Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

Can't watch porn anymore after seeing Hot Girls Wanted and reading about the porn industry. [editline]11th February 2016[/editline] But to answer your question, I usually just watched lesbian porn in the past because of that.

I only enjoy amateur porn honestly. It's just more real to me because most of the time it's just a couple doing their thing and it's not right up in a girl's cooch or right up behind a guy's ball sack.

[QUOTE=Pascall;49723428]amateur porn[/QUOTE] Should seriously watch Hot Girls Wanted.

I'll check it out. I've always been pretty wary of anything I watch - that being said, I don't watch porn very frequently - to make sure that nothing about it seems skeevy. I mean I know it's not always obvious but idk. It's hard to see what's okay and what's not.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49724623]Should seriously watch Hot Girls Wanted.[/QUOTE] Could you tell us a little about that for those that can't watch a 84 minute documentary about porn?

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;49727546]Could you tell us a little about that for those that can't watch a 84 minute documentary about porn?[/QUOTE] Shows the really shitty behind-the-scenes shit of the amateur porn industry.

Sure feels nice to break up a non-working relationship.

[QUOTE=Cosa8888;49727546]Could you tell us a little about that for those that can't watch a 84 minute documentary about porn?[/QUOTE] It's a movie that victimizes adult women who willingly gets into porn to make lots of money and then regrets getting into porn. The only person I felt sorry for was the boyfriend of one of the porn stars who tries to be happy for her and rationalize that his girlfriend bangs other people but you can see that he hates it.

One of the issues the movie addresses is how the rising demand for amateur porn has led to most porn stars having a shelf life of a few months at most. Word inevitably gets around about your career choices when you become an actress in porn, but since most directors are specifically for amateurs, most actresses are forced to find a new career pretty quickly. The movie also doesn't discuss the high rates of sexual violence that take place within the industry.

I mean idk. I feel like some of it is truly amateur and maybe some of it isn't but it's like how do you tell

I'd never thought i'd ever see myself doing this .. you know just spilling some embarrassing info about myself but fuck it. I need help. I'm 20 years old, never had a girlfriend, virgin, kissless. I don't know if I should be worried about getting a girlfriend or just ignore it for now entirely and worry about improving myself? I have BAD social anxiety, don't have a lot of stuff outside I like to do other than going for walks, going out for drives, shooting. I'm so conflicted about this. So basically, bad social anxiety, not much I like to do outside, conversation skills are trash, no exp. in dating or how it works, out of shape, fap to porn a lot.

Being in a relationship isn't on a time constraint. It happens when it happens and paying more attention to your own development is important, especially if you want to improve yourself and cross some milestones of your own before trying to provide for another person.

Just speaking anecdotally, but when you're dating, people generally will ask you about your job/what you do for fun but will not ask about your past relationship experiences. [editline]13th February 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Episode;49731540]So basically, bad social anxiety, not much I like to do outside, conversation skills are trash, no exp. in dating or how it works, out of shape, fap to porn a lot.[/QUOTE] Social anxiety is a vicious cycle. You get anxious about social interactions because you haven't had a lot of them, so you avoid them and end up reinforcing that fear by doing so. The way our society is structured and our reliance on the internet makes it so easy to feed that habit. It's hard at first, but exposure is the most common solution to get over anxieties or phobias. Don't focus specifically on finding a partner. Focus on associating with others and pushing the boundaries of your comfort zone.

[QUOTE=Episode;49731540]I'd never thought i'd ever see myself doing this .. you know just spilling some embarrassing info about myself but fuck it. I need help. I'm 20 years old, never had a girlfriend, virgin, kissless. I don't know if I should be worried about getting a girlfriend or just ignore it for now entirely and worry about improving myself? I have BAD social anxiety, don't have a lot of stuff outside I like to do other than going for walks, going out for drives, shooting. I'm so conflicted about this. So basically, bad social anxiety, not much I like to do outside, conversation skills are trash, no exp. in dating or how it works, out of shape, fap to porn a lot.[/QUOTE] My basic advice, as always, would be to yourself up to a point where you're comfortable with yourself before you worry too much about getting into a relationship. Not feeling well with yourself can strain the relationship, and any problems that might arise from being in a relationship (There will be some. Even great relationships have their share of problems now and then, if only minor) will pile up on top of the issues you already feel with yourself. That being said, don't ignore it completely, I just don't suggest you go out of your way and actively seeking it, that just tends to highlight a need that might actually don't be there. If something nice plops in your lap, go for it if possible. I was pretty much in the same situation when I was 20, you're not out of the ordinary or 'behind' or anything.

