens in your life, no matter how shitty it gets, it's worth it. Live it. Do it. Get off your ass and make it happen. Don't ever let a woman break you forever. It's not worth it. It's silly. Life is short, live it, learn from it, and enjoy it. Don't ever think you're not enough for this world because of a woman. For about 2 days I felt like the loneliest human being on the planet, constantly drunk. And then I realized it's out of my control. Everything happens for a reason. I'm glad I am where I am today and no woman is going to change that. Keep your head up fellas going through the same shit. I know there's people on here going through bad shit like I am, just keep going. Don't give up. Do what makes you happy. Live. Thanks guys. This community never ceases to amaze me. I'm glad I'm on here, even if I don't post alot.

That seriously sucks. People like that must really be empty inside or something. [QUOTE=Starce;49675294]I don't know if it's me or what but I worship the ground my girls walk on.[/QUOTE] You didn't mean it literally but as a general statement to future posters I reckon it's a thousand times better to treat others more like equals. I've had like 1-2 girls [i]worship[/i] me in the past and it's a massive turn off and I just end up thinking less of them. Personal taste as well though I guess.

[QUOTE=MuTAnT;49675582]That seriously sucks. People like that must really be empty inside or something. You didn't mean it literally but as a general statement to future posters I reckon it's a thousand times better to treat others more like equals. I've had like 1-2 girls [i]worship[/i] me in the past and it's a massive turn off and I just end up thinking less of them. Personal taste as well though I guess.[/QUOTE] What I meant tbh was more so random gifts, telling her she's beautiful, cute little texts, saying cute things, etc. Just generally being a gentleman. I wouldn't say obsession over her more so just being a really nice guy.

[QUOTE=MuTAnT;49675582]That seriously sucks. People like that must really be empty inside or something. You didn't mean it literally but as a general statement to future posters I reckon it's a thousand times better to treat others more like equals. I've had like 1-2 girls [i]worship[/i] me in the past and it's a massive turn off and I just end up thinking less of them. Personal taste as well though I guess.[/QUOTE] comes down to personal preference. I tend to treat my girlfriends like they're princesses and spoil the shit out of them. Roses or flowers once a week, dinner few times a week, stupid presents, lovey-dovey inside joke bullshit, ect. Issue is my past girlfriends took advantage of that stuff.

[QUOTE=Starce;49675630]What I meant tbh was more so random gifts, telling her she's beautiful, cute little texts, saying cute things, etc. Just generally being a gentleman. I wouldn't say obsession over her more so just being a really nice guy.[/QUOTE] Yeah there's nothing wrong with that.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49675946]I just treat my girlfriend like an equal. I think that's all most people want. If I was sweet and romantic and gift giving all the time, they'd lose their effect. (And I'd run out of material) The most I've done recently is leave some candy in her car for her to find after work. So simple, and she loved it. It's all about the meaning behind the gesture![/QUOTE] That's just not me man. To each their own. I just want to make that person feel special not only on one little day of the year but every time they wake up in the morning. Happy wife happy life.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49675946]I just treat my girlfriend like an equal. I think that's all most people want. If I was sweet and romantic and gift giving all the time, they'd lose their effect. (And I'd run out of material) The most I've done recently is leave some candy in her car for her to find after work. So simple, and she loved it. It's all about the meaning behind the gesture![/QUOTE] To me, treating my girlfriend like shes an equal just feels like shes just a friend I can shove my wiener in sometimes. Spoiling your gf isn't just about gifts and dinners and what not.

