Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

why would you fax her

[QUOTE=Pascall;49772322]why would you fax her[/QUOTE] to send pictures of my ass of course [QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49772324]What all did you send her without a response?[/QUOTE] [IMG]http://i.imgur.com/ypbSzg4.png[/IMG] (Last text is because I usually leave Monday morning.) That + a short text asking for my hoodie back

I guess thats not too bad

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49772598]What about a snap chats[/QUOTE] On valentines day: 1) "hey loser." 2) "be my valentine." 3) "i still hate you though." And on monday: "Hey, is your data fucked again?" [editline]19th February 2016[/editline] Maybe a little much but nothing obsessive or creepy, IMO

maybe slow it down on the "I hate you" type stuff. Even if you obviously don't mean it, probably not something you should say to a girl you really want to date.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49772620]On valentines day: 1) "hey loser." 2) "be my valentine." 3) "i still hate you though." And on monday: "Hey, is your data fucked again?" [editline]19th February 2016[/editline] Maybe a little much but nothing obsessive or creepy, IMO[/QUOTE] Just a tip, youre obsessing over it right now, it's done dude.

[QUOTE=metallics;49772977]Just a tip, youre obsessing over it right now, it's done dude.[/QUOTE] I was just answering his question? [editline]19th February 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49772976]maybe slow it down on the "I hate you" type stuff. Even if you obviously don't mean it, probably not something you should say to a girl you really want to date.[/QUOTE] We both do that, from time to time. Was gonna stop when things were getting serious, as it's usually my way of trying to flirt.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49772980]I was just answering his question?[/QUOTE] I think he's referring more to the fact that you've been posting daily updates of "she still hasn't responded" "I'm definitely not contacting her anymore" "kinda hope she texts before tomorrow, but nothing so far" "still no answer from her" "I haven't sent any new messages since X and she still won't contact me" Nothing wrong with venting thoughts or feelings here of course, just telling you how it looks from here. [editline]19th February 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;49771296]wow i'm getting tinder matches round the clock now. i don't know how to juggle this many conversations with girls i want to sleep with so i'm just letting them sit there for now.[/QUOTE] pffff I've got 3 matches in the ~2 weeks I've been using it. One girl actually messaged me first yesterday and that was a lot of fun. Apparently she's a furry and a hentai enthusiast. I've never personally known a furry, so hey I guess it's a new experience?

Hope you like wolf tail buttplugs

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49772980]I was just answering his question? [editline]19th February 2016[/editline] We both do that, from time to time. Was gonna stop when things were getting serious, as it's usually my way of trying to flirt.[/QUOTE] Man, you really need to chill the fuck out. Everyone in this thread has said it dozens of times. Aren't you like 20 years old? Isn't that old enough to think before you act? You come off as ridiculously needy, clingy, to the point that it's probably really overbearing for her. Take a chill pill, or 6, and relax.

[QUOTE=Aetna;49774205]Man, you really need to chill the fuck out. Everyone in this thread has said it dozens of times. Aren't you like 20 years old? Isn't that old enough to think before you act? You come off as ridiculously needy, clingy, to the point that it's probably really overbearing for her. Take a chill pill, or 6, and relax.[/QUOTE] wait what did i do [editline]19th February 2016[/editline] like i did chill out i haven't sent her anything past those texts i showed you

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49774214]wait what did i do [editline]19th February 2016[/editline] like i did chill out i haven't sent her anything past those texts i showed you[/QUOTE] Didn't she block you all over social media, and then you continued to find other ways to contact her? I'm trying to piece together the whole story here.

[QUOTE=Aetna;49774232]Didn't she block you all over social media, and then you continued to find other ways to contact her? I'm trying to piece together the whole story here.[/QUOTE] no, i haven't contacted her in any way shape or form after those texts earlier in the thread. just this morning i noticed she blocked me on facebook and instagram. that's the whole story. i realized i might have been a little overbearing, and i learned from that to just chill out and that people need their space.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49774244]no, i haven't contacted her in any way shape or form after those texts earlier in the thread. just this morning i noticed she blocked me on facebook and instagram. that's the whole story. i realized i might have been a little overbearing, and i learned from that to just chill out and that people need their space.[/QUOTE] I honestly don't think you realize any of this. You're dismissing it and pretending you understood the issue, but you'll be doing this all over again in no time. People told you to chill out after almost every post you made, yet here we are.

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;49774593]I honestly don't think you realize any of this. You're dismissing it and pretending you understood the issue, but you'll be doing this all over again in no time. People told you to chill out after almost every post you made, yet here we are.[/QUOTE] why do you say that? i won't be doing this all over again. i'm not just going to continue making the same mistakes. it took took me a while to realize i had an actual problem with relationship anxiety, but now that i finally recognize that and am able to know when that happens, i'm much better at not acting on it. have some faith in me boyo if i come back here again with the same problem THEN you can blast the fuck out of me, but just wait to assume that i haven't learned

Yeah, nah. You did this three weeks ago too.

