Sex, Girlfriends and Shit VII: "Power Moves For High Quality Women" - General

If all you said was "hey", you're probably not going to get the replies you're hoping for.

Got a tinder match, went from tinder to texting. Had a really good conversation (she though this too, judging by her super long replies and excessive use of smiley faces) yet the next day she ignores me Few months ago I went on a date with a girl from tinder, she then proceeded to ignore me for 4 months. Then she texts me out of nowhere, acting like nothing happened. All she wants to know was 'How I was doing' and then she ignored me again So much drama, shit's crazy

Getting ignored for long periods of time is actually what started my deep depression and panic attacks, I almost repressed that, shit. It's truly the worst. [editline]ye[/editline] in my case, it wasn't from dating apps

I don't know why you'd expect people on a hookup app to be super courteous and check in on you regularly. It seems like a pretty "fire and forget" concept unless you really hit it off on the date.

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;49898354]Okay i had 14 matches, i said hey to all of them at the same time, i think 3 of them unmatched me because they disappeared but the rest remain. This will be fun[/QUOTE] Gonna put money down that you won't get a single response. You wouldn't approach a girl you don't know in real life and just say "hey" and nothing else, so why would you do that on tinder? At the very least, use some garbage pick up line or something to provoke her interest. "There she is!" or "You have no idea how many times I had to swipe left to find you" or some bullshit like that usually works. Be funny or goofy for fucks sake; it's literally that simple.

"Hey, you must be Crash, 'cause you're badi-cute"

[QUOTE=Riller;49901042]"Hey, you must be Crash, 'cause you're badi-cute"[/QUOTE] (bandicoot) That's only going to work with a certain age range though, early to mid/late 20s.

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;49898354]Okay i had 14 matches, i said hey to all of them at the same time, i think 3 of them unmatched me because they disappeared but the rest remain. This will be fun[/QUOTE] Jesus that's even lazier than asking how they're going or what's up. You have to at least give something to work with.

imo just look at their bios/pictures to see if they have any interests or talking points. if there's literally nothing there - no bio, no mutual interests, no pictures of them abseiling or whatever - then move on

[QUOTE=MuTAnT;49901156]Jesus that's even lazier than asking how they're going or what's up. You have to at least give something to work with.[/QUOTE] i did for some, but others i couldnt think of what to say.

[QUOTE=dcalde78;49901071](bandicoot) That's only going to work with a certain age range though, early to mid/late 20s.[/QUOTE] How many social butterfly tinderellas are going to know who crash bandicoot is, let alone remember the name? Give ya a hint; none.

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;49901506]i did for some, but others i couldnt think of what to say.[/QUOTE] "I just check the box without reading the terms and conditions. You ever done anything that daring?" "You have the same name as my cousin! Want to be the 2nd *name* I bang?" "Just looking for someone to dress up as a mexican cartel leader, bend me over and spank me. Is that your fantasy too?" I dunno, just post retarded shit. Doesn't matter what it is as long as they reply.

its also just a terrible line to begin with. ill give it a go

Personally, I have never responded to a message on a dating site that looked like it could have been copy+pasted to multiple women. Something like "hey" is absurdly lazy, does not actually start a conversation (what are they supposed to say back? "hey"? then what?), and implies the first impression you're giving them took about 5 seconds to prepare.

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;49904453]Personally, I have never responded to a message on a dating site that looked like it could have been copy+pasted to multiple women. Something like "hey" is absurdly lazy, does not actually start a conversation (what are they supposed to say back? "hey"? then what?), and implies the first impression you're giving them took about 5 seconds to prepare.[/QUOTE] Exactly this. If I couldn't find a meaningful thing to say in a first message, I didn't bother messaging because if there wasn't enough to work with now there still won't be anything to work with later.

More tips on what NOT to send a girl on a dating site: [t]https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/s/gi6opvd87x77fdo/chrome_2016-03-10_08-38-03.png?dl=0[/t] I hadn't checked OKCupid in a little while and I had a lot of surprisingly nice messages in my inbox but this one was bizarre.

