Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

personally i don't think i would ever be okay with that sort of thing, and don't think i'd really be ever able to have that sort of mindset where i'd be okay with someone admitting what's already happened to me. it's always puzzled me how people can have open type relationships especially something like what you're describing but that's probably all just me personally. if you really really trust that nothing major will come out of it and you're comfortable with it then i guess by all means go ahead but sure as hell no one can blame you for being any bit skeptical [editline]23rd February 2016[/editline] i remember reading the one guy's posts a few months ago or however long ago it was who was married and how both him and his wife were having sex with other people or threesomes, etc. at times. I really just can't fathom how anything like that ever works but maybe i've just never personally met anyone open like that?

FunkyDark, you need to get some self respect and break up with her. I'm not saying that because it's the "easy" thing to say, by because she's running all over you and you're just letting her. Count your lucky stars she's so far away and kiss her ass goodbye.

I matched with someone on tinder what do I do

[QUOTE=dcalde78;49800362]I matched with someone on tinder what do I do[/QUOTE] "oy luv fancy a screw" [editline]23rd February 2016[/editline] nah just find something they mentioned in their bio about a hobby or something if they did and ask about it thats what normally works best for conversation

I met up with her and we pretty much let it all out, she instantly apologised for suggesting the whole thing. I kept your guys opinions in mind and told her all my doubts so we're back to normal, I'll keep everything I've experienced in mind should it happen again but things are back to normal and we can hopefully write this off as a weird phase in the near future. Wish me luck #lads

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49800484]You should also note it is normal to find others attractive, even in a relationship[/QUOTE] Oh, very much so. My girlfriend sometimes gets mad at me if I don't find another girl particularly attractive when she does :v:

[QUOTE=FunkyDarkKnight;49800400]I met up with her and we pretty much let it all out, she instantly apologised for suggesting the whole thing. I kept your guys opinions in mind and told her all my doubts so we're back to normal, I'll keep everything I've experienced in mind should it happen again but things are back to normal and we can hopefully write this off as a weird phase in the near future. Wish me luck #lads[/QUOTE] Yea hey dood thats all well and good but she made out with a dood shes LIVING WITH THATS NOT YOU. It's all fine and dandy that she told you but it doesn't change the fact she still did it. You said that she fell in love with you while she was in a relationship with someone else, I don't know the extent of what you 2 did while she was in said relationship but theres literally nothing stopping a person like that from doing the same again. Everything you've said about this girl seems like shes extremely toxic to be in a relationship with and untrustworthy. You're on the road to get hurt by being with her. You've got a good opportunity to cut ties with her because of the distance/cheating/wanting to cheat. I would take it if I were you. You might love her to death, but it's really not good for you to be OK with just being in her rotation and there purely for emotional support while others provide her with everything else.

[QUOTE=Marzipas;49800372]"oy luv fancy a screw" [editline]23rd February 2016[/editline] nah just find something they mentioned in their bio about a hobby or something if they did and ask about it thats what normally works best for conversation[/QUOTE] she doesn't have a bio :v: I've sent a message and broken the ice, now I just have to wait and see if I get a reply. She's on a totally different group of islands almost 100 miles away though so not much will happen anyway.

[QUOTE=FunkyDarkKnight;49800400]I met up with her and we pretty much let it all out, she instantly apologised for suggesting the whole thing. I kept your guys opinions in mind and told her all my doubts so we're back to normal, I'll keep everything I've experienced in mind should it happen again but things are back to normal and we can hopefully write this off as a weird phase in the near future. Wish me luck #lads[/QUOTE] Get out while the getting is good [B]Edited: [/B]this comes from someone who's been in that position before.

[QUOTE=FunkyDarkKnight;49800400]I met up with her and we pretty much let it all out, she instantly apologised for suggesting the whole thing. I kept your guys opinions in mind and told her all my doubts so we're back to normal, I'll keep everything I've experienced in mind should it happen again but things are back to normal and we can hopefully write this off as a weird phase in the near future. Wish me luck #lads[/QUOTE] She had sex with this guy and said they kissed to test the waters. From now on she's just not going to tell you. Don't know why you're together if like you said she's miserable around you anyway though. That's retarded.