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;49774786]Yeah, nah. You did this three weeks ago too.[/QUOTE] No shit! And I didn't realize 1) I actually had a problem and that it wasn't a one time thing and 2) What the signals for my anxiety were so I could learn to stop them I didn't learn instantly, sorry! If people were as real to me back then as they are now I probably would've realized it then. [editline]19th February 2016[/editline] What I'm saying is that it took the combined experiences of all this fuck-upery to learn from it.

Dude no seriously. It's easy to say it's all fixed but you [I]really[/I] need to take issues like these seriously.

[QUOTE=NixNax123;49774807]No shit! And I didn't realize 1) I actually had a problem and that it wasn't a one time thing and 2) What the signals for my anxiety were so I could learn to stop them I didn't learn instantly, sorry! If people were as real to me back then as they are now I probably would've realized it then. [editline]19th February 2016[/editline] What I'm saying is that it took the combined experiences of all this fuck-upery to learn from it.[/QUOTE] Please listen to Oscar Lima Echo. Realization is the first step and it's a baby step, you're not totally out of this yet.

[QUOTE=FingerSpazem;49775222]Please listen to Oscar Lima Echo. Realization is the first step and it's a baby step, you're not totally out of this yet.[/QUOTE] I don't think it's right for him to say I'm not taking this seriously when he has no idea what I've been through or how I've been handling this on the inside. I'm working to make myself a better person everyday and I'm doing it whether you tell me I can or not. I'm not "pretending to understand the issue", I know exactly what went wrong and I'm working on changing myself to fix that and prevent it in the future. I'm not letting myself get hurt like this again.

Hey, if you like believing this is fine, that's all up to you. But I'm getting some serious deja vu from about.. every group of posts you make. There's a pattern, and right now you're still reinforcing that pattern.

if you guys keep asking him and mentioning the issue of course he'll keep talking about it. duh.

[QUOTE=Metaru;49776323]if you guys keep asking him and mentioning the issue of course he'll keep talking about it. duh.[/QUOTE] i think what he's talking about is how i'm always coming back here to post updates on this girl, like i'm really hung up on it. i'm not really as obsessed as it may seem, but i guess the only way to prove that would just be to let it go and not post about it anymore. part of me just likes having a place to be able to share my experiences and thoughts with other people and just discuss them. anyways, let's move on

so my gf is coming back next tuesday and we're already making plans to bang each other to death. the joy of a relationship.

I met this girl off of tinder two months ago, and we've been talking almost every day for hours since then. Shes a virgin, me as well, and today was our first real date. We went to Olgas, the park, Baskin-Robbins, my house, and then tried fucking for 3 hours. I don't know if its because we are both complete virgins or what but I couldn't get it in. It was very hard to find the right hole, (which is pretty crazy to me because I thought it would be easy) I kept losing my erection, and when I finally managed to get it in my dick was too much for her to bear so we stopped. She sucked my dick for 10 minutes trying to salvage something out of this, and nothing came. Now I am a virgin but I think she was doing a decent job, sucking, bobbing, licking, jacking me at the same, but it just wasn't enjoyable, I didn't feel anything. Maybe its that death grip syndrome thing? However not all was lost. I went down on her and made her cum three times. There was also a lot of kissing and tit grabbing. She wants to try again this Sunday and I was thinking of buying lube to help for the pain. I'm also not going to jack off at all in hopes that I will be at least able to cum next time. Anything else I should be doing? Besides foreplay to loosen her up, believe me that wasn't the problem.

[QUOTE=fauster;49776683]I'm also not going to jack off at all in hopes that I will be at least able to cum next time..[/QUOTE] don't do this or you will cum in 5 seconds if you actually do end up getting it in

also: - do use lube - do use a condom - do listen to her and don't be afraid to let her guide you in

I wasn't nervous at all, she was a little bit. Shes on birth control, but yeah I went through 3 condoms and then just said fuck it, I'll try without one, and still no avail. I will definitely use lube next time though. She did guide me multiple times but when I pushed it in it slipped right back out, or she'll yelp in pain causing me to stop. Communication wasn't an issue. We both told each other what we wanted, if we enjoyed what we were doing, and gave others some advice. The whole situation felt very natural, apart from the actual penetration part.

Well that's awesome then. I remember my first time, the girl said I was absolutely shit :v: it was awkward and there was no communication so I just fumbled around for a while

[QUOTE=fauster;49776683] She wants to try again this Sunday and I was thinking of buying lube to help for the pain. I'm also not going to jack off at all in hopes that I will be at least able to cum next time. Anything else I should be doing? Besides foreplay to loosen her up, believe me that wasn't the problem.[/QUOTE] The only thing you should be doing is not making a big deal out of this, or wanting to be 'prepared' imo. It's always gonna be a little awkward and uncomfortable in the beginning.