Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49748960]She can post snapchats via wifi while not having cell service, IIRC. What messages have you sent her recently? Have you tried calling her? If you're so certain she's lost interest, just text her and ask if she's lost interest. If she has, ask for your hoodie back.[/QUOTE] Basically just asking her if she wanted to see a movie with me yesterday. I sent her a little snapchat thing asking her to be my valentine (in a sarcastic tone that we usually talk to eachother in) and she viewed it, no respone. I just tried calling her. No response. I already asked for my hoodie back. [editline]15th February 2016[/editline] The only thing asked her was "Last text, I promise. Can I come by before I go and get my hoodie back? It's my favorite hoodie. We need to talk too, loser." Can I salvage that and make it seem like I'm not worried?

You can salvage that by sending no further texts, I'd say.

[QUOTE=healthpoint;49749046]You can salvage that by sending no further texts, I'd say.[/QUOTE] I keep doing this! Why do I keep doing this! [editline]15th February 2016[/editline] Actually I can just say that I wanted it back because it's supposed to rain this week and I needed a rain hoodie since my umbrella broke (which it actually did). And I said we needed to talk just to fuck with her. I'll tell her that if she calls or texts back. This is fine. I need to calm down. I didn't ruin anything yet. I didn't send her any texts that didn't seem unsensible or anything. I'm promising myself to not send her any more texts or calls until she does so back. [editline]15th February 2016[/editline] I really just turned this negative into a positive. This can only go well. She'll fucking hate me for fucking with her like that. But hate me as in the way she hated me a few weeks ago. I feel so in control now. I feel good.

yea just quit talking to her till she responds. If by the time you're back from uni she hasn't responded, ask for your hoodie back again or ask for her to mail it to you. If she wants to break off your "relationship" by just pretending you don't exist, then she's not the sort of person you want to be in a relationship with anyways. To me it sounds like she was having a hard time deciding whether she wanted to be friends with you or date you. How far have you two actually gone?

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49749199]yea just quit talking to her till she responds. If by the time you're back from uni she hasn't responded, ask for your hoodie back again or ask for her to mail it to you. If she wants to break off your "relationship" by just pretending you don't exist, then she's not the sort of person you want to be in a relationship with anyways. To me it sounds like she was having a hard time deciding whether she wanted to be friends with you or date you. How far have you two actually gone?[/QUOTE] Exactly! I don't think she would be that kind of person to just pretend I don't exist seeing how she said how much she values communication, but if that turns out to be the case (I will wait [B]at least[/B] two weeks to assume this) then that's pretty hypocritical of her, and, like you said, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone like that anyways. Well, it's a long story. We've made out and had intense foreplay, I fingered her once but only as a tease and not to climax (very erotic though). We both agreed that we had to stop before things got heavier, as when we were doing all this we had only known eachother for a week or so, and said that we should slow it down a bit. We've seen a few movies in bed together and had lots of fun times.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49749422]You send too many texts[/QUOTE] I sent her one text yesterday asking if she wanted to see a movie. This morning I asked if she wanted to hang out before I left. Then I recently sent her that hoodie text. That doesn't seem overly obsessive but yeah I'll try to keep it down. I do this with everyone.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49749481]I sent her one text yesterday asking if she wanted to see a movie. This morning I asked if she wanted to hang out before I left. Then I recently sent her that hoodie text. That doesn't seem overly obsessive but yeah I'll try to keep it down. I do this with everyone.[/QUOTE] That's what? like 3 texts without her reply? You're allowed to send a maximum of like 2.

[QUOTE=MuTAnT;49749711]That's what? like 3 texts without her reply? You're allowed to send a maximum of like 2.[/QUOTE] sorry i broke the rules mr. man i won't do it again

It's a sacred rule man. I've broken it in the past too but it works better if you don't.

[QUOTE=MuTAnT;49749726]It's a sacred rule man. I've broken it in the past too but it works better if you don't.[/QUOTE] yeah i figured. it's usually a zero-tolerance thing too. thanks for the info! makes me feel better that other people have made mistakes and they're still here so i shouldn't worry.