[QUOTE=FunkyDarkKnight;49798904]Hey guys, My girlfriend of nearly 1 1/2 years moved to university a few months ago and quite recently she's been tempted by the student life. Last month she invited me to move in with her and her student friends but cut me out of the deal after saying she wanted more space, not long after admitting that she found herself being attracted to other people (to be fair I admitted the same) and got kissed by one of the dudes she's moving in with. A week after the moving in thing, she made out with the same dude who kissed her for a bit at a club and has told me that she really wants to experiment, as in she wants to have one night stands like other students. We're basically about to go into an open relationship primarily for her benefit. Now that all sounds blunt and normally one would do a full 180 at this point, but we have been very happy for the time we've been together (although her low self-esteem is the source of 90% of fallouts) and we do care about each other. The above was all discussed very tearfully and she made clear that she wants only me as her boyfriend, but wants the sexual freedom of an open relationship - I speculate this is in part to us being 2 hrs away + I do 45hrs a week in work, and she has always had an extremely high libido while sex was never important to me (we do it roughly once when we meet up but one of her exes would do it literally 10 times a day). She isn't a spiteful person but just confused at the moment, so we're trying to make arrangements so that she can still be with me but not feel restricted either while we're still long distance, as we plan to go back to normal once we live together. [B]I don't feel that awful about the whole proposal[/B] in all honestly, more with the timing and pace of it (cutting me off moving in, kissing dude, asking for space all in a couple weeks) so it's a bit of a shock in that regard. TL;DR: long-distance gf wants the full student experience (sex) but wants me too so we're doing an open relationship, I'm mostly okay with it as I'm pretty open anyway but want advice on adjusting to the sudden change.[/QUOTE] Listen to yourself man! You seemingly aren't all that okay with this. Incidentally I gave a ride today to a friend who's in an open relationship. Thing sprung off from that her bf/gf (the complicated nature of gender-fluidity) one day had to admit to her that he'd cheated on her. To which her initial reaction was p.much "what's the big deal?".

I find this to be the most fitting thread for this kind of topic, but whats people stance on plastic surgery and body modifications? I notice I get pretty frustrated about some friends I have who have begun dipping their feet into this world. I don't mention this since it's none of my business and I don't really mind since its their body, but I am left with this frustration of why they'd do it to themselves. seeing people with modifications have always been a huge turn off for me even if it's done right. they just end up looking too "perfect", so perfect in fact that they kinda start to look worse again. the looks is probably not the issue, but rather that unique features have suddenly been replaced with what everyone else has, those who also go under the knife. small lips, tits, ass and other features? even if it's a very minor thing, it does end up getting attached to my view of the person. these "imperfections" to me are just unique features, even if they may be viewed as negative. it adds charm and personality, that they're not perfect but definitely unique.

am I on fp or some cuck thread on 4chan jesus leave that girl

[QUOTE=PredGD;49801245]I find this to be the most fitting thread for this kind of topic, but whats people stance on plastic surgery and body modifications? I notice I get pretty frustrated about some friends I have who have begun dipping their feet into this world. I don't mention this since it's none of my business and I don't really mind since its their body, but I am left with this frustration of why they'd do it to themselves. seeing people with modifications have always been a huge turn off for me even if it's done right. they just end up looking too "perfect", so perfect in fact that they kinda start to look worse again. the looks is probably not the issue, but rather that unique features have suddenly been replaced with what everyone else has, those who also go under the knife. small lips, tits, ass and other features? even if it's a very minor thing, it does end up getting attached to my view of the person. these "imperfections" to me are just unique features, even if they may be viewed as negative. it adds charm and personality, that they're not perfect but definitely unique.[/QUOTE] Some people are attracted to people who have tattoos, piercings, gauges, ect. Others prefer people that are vanilla and clean cut. To each their own. Regardless, it's not your place to speak out against people doing that sort of stuff, unless they ask for your opinion of course.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49800683]Somehow I forgot about this when I was replying, yeah that's a "get the hell out" flag. ESPECIALLY since that's how the original relationship started - by cheating into it.[/QUOTE] if she'll cheat FOR you she'll cheat ON you idk why this is a hard concept for people

[QUOTE=Cyke Lon bee;49801330]Some people are attracted to people who have tattoos, piercings, gauges, ect. Others prefer people that are vanilla and clean cut. To each their own. Regardless, it's not your place to speak out against people doing that sort of stuff, unless they ask for your opinion of course.[/QUOTE] I wasn't actually thinking of tattoos and piercings, I forgot that these are considered modifications as well, oops. I'm more directed at plastic surgery. of course, I would never lash out against anyone or tell them what they're doing is objectively wrong since, as said, it's their body. I just find it unneeded and in some cases, damaging to peoples mental health. when saying that, I'm thinking of bloggers. there's so many young bloggers who resort to plastic surgery and it's definitely leaving a mark on those who are in their teens who follow these people who then also wants the same modifications. plastic surgery has its place and it would be weird to remove it completely. I suppose my problem lies more in the media portrayal of plastic surgery, how the media normalizes it. popular bloggers, celebrities, models, you'll probably find some plastic on these people. what kind of impression does that leave on teens who are in the phase of life where there's so much insecurity about themselves, and if that wasn't enough, there's also that insane pressure on having a good looking body. I feel too many people who actually look good and have no problems with their looks end up under the knife solely due to what I've said. its become somewhat normal. I saw a video about a top blogger who spoke about this issue and she mentioned that people who have previously had no problems with their looks or self esteem suddenly wanted to do it because they feel they have to, everyone else does it. if you legit got micro tits then yeah, I can see why you'd want plastic surgery, but my line of what I personally find okay is crossed when people who have no obvious faults decide to go under the knife to further improve their looks. of course, its their body, their decision, none of my business, but my stance on it is still not a positive one.