[QUOTE=Starce;49676730]That's just not me man. To each their own. I just want to make that person feel special not only on one little day of the year but every time they wake up in the morning. Happy wife happy life.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49677363]To me, treating my girlfriend like shes an equal just feels like shes just a friend I can shove my wiener in sometimes. Spoiling your gf isn't just about gifts and dinners and what not.[/QUOTE] And treating her like an equal isnt just treating her like a friend you can shove your wiener in sometimes...that doesn't make much sense tbh Look I think the problem with this attitude is that perhaps both of you think that treating your girlfriend like a princess and giving her special attention, gifts etc is its own reward in itself, but she doesn't see it that way - from what I've experienced people who tend to have this attitude tend to neglect their own needs in relationships and will preference their partners needs over their own, which leads to these situations. You can still treat someone like an equal and make them feel special. Its about setting reasonable expectations in your relationship that you will be treated in a fair and respectful way considering the work you put in to make her feel special

I spoil the shit out of my GF, but she spoils the shit outta me too. Is that equality? Hell if I know. Can't wait to fire the nugget. She's so fucking excited its killing me. She wants to learn how to clean it, strip it, she wants the historically accurate scope and scope mount, I'm so happy for her.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49677436]You can connect to someone emotionally and romantically while still treating them as an equal[/QUOTE] Never said that wasnt possible, just said that as an opinion from personal experience. [editline]6th February 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=killerteacup;49677451]And treating her like an equal isnt just treating her like a friend you can shove your wiener in sometimes...that doesn't make much sense tbh Look I think the problem with this attitude is that perhaps both of you think that treating your girlfriend like a princess and giving her special attention, gifts etc is its own reward in itself, but she doesn't see it that way - from what I've experienced people who tend to have this attitude tend to neglect their own needs in relationships and will preference their partners needs over their own, which leads to these situations. You can still treat someone like an equal and make them feel special. Its about setting reasonable expectations in your relationship that you will be treated in a fair and respectful way considering the work you put in to make her feel special[/QUOTE] I dont doubt your reasoning at all, but from my personal experience, Ive enjoyed relationships where I was selfless towards my partner, rather than being an equal. With that said, I tend to be an extremely cold and stoic person, so in a relationship I need someone that I can throw all my affection and love into, which is why I tend to spoil my SO's. If my SO can reciprocate that, then awesome, if not, thats fine too.

[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;49679458]I spoil the shit out of my GF, but she spoils the shit outta me too. Is that equality? Hell if I know. Can't wait to fire the nugget. She's so fucking excited its killing me. She wants to learn how to clean it, strip it, she wants the historically accurate scope and scope mount, I'm so happy for her.[/QUOTE] euch, good luck drilling and tapping it for the historic scope. Happy for you though, sounds like a fun girl.

In retrospect, starting a relationship two weeks before Valentines Day was a bad idea because now I'm in a really awkward position where some big gesture would just be weird but I do have to acknowledge that it's Valentines Day because we're dating. Shit.

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;49687487]In retrospect, starting a relationship two weeks before Valentines Day was a bad idea because now I'm in a really awkward position where some big gesture would just be weird but I do have to acknowledge that it's Valentines Day because we're dating. Shit.[/QUOTE] You have to do what you want to do Really, you may think "oh that's so edgy from you" or "What a little punk twat" But as soon as you realize that "I don't really want to send anything for valentines day because I didnt think it's worth it" and nobody should make you go against, it's awesome. "Why didnt you send me a box full of chocolates?" "Because I feel like it's not the stage to do that" "Ahh but bla bla bla" "*0 fucks given*" If she or he stars flinging shit. Well that's nice, you've saved yourself a lot time because no sane person would lose their shit over that when you've been in a relationship for only 2 weeks.

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;49687487]In retrospect, starting a relationship two weeks before Valentines Day was a bad idea because now I'm in a really awkward position where some big gesture would just be weird but I do have to acknowledge that it's Valentines Day because we're dating. Shit.[/QUOTE] personally I wouldn't do anything big with Valentine's Day if I'd only been dating her for two weeks. Just take her out for dinner or something, low-key. Only gift I'd buy her is just a card, but then I'd probably skip on that cause it'd be pretty hard wording it without it seeming strange (what do you write to someone you've just started dating for two weeks, unless you've been close friends for a bit before that which would make it easier). just make a cute day of it, if the weather's nice, picnic at the park, or go out for dinner, or movie date if that's something she'd like.

so basically just treat it like any other date. gotcha. we had a really nice one yesterday, we went to a nice cafe on the beach for brunch and then walked around on the beach for an hour or two and then went to the aquarium and then went up to a nice hill overlook to watch the sun set and then got dinner and then watched an improv show thing. it was great. I kind of just want to do that again but I feel like variety is good.