I thought tinder was a dating/hookup app, why are there so many girls with boyfriends/looking for friends/lesbians showing up? [editline]15th February 2016[/editline] Oh my gender on facebook is female this explains everything [editline]15th February 2016[/editline] I need some new pictures, all i have is this one where i look like my eye is fucked and one where im all sweaty at a wolfmother show. Profile is looking good :ok: [T]http://i.imgur.com/jdR3C5K.jpg[/t]

I'm still with the same girl as last month, we feel really happy together. Last week I brought her to Toulouse to meet my parents and see the city, she really enjoyed that. Also saw each other this weekend, slept together on Friday and Saturday night, really enjoyable as well. We saw a movie in bed and worked out together at the gym. There's a little issue though. Sexually we enjoy each other so far, aside from making out I think I'm getting more and more skilled with my fingers and she gives some good handjobs while we're in the shower together. But on Friday night we got aroused enough to consider doing it, tried to put a condom on, turns out it was too small... No biggie, we resume cuddling and stuff. The next day we buy some bigger ones and they fit when I try them on in the afternoon. Saturday night we're going at it again and I put it on, but while I was hard during making out as well as during grinding and dry humping, the minute I get it out and put the condom on it deflates... I'm really embarrassed, can't get it up and can't put my finger on why. She tries to reassure me by saying it happens to everybody, but this really worries me... We tried again the morning after, same thing happens except it lasts maybe a little longer, she doesn't notice me getting softer though and starts to panic once I get closer to her. Turns out even though she really wants to do it, she's really worried about it being painful since it's her first time (and also because I'm bigger than average apparently). I'm kind of a mess right now, the first point is the one that worries me the most, maybe I'm sick, should I go see a doctor? As for the second one, I don't really know how to reassure her...

I don't think you're sick. Could just be that because you're making the act of putting a condom on it as something more.. sterile than it needs to be. Have you tried having her help put it on? It might keep the mood going rather than effectively killing it by being like "WAIT HOLD ON let me put this on". Some people find when they ask their partner to help, it could be even sexier. Also her fear of you being too big is a normal one. It may be a little uncomfortable, at first, but it shouldn't outright HURT unless she's not aroused enough, in which case you'll have to keep the foreplay up until she is. Ease your way into it. Don't rush. If you REALLY wanna see a doctor, you can just in case, but I don't think you need to or anything.

[QUOTE=Pascall;49741462]I don't think you're sick. Could just be that because you're making the act of putting a condom on it as something more.. sterile than it needs to be. Have you tried having her help put it on? It might keep the mood going rather than effectively killing it by being like "WAIT HOLD ON let me put this on". Some people find when they ask their partner to help, it could be even sexier. Also her fear of you being too big is a normal one. It may be a little uncomfortable, at first, but it shouldn't outright HURT unless she's not aroused enough, in which case you'll have to keep the foreplay up until she is. Ease your way into it. Don't rush. If you REALLY wanna see a doctor, you can just in case, but I don't think you need to or anything.[/QUOTE] She did put one on, it ended up cracking while unrolling it for some reason... I guess it didn't really help the mood since contraception failing is another thing she's worried about. I hope it's because of her nails being too sharp and not the condoms being shit (they're Skyn, don't know how reputable they are)... Foreplay isn't an issue, I can bring her to orgasm using my fingers now so it's a good way of arousing her. Those two times she was the one asking me to make love to her, which is why she finds her fear very paradoxical. It really sounds like she sees a first time as being really painful, she asked some of her female friends about it and that's how they described it to her apparently, I don't know if it's accurate. Also she is terrified of needles, perhaps it's related somehow? As for my problem, I think it's a psychological one, I had no trouble maintaining an erection before but since last night I can't keep it up. I think it's because of me being nervous. That being said, I feel like I [I]am[/I] sick, since this afternoon I feel feverish and have swollen glands... I've been sick for two weeks straight already, I'm tired of this shitty weather.