I can usually send 12 texts to my girlfriend before I get a response and it's usually yes or no answers. Snapchats get instant replies though.

If my girlfriend responds after 2 texts I feel blessed. Though I sleep during the day so its just revenge for her

[QUOTE=maeZtro;49746802]It's like women can sense that you are in a relationship and immediately get 10X more attracted to you, when I was in my very brief relationship it felt like quality women were all over me but now I either get ignored or hit on by women who aren't relationship material.[/QUOTE] Perhaps it's a non-Italy thing because this shit's never happened here. I've never seen it happen

My girlfriend sometimes takes a day to respond and then it's a short novel that can usually be shortened to: "Sorry for taking so long! Yes!" if it's a question about meeting up or "Wow, delays galore! *random ramblings*" if it's something else. And sometimes she nukes me with texts when I'm working out and I feel like an ass when I can't insta-respond to everything. And I can totally relate to that "women sense you're not single"-thing. Every time I'm in a relationship other women seem attracted to me, chat me up, want to hang out, suddenly remember me from something. Like Tinder. It was pretty barren for me, then I start dating and get like 4 new matches and they all start a conversation with me. Like, goddamn. When I'm single, I'm a lonely loser who nobody even looks at.

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;49751413]Perhaps it's a non-Italy thing because this shit's never happened here. I've never seen it happen[/QUOTE] I have to go to Italy again someday then :v:

[QUOTE=SebiWarrior;49751413]Perhaps it's a non-Italy thing because this shit's never happened here. I've never seen it happen[/QUOTE] Man, I was back in my former hometown to hang out with old friends a while back, and fuckin' [I]everyone[/I] was hitting on me. Might have to do with being a semi-attractive 21-year old in a city where all males are either 18 or less; or 35 or more because there's nothing there for young adults; so both the cougars and the kiddies saw fresh meat. [editline]16th February 2016[/editline] Prooobably has something to do with confidence and how you act too, though. When you're in a relationship, you tend to just be happier with yourself and more confident; and your interactions with other people is less related to their gender 'cause you're not conscious about making yourself attractive to them, so you can and will act more natural in their company which in turn is attractive.

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49749199]yea just quit talking to her till she responds. If by the time you're back from uni she hasn't responded, ask for your hoodie back again or ask for her to mail it to you. If she wants to break off your "relationship" by just pretending you don't exist, then she's not the sort of person you want to be in a relationship with anyways. To me it sounds like she was having a hard time deciding whether she wanted to be friends with you or date you. How far have you two actually gone?[/QUOTE] Boy not texting or calling her to ask what the hell is up sure is hard. I'm pretty pissed that she would just go quiet on me like this with no explanation. She saw my snap yesterday asking if her data was fucked up and didn't respond, so I don't really know what to think. Fuck people

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49754220]Boy not texting or calling her to ask what the hell is up sure is hard. I'm pretty pissed that she would just go quiet on me like this with no explanation. She saw my snap yesterday asking if her data was fucked up and didn't respond, so I don't really know what to think. Fuck people[/QUOTE] Or she's smothered as fuck and really wants you to back off a bit. With respect dude, it sounds like you're spamming the shit outta her. I get that its your hoodie, but chill out.

[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;49754397]Or she's smothered as fuck and really wants you to back off a bit. With respect dude, it sounds like you're spamming the shit outta her. I get that its your hoodie, but chill out.[/QUOTE] I don't think I spammed the shit out of her, I mean I only sent her two texts yesterday, and one the day before. But I gotcha. I'll give her some space.

Alright guys heres the breakdown of what went wrong: I had an entire week (last sunday through yesterday) where I had crippling anxiety that led me to make mistakes, including smothering her and not respecting her as an independent person. I realize I made these mistakes, and they are borne from my inexperience with mature relationships. I know I've learned from these mistakes and still want to pursue a relationship with her. I'll try to tell her this next time she gets back to me (no exceptions, I won't send ANYTHING, no snaps, calls, or texts), and see what happens. What do you guys think?