She was supposed to come over for the night. I cleaned my room and made my bed, took a shower, put my hair and my face. But she never came, said she overslept. So she's coming over today, and I don't feel like seeing her now.

[QUOTE=Rainboo;49649295]got a horror story to share with you guys valentines is on the fourteenth, gf's bday is on april, and our anniversary is on the month after rest in peace wallet you've been good to me[/QUOTE] My GFs birthday is January 30th so the after christmas "I HAVE NO MONEY EVEN IN JANUARY AND I MUST SCREAM" is even worse. Though its for the greater good in the end and all that.

don't any of you lot have a relationship where you can talk to your SO about any money worries you have? hell, my ex and I would decide some years not to make a big deal out of Valentine's Day / Birthdays. You can still have a really fantastic day and make a memorable birthday without having to break the bank. My girlfriend promised she wouldn't buy me anything for my birthday (cause I asked her not to), except a card. She ended up running round the school the week before my birthday asking everyone (like 50 friends of mine) to all surprise me during the lunch break. That meant way more to me than if she'd just thoughtlessly bought me something fancy and expensive. after that, we just spent the evening after school walking around the city, talking, just enjoying each other's company.

Hey, first time posting in this thread and I'm very sorry about this looong post. So this summer I started a new class where I met this beautiful and awesome girl. We began to talk a lot in class and after class. We always sat right next to each other, and also started texting a lot. Our "relationship" went a bit slow even though I think we both knew that we liked each other, but probably mostly because she were really busy (work, school, social life & other courses) and I suck to ask somebody out. But after 3-4 months we went out drinking and ended up doing nothing but kiss all night and I ended up sleeping at her place. Everything went just perfect, we began to see each other a lot more, and it really started to feel like a relationship. At first I was a bit afraid to show my feelings for her in public (classmates, mutual friends and stuff) because I didn't know if she just wanted it to be a private flirt. But she were the one starting to act like this really were a relationship. She'd lay her head on my shoulder, we'd hold hands and basically just do "relationship-stuff" infront of hers and my friends. She'd usually invite me to come over or take her to some event, but suddenly just one week I could totally feel that something definitely were wrong. She started to almost rush away after our class together where we always used to talk a lot after that, and she didn't even tell me where she was going. So to me it felt like she were fleeing from me. She also texted to me less and she began to be really slow to reply. This happened this week and last week was awesome and with no trouble. So this friday after drinking a couple of beers after school, she asked me how I felt about her and if I could see us in a serious relationship. I said I liked her a lot, and that I could see us in a serious relationship. Apparently she doesn't feel the same.. She said see weren't looking for anything serious in her life right now, but we could still see each other either as friends or "casual lovers" (I suppose) if I could keep my feelings away. Shit this is getting too long... Basically, she doesn't want a serious relationship. We can still be friends or have a casual relationship, but I think my feelings for her is too strong and that it'd very likely end up with me getting really hurt. She is still waiting for my answer, and I've no idea what to do. I maybe feel like if we just start out with a casual relationship, it might end up getting serious? But I know, it's probably mostly just wishful thinking. Also I'd go to the same class with her everyday, and might also have to do a exam group with her. So it'd be great if we'd be able to atleast be friends, but even that I don't think is possible for me. Either it's all in or nothing. Sorry for the long post, I just felt like I needed to let go of something.