Oh okay I see. Could be her nails. Could be the condom brand. Try out different ones and see what works the best for you? What might be good for one person might be bad for another, so do some experimenting. The foreplay is good. As long as she's ready, she should be able to take you without it being painful. Pain isn't supposed to be a staple for a first time. There may be some discomfort, tightness, or pressure, but it should never be outright pain, nor should there be bleeding. If a woman is experiencing pain her first time, it's either that she wasn't entirely ready (not enough foreplay/arousal/nerves) or that there's something else going on that might be keeping her from being penetrated without pain. Either way, it's not supposed to be normal. Ultimately, it could be the fact that you're sick might be killing things for you. Trying to keep it up while you're not feeling great is probably... difficult. Give it a few days and let yourself rest and recover before trying again. If you think it's a psychological problem, just take some time and talk it out with each other. See what you can do to make each other more comfortable and less nervous. Your first time doesn't have to be SUPER SERIOUS or anything. Just have fun and work towards keeping each other easy going. That usually results in a much better first time than when you're overthinking and trying to make sure everything's perfect. You might make a mistake or something might not go perfect, but that's okay. [editline]14th February 2016[/editline] Also has she looked into birth control/is she on it? That might help alleviate her condom-breaking fears, as well.

[QUOTE=Pascall;49741656]Also has she looked into birth control/is she on it? That might help alleviate her condom-breaking fears, as well.[/QUOTE] Yep, she's on the pill, that helps a lot I think.

I forgot about valentine's day when I said that I'm too busy for her to come over (I was still upset about last week), but I don't know if it matters anymore. We met at a LAN party over a year ago when I sat down with her to play Halo. I didn't really know how to date so we just kinda hung out playing video games, until we eventually had a pretty close movie night. Then I went to her Instagram where she called herself trans man, and kissed some guy in a new photo. So I forget about [I]her[/I] for a year, until she runs into me again at the Game Jam, and now wants to see me again. She's still really pretty.

spent valentines day watching young justice invasion with my nerd girlfriend, and then discussing how Bumblebee could fly up Guardians butthole to massage his prostate

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49717072]If she wants to stay in, your options are limited. The classic flowers and chocolate maybe?[/QUOTE] Did that. Tried to watch a horror movie together but one of her friends was kind enough to third wheel so it was hard to do anything with another person in the room

my day basically went opposite 180 of yours. started good but by the end of the night (now), everything went to shit and we're just not happy at all. i also find that ive been getting really PO'd at tiny things between us recently too. a lot of the time one off comment or anything will ruin the day or night for the both of us shit sucks

I got to spend Valentine's Day alone, wishing I was fucking dead! LOL (just like i predicted last week)

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49743303]This is the "blog about your life" thread right How did everyone else spend their Valentines?[/QUOTE] I killed a few monsters, got paid and bonded with Yennefer on a shipwreck.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49722984]Can't watch porn anymore after seeing Hot Girls Wanted and reading about the porn industry. [editline]11th February 2016[/editline] But to answer your question, I usually just watched lesbian porn in the past because of that.[/QUOTE] I feel ashamed but after watching that film I found a video with the chick with the glasses in it to bust one out too.

So...that was a weird end to the day. GF and I went out for most of the day then came back to my place and made tacos (she mostly did the work and i tried to not burn my own house down) and then we watched a movie on my couch and then things kind of got heated so i was like "hey this couch is not very comfortable but my bed's p sweet wink wink" and she was like "yeah let's do that" but once we got in my room she kind of quieted down and started shaking a bit and was just like "i'm kind of scared" and then we had a LONG conversation (bear in mind we had a conversation yesterday about like boundaries and consent and shit) but in the middle of that conversation she was just like "look i like you a lot and i really want to do this but ive always been really bad with physical contact, like i couldn't even hug people until my senior year of high school" and i told her that my priority is her being happy and comfortable and that i didn't wnat to push her into anything and i didnt think she was weird or broken or whatever etc etc (i'm a good person, i know) and she calmed down and then we ate some ice cream and i drove her back home but the thing that kind of stuck was that thing she said. I didn't really want to ask because I was scared of the answer and also she'll tell me whenever but to me that says either EXTREME anxiety or some kind of assault. And if it's the latter it happened...well, early, presumably. i didn't push the issue at all, obviously, but does that read that way to anyone else?

[QUOTE=E = MC Hammer;49745000]i didn't push the issue at all, obviously, but does that read that way to anyone else?[/QUOTE] It's possible but not necessarily the case. I mean I'm personally really iffy on physical boundaries just because I'm always really worried about pushing somebody too far. And in my case it's more a matter of worrying somebody will think poorly of me than anything to do with assault in my own past. But I also know a girl who was sexually abused in middle school and high school, and she's actually one of the most physically affectionate people I know. Like, always the first to initiate physical intimacy with others. So it's kind of up in the air. Everybody's situation is different, and everybody's going to deal with their problems, fears, and anxieties in different ways.

I took my girlfriend to tropfest and then contracted a virus and now im laid up in bed [editline]15th February 2016[/editline] I cannot stop sweating