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49754438]Alright guys heres the breakdown of what went wrong: I had an entire week (last sunday through yesterday) where I had crippling anxiety that led me to make mistakes, including smothering her and not respecting her as an independent person. I realize I made these mistakes, and they are borne from my inexperience with mature relationships. I know I've learned from these mistakes and still want to pursue a relationship with her. I'll try to tell her this next time she gets back to me (no exceptions, I won't send ANYTHING, no snaps, calls, or texts), and see what happens. What do you guys think?[/QUOTE] yeah so basically she's not talking to you. What does that tell you

[QUOTE=killerteacup;49755198]yeah so basically she's not talking to you. What does that tell you[/QUOTE] To be patient and wait until she gets back. If weeks pass and nothing happens, then I'll give up hope. But I don't think I completely blew it yet.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49754438]Alright guys heres the breakdown of what went wrong: I had an entire week (last sunday through yesterday) where I had crippling anxiety that led me to make mistakes, including smothering her and not respecting her as an independent person. I realize I made these mistakes, and they are borne from my inexperience with mature relationships. I know I've learned from these mistakes and still want to pursue a relationship with her. I'll try to tell her this next time she gets back to me (no exceptions, I won't send ANYTHING, no snaps, calls, or texts), and see what happens. What do you guys think?[/QUOTE] I don't understand how the concept of not contacting someone is difficult. We aren't beating around the bush with our advice here... You: What should I do? Us: Not contact her You: Shall I text her??? Us: No You: So I only sent her a few texts... What should I do? etc

[QUOTE=metallics;49755270]I don't understand how the concept of not contacting someone is difficult. We aren't beating around the bush with our advice here... You: What should I do? Us: Not contact her You: Shall I text her??? Us: No You: So I only sent her a few texts... What should I do? etc[/QUOTE] I wasn't arguing that (also I really haven't contacted her since I talked with you guys last night). When I asked "what do you guys think", I was just asking if my position is understandable / you can see where I'm coming from / you realize what happened and stuff.

[QUOTE=Riller;49752237]Man, I was back in my former hometown to hang out with old friends a while back, and fuckin' [I]everyone[/I] was hitting on me. Might have to do with being a semi-attractive 21-year old in a city where all males are either 18 or less; or 35 or more because there's nothing there for young adults; so both the cougars and the kiddies saw fresh meat. [editline]16th February 2016[/editline] Prooobably has something to do with confidence and how you act too, though. When you're in a relationship, you tend to just be happier with yourself and more confident; and your interactions with other people is less related to their gender 'cause you're not conscious about making yourself attractive to them, so you can and will act more natural in their company which in turn is attractive.[/QUOTE] it probably also helps to not have the reputation of an introvert and an asocial and actually back it up with cynicism and lack of self esteem

[QUOTE=killerteacup;49755198]yeah so basically she's not talking to you. What does that tell you[/QUOTE] That she is too nervous and in love to find the words (´･ω･`)

[QUOTE=Riller;49755496]That she is too nervous and in love to find the words (´･ω･`)[/QUOTE] Thank god I'm at least not this delusional. [editline]16th February 2016[/editline] Probably am though but whatever

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49755517]Thank god I'm at least not this delusional.[/QUOTE] Well, if you're lucky, you can get to spend over $8.000 for her skanky best friend to pretend to be in a relationship with you? :v:

[QUOTE=Riller;49755550]Well, if you're lucky, you can get to spend over $8.000 for her skanky best friend to pretend to be in a relationship with you? :v:[/QUOTE] The memories of reading this entire story are coming back. Oh god

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49755558]The memories of reading this entire story are coming back. Oh god[/QUOTE] Don't you worry, you're not nearly that bad. Rejoice in that fact. [editline]17th February 2016[/editline] Just remember, if she asks you not to call or email her ever again, it's because she wants to meet in person. (´･ω･`)