[QUOTE=FunkyDarkKnight;49800400]I met up with her and we pretty much let it all out, she instantly apologised for suggesting the whole thing. I kept your guys opinions in mind and told her all my doubts so we're back to normal, I'll keep everything I've experienced in mind should it happen again but things are back to normal and we can hopefully write this off as a weird phase in the near future. Wish me luck #lads[/QUOTE] It really sounds to me like she wants to sleep around and make other physical and emotional connections without you, but has a guilty conscience about dumping you because you helped her out with self esteem/depression/whatever problems, and that is pretty much the only thing keeping her with you. And since most cheating happens because one persons libido is more active than their partner, Id say shes got a really high chance of spreading her legs for the roommate dude and not telling you about it. [editline]23rd February 2016[/editline] [QUOTE=RenegadeCop;49801483]My girlfriend wants bigger breasts, because society and media. She often asks if I really like them, to which I assure her I do. I mean I guess masturbating on them isn't a big enough hint that I find her boobs attractive. I don't really like plastic surgery for visual purposes (unless it hinders your social by A LOT, like missing half a face or something) I kinda view it like you do. Imperfections are what make us perfect.[/QUOTE] My girlfriend wants to eventually get breast reduction surgery, because her bra size is double G and her massive hooters give her back pain/prevent her from running/makes bras hella expensive and uncomfortable. Im fine with them either way. They're good big, and smaller yet perky is great too.

Ex girlfriend from nearly a year ago hits me up on the phone (hasn't talked to her since) and says she wants to catch up. I'd get it if she was single and lonely but she's bi and has a girlfriend so I don't understand what she wants out of me.

to...catch up?

Threesome.

[QUOTE=Riller;49803631]Threesome.[/QUOTE] has to be this.

Yo I don't even contact a female anymore because i don't want to fall in love with someone who is gonna cheat on me. Or maybe she wouldn't cheat on me, but that wouldn't stop me from being so scared that i'd ruin it anyways.

[QUOTE=Str4fe;49803910]Yo I don't even contact a female anymore because i don't want to fall in love with someone who is gonna cheat on me. Or maybe she wouldn't cheat on me, but that wouldn't stop me from being so scared that i'd ruin it anyways.[/QUOTE] 1: Get girlfriend 2: Cheat on her Now, if she does cheat, you can go "HAH! I did it first, sucker!" and if she doesn't, well.. Uh... You're just a massive shit and deserve a swift, precise kick in the nuts.

Worst case scenario, load your last checkpoint and resume from before the cheating was done.

The love of my life's birthday is coming up, this is my first girlfriend so does anyone have any tips on what to give her?

Well what does she like? Also personalized cards can be pretty great, Moonpig for example.

[QUOTE=Solodris;49804446]The love of my life's birthday is coming up, this is my first girlfriend so does anyone have any tips on what to give her?[/QUOTE] Be mindful on how much you spend. If you're a creative person you can probably come up with something you can make yourself but there's nothing wrong with getting a gift that's personal. For example something that's related to her hobbies or something she mentioned multiple times which she'd need but always forgot to get. I think you could also make a trip but your options heavily depend on how old you are and how long you've been in a relationship.

If it's first bday, keep it small but thoughtful. My gf's last birthday was our third together, so I went big. Got her a rifle. Also she polished the stock and -attempted- to polish the receiver but the gun cleaner she used dulled the shit out of the metal so she's super mad at herself. Honestly I'm confused as to why it had the effect it did on it. I know it can be re-blued but its still confusing.

[QUOTE=PredGD;49801245]I find this to be the most fitting thread for this kind of topic, but whats people stance on plastic surgery and body modifications?[/QUOTE] I think they're exactly the same as makeup. With makeup you spend money (weekly or monthly) and apply it daily. With plastic surgery you spend a lot of money and apply it once and go for checkups every few years. Both are body modification. That being said (and this is probably an unpopular opinion) I think makeup/surgery is inherently sexist - I don't believe you can apply makeup "for yourself". Yeah, you might feel better when applying it, but that's because it's been ingrained in the vast majority of people that self-worth is based on physical appearance (tons of people valuate other people based on it). It's not like we can easily change this in ourselves, and it's nobody but society's fault if you feel better doing makeup/surgery, but it's something to be aware of.

[QUOTE=Disseminate;49804865]That being said (and this is probably an unpopular opinion) I think makeup/surgery is inherently sexist - I don't believe you can apply makeup "for yourself". Yeah, you might feel better when applying it, but that's because it's been ingrained in the vast majority of people that self-worth is based on physical appearance (tons of people valuate other people based on it). It's not like we can easily change this in ourselves, and it's nobody but society's fault if you feel better doing makeup/surgery, but it's something to be aware of.[/QUOTE] I disagree. It is common practice in all species to do whatever it takes to impress a potential mate. Hell, Flamingos take the oils produced near their tails and dab it all over them to intensify the pink color in their feathers, specifically to look attractive. They're literally applying makeup to themselves to look pretty. Makeup in human society is no different. They do it to look attractive to boys. Only difference is human's screw for pleasure and reproduction while flamingos only do it for the latter.