[QUOTE=Pascall;49905636]More tips on what NOT to send a girl on a dating site: [t]https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/s/gi6opvd87x77fdo/chrome_2016-03-10_08-38-03.png?dl=0[/t] I hadn't checked OKCupid in a little while and I had a lot of surprisingly nice messages in my inbox but this one was bizarre.[/QUOTE] Well, is that where you are? [editline]10th March 2016[/editline] By the way, April 10th marks 2.5 years with the girl I met on OKCupid. [I]Hooray for internet[/I]

[QUOTE=Pascall;49905636]More tips on what NOT to send a girl on a dating site: [t]https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/s/gi6opvd87x77fdo/chrome_2016-03-10_08-38-03.png?dl=0[/t] I hadn't checked OKCupid in a little while and I had a lot of surprisingly nice messages in my inbox but this one was bizarre.[/QUOTE] I got a message the other day from some guy in California asking about my cooking/if I would cook for him. I'm in Texas. [editline]10th March 2016[/editline] Also, going out for coffee on Saturday with a teaching fellow from my uni (who my best friend and I have christened "HEGS" for Hot English Grad Student). Kinda amusing dating someone who could potentially have been my professor if I hadn't transferred, but apparently there's nothing unethical about it.

Guys, help. Girl I've got a massive crush on says she just wants to be friends as she's got a lot on her mind lately, thing's that I truely want to be the one that helps her get strong again, and to stay with her, What can I do to prove her this?

[QUOTE=Tools;49907909]Guys, help. Girl I've got a massive crush on says she just wants to be friends as she's got a lot on her mind lately, thing's that I truely want to be the one that helps her get strong again, and to stay with her, What can I do to prove her this?[/QUOTE] She's kinda already laid it down, you're just going to have to be happy as friends for now. Me and my ex were close friends for months before we got romantically involved, which isn't to say you should sit around waiting for things to move beyond friends, but that you should just be content with being friends and pleasantly surprised if anything more than that happens.

actually talking to the girls on tinder was a good decision. having a lot of fun talking to girls again since i dont have a way to meet people easily anymore.

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;49908936]actually talking to the girls on tinder was a good decision. having a lot of fun talking to girls again since i dont have a way to meet people easily anymore.[/QUOTE] I find it fascinating and can be pretty fun but it's so easy to burn out after awhile.

Dunno about you, but most of the guys and girls I talked to on Tinder were the most boring people ever. I actually only held a conversation with a few and only ended up taking one of them on dates. That's the main reason I deleted mine about a month ago.

Yeah most of the girls i cant have a conversation with but ive been talking to one girl for 2 days straight and its going swell.

With tinder you really good scoop through the 100's of bad girls to find the 1 good girl.

i got 3 matches on tinder (talked to one of them but my mood got kinda down and just stopped using it), when i look back at it, my non-existant confidence is kinda raised :v:

[QUOTE=MuTAnT;49909591]I find it fascinating and can be pretty fun but it's so easy to burn out after awhile.[/QUOTE] Just gotta get more personal in things, say.. I chatted with one on badoo, she'd been sick for sometime - I asked why, and we ended up talking all night about our weaknesses and what makes us stronger, was great. Also people please wake up and get off tinder, it's a place for divas and body builders.. Look up lovoo or the hot or not "badoo" app instead, much more casual.

Man i wish i had a car, im getting my license in 2 weeks. This chick is fucking awesome shes not even that far away its just actually impossible to get to where she is from where i am unless i catch a cab

[QUOTE=Pat.Lithium;49911674]Man i wish i had a car, im getting my license in 2 weeks. This chick is fucking awesome shes not even that far away its just actually impossible to get to where she is from where i am unless i catch a cab[/QUOTE] You're an aussie so picking up a vintage bike shouldn't cost much and will still impress during the summers.

there's a 9/10 girl who gets my bus but I'm really struggling to talk to her. We get on at the same stop and go to the same college, we dress similar and she must live literally around the corner from me. how should I start chatting to her? I was thinking something jokey like "just to be clear I'm not actually following you" but I tend to be socially awkward so I'm worried I'd say it matter-of-factly and look like I'm trying to cover up the fact I've really been following her for 3 miles