[QUOTE=loopoo;49689496]don't any of you lot have a relationship where you can talk to your SO about any money worries you have? hell, my ex and I would decide some years not to make a big deal out of Valentine's Day / Birthdays. You can still have a really fantastic day and make a memorable birthday without having to break the bank. My girlfriend promised she wouldn't buy me anything for my birthday (cause I asked her not to), except a card. She ended up running round the school the week before my birthday asking everyone (like 50 friends of mine) to all surprise me during the lunch break. That meant way more to me than if she'd just thoughtlessly bought me something fancy and expensive. after that, we just spent the evening after school walking around the city, talking, just enjoying each other's company.[/QUOTE] My gf is like that. I just like making gifts to peolle in general since I make more per month than I need to feed myself and stuff.

I just got my boyf some amiibos for Valentine's Day, but he's always been understanding of the fact that I can't always afford stuff and if he told me that he was short on cash, I'd understand too. Idk spoiling your SO is nice and all but it's not mandatory. More importantly, you should be able to show them you care without relying so much on buying presents. And you should be able to be honest if you don't have the money for something tangible. Be open. It probably won't hurt.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49677436]You can connect to someone emotionally and romantically while still treating them as an equal[/QUOTE] The girl I'm dating now was an intern at my workplace. I treated her like she was one of the doucheb- dudes working there and I guess she liked it. She asked me out all of a sudden. We've been seeing each other whenever we can (she lives 35km away from me) and it's been going really well, even though I still treat her the same way. With some stuff added, of course. And she's really beautiful too, we were out partying and every single time I went to get her and me a drink some guy swooped in and started instantly hitting on her and I had to shoo them away. I guess my personality is the thing she likes most, you can refer to my latest post in Pictures of Yourself for further proof of this theory. :v:

you look like a totally normal dude though? I was expecting something grotesque [video=youtube;8tJoIaXZ0rw]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tJoIaXZ0rw[/video] this scene is funny because it's so true.

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;49687487]In retrospect, starting a relationship two weeks before Valentines Day was a bad idea because now I'm in a really awkward position where some big gesture would just be weird but I do have to acknowledge that it's Valentines Day because we're dating. Shit.[/QUOTE] Walmart sells a dozen roses for $9.99. Literally the best, easiest, and most simple gift you can buy a woman. Last week I bought my gf flowers because I might not be able to see her on valentines day and I wouldn't be able to have them shipped to her on V day. Bought 2 dozen assorted roses from pro-flowers and when they got to her a few days ago, they were already dead and wilted. Never ordering from them again, every time I do I always get dead flowers or dying flowers.

Guys I fucked up. I lied to the girl I'm talking to. Yes, that same girl I was freaking out about. I hung out with a few friends tonight, one of them was a girl (C) her and I both know. It was also a girl that I had feelings for before I met this current girl. I've told her all of this. But I didn't tell her how I also hung out with C tonight. And she knew I did because my friend posted a snapchat story with C in it. So she called me tonight, and asked me what I did today and all that jazz. I told her I hung out with friends, but didn't tell her that C was there too. I instantly regretted leaving C out of the conversation. Anyways, a few minutes later, I bring C up in conversation and how I used to like her but then totally didn't want to be with her because reasons and basically started shittalking her. So then a few minutes later I say I saw her tonight while my friends and I were hanging out (trying to reverse my lie(???)) and then said we had fun. Then she called me out saying "You don't have to do that, you were shittalking her a few minutes ago then you said you had fun with her, you were kinda trying to manipulate me" and then I immediately owned up to it. And told her yeah that was a stupid thing to do. Then she told me she knew I was hanging out with C too the whole time. I immediately confessed that I did lie to her and instantly regret it. Basically 20 minutes pass by of: Me: "I did lie. And that was a terrible thing of me. And you totally have a reason to not trust me. I'm sorry. I feel like shit." Her: "You're right. I mean it's not a good thing. I guess I don't have anything else to say. You lied to me." Back and forth. I told her how stupid I feel and how this is completely my fault and how I regret it. I told her that I'm serious about this and feel terrible, but I do care about her and about us. And want this to keep going. I want her to have faith in me that I won't lie again (this was the first time I've ever lied to her, instant regret and terrible feelings). But I know she has no reason to believe I won't lie again. Fuck me. I want to cry. Why do I FUCK EVERYTHING UP. I had something SO GOOD going for myself and BAM one FUCKING mistake. There it is! Good job Nick! You did it again you stupid son of a bitch! STUPID [editline]7th February 2016[/editline] I'm so angry at myself. WHY DID I DO THAT. Oh my FUCKING GOD I HAD NO REASON. I HATE MYSELF

I got dumped on Wednesday by my first real girlfriend, and wow lol. I feel like I've been living in a bad dream for the past few days, and I'm so busy I feel like I barely have time to be upset. I'm in school all day M-F and then I spend Sundays working 12 hours a day in what boils down to a customer-service position, so it's been all fake smiles and chit-chat for the past few days since the breakup. It feels like I'm on autopilot. Tell me it gets better yall ;__;

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49695874]Guys I fucked up. I lied to the girl I'm talking to. Yes, that same girl I was freaking out about. I hung out with a few friends tonight, one of them was a girl (C) her and I both know. It was also a girl that I had feelings for before I met this current girl. I've told her all of this. But I didn't tell her how I also hung out with C tonight. And she knew I did because my friend posted a snapchat story with C in it. So she called me tonight, and asked me what I did today and all that jazz. I told her I hung out with friends, but didn't tell her that C was there too. I instantly regretted leaving C out of the conversation. Anyways, a few minutes later, I bring C up in conversation and how I used to like her but then totally didn't want to be with her because reasons and basically started shittalking her. So then a few minutes later I say I saw her tonight while my friends and I were hanging out (trying to reverse my lie(???)) and then said we had fun. Then she called me out saying "You don't have to do that, you were shittalking her a few minutes ago then you said you had fun with her, you were kinda trying to manipulate me" and then I immediately owned up to it. And told her yeah that was a stupid thing to do. Then she told me she knew I was hanging out with C too the whole time. I immediately confessed that I did lie to her and instantly regret it. Basically 20 minutes pass by of: Me: "I did lie. And that was a terrible thing of me. And you totally have a reason to not trust me. I'm sorry. I feel like shit." Her: "You're right. I mean it's not a good thing. I guess I don't have anything else to say. You lied to me." Back and forth. I told her how stupid I feel and how this is completely my fault and how I regret it. I told her that I'm serious about this and feel terrible, but I do care about her and about us. And want this to keep going. I want her to have faith in me that I won't lie again (this was the first time I've ever lied to her, instant regret and terrible feelings). But I know she has no reason to believe I won't lie again. Fuck me. I want to cry. Why do I FUCK EVERYTHING UP. I had something SO GOOD going for myself and BAM one FUCKING mistake. There it is! Good job Nick! You did it again you stupid son of a bitch! STUPID [editline]7th February 2016[/editline] I'm so angry at myself. WHY DID I DO THAT. Oh my FUCKING GOD I HAD NO REASON. I HATE MYSELF[/QUOTE] you need to take a breath mate

Hey long time guys. So as of Friday my gf decided she wants to be on her own, it's been a real rough weekend but I've sorted myself out. Currently she's decided that we are no longer going to meet again and to not even discuss things. So fast forward to last night and I sent her a message saying "okay I'm going to give you a few days alone and not bother you but I'd really appreciate if you took that time and considered how we could continue our relationship". It went down well and it seems like she's going to be open to this idea. So as of now with a clear mind I've accepted that we just might not be together and that's something I might have to deal with. However if this is it then I don't want us to end on such a disastrous note, I just want to sit down with her, even if it doesn't end up with us together, and just have some discussion so that we can properly be at peace. So can I get advice on if I should wait to message her Friday before valentines or give her two weeks etc. What can i do to just open up a dialogue? Thanks.